 someone asked me a very confusing question and i want to share it with you because i think it's relevant to the topic the topic of the day is can you be single and happy or just being single and happy so someone asked me valentine did you have a valentine this year? Yes i had a valentine eeeh but as for me you don't remember who was valentine why? because your name is valentine ok so he told me to get a sare my whole life i have been valentine and before i got known i was still valentine And I did not have a valentine according to these rules and regulations of society. So mbonan iski evi baya. Why? Why should you give me pressure to feel bad? I tried to find Facebook, I tried to find 4chana on Twitter. Hashtag is why in the morning as you know now my name is valentine and you're watching the latest practice show around. So nile time, tuna gada, kama wascana and one very experienced lady. Natu nongi evi tu, I want to believe sinatu hoso. Anana na gani my friend. You know what to do with the comment section. Just go to our socials and do like you. But in the meantime let me introduce my panelists. Hello. How are you? I am Nakavzuji. Thank you. Transia, but what's your name? Oh, thank you. My name is Firdazna Mina Omar. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Ii enyestatumia leoni gen? Amina, simple. Okay. Is there a song about Amina? Na skia na filka nyashinskia shayin bia Amina. Amina? There is Amina, but I say I pray too. Okay, I see you. Let me find you on social media. Instagram Firdaz H22, Firdaz F-I-R-D-A-U-Z H22, Twitter Omar underscore Firdaz, then Facebook Firdaz Amina Omar. Okay. Yeah. This is a half over, but we'll repeat just in case you missed it. Hi. My name is Aivi Boya. So Aivi njotuna tumia leo. And Instagram, it's akumodothech. Same to Twitter akumodothech. Mm-hmm. I like how bright you are. I'm inflation is in my colors. Oh, thank you. Thank you. Last but not least, one of our favorite people on the show, Karibu Sana. Do you like to introduce yourself officially? Tuliaza breaking views kumtada na kaisu. But she can do it herself. Okay, my name is Belin Odede. I'm a student of life. Mm-hmm. I don't know whether I'll graduate. Wow. I like that. On Facebook, just Belin Odede. Mm-hmm. Belin, we have so many questions. And I hope you guys will be as comfortable as I am. Me, snaga ibu kumuliza maswaliza life. I hope you'll be as comfortable as I am. So the topic of the day is single and happy. So again, we played a video during breaking views. And apparently this is one of the reasons someone out there is single. I don't know. I think it's the behavior of the boy child, but I'll see you kwa very sure. Let's just check it out. Asamtu na kwamsha kii behaviori. Would you remain single, guys? Totally. And he's still having toothbrush in his mouth. Kaisu na sabayiri dansia kunguni. Nikaw na tunwa. In the morning. Eh, hosa. Sato utwa a toothbrush. So have we come to the conclusion that you would also be single? Why now? But you're in the process. No. It doesn't count. It doesn't count. It doesn't count. Okay. So we have a couple of things on this, our social platform. Man James. Eh. Ya, one of my favorite people. Chuli kwa noe, Jana Giyoni. You wake up with me. Ah, I feel so lucky. All right. We have Michael Lanchello. Desparta. Good morning. You are breaking my ribs today. I've been very happy about the topic. Siyoko kusado. It's just you girls are never serious. Like sisi hu jaribu. Okay. I see you. J.J. Riders na jeval. We'll go pama dame. Haiya. Man James. I'm Ben Salime Barry. And I'm Salime. And man James again. I tell you what he. All right. Thomas. Ma. Eh. Ma hanga. What is that? Atomali. I'm locked. We have a wakili oching on Monday. So it's kukosa. Ah. Is that why you're single? Amma. What's the problem? Ati. Eli smashaonak says. Hima isha hirikwishi. Singo bila stress pamoja na makasiriko. What are you dating? Matin mati says. The way single mum survive we also do. Wow. Sawa matin mati. Haptik DJ says. Tuna go pama dame. Ah. Je sasa. Susuna togo peani ni nani. Kevo ward alego. So squeeze ye. Hakuna real relationship. Niku danganya na tu. Real relationship li kwa poza mani. Squeeze ye. Ta wa tohia me. Chanu kamba hai. Haiya haiya. I say Duncan Manziya says. Vile hu survive to solo kwa bathroom. Devo suwishi please. He? Sami Karanja says. We fear mati. Haiya. That is not the first part. We need to talk guys. Patilinga says. Kirinaga present ati man James. So sorry but I'll have to ask. Ui ni Hamstone masakichat? Ewe we sasa. Alfonzi unique says. Kukosam bogis. Mogasafi. Ah. Tund from Itang. Evelyn Mora. I see you. Kutu wa. He? Okay. So as we continue remember it is at Y-12 on Facebook at Y-254 Chanu on Twitter. Hashtag it's white in the morning or Queens on Wednesday. Okay. Help me understand. Let's just maybe. Jua kuna manome in the panel. Let's just try to figure it out. Mano anatwa gopa. Thank you very much. Most guys wanna say mankati madem like wako expensive, wako nama shidamigiaz naja mamuun singh, sama dame and stuff. Yundo rizono na nana zato gopa nae but I miss you ni rizono na kutugopa. Ata miss you ni rizono. Whu na na rizono na kutugopa? I miss you ni rizono because even me kuna guys wanna say mankwa na gopa madem like live level because liza I'm scared of girls and I'm like why? Why are you scared of girls? Ni ni maio nezukufanya ni ni. Mazi? Approach ni naga. But so yeah siji rizono na gani is it that they are scared of you kukataliwa like kukonam tivu na jatua aha pa nisha kataliwa rezi sum uta ni simkari bie there's no need. Kunam tu juzi mene mbea I look too expensive ata ataki story but anatka tukuni salimi. So you said I'm sede aji akibeli. Do you look too expensive? I look too expensive. How am I supposed to help how I look? Look, singuwa. He's much simple. He's a what he can afford. If you cannot afford to buy me I'm a please go for skuma. Hi, hi, hi. Why they cannot say that you fear women? You fear anani more that you cannot do away with? It is just them all. They're just okay. But everybody in fact I want to tell you that nobody is single. Yeah. Nobody is single. He's single. At least there's some attachment somewhere. It may not be working according to what you want. But there's double at 24 from 24. But even from 14 hour days these guys are very funny and they are boys. So nobody is single. It's only that maybe your expectations are not met. Do you think our expectations are too high and that's why some of us are single and some of us are not single? First, let's agree that what is being single this is an emotional vacuum. Is it about getting married and maybe having a TV KSG married white white weddings? No. Some people are married and still single. A man is lying by your side on their bed. That is devastating that you can be married and still single. Most of them. Wow. Exactly. They are very single because just I've said being single this is an emotional vacuum. There's a space somewhere which you want somebody to feel maybe from the opposite side. But it is not forthcoming. So a man is lying by your side on bed but you feel you're lonely. It's not there for you. In fact, there are some people say that for me to even make my woman happy I have to think about something else. You see. So you are just there as an object. You are single in a marriage. Yes. It is a stage that you just have to understand. Yes. Ladies, I have a question. Let me be each to allow because we are in that cage bracket. Why are we so afraid to say we are single? I don't know. We are single. Is everything okay? Is something wrong with you? Do you have to be broken to be single? Yes. There's that fear like when you are with your peers around there then they are like everyone is in a relationship and they are talking about their goals and everything. Then you're just there. You have no one. At some point you will feel that loneliness but it gets to a point. I believe it gets to an edge whereby you start appreciating yourself being single because you see some people are in a relationship but they are so toxic in toxic relationships. They are like, okay you'll talk about it but inside and in that wound I don't know if I will be able to do it but I get to talk about it because this is the sort of situation she'll be bragging about being in a relationship. They got me issues even. He took me out. Exactly. But inside what will happen I will say some people you find they are fighting they are couple now and begin but here I am telling you I am glad that that is happening. Yeah. So it's just for clout. I will say to myself I will say to myself I feel the pressure the peer pressure. You will feel the pressure and say I have a story for you IV. So once upon a time there was someone over to me and he said very, very badly and it was in the time of my life where the peer life was in the same place. So I was in the same place outside. And I got to talk to him I was like how is it that this person is allowed to do this to me and I am back in Namtu so I was in Namtu and for a bit for a few weeks I wanted to take revenge I was in Namtu and I was like I was not coming to I was ringing him and I was in Namtu so I escaped by but then I realized by the way what I do in Namtu what I do in Namtu I think it's something that I need so what are the feelings you are feeling and feeling that you are feeling that I am in Namtu at the same time when I was in the UPD and he asked me I said I have a revenge I was like maybe I have 3 rums I was like in that time maybe we would have a date when we were single on a Friday we would have dates and a weekend when we would have a date and then we would share a series Yes, that is so I was so on Netflix I was just like I would be living in a room when I was in a room I was in a room and when I was in the room I was in the room tumize mazo tu yo ni piya prasha yata si hatafo lower for anything last matu ni par tum �ona ka ni pelika Circle outchi of Friday na du se baki teki angus na afu kwa moutu kaw leta, sheda aponduna patao si jui ok akina kevo in such bryo, dadians and alias you want to say something ok, then the thing is here it is piya prasha some people want to please the society all my roommates are going out they are getting chocolate i'm not getting anything we should find a stage in which everyone has to go through it Even up to 50 years, banana is single but they are in marriage So if not for my kids, you will not be under my roof We should not be afraid that all my roommates are getting presents for them please appreciate it It is a stage Work positively to get out of it God says it is not good for man to be alone So we cannot challenge God so we must work towards that Please don't squeeze yourself, don't kill yourself. Sometimes you that you are remaining in the room, you are the one who is in a relationship maybe with somebody but he is just far away, he couldn't bring you those flowers. Somebody is going out but before they reach, his eyes are already turned to another woman, they are fighting on their way to that party. So you are the one who is in a relationship, just appreciate yourself, appreciate this tuition, then you just walk out of it. Because eventually we have to start by biblical statutes. It is not good for man to be alone. God says so who am I to say that I want to be alone forever. But it is not a crime, it is a process, it is a stage that we must pass. So it's okay to be, you want to die, like kutumu na tumbo, amaki chua for a man just because you are single? You will not if you want. But when you start imagining, now they have gone out, I am all here alone. Oh, anaskia rahaa. Si sasa labda na lambo lambo si jinii nivi tu kama isu. Stop those world imaginations. You are sorry, come. Good day to you too. You will not be alone forever, just be yourself. It is hard time today, I may have it tomorrow. When you start seeing the positive part of it, kutaku na kumu na tumbo. Kwa imagine, hiji na metokapa na boyfriend, si sasa anaskia rahaa samu, a kimi na niya niroga, wuna anzaku fifiya, wule mama, wule mchawi kwa wule jinii. Laba na niya menirushia hi, no. Uta anza kwa gonjwa, just appreciate the process, it will come and it will go. But you must work, it is about your mental. What you think about it. Those people may not even be in love. We may not even be in love, we may not even be in love. We may not even be in love, we may not even be in love. We may not even be in love. Sasa anaskia rahaa, kweninu si mwena kichu, and over what now. Nani, you feeling a tear, sleeping a cold. Sani umu nitu kwa kapi ilu. Minu al kuna tumingi na pwa nomia. Ana umi nana regret ni ngeba kikiwa hostili na lale. So you just appreciate it. Ushai patana manu na kuja naku soka, high was your name. Adieba boyfriend, no. What's wrong with you? Like there must be something wrong if you don't have a boyfriend. What is the problem? Why are you like this? Ini nge aku jaribu kusama I want you. Use your words, don't be me. But how would you deal with something like that? Okay, okay. Like for me I've been single for quite some time. Mi nemtu zipendi stress by the way. Atona katu, makati riko free. Zipendi stress. So at some point na fika ga mahali kwa zileza. Gosh, aiki wotanenda otin kwa peki hangu. But me na sema I'd rather let me date my sobs and movies and everything. At least ni fantona. So rather than kwa na umtu, ani pe stress. Iniki tumo just see easy. So getting into a relationship. Uta naku zileza what's wrong with you. Nkwa zileza it's kwa zerech person bado hajafika. Mi nkwa zileza bedemi wu se maebi. At the end of the day, mi ni rebia umtu. There's someone looking for me somewhere. So in fact valenta and mili tangeneza bedi hangu wu zure. Everything on houses and everything. Because my husband wherever you are, ni me ku tangeneza. Why? That's quick. Nkwa na DJ tumge. I like that. I be what if they come and tell you. Okay, so now your self esteem is very high sour. Tu takimakasiri. Kwa ku je on na. Su tazeka tu. Su tazeka. They like saying uta fika 35. Si jiyu 35 mi mafanya ni ni asif them they'll never reach it. But they'll tell you tazeka tu apabila buwana. Sia tam tu yu shikena ni. Exactly. Nkwa gandumakasiri koibu. Akin ni. Akin na benye ntaji pressure. Mini meji kaza na kejana mene. Ati kwa sabu buwana uta fika 35. So ni fika 35 na kama zia kwa sabu bwne kwa na stressia buwana. Just in money. Yeah he's a snake. So ni fika 35. Niki mafanya 35 is fine. Niki mafanya 35 piya kana songa keki songanga. But it is not that easy. Ya. It is easy to say uta songa bale. But until you come back to yourself. You equip yourself in a better position to songa bale. How to songa bale? Una samadunam dum. Ah kwen datu mi I can manage my life. I can do without you. Deep within your heart. Blood in a vein. I wish nge maambia yes. Una niki na heart. Yes. Ok. So kuna tofa utia kuringa na kujieshimo. Yes. So how do you know the difference? How do you know if you're telling someone no because it's good for your mental health and your own peace of mind. I might say no. Una ringa. So how can you tell the difference? First why should you? Una ringa kwa ni ni? Say dem ni kuringa. Dem apai kuringa? Ya. No. Una ringi anani. You know to yourself. You cannot ringa to yourself. Come back to yourself before you meet that man. Una ringi anani. Una jijua vilu weakness. Una ringi anani. Ukiwa pekiya kwa zani kukwarumi. Umansakuna una ringi anani. Una nani zan kumringi ya. Though sometimes what I'm telling him does not relate with what my heart is. I need him really. I really need him to say oh this guy oh God. I wish we were just even friends. But because now I want to be a woman. Say ya. I'll think about it. Say kuna times. Una ringa leg. For initonga status. Like let's say. Una jina kwa class ngingina puivo. And then. Kuna boy unna naka beach law. Kuna weni unna mleik ndi o bat for the sake of mabesh dikono. Ase unna hangouts now. Wezin kubali. So last mum ringi alakuna rudipulia. Ukunda nishikia. Ah. The moment you put class. You never did. What's at a class? Atimbogi ndu na kufanyom spend them to their way. Where? Where? Do you know when Michelle met Obama? They were not that rich. He was not that understand. But he couldn't smoke up. Ya. So that's why you must have a reflection. What do I really need in this relationship? If I want to jump from single. If you want to put it that being single is in another relationship. Some people in relationships still single in such relationships. Ya you have a man who will never call you until you call. But he's your boyfriend. Or maybe husband, whatever. If you don't text. You will not text back. But you are quite in love. So you don't understand. What kind of love is this? You are in a relationship with yourself. Ukunda na kufanyom. Talk to them. Address the nature. Hey. Sometimes you are in a relationship with yourself. But you are pretending because you want to please the society. You want to please your maize. You know me. I'm dating a professor which I have at the university. So now when they see you. Kuna viluna jikari ya. I date those big big men. My dear but you know you are lonely. At night. You can imagine yesterday you sent him a high text. He hasn't even. But you read it. Sin. Sin. But you didn't even reply. Sin. So the moment you feel maybe has done away with all our things. You are the last of lender resort. He thinks about you. Oh there's a dog who sent me a high. Hi what were you saying? After two days. Then you are saying you are in a relationship. Are you not single? You are single. You are single. If you want to go to Sumbwa. Kweke WhatsApp status. WSU W Instagram. You want to go to Dubai. Apu kwa big big people guys. Please help me understand. Kuna. Vitu nimeski akada. I don't know if it was just for last year because I haven't had these things in 2020. But as per 2019. Muntuna kujana sama o. Nime kula heartbreak. Sista kivi jana eji ango. Wacha niende sponyo. Just sponyo. Akuna wa if I already know where he is and what he's doing. He's not cheating on me. I already know he's providing kwa na pesa na nandu peteki likitu na taku. Kwa matika gari, yes, log buki kwa jina ke chunga na ni, bata na nini piya gari niyende, niyende shei. So, is this just because we don't have to be single once again, almost a problem? Ya, exactly. Kuna, ya, you meet such people, wato wako, wame go through a lot of heartbreaks, kwa maesha, liya kwa kwa kikidete, nimi kwa piya na beshtika mahaupia, nwa kwa kikidete, like, edgme twa ke kido gwa miachana tuki asi. Then, after some time, after wome break up, pakozileza, mi sahis taki vijana. Atasi west. Taki vijana. Nendia, how was that? Ya, matua. And after your maturity, ya matua, wana niye lewa tide mi na taka in everything, kitu kamaezo. Sometime ni, you heartbreak the past, yunye mutu ano go through and liya fanywa to enginu, ana make these decisions and ana make, like, dating the sponsors and everything. I want to ask you, Evie, if you would ever imagine yourself, but sometimes life in a kweka, in a funny position, maybe your answer now might not be your answer tomorrow or the week after that, but I have an understanding for why mutu aneza sema anatka mutu anamue lewa, mutu has, has struggle na ekuji explain, jom, jom miwa, asha suma bibi ake, and it's like at some point, wasta na ni katu na fana na design flani, modu swing, we all have them, et cetera, et cetera. So he knows how to manage, Silvio. So na jo, like, kwa datu bani, ok mi sa, sa isi zi sema na isa fikirei yo point koz sa iku fikirei a story na supo niyo triki sana. Like ni, ikifika yo point, enyewe na ilewa. Ono jo saka say, we are around, ono jo say, most dating na kwa gatu around the same age, age group even. All of you people are growing, kila mpa kuna modu swings ake, so inapata timing, me kujana modu swings zaka, me kujana modu swings zaka, ono jo kuna kwa na time, sa tu kia guna budako, wizi na zatu, muna emu wizi na zaku bishana. Muna tu baniata fenyomifika, kwa kulek onimtoi, jos chaniya chaniya na ilewa. Inelewa. So ono jo kwa kulek, na kwa supo niya kulek, this is just a kid, a chaniya chaniya na ilewa. What would you tell those people who are heart breaking manze mpa kwa unanzu skia ule mena dogs and it's not true. Why men are not dogs? They are not dogs. About the sponsors, when we all run to sponsors, these old gagus, why are we taking our boys? The old gago will impregnate you, then you will give birth to a boy child. Why do you expect this boy to go to, to understand you? Why would you allow a man to use his wife as the reference point how to treat you? My wife doesn't do this to me. When I call her, she says, she wants you to do the same. Why would you allow a man to use his wife? It means he loves the wife. You have to be like my wife because they are saying that at least they understand. Just get a man of your youth, work in this life together and if it's not possible, please see that. Just relax. But at some point you have to come out of being single because God, we cannot question God. You say it is not good. So when God says it is not good, we cannot say it is good. So at some point you have to just go back to the maker and do things right. I also have a question. So now you've been single then you get this person that you think is the right person. You get married and have kids. Tell me you've been lonely, not single. I've been lonely. Then you get this person then you get married and have kids. Then after having kids, the guy just leaves, you know, mechana wa toto, back to being single again. Ita kwa, like a process, single, you start. Very good question. Yes, you just continue the life. One thing that you must know. I'll be a 30-year story. Let me tell you. Because we say for somebody, he's gone. Here you have either two kids or three kids. So what are you going to kill these kids? You cannot kill them. First appreciate the position where you are right now. Okay, I've been left. Boy am I under. Ni kwa pana wa toto. So where do you start from? Come back to yourself first before you go to those people. Stop following somebody who doesn't love you. Don't follow. He'll kill you now as you see. Somebody is traveling all the way from here. Why would you lose your life? The Baba is gone. Then you also want to die. Where will the kids? You must think about yourself first then your kids. Just accept the situation. I've been left. Here I am, God. Where do I start? Do I start afresh? Yes, those are options that you have. Or do I reconcile if the man is willing? But if he's not willing, let him go to help. You cannot force it. Even if a boy is willing, he won't let you go. You are not my type. Please allow him to go. Let him go. Sometimes they hurt. That's what I was saying. Come back and negotiate with yourself first. Before you go, even at a word, have a debate with yourself. Am I able? God give me strength. Now you have to invite God in this thing. Because it is so complicated. When the heart loves something, that even doesn't love you. But you are dying for him. Once you die, you'll be buried. You come there and say, it's just gone like that. He picks another gene. And life continues. So you are the custodian of your life. You are the one who is accountable. God will ask you about your life, not his life. So you must take care of yourself. I'm coming to understand can you not sumbwa sanani tunapenda raka? How do we know if it's the right type of situation? How do we know it's the right time? Time? How do we know? Are we going to start working different? Are we going to have different thoughts? What's happening? Is there a sign from heaven? My mouth ignores. It's a feeling. One control. One control. One control. One control. It's a feeling. One control it. My daughter now cannot do it. She can't even see me naked. But when I see opposite sex naked, kuna wili na kuja, you start imagining because the brain is developed. So it's just natural. Though it differs with people. In balance almost. You find that you've reached a time you just feel that I can't just go like this. Mili ni kama kuna kituina. So it comes naturally. You don't really need to start better, you know. You'll be funny. You'll be funny. We are here. Robi Osam Music Hi Val, hello. We went to Huwa Nata. Ati please, chakuni lenga. Skulegi Bobo Nani me kuwana. Kutani DM. As we continue. You. Remember it's Y24 Facebook. It's Y24 channel. It's a hashtag. It's big single and happy. Nani muna. Please, I just want one of you to just volunteer and tell me why you are afraid. And then we can work it from there. Because we are not understanding. DJ Nicky Salim says, ha ha, let them be because we are enjoying ha ha twa twa morning lunch supper nasakumi na moja. This is a very important point guys. I know he said it with ha ha, but apu kwa twa twa guys. Let's just tell the truth because it has come a point in our generation that kuna tum tu juya appointment. Kutani sato this time. And after that ratu si salimi ya ne. Maybe I don't even know your name. Twa twa. Are we doing justice to ourselves? No. Why? Why would you just meet me and do twa twa and go? Sim tata sama kuna kiyu. Kuna kiyu si omimi. Ya, so I can't just offer myself freely like that. Twa twa. Twa twa has good consequences. Then when these things will come up are you ready to take responsibility? No, you want to come and the twa twa and go. Why will I take this kid? So there are things, the main point here, please be with yourself first. After doing this twa twa, what next? I have contracted HIV. Then you came to enjoy and you went away. I presented myself because we want to assume it is not rape. You also presented yourself cheaply. For somebody who wanted just to quench his thirst. Then after that, as a lady no. Just imagine you are unmarried, you get as unmarried, you are in love. Then you go to this and they say you are positive and it's negative for God. Where will you start? Because over one start, somebody came to do twa twa and went away. There is this situation where I am scared. I am scared maybe the girl child is going to work. I want a boy child, I like you. Can we do something? Can we have a relationship? I don't want a girlfriend. I don't have to, I'm not ready for all these other excuses that people who don't be accountable say, but want to take a twa twa. So the offer is you either be physical with me or leave me alone. But where we seem to me aguka? It's very hard to convince a girl who thinks she is in love. You say okay, just as long as we are together, first of all there is no together, they are mad. Just let's be clear. But how would you advise someone? So like she has said before, that knowing yourself it's very important. Know who you are like you twa twa right now then what next? There are even girls or couples who are in an open relationship whereby you only meet, you do it. Then you are allowed to go around with other guys. You just know yourself, know your worth. What next after doing this that I am going to do? What next after? How is this guy going to see me after we do all this? Yeah. Na kuna umutacha kumpea, niza kupenda lakini chini amaji to say ambe mtu. It will be our little secret. Also that is code for there are very many little secrets like you out there. Bunu si ambe, bunu si se me. Exactly. Come on, tuka tu kwa little secret na wewe na machu kuna little secret niza kumenda juaji. That is common with married people. I love you so much but you know I have a wife and children. So let's keep this thing. So sometimes when the wife calls and you are around and you can't even talk, you can't even cough and you know the cough you can't even control it. Even it's prisongani. Na kuna umutacha feel special feel better than the wife. If it was so good if you were such a woman you would have kept your man. But umutacha kanyata una sawingi you are the little secret and you are going to be back functions what umutacha bibiake he goes back to his wife aki kuwacha ana rudia bibiake it's not the other way round. Fakshi means when you will say you are kind bibi in your main. So if you can live with yourself people if you think you are strong enough to carry all that baggage from him you wade yourself and you say even if he doesn't call me I know he is now with the wife you understand that well it doesn't affect you okay go on but for how long Mesivi waka family bank ma safari kum Why is safari kum saying I miss you Ya you'll be missed by safari kum Pat gate the king says ngo pa ma pensi because o nae muita beb aneza e maze napia anafuata na wali omuacha wana chuki taka wana kipata na kusema wana raka okay I see a generali mnyewe mkwaja rembo na shukusana for being single that is quite fantastic na taka mojaya sasa wewe fokas fokas kemi sorry bk hashtag white in the morning suranayo e na niauza napia awa nitaki atini kona sa uti lakini sinna volium musioka David says kuheli ma single ni wengi apa but out here in the streets kila mtoko inna relationship so who are we dating Samuel Kymensas heartbreak zilifaya moe wangu ue jangua oh lisi lota ma pens kumana mkwaja how do we help a boy child hey hey better be single kus unaji tolea kupenamtu but in the end anakwacha nisha say sami juma jekunia juma omolo says most ma dem a jayao ko relationship see sacrifice but comfort ma iti na relationship ina itaji sacrifice not comfort man James wewe unapewa 5 marks imaisha haitaki makasiriko klepto genius pia ma dem a meja kwanguoma zagengeto nisa soa nometu faini na dem anafolo dream sa putuak sasa unonguia jwe hey atiyo wana semaha ataki ma DJ wacha nikai na mama yango okay Douglas Matiko says I'm just confused state of single searching and swinger searching you John's Musani hi I'm watching from Kisuno he life ya u single man zeni poa imagine hunam tu otatumia fea kule hunam tu atadisha out then accost gara mamob hunam tu atak jamia ma time unabonga na ma yengu konje yani life ni tamu okay Duncan Odingo says hashtag when the morning watch it from a dirty area vana kwa mbe imaisha ko u single ni tamu stress hunam tu ana kusumbua I'm worried the state of our relationship na sound tu kusumbua na sasa Daniela Akira says hashtag when the morning watching it from Lloyd Tuck Tuck sasa kama machali ni hawa wa gengeton utaki kudeto diwa moranga love you too Daniela club again genius says where were they kujekuako atumia nyanyata my twist nyanyata atu atu tokubali kudeti kwa eleta tafadali madem na tkakudeti juatuna ngoja iyo ni disapeek wanza tkunanya nyanyaka Evan Stotters says morning watching from ambassador nowadays there's no real relationship better be single okay so we have another one agi mke si kwa gopa relationship nivi le ma heart breaks to me pitia sasa untu ana on na tu agi fall in love at end up kwa heart broken agi watching from naks apushta rode to say I see you club to okay so when the morning watching from kisumuch nga gopa juma yeng squeeze wana taste bridiote jubeshti hake amemdanganya wengine piya precious house na tumat utaki kua date any lawyer says hashtag when the morning I honestly love being single because I have dreams to achieve before I hit an edge of wanting kids piya hate relationship drama ati ati aga be by kujen you never answered where were you okay but who are you dating I hate being post around I always love being free okay I see you pato humble but Zenga says hashtag when the morning I had a e-town kwa single nifum kwa zuna Zenda fum time yote and flirt with anyone na badua puta spend less and like you said inkine kwa ume jifunga na tena watu single hana ga stress ah but who is the stress nisi ame nini ame nisi wote tu keko pamoja Dennis Dela Kusafa hi val hey I'm Tum from Kitala enjoy in the show and concerning today's vibes I think wu wu wu ime puta wu ko ju ju ju ju yes there we wu okay hashtag is why in the morning I had to kenda kumaliza because hey how has time run out I think we had way too much fun okay how do we conclude this would you like to conclude maybe perhaps maybe why we should it's okay to embrace being single like it's okay nani it's okay uta cha po achana piya presha and maybe how to handle yourself in belia watu because he dunia ne tuko na kwa afrika if you're at a certain age na unaka merimbo merimbo maswale tu you should not be single maybe how would you address how do you stay so confident and single maybe okay firstly as I conclude being single is not like you're not incomplete being single first like neza kwa nangarewi kwa niko single neza kwa niko kwa relationship it could be even worse so first accept the situation that you are in you are lonely then what next what else do you do about that take the time come on to na penda kujibamba and everything like being single is just fun fun you just date yourself una jifeleka una jifeleka out unenda it's just any fun siji yeah discover yourself talk to us Ivy how would you conclude it I would conclude being single is awesome just learn your likes learn to appreciate yourself uji kubali ati just because we don't have a boyfriend I manage it like me I'm missing something in my life just learn to accept yourself behold le uko and then ukeshe accept behold le uko life nita muna jo niu single mse na kwa ei nyo seitne zanda paivi akuna nubody li kwa liniu bedede li kuna kwa pick na umse uni nani kazi niya kote na kazi niya akuna kasi record kazi niya kwa kazi niya kwa kazi niya kwa kazi niya kwa kazi niya kwa kazi Belin I want you to tell us in conclusion how we should approach coming out of being single Okay, first of all before we come out of something you must understand what you are in before you get out What is this singleness that I'm in Is it about getting married? Is it about having to work with a man? What is it that I want to get out of? Once you understand that then you look at the repercussions the consequences of getting out or just be here There are some people they say just like she is saying that it is awesome you manage your time nobody has to care about what kind of dress is this things like that you are the manager of your own life if you feel that that's where you want to be though at the back of your mind jua mu amesema it is not good to stay there ya to stay there but it is a stage just like people to stage there are things you will do there there are some good things that you will see there you can manage your time you can manage everything but there is also a time at night when you see a man you can imagine him but he is not John that's a pillow no no he will not do what John can do you have to be real to yourself that's what I was telling you you cannot you cannot lie to yourself you can do without these people I want to go to school I want to study at night for pillow then you start imagining what is Val doing now oh god I wish I was also Lashu's you know you are hurting yourself appreciate that stage it will come and it will go ya because you also have to stand with what Val says it is not good to be single when dead it is not good you should not stay there forever but it is a stage that even your mother may be single right now with your father you see so it is a stage it is not a crime to be there ya don't stress yourself like in African culture age mm hmm I don't know I'm a figure 24 haki kuhili nani a li kuhu roga maa zembuna tu na metu ya kuhu shike bol na nani sure at least it is not a kufa ah kukifasai kuhu na metu na nani backslab please don't don't please the society even if you are married we will still talk you are single we are talking you are what we will always talk so do something that pleases you pleases God eh then you walk out of it mm hmm yes I don't think I can add or take away from that so kazianguita baki tukkwambia thank you thank you for being with us thank you for staying with us through the entire show 7 through 10 this morning it happens every day that means Monday all the way through Friday and occasionally hip up Thursday the very handsome DJ so you don't want to miss it just be a repeat for the show around 2pm all the way through 4 later in the afternoon my name is Valentine or at color me Valna Zajpatat White Fife on Facebook White 2 5 4 channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the morning same handle on YouTube in case you want to see this again you want to confirm that you are okay with being single at White 2 5 4 channel on YouTube so sir we insist that you have a fantastic day and the rest of the week so we wave now bye