 So, last pregnancy, we were not really on the same page sexually. No. This pregnancy, I don't think we're on the same page either. No. Say it's flipped. It's flipped. It's flipped. I'm trying to... All the time. And you're trying to just... All the time. What's going on everybody? Popping in to give a shout out to the sponsor of this video that you're watching right now, Squarespace. Now, it's still early in the year, a little bit, you know, pre-summer. So, it's time for you to get started on that next big idea. And if you're going to do a big, do it with Squarespace. Build a website, launch an online store, use their mailing lists and other marketing tools to get that big idea started. Squarespace is an all-in-one platform to build a beautiful online presence. So, go to squarespace.com slash shambudy to get 10% off your first purchase of a website or a domain. Does having sex maybe lots of it help you go into labor? If so, can it cause premature labor? Is it even safe to have sex when you are that pregnant? How many times should you have sex in order to reap the labor benefits? What if you're too pregnant and you don't want to? Hi there, lovers and friends. It's going to be about that time that this baby's going to be out there in the world and out of my body. And in order to ensure that this happens in a safe and somewhat expeditious way, I'm starting to think about tactics I can utilize to help labor come to fruition as fast and as safely as possible. So, last pregnancy with my daughter, Rayu, we utilize the tactic of having sex once I was full-term very frequently in order to help with labor. Now, in full disclosure, there is scientific backings that do say that this can work. However, Rayu was born 10 days after her due date and we had sex a lot. So, take this information with a grain of salt and furthermore, take it to your doctor because that is the person who knows your medical history and knows best. What is safest for your body to try during this very exciting time? So, let's get to the science behind why it's possible that sex can help to induce labor. First and foremost, again, all studies that have been going on around the relationship between sex and pregnancy state that is actually only until a woman is full-term. Some studies say 36 weeks, some say 37. But any of these things about to list actually do impact you. So, they're not going to put you into premature labor again unless your doctor has requested that you stop having sex for other reasons. But other than that, this is why sex and lots of it can help to speed things along. The first explanation as to why sex can help to speed things up when you are full-term is prostaglandins. And prostaglandins is a lipid compound that has hormone-like effects when it comes in contact with the cervix. And so, in essence, prostaglandins are contained in semen. And so, if you're having sex without protection with a partner who has been tested and both of you know what your sex status is and your doctor okays it, and that person ejaculates inside of you, those prostaglandins can actually help to soften and ripen the cervix. And softening and ripening the cervix is important and as anybody who's pregnant before knows this because that's how the body gets ready to let it go, let it flow. And by it, I mean the baby. Next, let's talk about not just sex, but orgasm during sex, which as we know, those things don't always come together, so you gotta make sure that everybody's coming together in order to get the total effects. Because when we orgasm, it produces contractions and those uterine contractions, if they are strong and powerful enough, can get things going. By it, again, I mean labor. The third reason that having sex can help get things going once you are full term is oxytocin. And oxytocin is known as the cuttle hormone and the bonding hormone. We talked about this before. Oxytocin is released during sex to bond people together. It's also released during breastfeeding to bond baby and mom together. Now, oxytocin is actually the raw form, the natural form of pitocin and those of you who've been pregnant before might know that pitocin is the synthetic hormone that they use in order to induce labor, should you require that at the hospital, should that baby not be coming out on time. So there you have it, but I also want to give you some safe best practices, which again, you should talk to your doctor about, because again, they know your specific needs and concerns. But in general, here's some rules of thumbs to ensure that you get the benefits without any of the boo that could come from having sex. You and your partner, if you are going to engage in unprotected sex, should both be tested to ensure you are not introducing any sexually transmitted infections or diseases into the body during this critical time. Secondly, it's very important to keep it clean for hygiene reasons to ensure that everybody has washed their hands and their body parts before entering into any internal orifices. This is a basic practice, but it's especially important during this time. Next, you might have heard this before. It is very safe for a woman to receive oral sex. And again, orgasm, even without semen, is probably the most powerful thing that a pregnant person can do for their body. However, do not blow into the vagina because there has been some concerns with the way that can impact pregnancy negatively. So don't put air up there. Not that you do. I don't know why you would, but I just think it's important. They always say to say it, so I'll just say it. Last two tips. Anal sex should be used with extreme caution because of the risk factor of bacteria transferring. And last, last, last tip. If you notice anything strange and unusual, like bleeding or excessive pain, it is natural to have some contractions afterwards that can feel like Braxton Hicks, but they should go away. But if it becomes something you're very concerned about, please definitely talk to your doctor. You should have them on speed dial at this time anyways, or text dial because it's 2022. So we're getting to the end. We're getting to the end. How are you feeling? I'm feeling nervous. Really? Yeah. Why are you nervous? We had another baby. Two babies. Yes. Did you feel nervous last time? Yeah. Really? Yeah. I feel excited. I guess because you're not pregnant. I feel excited. You feel excited right now? Yes. I'm like, let's go. What are you excited about? Not being pregnant no more. Yeah. You got to list of other things because you're coming with that. That would be exciting enough for me. So last pregnancy. Yeah. We were not really on the same page sexually. No. This pregnancy, I don't think we're on the really same page either. No. So it's flipped. It's flipped. It's flipped. I'm trying to. All the time. And you're trying to just. Yeah. All the time. And this actually kind of became a thing last pregnancy because towards the end, I wanted to start having sex a lot because I know that it can help. Push the baby out. It can help to speed things along. And you weren't interested. So I did a lot of solo sessions. Yeah. Which I'm not mad about. No. But this time I'll be interested in your prostaglandins. Prostaglandins. Prostaglandins is the lipid compound contained within your semen that helps to ripen the cervix. Oh, okay, okay. So I actually don't. There's like basically three reasons why it can work. It's oxytocin. Yeah. It's orgasm contractions. And it's prostaglandins. And the heart beat of your growing up pushing the blood down, making the baby want to come out. That's not in the explanations that I've read. But I'll take it. Take it in. I'll take it. So I would like you to participate, but I want to know how you feel. Yeah. But I also need to be clear that like it's, it's not sexy sex. What is it? It's like we're on a mission sex. Okay. It's get in, get out. Let's use this same. You know what we actually have to purchase is another wedge pillow. We have one. Where? The one that I just got? Yeah. But it needs all those additional. Let's give it a try because I know last practice that we had the wedge pillow and that makes a huge difference in comfort, especially third trimester. And I remember last pregnancy towards the end. It's basically just doggy style. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's all we're going to be doing. Okay. Me arms up on my wedge pillow. I'll give you a little booty to each. Yeah. I'll push it up a little bit and then you got to just. Okay. Give the love it. And then on the flip side, it's got to be me on the wedge pillow, laying down inclined, receiving pleasure from you. I could do that. And that will be sex. Yeah. I could do that. Every day. For the next three to five weeks. I'm good with that. Are you good with that? Yeah. Yeah. Are you excited for pregnancy sex to be done? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I am. I'm ready for, I'm ready for, you know, just to be able to put in positions that, you know, are fun. I'm ready to just be able to get into. You're not having fun right now? I, yeah, but not like, not like before, you know, I feel like, and I vividly remember like after you had the baby, like we were having great sex. And it was like, this is what we've been missing. Like this is the missing piece right here. So I'm excited to revisit that because sometimes you forget, like what good sex is until you get to do it again. And you're like, oh yeah, we've been having some sub par sex. You know what I also could, you didn't do last time, which I wouldn't mind if you, it's not your fault, but maybe I didn't ask this of you. So you have to do like perineum massages. So I have a specific toy for that, which essentially it's like, the metal thing. Did you do it for me? Yeah. Oh, pregnancy brand. I remember that. I remember doing it solo all the time. Like, no, we did that. So when you're getting close to, you should actually do this all along, but just massaging the area. Yeah, this is up the muscles. Yeah. And ensures that you have less chance of tearing. And I am really hoping for a very similar labor that I had last time. Yeah. We had no tearing. No. It was an epidural and full disclosure. I would do a commercial for free for that bad boy. It was incredible. Yeah. No pain. And it was quick. We had, you know, gave birth. And I said, we, is if you did anything other than push, push. I was in there. You were in there. I was in there. I'm just joking. We gave birth to Ryu in 15 minutes. I think even though last time having sex didn't necessarily help her not be late because Ryu was 10 days late, I do believe that whatever we did before definitely resulted in a labor that I liked. So let's keep a good thing going. Yeah. Yeah. Perineum massages coming. Sex doggy style. Wedge pillow. And. Orgasms for me. Yeah. Post sex is for the oxytocin. Post sex cuddling. Could you get the oxytocin from Ryu? I don't know. Maybe. I don't know. I'm just thinking. If I just cuddled her instead? No. But if it's, if we have sex, we go into the room to go to sleep. Then we lay down. Ryu's already asleep. We lay down in between me and you. Ryu. Ryu's going to roll all over you. Is there a part of you that's going to get oxytocin from that? It could. But I also think there's been some times too that we've been deliberate about me falling asleep with you. Yeah. And then eventually I move over. Yeah. So I wouldn't mind doing that as well. No, yeah. We could do that. Yeah. Yeah. Just let me watch what I want to watch on the TV. And we're good. Okay. You can fall asleep or rub your hair or rub your back. You know, rub your belly. We're good. I just want to say in general, this pregnancy, I feel like we have been so much more of a team. Yeah. And being a team doesn't always necessarily mean that we go about things the same way. Right. But we have the same goal. Right. And we check in with each other. We've worked cohesively. Yeah. So either that's because we've communicated better about our differences. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Or we focused more on where we are the same. But I feel like I feel a lot less resentful towards you, this pregnancy than the last one. Of course you do. Why? I don't know. I feel like, I feel like when you're going through that first pregnancy, it's a bunch of new feelings and not familiar. You're in a space that's not, you know, normal. And you're just over it. So the first person to attack is your husband. I got told by many married men, hey, you got pregnant wife, just duck for cover. Just duck for cover and roll out. You're never going to make sense of it. You just got to let it ride. You're the enemy in the moment. But after it's over, you're grateful. So I just kind of like maybe took more of that approach of ducking for cover and just let you do your thing. And then that in return has made you go like, man, I'm not really yelling at Jared as much as I used to. I think it's the opposite. I feel like you've been leaning in more. I think the first pregnancy, you kind of had more of like, let me stay out of her way. And now you've been like, let me get more involved. Let me ask more questions. And I also think that's a big part of it too, of me expecting you to be a mind reader a lot less. Maybe the last pregnancy, I remember the only real conversation I had with you about my expectations came like when we were walking, trying to get the baby to come out. So I was probably like 38 weeks pregnant and or 40 weeks pregnant and we were walking at night and I was like, here's how you've done. And you're like, what's the point of telling me this now? It's over. So I think I waited and I was like, he's supposed to just figure it out. But this time, whether you've been more curious or I've been more communicative. More open about what you need in a moment. And we've been having more sex. This pregnancy? Yeah. You think so? I think so. Maybe I'm wrong. I don't know. I feel like it's all perception. Last pregnancy, I felt like I had more to prove. This one, again, knowing that we came out on the other side and had a great sex life almost immediately and we were kind of back, I feel less like we can't let it slip because I'm like, it'll come back. Yeah. But I've just been enjoying you in general. So thank you. Yeah, no, it's been a good time. You know, horny Jared is good. Horny Jared is good. I've really enjoyed horny horny Jared. Yeah. 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