 Hi, I'm Matthew Coase from commitmentconnection.com and today I have a question from someone in our community that says How do I talk to a man without pushing him away? And so really there are three different kind of topics that You can talk to a man about that will make him That will connect with him deeper and make him want to be around you more The first one is to talk to him about Something that he loves or that he's passionate about a lot of times Women are like how do I you know talk to a man about? Something and or maybe he he doesn't talk very much You know, how can I get him to talk? Everybody guy or girl anybody out there in the world will talk about a subject that they're passionate about Something that they love to do something that they're really interested in sometimes it could be his job sometimes it could be just some Passion or hobby that he has on the side but if you find out what it is that he's really into you can connect with him on a deep level and He will love having that conversation with you and and a lot of times guys will be able to talk about that for Forever, you won't be able to get him shut up after that and you definitely won't push him away the second one to talk about is Telling stories Everybody loves stories. It's it's kind of a biological thing back before we had Written word the way that we communicated Lessons about life or through stories and so the type of stories that you'll want to have Conversations with him about our stories about values This is actually another way to screen a guy and find out if he's the type of guy that you want to be with in a relationship is to Tell him a story about something and it doesn't have to be about you it could be about a celebrity or somebody else that you know and just you know have it Kind of convey an idea or principle So for instance, you could you know tell him a story about Somebody that you know that's getting married and or has gotten married or or maybe she's getting married and and You know, there's some kind of hiccup or drama involved in it and and just you know let him respond to it and see what he has to say and You know people love stories men love stories. Everybody loves stories. So tell stories You know tell stories about yourself Let them get to know you through stories tell stories about your personality tell stories that convey your values And the last thing to do is to Express your feelings and I know that there's a lot of controversy around Women expressing feelings a lot of women think that men think that feelings are drama But men don't feel like they don't think that feelings are drama. They think that Feelings expressed with expectations or demands or Something that has to be gotten from them. That's what they think is drama Feelings themselves are actually really attractive to men and that's how you connect with them on a on a deeper Emotional level is by connecting with your emotions and expressing those So You know just express your feelings tell them how you feel You know get into your feelings and just avoid blaming him avoid trying to get some type of reaction from him Just express your feelings and men men eat that stuff up Men eat it up. Trust me It works. It works really really really well and You know as long as you can make him feel like he can be himself when he's around you I think that you'll be fine. Just avoid You know if I were you I'd focus on You know finding out whether you can love and accept a man for who he is without Trying to put any expectations or Trying to make him be somebody different and as long as you can do that You know using these three kind of topics or techniques You you should have no problem having a conversation and talking to a man without pushing him away So that's it for this video if you'd like more information on how to Get into a committed lasting relationship with a man make sure you subscribe to my youtube channel and I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon You