 What's up you guys welcome to the single guy channel I'm Lloyd your pickup and dating coach and today We're gonna be talking about why women do not give good advice for men when it comes to dating now I know there's a lot of female dating coaches out there that are giving great advice for men. I watch them I've had women on my channel before too speaking about kind of like you know They're they're their story and the things that they like in a guy And I'm usually there to kind of translate and turn into practical advice for you guys But yeah, dude, I would say in general most of the advice that women give is pretty terrible I mean what's the advice that people give in general is pretty bad as well too The problem is is that most guys when they hear a hot girl giving them advice they automatically like assume It's the gospel because You know it's a hot girl That's the girl that they're trying to get but that's not true at all So in this video, I'm gonna be telling you why women don't give good advice All the reasons and they're relevant for not just women because other people are gonna tell you this to this too So this is gonna teach you how to gauge feedback and take advice That's actually going to help you out rather than taking all this bad advice, which is only gonna make you dumber So let's get right into it. The first reason is that women do not understand your experience They're not going through the same motions as you now There's the saying where you shouldn't ask a fish had a fish you should ask a fisherman You shouldn't ask a gazelle had a hunt. You should ask a hunter the same thing applies here, man Okay, she does not know what it's like walking up and you know talking to a girl. She doesn't understand the approach She's not familiar with all that stuff. Okay, she's not gonna sympathize with you when you try and explain to her How you're getting shot down feels like if her had a woman kind of like try and explain a situation with you Where a guy like cat called her or something like that or made her feel uncomfortable and you listen to this story and you're just like Oh So wait, where's the problem? This is exactly the same thing that happens when you're explained to a woman Your perspective here. Okay, they're not gonna understand what it's like being in your shoes The only way for them to truly or if you I used to believe that if you talked with another person Explain your story told it to them that they can understand you and for you are I no longer think that anymore I think that you can appreciate Something about another person by having tell their story and explaining it to you you can appreciate it But you will never truly understand unless you are in that person's shoes for a very long period of time And that's just not going to happen for women and men So I think that you know, not only is she not gonna extend understand your experience And women that pretend that they do are usually give the worst advice But not only she not gonna understand your experience, but you should never expect her To to she assumes all women are like her So this kind of goes back to women's and people in general are solipsism We are we generally think solipsism is basically the belief that your reality is everybody else's reality And because it's the only reality that you know people generally fall into this trap So a lot of women will give advice and they'll say, oh well You know this you know girls like this do this and they're saying what they want But not every girl's like her she might like different things She might like different types of guys and there are baseline principles that are attractive to women But normally when women are talking about this they talk about all the little things That they like and the little things change me three when they give advice They're not talking about desire and attraction. They're usually talking about like commitment So what do I mean by this? I mean when you ask for advice from a woman nine times out of ten She's going to give you advice about a guy that she already wants to fuck that she wishes Would do certain things. Okay, so she already wants to sleep with this dude And you ask her for advice and she like well, you know, I you know It's really good when a guy calls me tells me he likes me asked me how my morning was I really like him man Respectful to me. I really like it when they're kind Okay, these are all really nice, but they do not cultivate desire Okay, she wants them from the guy that she already desires But actually how to become that guy that she wants to fuck already and she's not going to tell you that and in fact Even by you asking women they kind of just want a guy to get it They have to explain a guy how to get them to desire them Then you just prove that you're never going to be a guy that she desires number four is women are too nice Too often and this is not just women you guys Most People when you ask them for advice, they're not gonna tell you what you need to hear They're gonna tell you what is gonna make you like them. They don't want to upset you They don't want to make you feel bad. They're gonna say things like you know what? You're a great guy and being nice and respectful to women You know some girl out there is gonna see that and she's gonna love you for it And if that girl doesn't like you well, then fuck her there's tons of other girls out there There's plenty of fish in the sea. So go out there and do you All right That's really cool. That's gonna make you it's gonna. It's a good pump up. You know speech to give you It's gonna make you feel good in the moment. Maybe um, but it Doesn't really help you. Okay, it doesn't solve any of your problems Women aren't gonna come out and tell you you're a fucking loser, man People in general aren't gonna say that shit to you. I will though. I have no problem doing that If you're my coaching program, I will tell you when you're a loser and the stuff that you need to focus on So with this you really have to take into account what's going through the person's mind Is this person just trying to get me to like them or do they actually care and give me care enough to give Me good advice that I might not like at that moment I might be mad at them for saying it and resent them for it But in the long term I'm gonna be better for it five is what they say they want is not what they actually do This is the classic example of the woman who says she wants a guy to be kind Respectful to her. She wants a guy who shows affection She wants a guy who's you know always there for her and then she goes and fucks the football player On the you know on the high school team who doesn't call her doesn't respect her Doesn't respond to her phone calls and treats her like dirt. Okay, this is the classic example about what they are saying What they want them to want they wish they liked that guy who was that kind of like pushover provider type Who was always nice to them in there for them? Okay, they wish they liked that guy That's what those romantic comedies movies They sell like hotcakes because all women wish they were into that guy But who they actually desire is that jerk on the football team? You have to see if what they're saying is actually what they're doing And I think too often and they're not the mainstream media falls into this category They tend if you look at the advice they give they tend to give the general typical advice that most women get which is like Just be yourself find someone who's compatible with you and all of that different stuff. They don't when they when you actually Tell them to tell you which people they pick who they're mating with and why they're mating with them The answers aren't so pretty man You know sometimes like they are really seeing if a guy's a loser or not They are really seeing if a guy has game. They are really seeing if a guy has some sort of status that they're looking for that they do care about those things and that's not a pretty picture that anybody wants to paint and so It's something that they keep private and that they probably won't tell you so Hopefully from this video you've seen how not just women Are giving this bad advice. It's meant to it's the mainstream media. It's everyone Okay, these people at the end of the day when you're asking for advice from someone you really have to see where it's coming from Do them from my channel too. Okay, you really got a Vet who you're getting advice from I think Alan nation said this I don't know who said it but they said that a 90% of the advice that you get you should just ignore But when you see a guy who has which you or a guy or girl who has what you want who has this, you know similar story to you Listen to everything they say Okay, you might not agree with everything But a lot of the stuff they say is going to be in the direction that you're looking for And I think that's a rule that you should have in your lives as well too. It's one that I go by so Thanks a lot you guys if you made today and consider subscribing I come up with videos like this every single week if you're interested in my weekly one-on-one mentorship program where I coach Guys in this sort of stuff shoot me an email the single guy 2017 gmail.com Give me your age name city you live in and tell me a little bit about your situation. Thanks a lot you guys Good luck out there