 Hi everyone, welcome to another live video. I'm out here in North Yorkshire, out in the hot tub today. It is raining a bit out here, but we're gonna do this anyway. What are narcissists trying to do? What is their goal? What is their objective? Why do they make so much effort? Why have they got so much determination? What they're trying to do is They're trying to get a reaction out of you because your reaction fuels them. It makes them feel alive. It makes them feel powerful desirable or attractive. You see they can't feel that way on their own. They need you to feel that. And that's really what they're trying to do trying to get some form of reaction out of you and they might try to be nice and friendly to you in the beginning. They might think maybe they'll make you see them as a nice person. Someone who wants to help. Someone who's desirable or attractive. That gives them supply. But then when that stops working that's when they're going to devalue you. They're going to put you down. They want to make you feel worthless. They've got to punish you. Take revenge. Because then that makes them feel powerful. Everything they do it's just an attempt for them to feel significant in your life. And they always have to stay relevant. You may notice that they go through different phases. Like they might try something at first but at some point it just burns out. It's no longer effective. It's like a drug. So then they have to try something else. They will keep trying different things to see what will work. What will get a reaction out of you. What will get you to notice them. To spend some of your thought process dwelling on them. Because your thoughts are energy. Where your attention goes your energy flows. So they do all of this because they want your energy. It's your energy that makes them feel alive. It makes them feel better. So that's really what this comes down to. Thanks for the donation Charlie. Everything revolves around the false self. They want you to validate the false self. And while you may do that in the beginning by giving them compliments at some point they have to coerce you. They have to force you to do what they want. Because then that makes them feel like the false self exists. So that's why they do it. It's about maintaining significance in your life. Relevance. It's about extracting your energy. That's what they're trying to do. Anyway. I hope everyone is doing alright. I'm just sitting out here in the hot tub. While it's raining. But the weather was pretty good earlier today. I took lots of pictures from my travels through North Yorkshire. And they will be up on the Instagram soon. I already have many pictures and videos up there. So check them out if you haven't yet. My Instagram is Noxaviva YouTube. And also I posted a new blog post on the website earlier today. So if you haven't seen the website yet do check that out. It's www.Noxaviva.uk And we also have a support forum on there as well. So if you would like to talk to other survivors or you have any questions for me you can check out the support forum there as well. Thanks for the donation Charlie. Charlie asks do you think there's more Nox ever due to social media? I definitely think that social media has an effect on how many Nox there are now. It is making people become more competitive. It is making people more narcissistic. It's making people think it's okay. So yeah I definitely don't think that social media is helping this situation at all. I mean at least with YouTube there's a lot of good information. There's things that can help people but yeah you know a lot of kids these days I think it definitely has an influence on them. It's making them more narcissistic than they otherwise would have been. Because it is traumatising for many of them when they go on social media and they find themselves comparing themselves to all these Instagram models or celebrities whoever it may be and yeah it makes them feel like they can never measure up. They can never be good enough. So I definitely think it doesn't have a positive effect especially on young people today. I mean as we know depression is one of the most common illnesses these days and suicide rates have gone up as well and I definitely think that social media plays a part in that. But yeah, that's all for this video.