 The conversations that I have, are they just neutral conversations or do they hold the energy of transformation for myself and for other people? Today we're going to be talking about the importance of every single conversation that you have and to actually take you through this journey that we're going to go on together. I'm actually going to tell you two separate stories that have really kind of changed my perspective of life and when I have a conversation with somebody realizing that me but also for you as well that one conversation that we have with someone can completely change their life whether we realize or not and that can be for positive but it can also be for negative. So the first story I'm going to tell you is about six months ago I was walking inside of a parking lot in Austin. I was leaving the mall and this guy was walking past me with his girlfriend and he's like hey Rob love everything that you do and I didn't really hear him because I had remote started my truck. My truck was kind of loud and so I was like what's that and he came over and started talking to me it was him his girlfriend and he's like hey man I just want to tell you I follow you on Instagram and listen to your podcast and I love all the stuff that you do. I was like that's awesome thanks so much and he goes I don't know if you remember we actually met before and I was like really where did we meet and he goes we met in Florence Italy a couple years ago and I was like oh that's pretty awesome and he started telling me about where we met. We met at a pizza and gelato making tour where we were making pizza making gelato and as soon as he said and I saw him and I saw his girlfriend I was like oh I remember you guys we had a conversation while we were making gelato right and he said yeah and in we were talking about you know my girlfriend at the time and I which is now my fiance we were traveling for a month throughout Italy and him and his girlfriend were traveling for like 10 days and he had a job she had a job and he said uh you know he was like yeah man it'd be so nice just to travel and do what we want to like you guys but we have a job and we can't really do that. Well what happened was he asked me what I do and I told him I was a coach and I told him how it worked and I told him how I did at that time one-on-one coaching and how I made money and it was like a probably a 15-20 minute conversation at most like it wasn't that long of a conversation. We had enough of a conversation that when he went home that day he started researching about becoming a coach online and what that would look like and he used to deal with a lot of anxiety when he was younger and went through a lot of self-development to then overcome his anxiety. Crazy enough we had that conversation two years ago never saw him again until I saw him inside of this parking lot and he told me that he after leaving and leaving Italy and coming back to America the day he came back he put his two weeks in at work and he said I'm going to figure out how to start a coaching business because I feel like I have a lot of value to give people and when I saw him inside of the parking lot he said that he now has 11 employees in his company. So I just had a very normal conversation talking about what I do for my profession and how we travel and how we love traveling and we usually travel for you know 30 40 50 percent of the year and he was like I want that I'm going to figure out how to do that and literally he went from that conversation to coming back quitting his job starting his business figuring it out figuring out marketing figuring out all that stuff and now it's not only just his life that has changed but it's also his fiance works it's his fiance now not just his girlfriend his fiance also works in his company and he now employs 11 people so 12 people's lives have changed from that conversation I'm not saying it because I'm not trying to toot my own horn because that's the last thing I'm trying to do I'm trying to say it because I was driving home after that and I was like holy s*** I can't believe how many conversations I have throughout the day and if they have the potential to do something like what happened with this guy and so it was really eye-opening for me another story that I want to tell you that's very similar in a way also happens to be in Florence Italy and it was the very first time that I was recognized by somebody in public and this was back four years ago now five years ago and there was a lady that came up to me and we were walking through a leather shop and she came up to me as we were walking out and it was my fiance and I and she goes excuse me excuse me excuse me and she was like do you uh she had kind of broken English she goes do you uh do you know Rob dial and I was like uh I do I am Rob dial and she's like oh swear to god she goes oh mama Mia and I was like oh my god it's like a movie they actually say this over here and uh and she started saying she's like oh my god oh mama Mia this is I and she started getting like kind of flustered she kept saying mama Mia said like 20 times and she's like telling me how I was running a webinar one time she listened to the podcast I was running a webinar one time and the webinar was like at three o'clock in the morning for her and she woke up in the morning three o'clock in the morning just to be on this hour-long live that I was running and inside of the live I guess I had said something along the lines of like how we need to focus on what we're grateful for and if we focus on what we're grateful for it will change our perspective for our life and she was in and she was on her way walking to she told me a story of how she was walking to um her work that she worked at she was walking across the bridge and she was having this terrible day she got in a fight with her boyfriend and a whole bunch of other things were just happening and she was just having a crap day which happens sometimes right she was having a crappy day and she was walking across the bridge and she goes you know what I'm going to try to think the way that Rob told me to think in that live that I was on and so she stopped when she was walking across this bridge this in Florence called Ponte Vecchio she was walking across it and she looked and she's like oh my gosh what can I be grateful for right now and she's like this this city I live in such a beautiful city like people travel from all over the world to literally spend a couple days in the city that I get to live in and have grown up in my entire life and she's looking over the bridge and there's people that are on canoes and they're going on the canoes and she's like this is beautiful like the mountains are in the distance there's the the river that I'm above right now there's people walking around there's a kayak that's down there as well and it's so amazing that I get to live in a city like this and then she was like what else can I be grateful for and she started listing all of these things that she could be grateful for and she realized that the first half of her walk she was in a terrible mindset and then she shifted her mindset to which she should be grateful for and the rest of her walk she said was amazing and she had an amazing day in it clicked in her head of I am in control of how I feel throughout the day and I say those stories not to once again Tutmar and Hornay sort of way I say this because I want you to understand the power of every single conversation that you have and you start to think about that think about all of the conversations that you have in your life all of them that you've had so far today all of them that you've had yesterday the day before that your entire life and then ask yourself a question the conversations that I have are they just neutral conversations or do they hold the energy of transformation for myself and for other people do I come into a conversation with some form of leadership of hey how can I make this person's day better how can I help them in some sort of way if there's something that I can do to transform this person's day their mindset this moment is there a way that I can show up differently to help this person transform or are we having conversations with people and bringing them down that's something we need to think about right I'll tell you another story what was a huge life-changing conversation for me when I was younger one of my very first mentors I used to run his office when I worked for a marketing company and he's like hey man like we were the number one office out of 740 offices right we were number one in the entire United States and he goes hey man let's it calls me up he says hey let's go get lunch meet me at Chipotle we meet at Chipotle we sit down and he goes all right and he was very brash like just set it straight to the point exactly how was he goes I don't know how else to say this to you um people don't like you and I was like oh okay I wasn't expecting to have this conversation and I was very taken back by it so I was like what do you what do you mean people don't like you he's like listen man I know your heart and I know who you are as a person and I see that come out because I spent so much time with you and I've seen you for so long but a lot of people don't see that a lot of people see this character that you have built yourself into that is not your true self there's a character of this person that you play that is I don't give a damn and you're making fun of and you're you're cracking jokes and all this stuff but what the problem is you're throwing little tiny and what he called them was neggs n e g s short for negative right throwing little neggs at people where it's like little teeny tiny negative comments you know short short for negative comments you're throwing these at them and it might not be one that hurts it might not be two but if they have a conversation and another conversation another one another one another one and even if you're saying it just kidding around they eventually add up and then people start to go yeah I don't really like this guy because every single time that I'm around him he makes me feel worse about myself and that was a life-changing conversation for me to have that conversation because then I started actually thinking back over all of the stuff that I said and realizing that even though I was kidding really what I was doing was I was trying to overcome from a lack of self-worth I was trying to get my self-worth from in little tiny ways bringing people down to make myself feel better than and so I want to I want you to think about this for a second and ask yourself like in the conversations that you have do they hold the energy of transformation or do they have little tiny neggs negative comments in them to bring somebody down just a tiny bit even if it's just a joke like when I used to think oh we're just kidding we're just messing around we're having fun we're kidding we're messing around we're having fun and I started to realize hey this is people are not viewing it this way people actually think that I'm cutting them down and do I want to be known as the person forever that cuts people down no that's not what I want to be and so I started to notice the way I was talking to people and I didn't get out of the habit very quickly but it was something I started working on I would say stuff and be like oh I shouldn't have said that and I still do that now oh god I don't know if that was taken correctly I didn't mean it to a way that it now sounds in my head as I'm starting to think about it from their perspective the thing that I think that we should all think about and the reason why I'm bringing this up as far as how every conversation can change someone else's life is that we should be very aware of the energy that we bring into every conversation because we should try our best to lift people up because there's one thing that I know is that the world is hard enough as it is right now the world's not easy there's some fun things there's some beautiful things there's some really challenging things and there's a lot of people who put on a really good face as if everything's okay and as every as if everything's amazing but in reality they're really struggling and the last thing that I want to do is to accidentally say something to somebody that is not doing their greatest that is not doing the best and I bring them even lower then even if someone's doing great last thing I want to do is bring somebody down I want to build people up in everything that I do and so I want to think to about how powerful every single conversation has the opportunity to be when you go into it with the intention of I'm going to hold the energy of transformation and this is for people who you know even if you have kids think about the conversations that you have with your children the way that you talk to them and the things that you say and the jokes that you might make to your children but maybe they're young and they don't understand that it's a joke and they take it seriously and they take it to heart I remember one time when I was a kid I'll kind of give you an idea I'm in the process of of getting my pilot's license because I've always wanted to be a pilot since I was a kid and I remember when I was younger I was a tall kid and this is probably I was probably 13 12 13 years old probably about 12 years old and I was a tall kid growing up and I remember when I went to the doctor the doctor was like yeah it looks like you're probably going to be over six feet you're probably going to be about six feet six foot one six foot two and I remember I wanted to be a fighter pilot I thought it was like the coolest thing I want to be an astronaut I want to be a fighter pilot and I was really big on like becoming a fighter pilot and flying jets and I don't even remember who the hell this was but I remember having a conversation with an adult one time and the adult said to me well you know that if you're over six feet you can't fly planes right for the for the the army or the navy or the air force you can't you can't fly planes for them because you don't fit inside of the cockpit and I remember going oh man like well if that's the case what's the point of me learning this what's the point of me dedicating my life to learning this if I'm going to a venture I can't change how tall I am and the doctor says because we all think as a kid that doctors know everything it's a lot of adults think that doctors know everything but that's not always the case especially they don't know how tall I'm going to be and he actually ended up being pretty close to right because I am over six feet but the thing that happened though is I've talked with so many pilots now that are just as tall as me or taller than me that fly jets that fly planes and what happened was that one conversation with a person that I don't even remember who they are but I remember that they were an adult and they were older than me so if I have their adult and they're older they probably know better than I do and I don't hold a grudge to that person any sort of way because I love my life as it is and it happened exactly as it's supposed to but how different could my life be right now if that person never said that to me how many people's dreams have been crushed by an adult that says something just kidding ingest that's just side you know side conversation they say something to a child and a child that might not be as intellectually smart as an adult and know that it's a joke or might completely miss it then take that to heart and go oh yeah maybe I shouldn't do that thing and so for those of you guys that have children or you ever around children also be very aware of the way that you speak to them and do you have the energy of transformation or building that child up because you guys remember back to when you were kids like middle school high school those things can be real real hard for people right so the worst thing we could do is bring somebody down that's already down because you know children can be vicious that's for sure we should always have the energy of transformation for everyone that we're in a conversation with and think about how we can build people up as much as we possibly can because you never have any idea how much something that you say to somebody can change your life for the positive or for the negative and so the one thing I want you to be aware of is the stuff that you say to other people because it's important knowing how the world is knowing how people think knowing how tough it is especially right now with all of the stuff that people are going through in the positive face that people can put on how important it is for us to just think about us showing up for other people as much we possibly can and we might be like well yeah but what about ourselves when you show when you show up with the energy of transformation what's beautiful about it and transformation or positivity or building people up is people will usually meet you at the energy that you're at so you can either meet them at the energy that they're at which could be low it could be indifferent it could be just whatever or you can say you know what I'm going to bring people up in every single situation that I'm in every single conversation that I'm in I'm going to hold myself to the highest standard to talking to people the way that I want to be talked to to treating the people the way that I want to be treated and I'm going to have every single conversation that I have hold the level of transformation so that I can hopefully impact as many people as I want to because had I never had that conversation with that guy that was inside the garage I would have never known that that happened had I never walked into that leather shop I would have never known that that happened as well and it makes me think about how many other conversations have I had that have steered people's lives in some sort of way because all of our conversations can steer people in other directions just little teeny tiny conversations and so this really woke me up to the the opportunity that we all have to help people or the opportunity we have where we actually bring people down if we're not being very diligent to make sure we're holding that energy but can you go into every single conversation with the energy of I'm going to go in with the energy of transformation positivity and trying to help this person as much as I possibly can I will not dip into negativity I will not dip into a place that I don't want to go to I want to hold that energy and see if that person can meet me there because every conversation that you has every conversation that you have has the opportunity for transformation hey thanks so much for watching this video if you want to learn even more about master your mind click right here and watch this video as well I think the purpose of this life purpose of us being here that's all I'm here to do there is nothing else for me to do except