 because you can't do this job by yourself and there's a lot of pressure like so at the end it's it's it's very how to say uh you feel good it's a good thing and i'd like to appreciate everyone behind our cameras up at Y254 channel on twitter hashtag is why in the morning now you know it's queen's wednesday so we have to wrap it up with girl's talk and today the topic is ask us anything is why in the morning myself my name is val or at color me that on everything hi hi you look very stellar guys let's start with our king how are you i'm fine single hello thanks for having me Y254 i'm saviomaestro mula facebook saviomaestro mula instagram i'm a journalist thank you where do we find you on social media though no thank you my name is beth jokie i'm a student at kenyamas i'm taking a course in film and video production directing option can find me on facebook beth padau ig beth actress nasyukujo to direct pysisi thank you who are you what do they call you out in these streets they call me peris what do you do peris i study journalism kenya institute of mass communication you can find me on instagram icandy underscore peris twitter i candy i candy hey wow i'm so sweet twitter peris fidelma facebook peris livia dekinson yes hi kwae i like your hair thank you what is your name my name is lorraine right there from kenya institute of mass communication also taking diploma in journalism and i my instagram is the underscore right there and facebook right there okay here we get a little bit hot when we start debating so don't worry okay we got you okay all right so again white five on facebook at white two five four channel on twitter hashtag is why in the morning we are encouraging you to send your questions and let's start with the first one hi val this is beki and i'm beautiful so beautiful that i can't comfortably walk without men disturbing me i am tired of this beauty thing i want to have my peace with men kindly help i think that's a very good problem to have one of them now yeah all right you want to start i see you say something i think that's kind of a good thing when people on the road stop you to tell you you look good because it's some somewhat of an assurance that you look good imagine getting out of the house not even one stair not even one compliment you get anti anti anti eh unaka vizuri that makes you feel good so sometimes it's annoying manzema kwa na eclipse sand because they have all surrounded you how why now help me help me help beki uh it's good to feel good and um me i love it by their love compliments so uh so that should not be a problem by the way because in a boost self esteem yake and nobody is there to tell you that you look good but it's it's good to feel good yeah so appreciate uh it's not a problem really boy tell representative uh these are not go soft everyone if you always appreciating yourself definitely people will appreciate you outside there so it's good to start appreciating yourself first you'll always be appreciated but kuna yake no kuhinja piya so out tell beki but it is good to appreciate yourself beki to some guys it's really doesn't scare us it just yeah it makes us to just keep the boundaries when you're borrowing a number from a guy going to approach such person you know your limits yeah so it's always good for the girl to appreciate herself you'll always be appreciated outside how do you handle someone who doesn't really know that they're beautiful definitely the advantage someone will take advantage of you it is normal you'll always be taken advantage of this is a secret you're not telling us i'm sorry boy I also think uh guys guys are so emotional nowadays have you ever uh been told that you look good then you ignore so they are so emotional they need to fix the guys need to check uh to to i don't know how to say check yourself check for yourself check for yourself amai they don't disturb you I'm sure they disturb you I'm actually a snob so the way you're so sweet yeah people think like that but I don't like too much attention yeah I don't enjoy it at all and wow we have two different schools of thought I like that I really like that I mean I know I'm beautiful but I think I'll appreciate it when I hear it from people that I know sometimes those guys I don't really have the time for them most of them don't have anything reasonable to tell me they just want to look at you but then again I can do better I think to be better if you just say thank you and move on so thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you then you're going to another stage Thank you thank you sometimes they have unreasonable comments but sometimes just have to say thank you those are the ones that call you children I just want to thank you thank you Taka instahisha, miki ya kwa nga uziwa Charakumisa Na miki ya, kwa rньama inikiwa miki ya kwa rumikiwa kwa kwa umiziwa kmentiwa Nojibu Oziwa kwa kwa kwa runikiwa, kwa kwa kwa umiziwa kmentiwa Nojibu yo, kwa kwa umiziwa kmentiwa Na kwa kwa kwa umiziwa kmentiwa Okay, kwa kwa kwa kwa rumikiwa, kwa kwa umiziwa kmentiwaEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE EEEE Mwa….洗wa EEEEEEEEEEEEE heard e E We are taking advantage of the situation here. You give them compliments and say, I don't want to be scared. I will see if it will be easier. You are being unreasonable. You cannot give me a compliment and then dictate how I should take it. Just be prepared. There are certain compliments that I give you. I say, you look good. Can I have your number? Can I take you out for lunch? It's just lunch or can I just have your number? Yes, because it's just lunch or can I just have lunch. It's just lunch or can I just have lunch. You can't just meet me on the road at T. You look good. Can I have your number? But it can look like you take a word and I would give him my number. And call it on the love at first sight. I just met... I have a kavizuri auntie. I will go through the way my life is set up right now. Can I have your number? At all, I have a kapowa dadi. You will now give him compliments also. But it depends on the approach. We can say, hey, I'm Flanie. I'm saying, so I look good. I will do that to have your number. We can say, hey, mambo, I want you to take my number. You can't just meet me on the road at T. You can't just meet me on the road at T. No, I'm happy. I'm just going to meet you at T. I'm just going to meet you at T. I'm just going to meet you at T. Mostly those people who come on the road want to get the number. I don't know why, but it happens. I'm not afraid of myself. I'm not afraid of myself. Now you feel being rude is a thing. It's attractive. You see, someone has never given me a kivunia. I have approached her too, but those guys who have rastas are the bad guys. That's true. That has not happened before. You are making up that. Why were you so adamant to say no? I've gotten really unreasonable comments. Ya, especially about my body, they make me really uncomfortable. I honestly don't like those comments. Ka navenya wafla no wonga itao. Without filter. Well, I'll just take the insults and go. That's my thing. See how she's taken it, it's different. From how you interpret it. I'm not like that. Alright guys, you wanted to say something else about this whole situation. So, meanwhile, where's Yambia Seviana Kapo, for example? Like if you just met him on the road and he looked really good. I think I'll give him a comment with my eyes. That's all. No words. This is how accidents are caused in the town. Unangali amtrua, ame kwangaluna stuka. Okay guys, we are waiting for the questions at Y254 on Facebook, at Y254 channel on Twitter. Hashtag is Y in the morning. Haiva. My name is Johnny. I have a mad crush on a chick up our place. And she doesn't look difficult either. Okay, what does that mean? That mean well. But my boss is the problem. He touches high in my presence and who are naumia besana. I can't complain because he's my boss na dem hajengia box. Nisaide ni naumia. How do we help you? As for me, what I can say is I don't even think it's appropriate to date someone from work. Or have relations with someone from work. I don't think it's appropriate. Let me tell you, a long time ago, let's say at like 2 years, 3 years ago, I would have argued with you. I would have told you no. I mean, you can be professional and you can be able to balance. But now. My eyes have been opened. I have seen the light. I have also learned from some other people's experience. And I tell you, it's difficult. It's difficult. Kupen naumtuna faya kazne. Kwanza kani hiwi like ofisi maybe or you proximity. Like, hey, kuchoki. You see this person, like in the morning. You don't even have stories to share. Jio ni mazi. Akiwa plasingi me. Ato wizi katiwa na mani. Mazi maia mazi na wakata. The feeling of missing someone. Okotua pwa all the time. So it's not, it's unknown for me. How are you feeling about this ma? Would you? Yeah, I agree with her. It's not appropriate to be in relations with your colleagues. It's that and the tension. If you do something wrong, you have to watch your move so that you keep on impressing the person that's reaching out to you. Yeah, exactly. So I honestly don't know how I'm going to tell him. No, just say no. Yeah. They said no. It's boring. Personally, I wouldn't advocate for that. Because in the evening, tunafa 20 at least to Lizane, how was your day? Challenges enyume pitiya. So come out to Meshindapo pamoja. To Meshindapo you are working the same place. You are doing the same things. It's boring. For me it's a no, don't. Xavier has different opinion. I can't say. If you are able to balance the situation, if both of you are comfortable, I don't see what's wrong with it. I support it. Because after all, when it comes to finances, all of you know who and so what you are able to balance everything. I ask this to that. These people who work outside their workplaces, when it comes to finances, my money is my money. So you are paying for your salary and you don't have to pay for it. I know what you are supposed to bring on the table. About the salary? This is how it works. I will tell you later how it works. This is how it works with women. Your salary is our salary. My salary is my salary. Keep it here. If you work, I don't know in Marisa Beach, in the same company, your salary is my salary. You get. You are the man of the house? He is the man of the house. He is the head. So I behave with my head. So my salary is my salary. I need to go to the salon. I need to make my nails. I need to dress good. So my salary is my salary. But I don't have a house. So I don't have a child. And the rest, take care of me. We are finished there. Would you like to speak back to him? John. John. Yeah. If maybe the girl is enjoying the attention from the boss. So you honestly don't stand a chance. So I just advise him to just move on. Look for someone else. I guess you work hard to quesio. You work hard to quesio. I work hard to quesio. I work hard to quesio. I work hard to quesio. Johnny, that is my advice for you. Work hard in silence. And then terrorize what's standing up. No, don't do it. I'm joking. Alright, so we have our next question. Hi there, I'm Christine. My problem is that I'm very ripe for marriage. And no serious man is coming through. By serious, I mean a man with a good job, good cash, and good car. Nakatiwa to na use this broke odi dancers. Kindly help. See me mean missing one. Piamu dance odi by the way. So let's just fix you. Let's just... Who said he take it? Na life anyaga. But as for Christine. When she says she's ripe for marriage. Right. Right for marriage. So she's young. I don't know. She's ready. But when people say I can cook, I can clean. That's like a basic human survival need. I don't think that's a marriage thingy. When people are so proud that they can cook so they are fit for marriage. No, you can cook, you can clean and you still get divorced. So that's a business argument. Marriage is not an easy thing. It's a lifetime commitment. And before you get into marriage, you have to think first. You have to be sure you want to get into marriage. You have to be sure what you want. So marriage atumefika 25 years and you want to get married atumefika 25 years. Amawatuenginewa nakua married. It's not the right thing. So if really she really thinks that she's ready. Then a woman is fined in the presence of God. Just go pray. Tell God I am ready to get married. I need a husband. I need my soulmate. I need the flesh of my flesh. Then God that I'm letter definitely. The right person. Tonight as we pray, can we tell God that that's beautiful. Oh, you say we have to go to marriage. You're not in that sector. Are you thinking like that yet? But to say the truth, it happens. Those ladies were very beautiful. They were working but they don't have anybody in their life. They're not in any relationship. You said it's a sad thing. It's a sad thing. So not a sad thing. Oh my God. And actually you come to realize it when you're around 27 or 28. No, it's not a sad thing. It is not a sad thing. It's not a sad thing. Why are you so sure it's not a sad thing? Kusamitwa ni kama nikitombat ni kua 27. Kwa nakurumi akwa. I'm telling you from a fact that I know someone. That's someone. I don't know about them. But I think it depends on their goals in life. Kuna mtuakia wa 27, guliakia ni kua travel. The world see kwa na bibi na wa 1a na wa 2i. So it depends. So if their goal is to have a kid by 27 and they don't have a kid, that's when it turns on them, then they get depressed. But for someone like me, maybe 27, I'd like to be traveling the world. Yeah. Iwa aiko kwa plani yaungu. Siki lam tuana tukakua lewa. Una get. You see agenda ya kila mtu kwa ii dunia. Fadali muluete wa tohsibidi. Watua currenti wataki kwa seti. Muluete wa tohsibidi tamu. Okay. I like this issue because it's important. Let me tell you a story about how I watch news one day. And I heard Nigerian ladies are going on strike because there are no husbands to marry them. Like wamenda strike. Like vegetu na skengat TSE, teachers on strike o salari. Not them on strike because there are no husbands to marry them. What is happening? Is it our culture? Is it because we are African? Is it because our melanin dictates that we have to have a child and someone to look after husband? Ni nini inat sumboa? How do you feel about this? Honestly, I am a person who is waiting for marriage at some point in life. So I have to build myself so that I can attract someone who is willing to wife me. So men are there. They are just... I don't know. They are forming this culture of wanting more than one person. So that's why we are not finding those men to get married to. But they will tell us that men have been having more than one wife since our great-great somebody. In fact, ilikua maali, your wealth or your status is detected by how many children and how many wives you have. They should know that we don't like sharing. We want all their attention to us. He has a question, give him a question. Do you do that to yourselves? We do. A woman loves a hundred percent. When she lives, she lives a hundred and ten. You are at your deposit. So I don't get why men cheat. Actually, I answer why men cheat. So women do not cheat. Ninety percent of men cheat. Ninety-nine percent of women cheat. Let's phrase. Because it's important, that question is important. I'm sure it's going to last because it's a thing. I believe men are looking for the best. So if you're the best, no one will cheat on you. Even Beyonce was cheated on. Please. And she can finance my life, my children's, my bare children and so on and so forth. No, I will support him by the way. If I am the best, then I don't think your man will cheat. Because being the best is not about looks. It's not about how you dress. It's not about what you have, the money in your bank account. It's about how you treat your man. It's about the respect you give him, the respect you give to yourself. And it's about you, what you have upstairs. Because I may have money, I may be beautiful, but I don't treat my man the right way. So it's not all about money or anything. It's about how you treat your man. I beg to differ. I know for a fact a man will cheat on you, whether come on I'm selling a kawa ganda. I wish can I demonstrate. He will still cheat, mommy. I beg to differ. I just think it's about the man, how you rate your morality. It's about the man. It's not about the other person. Don't blame the other person. There are no good men outside there who don't cheat. There are good men. Thank you that. Say that men do not cheat, not all men cheat. Some men cheat. Some women cheat. Majority of the men cheat. Why? Majority of the men cheat. But personally, sitakata kwa lewa because men cheat. Because it's like kwa me kenya kwa sababu kuna nyesha. Atu kenda kantringi neba do kuna nyesha. So me mi atini, say I won't get married because they are cheating. Wacha tutu cheat pamoja. So when they let you convey. So mshikana is after this. But anyway, back to the topic. I don't think she should be worried that no men are attracted to her. At some point in life they'll come, they'll go. So just stick there and wait. Someone will come along. As for now, just focus on yourself. Build yourself. When you have this, when you see yourself in a positive way, then other people will start to notice it. So yeah. Can I give you also my personal advice? What was this? Christine, there's a season for everything. And once you understand, the season does not technically mean age. You are going to be okay. Also, love yourself. When you love yourself enough, sasa utanza kwa attract different things. Chani si head speech na udidan sustenna. Okay. Haiva, my name is... Oh, zmengengine. Okay. Sasa valmimi mi chelangat. Naku watch from El Gayo Marakwet. Hu kumashinani. Hu kona Nairobi kuna ka aje. Eh... kuna ka tu poa maze. Atuna maswali. Mim kuna ma shidaivi Nairobi. Thank you. Jua. Mwenyali pewatenda ya jua li fanya kaz poa. Ha? Story amatatu. Wee! We will come back to that. Wuko Nairobi. Hei, natama ni sana kuishi town me malizana. Shule ni taftiwe. Ni taftiwe ma na ume wa town na ni toyapa. Nimechoka na kutu ngombe. Na kukamua. Okay. What I am gathering here is ladies are feeling like they need to be rescued. Uumingine atkaku wa lewa na kajana juli. What's wrong with me? Uumingine meka ma shinani na ngoja kutu lewa. Berla kuji ambi akam na ngoja kutu lewa. So what are we saying to these ladies? Yes. Aja ni ambi aji. Nimechelangat. Chelangat. May just think personally. I don't know how to advise you. I think your mentality is kind of wrong. Why? That you're waiting for someone to come rescue you. Why don't you do it yourself? Maybe not gopah. No, don't fear. If you feel like that thing is intimidating you, then go for it. That's how a dream starts. Just go for it. Just come to... Is it Nairobi you want to come to? Just come to Nairobi if it's Nairobi you want to come to? And conquer your fears. It's probably for the best. Chelangat. Atake from the comfort zone. Kukatua, relax. Goje wille life it ampeleka. Life it ampeleka wille na ampeleka sa ii. Akiendele akungoja. Risk take us make things happen. Take risk and make it happen. Fake it until you make it. Amen. Okay. Xavier. So you went home too? The reality on the girl in question is that there is a possibility she will never come to town. That is the reality. So the only way she can survive. That is the reality. Manzata na za jambia. Manzata na za jambia. Atake jambia. Those girls will never come to town. However much you want to try to empower them. The possibility of life is that they may not come to town. Why? Why would you say that? So mi na zambia chelangat na nile tukutafuta. Na nile tukudi rusya. What? Kudi what? Yes, that is the truth of the matter. Yes. So for example, I'll use myself as an example. I have a bucket list that I want to go to Egypt. I want to go to France. I'll go to the city and all other places, and then I'll visit France. And then I'll go there to eat. You want to travel to a zungu or shall I come to visit you? Yes, I'll be there. Are there any vizas available? Yes. No, friends, I can't wait. So as I was saying, I can't sit here atяo mìting for Sdrien, na nia nipelike yo Egypti wantungu. No, I'll just work for myself. Yidi pelike yo ko, you'll even feel this that sense of pride you have nili jipelike yo get. But you have to go to the city? Na Nairobi is basically similar to Egypt, but from Ocha to Nairobi, kuna tufawati kubu asana. What do you feel is her biggest hindrance? What is that kafakta that is overcome kwa kwa? I think the only way she can surpass all this is through education. If she can concentrate on her education and work hard and pass well, she'll make it. But if she's not educated, there's a real chance she's going to stay home. Hatai tukani, but yes, that is the truth of the matter. Nimeskia, mese mama, graduate. Ya, so use your documents to come here and find work or something. Ya, just don't tweet on her man, that's my advice. Kuna umtua mese mama. Na Nairobi. WhiteFive on Facebook. At WhiteFive channel, Twitter hashtag is why in the morning. Na you're interesting, you guys. Urumtua na kuliza apa. Are you just from a heartbreak? Apparently, there's some venom coming towards the male species that they're not understanding. No, I am not from a heartbreak. I'm just telling the truth. Two-ish in reality apa. Tachiku-ish in fantasy world. You're not watching too much soap. Sijini ma Disney channel na watch. Just stop it. Just be realistic. Na isi sop opera. Sisa maybe kuna saviya. Alafu kuna wewe mnenye kevu. Sisa wata shina meteswa. I'm like, oh my God, oh my God, oh my God. But atavumi liya. Wata tcheza wewa diske then. At the end, they'll be together and fall in love. Is that how it works in real life? Not always like that. But if you find love well and good, I'm just trying to advise a lady the appropriate way. Don't tweet on a man. You can't depend on a man. You can't always depend on a man. Just be independent. Soakita kukudri wuku. Achi aji lete kwanza atapata tamtu wuku. You get from a heartbreak. Those scenarios where if you depend on a man so much, you'll make the man even to love you so much. Depending on a man makes both of you to be in love. Which is true. You see, she's even... I didn't even tell her anything. Okay. So you see the men who, they love their dependent women. But they'll find an independent woman outside and they'll find an attractive. So you see, I don't think they really love them with their all. They'll find someone better. That's a very good question. Why is it hard? Okay, maybe in my experience I've seen it once or twice. Mwano me aki penda kabi sa. Kabi sa. Venye demu penda. Mbonanim kuna breaks. Nini ni? If it's 100%, maybe you give 80. And this is being generous. Why not the whole 400? Nini ni? Are you afraid? It's not afraid. What's wrong? I believe women like taking advantage of men so much. When you start loving this girl, you start sharing what you have, what you own. She starts putting higher standards and attack more and more and more and more. So it makes the man to come if I'm having a successful business and start introducing it to my friends and stuff. You start comparing their things with our things. Now it makes you want more and more and more. So the man feels like, hey, we can't take a mingi. I'll have to hold on up. The more I could be giving this girl everything and this girl doesn't appreciate what I give. Mbonanis kwe challenge accepted. Baby, okay, Tuliamzanae. Okay, Satume, Fikapa. Oh, umona yunataka. Kuna wale weni mwato hai chini. Ukahu Fikapa kati kati. Una taku Fikamu isho. Sasa onama darao. Sasa onama darao. Una nama darao. Uta tuleo uko reserve wuletwanae robindom tukwami nili kutahuko. Una nantuku fae ni nizimta bia gani. That's why ladies, tunafapia tunawakad, you have your own money. Kwa sababu, saizi akini pata na pesa zangu akini pata I know how to dress myself, then lazima api gani kuni kipapo. Because I don't expect I know how to earn money, I know how to dress, I know how to do my things, then anirudisha chini. Amaku jya kwenbe pesa. Amaku jya nyombe pesa. Awa wanyu yaisasi kama gelangata kuchukuliwa yoro ya endua tapha nyu hivo But as for me I've worked for my money ni mesama mi friend. I don't expect you to treat me the way you want. Uta kuna respecti na kamnayo ukywa na pesa zaka in everything. Outa kuna momba vitundu ugun dragonu kasa lunu you'll be doing that for yourself. So what was my point? Kasa lunu fae kwa mbama na home. Kuna otwinggin eka... Okay. No offense to you, poetry but then you'd be fed up that dependent , thats when love two twenty twenty Master In fact, it should be exclusive, or am I inclusive, inclusive, what do you want to be asked? No listen, if my friend you love me, no menyona you can maintain me, then you have to maintain me. So pesazangu wacha nanazo, you have to make sure that my hair is done, my nails are done, I'm dressed good. That is our perspective, I found you luku onavangu wakati luku, but you're not working naked. You are making your hair even visuli saan, adave omigia kwa relationship mu reduce we na tegneza nyo leha ku, luku on tegneza visuli. So there is no way you expect me to do that, I'm supposed to do that out of my appreciation. Like I did, nilufanya bieshara tawin mimi, pata some bonus baby, adave omigia nyeza nyo leha, me coming from me. Saya ti baby nyo leha mimi na kama baya. So when you want us to be dependent on you, what does that mean exactly? Because dependent for us is please give me a say don't hurt me. As I live here when I'm going home, nipati chai kuwameza, vimangu oni saafi, nyumba ni saafi, you see those things. That's not me depending on you, that's me serving you. No, those are the things a lady should do at the house. Okay, we are back to, uli sema men fall in love with ladies when they are a bit more dependent. What does that mean? To me it means like you are totally submissive, you are not trying to match me. If you are trying to match me be on my level or be over my level. Because we men, there are ladies who have made it in life. Adatu kiaza ku aguna una katisha yu argument. Juna jua, ayu kuli gi haku, ana kule mea. Kama kule volia ku, there's nothing you can do. So, adatu niza maintain, niza chiza na yu, umonyi shea. Tia ma, numa yana takia yu, akuna ma yana takia yu? So, basically, una takam tumonyi, ana, kani pesa ana, lekti niya kuhu. I want that. You look with that. That's very honest, and I like that. But so long as, if I'm having a good job, you see, but if I'm not having a good job. Also think, okay, I support you on this because I think sometimes when we earn more than the man utanza kumkali apia, kuna villi. No, ready to kuna mdomo. So, kuna villi atakushu, so na kusaportu, na kani kawana na kwa guna mimi, na kani kana na kwa guna mimi. But na kusaportu kuna villi, when you earn more than the man, that's when ana kwa mbiakitu, ah, usiniyambia, me na earn more than you, I can work out at any time. So, I also support him. I think I'd like someone money, ana, an more kuni liku. So, at least, aneza niya mbiakitu ni skia, personally. Mami, what happens when, when yes, ume patamtu, me like meongia, mna son visuri? Then you come to later find out that you already make more money than him. Are you now going to start pretending that you don't make money or just to save his ego? Like, how does this work out? I think I'll just humble myself. I won't put him in a situation where he would fail down, because he doesn't earn more than me. So, I think just humble yourself if you're in that situation. Okay, yes ma'am. If you're ready and you're ready for marriage, na unan domingiki kuliko your husband. You're ready for that marriage, so respect him. Kama, like me, if, okay, zichotchi na sama too. Zichotchi, zichotchi. If we are having an argument, me is maybe my man, intercool kwanza down, kwa sababa irrespect him as the head. Ata kama niya kuna makosa, you just have to cool down. Aunga, aunga, then after that, na mambea, so babe, okay, to make us say apa, so what's next. Ata kama ni naan domingiki kuliko na na. So you just have to humble yourself if you have decided it's marriage, then it's marriage in good and in bad times, yes. O chon kumbea stori, there was once, si kitambos, and I think, iwi ki ki anza. So, na niki tundogo, unajua venevi, tundogo zna zasumbua dem. I don't know also, Xavier, I apologize for all of us, like all the ladies in existence. Sazingine tuna sumulwana bi tundogo. But maybe it's because something big was happening in my head. So na miyenda na kaparasizuina kaji, sumka rungi, nili, kai, I was so upset. Like, what's wrong with you? Like, ni ni ni, like naanza tuku bishana tu out of the blue, alafu akani angali atu, alafu ni katoken kwa sumasawa. So ni katoka, then I went and had a few minutes to myself. I'm like, okay, so ambona ni me pigakile leivo. Like, what's wrong, valentine? Like, ni ni ni, kwa zali kwa usiku, monasumbua atu usiku, so I went back and I said I'm sorry. Like, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. So that's what submission means. Exactly. That's what it means. Xavier. We like to be pampered. And when a woman is pampering, like, I'm sorry, what do you want? What do you want to eat? Those things, they ignite our feelings back. So those are the things that make someone, a man who loves you not to go and cheat outside. Those are the small things. Like, prepare a hint, so come on. Apokwa prevention and cure, I don't know. I just know it's specific to men. Like, if they want to, they will. If they don't want to, they won't. Hi, Val. Meme ni braio. Shida hangu ni tamah. Eh, eh. Baby, in the right place. We'll give you advice. Shida hangu ni tamah. Every girl I see, I want her. Like, you see machali, what do you want? Meanwhile. Like, how I'll take you on TV and when I knew I was lying. Help me know how to control this tamah. I am willy. But after solution said, I didn't buy a moja up. Eh. You are an opportunist. I'll see you. Okay. I would really appreciate it. And he's even polite. I'd really appreciate it. So, braio. No, na itwa braio. Ma braio nama kevo. Mta tuwambia. What kind of behaviorism you guys are? What for Facebook at whatforchannel? What a hashtag is why in the morning? Tuwanzu na wewe. Boy, shout representative. Nakwangana yo type. But I think braio knows how to control himself. Fajia kumplei, like Hannah Mulamke or something. She doesn't have women in his life. He only is saying that he doesn't akuna tamah mingi. But I believe he is able to control that. And the only way to control that is to try and decide. Let me try being a relationship for once and see how it works. So, I think you should give a try. Yeah. How do you feel about this one? Tamai liwa fisi. Na ita anza from within. Akunam tu monyanesam, say dia kovakam that. Ina anza from you monyewe. I decide I want to be faithful with myself. I want to try and stop this feeling. So, iki anza na kama natakakabisa kabisa ita isha. But kama, sorry, but kama ataki. Ha ita isha na akunam tu watam say dia. We also support the argument that anafakungia kua relationship, kuna how it will go, kama badu ata kua attracted to other females. But I don't think staring is bad. So, maybe if he is talking in terms of staring, then that's cool because that's what everyone does. Ntahode icha kula, ingini pite niungalia niko. Kwa zi hindi wu kanga tamu? Wait, wait, wait. So, staring is not bad. But sa uke enda saku approach, iyo uyode mungine, that you want to be involved with her, yondi osa I think that's bad. But kani admiring that's okay with me. Nadem ni mawa wukunje. Ya, wana kanga tu po angalia. I mean connect to heart fully, Akusyama. He shall grow up. Very quickly. Why do you say so? Unezafata umependa monamke, alafu when you get into a relationship with her, you find out that I, usimu anya nil kwa nataka. Alafu, ya ni you need to like know what you want. No, sasa wacha kushinduki angalia. Kikilam tu, nini type ya ako. So have a type and go for what you want. I honestly, I want to ask you because it puzzles me, do men have a type? Amma dem ni dem tu. Kikilam men have a type. Yes, you'll say you have a type, you like tall, you like short, you like light skin, you like dark skin. But when it comes to it, do you really have a type? Kuna watu hawa na type, but I think ni better come to a kuna type and adjuan ni nini specifically anataka. Wana umeni, the wale-wale wana sama kukula, nitu shiba. See you see later. Ladies to Ben, ala ni kachakula. Nami sama ni kushibando muimu. Ni kachakula, kuna when you are hungry, you will eat anything. So what you would prefer to have chicken, but kani u gali maadondo, but it's how the lady portrays herself. Aki jileta iwo, nita kula tu. Wana wana. Veja me jileta, do veja nita kula. Wana. So wana fadyo veja na jileta, the way you carry yourself. Tazi kina jileta, welu mejpe leka. Na wuka ni kubali tu. See, jilu oku ni habi oku na demuengi, na tiki nga box. Invite sign. Uli kuwa chiaming at that time oku ni approach. So sin tiki nga 2 box. Nasa izu oja ni habi oku na demuengi. So tu kiwa chiaming wa tuwa tatu kwa wiki wana nga 2 box. Eh, eh, eh, eh. Even do ni mwangi amki wa rende. Wa, wa, wa, wa, wa. Ok, the last question as we wind this up. Ok, hi Val, my name is Karen. Mimi ni mbochu wa boswangu. Na boswangu, manome hua nani finya machu. Anani finya machu. Lekana wink. Wao, lol. Ok. Mama nyumba wa kruelsa na pakanaskia kuchu kwa huyum tuake kama punishment. Be still, my beating heart. Ati what? And it's not the first time I've seen this. Because in mona mimflani ati some girl will take your man just because ulim kasi risha. Ok. Twanzi na wasana. Goja. That's not logic. Ati I'll take your man kwa sababulin kasi risha. Eh. You're also a woman. But they don't think like that. Kwanzao when they feel that they're more beautiful than you. Ati they can do things better than you. In fact, uli atu wa juwe zifanyai. U kumbukangu wa atu uta uta. Eh. If you're a woman, nusifanyai kitu enyu unae u zitaka kufanyai wa. So I will not take your man kwa sababu pia misi zitaka wanguwa chukuliwe. So just say no to him. Kamata kufutaka as well and good. U tapata engini. But have standards. Say no. It costs you nothing to say no. And it will cost you everything to say yes. There's a meme of saying Ati. If honey, if your boyfriend is liking my picture, mi as kalamiva. Nupendi, just name me his name. I will block for you. For free. I will block. What else can someone do to cut off? Situinim, delete, come on, as a report. Whatever you want. Just as long as you don't hate me for no reason. Simtaki. Haya. What would you like to say? I also agree with her. I think it's that sexual harassment. I'm not sure. It's borderline. It's borderline. Like kweyumzai afaikwana fanyaivo. And you just cut them zai. Cut off fire. Exactly. U tapata tu job ingine. Job ziko. Aki jobs ziko alive. So aki kufanya nivot. You don't have to deal with the man harassing you and the woman also harassing you. If that job is not appropriate for you, just leave. It will cost you everything. The moment you say yes, ume kumbali kwingine in a relationship. Aki skeu tamu na repakashon ziki kuja na mbele. Kaziakitun skeu tamu. You have to look beyond. I say, ok, sa inter skeu tamu. What's next after that? You see, you just don't have to look up IV. Ok, I'll do this. Atanipatia pesa. What's next after that? Nini takuja. Mami. Ok, so Anasia maati umfanya like revenge for the treatment she gets. Well, honey. So miskata honey meru dewa. Sisa imagine aki kupata in the act. Sisa yu kali imagine sasa. Woooo. It increased on another level. Namagemzi always very squeezy. Ewa te ita maka majirani waku vami. I'm seeing those videos mambochwa kichapo. So, I was thinking of your situations. Either you live. Siji umsehame. Lakin uta after evidence yaku prove nini accusations ako. I'm up kimbe eto. Sihwa amtuka bibilia li kimbe aki wa uchi. Just go. Exit the building. I want you to give us your last comments as we wind this up. I also think that you will be degrading yourself when you do that. So just respect yourself. Put yourself at a high caliber that ukukodru sila zimola lenom. To just walk away. That's my advice to you. Just walk away. Yes. Mami. I want you to wrap it up nicely. To everybody. Know that self respect is very important. Love yourself. And just do reasonable things in life. And you'll see how that works out for you. Okay. Now wind this up. Self love is really important. Izi shi dazotu tumeta jwa palia na kwa. The kwa is self love. Just appreciate yourself. Love yourself. Then it will show on the outside the right person will come. Kama nimtunata after the right person will come. So just respect yourself. In this life you become what you attract. So if you want something attract it first. You focus on what you want. You do your best and live the rest to God. So you attract and you become what you attract. I like to tell our queens to be more traditional. Our country is more traditional than the what we think that it's more ICT. So at 27 or 28 you should be in a serious relationship. You should try to be in a very serious relationship. Because there is a high possibility when you are 29 utapatana boy tell him bias. That's why I'm trying to tell you we are more traditional. That was my point. Let us say it in more traditional. Just okay. Please do not feel pressure to do things. At the biological clock it's okay. The one who made you knows that you have a biological clock. And he will give you what you need when the time is right. When you can't be in a relationship or in a marriage and you're not ready yourself. It's not logical. You can't give something you don't have. Nakoma kwa sewa please don't spend your days trying to plot revenge. Or you dig two graves. One for the person and one for yourself. Otherwise just have a good time. Drink water mind your own business. Just like that. At WhiteFive on Facebook. At WhiteFive for China on Twitter. Hashtag is one in the morning. My name is Valentine. We wish you a fantastic day and the rest of the week. So now we are going to give him a bigger smile and then we are going to wave. Bye.