 There's a quote from the TV show Bojack Horseman that goes, when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags. The same couldn't certainly be true for ourselves too. Do you feel that you're too much of a people pleaser? Perhaps you feel a strong need to always get everyone else to like you, regardless of whether or not you even like them. All of these are signs that you may have a neurotic need for social validation. And this is a red flag because people with too high a need for social validation often have low self-esteem and stay in or even chase after unhealthy, one-sided friendships and relationships, constantly needing to fix other people's problems for them, running to their rescue even when you don't want to. And micromanaging everyone around you are all not only red flags but tell-tale signs that you may have a neurotic need for control. People who struggle with this most likely grapple with strong feelings of helplessness and to cope become overly demanding in their way of relating to other people. Do you see any of these red flags in yourself? As with any other challenge we encounter, the first step to overcoming it is to acknowledge the problem.