 Very simple video today just that tiny issue of finding your life vision and your life purpose so that's what we're going to talk about here and This is a question. It says hi David. How can I find out my life or my the purpose of my life? I'm 23 years old. There's our starting point. Okay. I'm just gonna say something a few times in this video probably and it's that This is a process takes a bit of time. Okay. We're talking years So if you're 23 and you don't know what your life purpose is That's completely natural. It's the way it's supposed to be but I've been uh, I've been to college and I'm looking into Looking to find work But even after studying for years in college, I feel zero motivation when I think about the type of work I'll be doing I know I have to make a living Sure, absolutely But shouldn't I feel some genuine excitement? Is there something wrong with this? I see my friends progressing into employment, but I only feel underwhelmed and pretty depressed if I'm honest so There's that thing there about of course, we all need to find a way to support ourselves in life and It's like more and more complicated now than it's ever been. We have way more freedom a choice and On one hand, that's a great thing and the other hand complicates things a lot because there's no certainty or guarantee out there in terms of how am I actually going to make a live So much complexity Things are not the way they were in Our parents or certainly our grandparents era. They've improved in some ways, but in a lot of ways they've become a lot more overwhelming sophisticated new ones complicated and a nervous system doesn't like complication but I'm going to make this kind of simple. I hope The first step in finding your purpose is that it must flow directly out of your own character and out of your own nature Okay, now that sounds a little bit wishy-washy, but I want to to say that is the opposite of wishy-washy. It is What I'm saying here is Your own character your own nature on a very visceral real level So in other words if you're looking for purpose if you're looking for meaning if you're looking for the vision of your life Who are you and I mean that in terms of what are you all about? What is it that you want? What is it that you care about? was what is it that kind of moves you and an emotional level and to get in touch with that part of yourself and to find ways to Let that part of yourself be expressed and that ties up maybe maybe in in your career But it's this life purpose thing is coming directly out of who you already are It's not something that needs to be manipulated or contrived or brought about It's already there No one who you are is really another way of saying Underneath all that conditioning that we have from from early age in life Where the nervous system learns all these rules about how to keep itself safe and it becomes A kind of a it develops all these sub personalities that please people and live up to expectations from from external sources Underneath that there is an authentic personality. That's what I mean about finding out who you are And what is it that that personality responds to? Here's something to think about if you're noticing that there are things in your life that you're Frequently being drawn to That have nothing to do with survival. Okay paying bills for instance There's something there. Okay, that's kind of probably where you're going to find some kind of sense of purpose or vision for your life So the personality we have to begin with We're born with that's there from day one. It's like eye color. It's like height It's like anything else like that, right? We all have a personality And that personality is drawn to do certain things it is there for a purpose And our job is to make the nervous system Feel safe enough so that that nervous system has an opportunity to come out and express itself more and more When you do that, that's called purpose. Okay now I want you to realize you're 23 And even if you're 43 or 53, right, some people are still grappling with this issue In other words, don't beat yourself up just because you don't have this Visceral sense of purpose or vision for your life The truth is that that takes a long time. It takes years often to kind of develop that that sense of purpose And often it's like You there is something to be said for When you don't have this figured out yet For experimenting and trying different things Try things you see how it fits you do experiments that didn't work. I'm going to do something else It can take many iterations of attempts before you begin to fall into a sense of what my purpose is Three four things you could try There's a lot to be said for just experimenting and not waiting You know doing this inner work all the time waiting for this perfect vision to show up in your life That's rarely how it works and also I think when you find your purpose It's not like the things that you do from that moment on in your life are always going to be the same thing Now here's my purpose that this is what I do It's more about I know who I am. I know what excites me. I'm doing this But this thing that I'm doing will probably change Okay from time to time, but your purpose remains the same underneath it all You know what it is you care about what it is you want to do Maybe what you want to achieve for the impact you want to make on people So don't get stuck in waiting for this perfect vision But practically in terms of inner work that you can start to do to cultivate this is to just very simply sit down and think about what is The dream life for me. What does that look like? And what you're going to notice is your nervous system is going to come up and it's going to say that's impossible That'll never happen Okay, and allow your nervous system to do that But what we want to do is just to start to cultivate that that vision to realize that there is something authentic in you that wants to come out and express itself and over time convinced the nervous system that is actually safe to go and Proactively go after that thing that you're interested in or that drives you So picture in your perfect life Allow yourself to be unrealistic and allow your nervous system to have all its complaints and all its you know Realism and pragmatism around that And it's some kind of an A reconciliation between those parts of yourself It's not to ignore or that your your your nervous system which is it has no interest in what your purpose in life is It's not to let the nervous system Drown that out so that it never gets a shot at a place to come up and express itself or be explored Okay, we we want to Respect the nervous system which wants to keep us safe primarily And work with it not against it and over time your your sense of purpose will become more and more clear to you Okay, you'll start to engage in things you'll feel more genuine excitement. The fact right now that you don't feel excited is okay All right, it's just that you're on a pathway to do is you uncovering what your purpose is It's not something that you have it's certainly not something you need to sit down and plan and think about intellectually because that's not it It involves all of this and finding a sense of purpose involves a kind of an ability to feel into it Okay What is it that wants to come up? What is it that you're all about? What is it that excites you and makes you feel alive when you think about it? And that's not something that you can be you can be kind of logically sequentially taught through Purely with the intellect So give yourself a break and realize this is a slow process that takes time and Let me know if that was any use. I hope it was I was There's a lot to this, you know But I hope that's kind of going to point you in the right direction and Make you feel like it's okay right now to not have that sense of purpose and that it's it comes in time Take care and I'll talk to you guys again soon