 This is probably some of the best life advice that I can give you so make sure that you stay tuned. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and welcome back to another video where this week we are diving into the topic of how to be a better person and let me tell you this is the most important thing I will ever tell you so please be sure to stay tuned to this entire video save it as a favorite come back to it whenever you need to and also share this video with other people because today the problem that we're going to be talking about is who you surround yourself with one of the best pieces of advice that I got that changed my life when I put it into practice was this stick with the winners okay so I will use my personal experience for example all right I surrounded myself with people who were well the opposite of winners is losers right I hung out with people who had no motivation no passion they were just coasting through life these are the people who are always negative they don't have any kind of optimism no positivity ever comes out and these people would fuel me in the same way like whenever I went to them with a problem if I ever caused my own problems they would say yeah man the whole world's out to get you screw her screwed them screw that company screw that job and all these other things right and they would just fuel it and feed it and like these are the things that make me depressed these are the things that make me anxious when I surround myself with people who are constantly thinking that the world is the problem and I'm not the problem or they're not the problem it fuels my brain into thinking oh you know what this whole world's out to get me and nothing's ever gonna get better because that's all I surround myself with so when I hit a mental rock bottom when I was sick and tired of living the way I was living I realized I had to make a change of people kept telling me stick with the winners stick with the winners stick with the winners so what are the winners right what are the the things that I look for in somebody who is successful or doing well in life who are the people who are happy saying successful the things that I want right like I look for these qualities so the first step in this the very first step in this is do an audit do an audit of your friends do an audit of your circle and sometimes it's your family okay okay like a lot of what we're going to be talking about too when getting rid of the bad friends or the bad family members or the bad people in our social circles it goes back to the last video we were talking about setting up boundaries right so do this audit of your friends what are they doing what are they doing in life do they fill you up with positivity or negativity right do they focus on the problem or do they focus on the solution do they stay in the problem how much optimism do they give you when you're down do they feed into it do they say everything's terrible everything's awful everything's always going to be that way or do they show you the bright side do they lift you up right are these people passionate and motivated do they have something in their life that drives them that fuels them are they constantly trying to improve themselves and get better and better and better and I'm not just talking about monetary things I'm talking about better as a person right maybe that's physical is this somebody who goes to the gym they work out you know maybe they do a little Muay Thai or something or is it somebody who's working on their mental health is this a person doing yoga meditation therapy right what are they doing to improve themselves okay what are they doing to make this world a better place do you have people in your life who are out there trying to make a difference in this world you know what I'm saying so the first thing I had to do was audit my friends audit my friends and saying what are these people doing is this person happy that's a great question that's a great question ask yourself is this person happy more often than not because if they're not maybe they're not doing the right things maybe they're not focusing on improving themselves maybe I need to distance myself from them all right and here's the way that you do that okay I had to do this with a lot of friends I've been through it I know it's hard right but you got to say listen I love you I love you so much but there's some stuff I got to do to work on me right and you got to love them at a distance you can't talk to them as much right I'm not telling you to get rid of your best friend or get rid of your family members or anything like that but you got to limit your social interactions with them because they will bring you down they will drag you down so much the people who are constantly complaining will bring you down you need to start surrounding yourself with people who will motivate and inspire you like the examples I can give you are people like my girlfriend who's going back to school to be a social worker for kids she wants to help out kids who have a troubled youth she wants to help those kids succeed right I have my best friend in California and she works her butt off trying to improve the health care of everybody in California that's something she's working on she's also pursuing her phd in child psychology she wants to help tackle this mental health thing at a young age that inspires me right one of my very good friends she got her teaching degree and she could have taught at any high school here in Las Vegas she chose she chose to work at one of the most underprivileged high schools in this city okay why because she wants to make an impact she wants to make a difference that inspires me these people who I keep around me inspire me on a daily basis to be a better person and they are there for me when I need to be lifted up they hit me with that optimism you know what I'm saying but these people are people who inspire me to do positive things and make videos like this they tell me the bright side when my brain is focused on the negative you know what I mean but here's the thing here's the thing you can't be selfish about this you got to look at this situation say what can I do to inspire them right they're giving you so much what can you do to inspire them to get better as well right to be better we're constantly helping lift each other up and reach those next levels in our life and improve our mental health we cannot do that if we are sitting around and hanging out with people who are completely negative they're lazy they have no ambitions we got to cut those people out right now something that might happen and it's happened with me is as I continue to improve my old friends they start coming up and they say man now I want what Chris has how do I do that so some of my old friends they come back into my life and now they're in this winner circle right they're acting like winners they're not the person that they used to be and now they're back in my life but man you have to do this you have to do this and if you don't have people like this in your life follow people on instagram follow people on twitter follow other youtubers like I follow Gary Vaynerchuk he's always talking about his passion and positivity and the mindset and all these things and sometimes he's my motivational pick me up you know what I mean find people who inspire you okay now some of this might sound easier said than done but it's not it's not I hear people all the time like Chris Chris I can't cut this person out of my life I can't cut him out of my life I've known him my whole life for this is my family member or something like that when you look at this thing is very black and white very life and death lot easier to make decisions it's a whole lot easier to make decisions like this all right and like I said there's a loving and compassionate way to say this to the people in your life but you got to cut him out and I promise you I promise you like I said at the beginning of this video is the best advice I can give you find the people who are the winners find the people who motivate and inspire you the last thing I will say on this is the best friends that you will ever make in your life are going to tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear all right I do not surround myself with enablers anymore I do not surround myself with people who let me slip they let me fall they let me screw up they I have these people who tell me the truth all right now they love me unconditionally but they say yo Chris you screwed up you messed up so again half people in your life who aren't afraid to tell you what you need to hear these are the best friends you will ever have and here's the reason why you always know that they can trust that you can trust them all right so that way like say you uh you try to create something right you know you have people who always tell you the truth and it means so much more when they complimented they said man that was really good or girl that was really good because you know they always tell you the truth you know that you have people around who say yo that sucked you know what I mean keep honest friends in your life all right but anyways let's do this down in the comments below let me know who inspires you what friend do you have is it a mom is it a dad is it one of your best friends is it a colleague maybe it's someone you never met maybe somebody on twitter instagram youtube on tv whoever it is who inspires you to be a better person all right leave it down in the comments below but anyways like I said please share this video if you know people who are surrounding themselves by not the winners share this video with them all right but if you like this video please give it a thumbs up and if you are new here I'm always making videos to help you out with your mental and emotional well-being click that little round subscribe button and a big big big thank you to everybody supporting the channel and what I do over on patreon and if you would like to help me spread a message of hope you can click or tap on that patreon icon right there all right thanks so much for watching stick with the winners and I'll see you next time