 Why the narcissist triggers you on purpose, the narcissist will trigger you on purpose To get control of you They will play small games to trigger you to mess with your mind To cause you to feel confused frustrated or anxious To have power and control over you Which is why they want to learn everything about you They study you They monitor you Because they want to know everything that makes you happy and they want to know everything that makes you sad Because sometimes they want to be the hero While other times they want to be the villain They want to have the power to make you feel happy or sad depending on how they're feeling in the moment They will say and do horrible things to you But then afterwards they will apologize to you They will comfort you They will try to make you feel better They're the person who made you angry or upset But they're also the person who comforted you and made you feel better They're the hero and the villain because as long as they can change how you feel It makes them feel powerful Their power comes from your reactions Any reaction they get out of you gives them power But negative reactions give them more power When you're angry or upset and they caused it It makes them feel good They love pushing your buttons and watching you explode You may even catch them smirking Because you're giving your power to them and you don't even realize it, but you can take back your power By not reacting Observe, don't absorb Respond, don't react Don't give them your emotions Remove yourself from the situation Don't give them the reaction that they're looking for Because that will give them your power The narcissist will push your buttons They will wind you up They will do things that get under your skin And then when you're finally about to react They will take out their phone They will record your reaction And they will use the evidence to keep you under control To keep you from leaving They will use it against you They will threaten to expose you Which may keep you stuck in the abusive relationship Because you fear your reputation being destroyed So do not react to the narcissist They will make personal attacks They will insult you They will say and do whatever they think will hurt you the most Whatever has worked for them in the past They will do it again and again And it may be difficult to not react But you have to remain calm It's a skill that you must develop when you are dealing with a narcissist Because they're only going to use your reactions against you It's not going to help them to see what they're doing wrong They already know what they're doing They don't care They love seeing you hurt Angry and upset They get off in it It makes them feel good So reacting to the abuse is not going to help you in any way It's not going to solve anything It's just going to make things worse for you But when you stop reacting to them You take your power back Because at that point It will affect them more than it affects you There's nothing worse for a narcissist Than when they can't get a reaction out of their victim It angers and frustrates them It causes them to feel the very emotions That they're trying to deny The very emotions that they're trying to project onto you So don't accept their gift Return to sender By not reacting to them Thank you for watching I hope to share this video with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.narcsurviver.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon