 I want to give a very, very big and special shout out to Akina, the people up there doing what they do, the magic that they do. Thank you Brenda, thank you Ndavo. Ndavo ni meskia lokasi kifika Westa ni kenya mnendakufanya. It's okay. Piyano e matutu mekwona and on that note I see a Sherry, somebody and I want to say hi. Thank you for watching Why The Morning and if. Uu na uko Erembo, muna sumuluwa na lokastu. Istu rea lokastu na ni nice. Wei na jena street floods. Istea mwa says, here who is being called by good night. Ki ebu itika raka raka siya tukfajia po. Minhu alatwa itwa for Facebook, itwa itwa for channel auditor. Hashtag is why in the morning. So you know it's about that time we're going to have a discussion with the kings and one queen. And the topic I think is important. Twanze mwaka vizuri, twa ce kupigana, twanze kupishana. Let us just understand each other or attempt to sendio. And if all else fails, I hope we can arouse some compassion in your heart. Fanevi, come to salimi wa tu. Hi, how are you? Ah, what's wrong? Is it because it's cold? Good morning. Yeah, I like that one. Let's try individually. Good morning. Mi, mi, mi, inaya kwa? Good morning. Yeah, okay, now we're good. Would you like to introduce yourself? Yeah, my name is Felix Weire. I'm a student of the University of Nairobi. What do you study? I study Utikulcha, 4th year. Thank you. Hi ma, how are you? I'm Kafika and Queen. How are you doing? I'm Kafiri. Now that is it. Aha. So, how are you doing? I'm Max Raya Joshu. Aha. I'm Mesa Benge. I study political science at Mount Kenya University. Karibusana and the very well known and very well missed. We have missed you. Missed you too, guys. My name is Zulu Benjamin. A lot of things, but for now, clinical psychologists. You added some more things when we were finishing the year. I was building on them. Now they are right. Wow, okay. What do you think? Who do you think rather is an empowered woman? Can I start with the lady of the group? Who do you think is an empowered lady? Kuna, very many schools of thought. Kuna niya na se ma empowered lady ni monya kuna do, monya kuna gari, monya niya na zadis pamiya. Kunengini na se matu empowerment ni ma ringo, haizi submit. So what do you think an empowered lady is? I think at this point we have for first differentiate empowerment or women empowerment for feminism. Because there are two different things. So inasmuch as it has a very small difference, but there are two different things. You know feminists can be empowered women, but not all empowered women can be feminists. We find like you get educated, you can provide for yourself. You are empowered. Educationally, financially you are okay, but somewhere in your mind there is a problem. And that pushes you to being a feminist. Now you lack what I might just call common sense. It gets to a point. I mean being empowered requires more of, once you are empowered you need common sense to drive each and every step you make. Because being empowered doesn't mean you start behaving like that's the end of the world. Like you start behaving like a feminist. I take it you don't like feminists. Not that I don't like them, it's just that I'm not one. Okay. What do you think about the empowered lady? I think an empowered lady is ideally a lady who knows about her rights. A lady who we can say she can be independent. And a lady who knows how to live without people. Because as she said, this is a confusion. Between feminists and empowered ladies. What do you think of feminists? It's just out of curiosity. We are not talking about feminists today, but out of curiosity. First of all, there are two types of feminists according to me. There's a feminist and there's a toxic one. So the toxic one is the one who tries to do how to do a man. What a man can do? Yeah, in fact wherever they are, two people she tries to perform better than the man at all costs. Even if it's with muscles she is. But a feminist just a general one is this lady who is trying to fight for women and who is trying to empower women. Dr. Zulu, what do you think? Let me ask ladies to avoid that term calling them just, I'm an empowered woman. We don't like it. Yes, you don't like it. We don't. Why now? Because power is a taboo in many society. It should say I'm looking for power who will mark this one and reject you. Because it contains no hard power, avoid it. I'll give you what to say. Say I'm a woman of value. I'm a woman of strength. I am mentally enlightened and I am not independent and I am not dependent. I am interdependent. I need you and you need me. I bring something to the table but I also need what you're bringing. Okay, so let me say today we're talking about women of value. Women of strength. Okay, because as we have said remember today quietly we all need power everywhere we go but we must keep it hidden. When you go to a place you need you need to get a position of advantage position of what serves your interest we always but we must do it under the carpet. You don't say that's what you're angling for. So don't call yourself empowered. Say I'm just a woman of value. I'm bringing value to the table. Hold it before you continue. I just want us to read that slide that's next because it has the definition according to Oxford. This has nothing to do with John. Oh, yeah, personal opinion. No, this is just according to Oxford. So empowerment is a noun and it's the process of becoming stronger and more confident especially in controlling one's own life and claiming one's rights. Again, the process of becoming stronger and more confident especially in controlling one's life and claiming one's rights. So where exactly does the fear stem from? Is it the confidence or the rights? I studied law and in law school we used to tell our colleagues who are ladies you know we are the best guys to marry you because we understand you but if you continue being this combative nobody wants to marry an activist. So we told them one guy they were joking they said if I know my wife who come from this class let me wear sack cloth early. She would be given insane. That's what we are saying. Anyway, it's because things like claiming your rights, being assertive is associated with being an activist and yet we associate a wife material with a home builder submissive is going co-operative naturally welcoming home. Talk to me now mamma because It's not about rebellion being an African woman and maybe a Christian lady we were taught of being submissive from the very first day of creation. You know when men were created before we made that show some sort of supremacy so in the society however much empowered you are they are superior that's one thing I really acknowledge they are superior and this is not to please boy child feel yourself you're superior in some way but it reaches a point where they are supremacy especially now this is an argument of the mind it is not physical power they have this issue of toxic masculinity one will say in the society in the patriarchal society it is a tabu to hit a man it's a tabu an empowered woman we look for ways a woman of value as Dr Benjamin said we look for a better way of solving issues than getting physical and the same way a man who is out to empower a woman we also look for better ways not only of solving issues but preventing issues from happening so in handling an empowered woman I mean it just needs some good brain and I'll repeat this use of common sense you be human you be kind you know you be human use common sense and respect them on that same note before even we go further na choumen na mada sana Felix but it's because they keep giving point that compliment each other that's why I like that you said you know your place yes so wajal nika matuli tolewa and yeah if you're christian you will believe certain things and maybe I don't know supiri is a big word let me not use that one but you came first so yes yata kuna first bone na kuna last bone yeah so I understand what you're trying to say but I also understand that you're confident I can see wezi and bebebo bebo too far less isn't you and that's something that he said that they are afraid of why are you afraid of the confidence of the woman who will say na takai naendeai ni ni ni the problem is when they do it they do it in a manner such that they want to engross geni kuna mada rao yeah kuna mada rao this is what I wanted guys now we are getting somewhere yeah uh huh kuna kama darao I'm uh I come from the village I was born and raised there and there are things I see happening there there is a lot of empowerment in the village women empowerment and luckily I don't see men empowerment I don't know where it is I don't know where it happens I don't know where it is koleni sana sas indotuna sa idea nasasa so at home we have things like table banking we have very many women groups they invest they get money at the end of it all and you know these women is enlightened she's been taught how to do everything and everything but the man maybe the man hasn't got through the education system we've been going through so the man is an African a typical one now it's coming to life the woman goes back at home with money the man is a drunkard so to say that the woman is enlightened and now she's been told that when you go home with this money you need to do this and this and this and this and this and this now man the man feeling that I'm the head of this home he must have had money when he came home later he got happy he got happy now that is when next chapter when we speak about all the things so what if when you are going to empower the woman tag along the man when you are saying these things the man will at least come out he would have a very good idea but he will not come out so after this time if the man comes out and tells you you are going to tell the man where that man is tell him who he is and if he comes out you will come out and tell him and when you come out and tell him who he is he will come out so in the process of precondition just to balance but I like that there is no there is no regrets that we have empowered the lady there is no result it's just there is no result We should empower the other one. In fact, I support the other one. You see, empowerment. I have been trying to tell you ladies and gentlemen, immense confluence, I hear mnema nesoto, just pick at least five ladies. Five! Five! I will just take all the countries, pick one lady from each of the countries that will be represented. We were to go to Seashells. See, let's go to Denam. No, we were to go to Seashells. Wakagundwa, venue, wakachom. Ya, so nelesoto. Just pick, that's even five eh. Uksha pikao five. They will just come back and give us information on how to treat you better. Mama, you see points nani? We're better as soon as kids they are. We are to treat you better. We are to fight for your rights. It's 20, no fuck pendwa. Mama, I'm not going. Let me warn boys eh. Because you say, you should tag along the man. Men is because they are very independent and you got this too. Akinvaitu on mama hata kuja. Oh yeah, yes. Akinvaitu for those kinds of things ata kuja. Let me ask Ayam men that as long as we are talking as a group, we may need to be, that will never help you. Take it individually. Instead of starting dating the first time you land, come first, first year. Don't hunt for what you cannot hunt. Take your time to grow first. Men were born to be leaders. To lead a group, a family. To lead somewhere. And for you to lead, you need to be followable. You need to be inspiring enough. To have enough vision. To inspire girls to say, I think this guy is going somewhere. And let me tell guys that we are looking for strong women, the women you are talking about today. And all strong women, they are so supportive. They can't and they believe in your potential. But you must be a dreamer. Because a woman who believes needs a dreamer to match up with. If they realize they came here to support you, they are burning with energy. What do you think can do together? They are seeing potential in you. But you are here scattered. You are just worried who she talked to yesterday. Who is that you are chatting with? Who I saw you online? You do not respond to my chat. Who is this where we are wearing? Who are you meeting? I saw you online. Who was that you are talking to? So most of these guys, because they are weak when they find a strong man, they become insecure. And instead of letting her fly, they tie her down. And you girls stop beginning so low. I keep talking to girls who they are so worthy, you know? And I tell them, good men are rare but they are there. And they are looking for you. But you are here stuck with some stupid fellas who have not discovered themselves. This difference between a grown man and a boy who grew beards. When you see beards, we have guys who have beards but they don't have brains. They are old, they talk like 17-year-olds. You know, they need to behave that way. Remove that dress. Remove that shoe. You can't go out like that. And the fact that you pay in your house, I don't think I can pay. Instead of being happy that somebody lifted the weight and a teta that you lifted the weight. Those are boys. Again, the size of men is determined by their brain, by their thoughts, not their pocket and the car. Be careful of Subaru. Somebody said you see a Subaru. When you see a Subaru racing, when you see a Subaru in a guy in a suit, Subaru racing on Tuesday, he's going for court case for child support. Ah! Anyway. Ah, yeah, yeah, my choice. It was on a light note to say. This is 20 years. It was on a light note to say. Girls, if you continue dating cars, if you continue dating the pizza we can buy you, men who are dreamers, men who are dreamers are looking for a woman who has strength to support. Not a girl looking for a party, just a party, a person who can fund you for another. So if you behave like a pizza, we'll eat you like a pizza. What? In some ways, we're recording this. We're looking for a break. And if you... Where are we? One number volume, we'll put it on. And if you behave like a pishori, we'll buy you, push you in a cart, pay and take you home. Like a pishori. Not ready to eat, but very valuable. And be done by the family. But if you're ready to eat, tutakula to pambuza, we don't want a 20. And men know the difference, only that we don't tell you. Put yourself there like a woman who we are looking for. Men, why do they pretend to be saved and go to church to look for girls? Because they know good girls are there. And they do it for you. We go to club to enjoy, but we want to marry, go to church. Hoi, hoi, hoi. It's an open secret among men. So when you talk about strong women, you should take your time to be strong in terms of build your values. Imagine being a home builder. Imagine that. That's what the man is looking for. You know, when you start, when we are partying, we get party gals. When you want to marry, we calm down. Ha guy, I think now I'm serious. Oh, are you feeling something? Are you feeling a vibe? Are we being educated? Because of the boy child? I also feel, I also feel attacked. Talk to me, why do you feel attacked? Why? No, on a late night. That's okay, but some is... This guy, someone was beard-centred and I just fell. Yes, there's two. Sorry, sorry. Yeah. We're okay? This guy is tall, dark-handsome. Is there a deal? I guess yes. And you know, it's the deal. Both guys are too young. I don't get it. Akonadi dimples. Guys, dimples. Zoom, zima homo, zoom. Okay, so I got a couple of scenarios of what the empowered woman is viewed as in society, maybe if we continue. But as we are doing that, Ustistahao, we are going to contribute at WI-Five on Facebook, at WI-Five for a channel, Twitter and Instagram. So, empowered or not. These are just scenarios. You tell me if she's empowered or not. She pays her own bills on time. Is this being empowered or not? You should not marry a girl from my mother's house. This is a statement. Ustimutuwa kwao. Ngojia stwaguna rent kwanza. What do you mean? Dili sikutili pa rent appreciate. Ah, that is a need. No, wait, wait, wait, wait. I would agree with you. Accept. Nimeskia mutuwa kisema. Ati una... Yani anafaku kaapo. Akituwa kwa mama kia enimkora. Mm-mm. That was the inskwa many were talking about. You need a girl who has learned how to look for money and pay bills. Who can appreciate the simple things you did because ame oi lipa kasensiyo pinch. Na ame ono me lipa kasensiyo. Ah, you have done something useful today. Bakimi kama odi katoa kwao. Akajel lipa emiti. Umikika miya presa imesia rent. So you are not contributing your budget. You need to learn how to do this. Why did you bring me here? Where's my yoga? I want to buy outing. Wait. Is that a woman or a girl? Girl and woman is about mentality. You can be that way and you're a girl. You can be certain you're a girl. Which one? The first or the second? The pizza girl or the wife's material? Girl. There you are talking about a girl. Here we are talking about women. Yes, so I'm saying this one, she pays her bills on time. That's now the strong woman we are talking about. Okay. All right, next. We have a... Hey, doctors, little people have missed you. I'm here even following up our Facebook. Hey, it's been missed, eh? Okay, all right. She feels she cannot date a man who is beneath her status. These are the cup people. They see the picture, the other girl is. The power don't know. We say we stand by that woman and she pays her. Maybe he inherited. And you mean you also inherited. Some guys have reached now, but they are on their way down. They are manas, but they are squandering the money. They got fortunes, but they are growing bankrupt day by day. Other guys are down. I told people when you find a broke guy, before you date him, investigate whether he is also lazy. Because some guys are broke, but they are lazy. Others are broke, but they are hardworking. They climb being. You can see they are restless. Even when they are not dead, they don't sit in the house, they are remote control. They are not a kazi, but they are not humanish. They think you are a kisha. You know, it's about me for now. You know, don't do that. That's a pest. That's a project. It's not a partner. You are not taking a project. So, women are. Projects that you and your partner are. Partner needs to know. Projects that you and your partner are. Next time bring a topic called empaths and the narcissists. Why they find each other. Empaths are those guys who are so massive. Guys are so massive for the NGO rescuing. And the narcissists are so self-absorbed. They want you to commit to just help them. So, you girls sometimes are so massive. You feel you want to be needed, especially first borns, to bring up their siblings. They find siblings everywhere. Even after they have grown up, they continue growing us. Why? The narcissists are looking for that. Be careful when you are the first daughter or the first born. You are cultured to take care of us. That's a direct chart. Okay, are you first born? Sorry. Nakumiza mahalima. Sorry. Let's reward this. But remember the ones we married first. I was looking for. We always know that she's a natural leader. No first born is neutral. Either she's very compliant or very defiant because there was a lot of influence and control from Muzazi. We were a lot of discipline. We had siblings and we were very good at kutiawa. We were very good at kutiawa. We were very good at kutiawa. We were very good at kutiawa. Someone clap for Dr. Benji. She was brought up to be a leader. Thank you. She was brought up to be a leader. Tuki said that the status of her is a mental thinking. Are we together? Yeah. Remember, character is what is constant. We call ABCD characters because they are characters 24-7. Character is what is not changing. Money changes. Wealth changes. Status changes. Don't go for these boys who are after social media status and following and they are flirting with the girls and you see them online. When will he... He's always online. When is he on earth? You need a person who has something going on on earth. You know. Up on ground. So the thing is... You never need to make a difference. You need many times a guy who you can think on the same label. So I encourage guys. After you see a lady who impresses you physically and you enjoy... Don't stop there. Go on to... Can we have conversations about other things? Do you have a passion? Do you have a fire within you? What do you long for? If I was to support you and draw you up to fly, which direction would you fly? Do you like children? Do you like the poor? Do you like business? Do you like... What do you like? A girl who is busy is easier to love. Zababaidoa. Who remembers these 45 minutes you texted me and you remember what I called 10? I called 10 and I called 4. I called 10 and I called 4. I said, a girl who is busy is better to love. I said, do you need your stories to talk? Something was going on in her life. But didn't you see that there are counting moment times that are not called and there are a list of mistakes? No other men don't come home they go to the club. Why? You remember me, I saw you were back here. So you are back here. You don't meet me in the morning. I saw you were going to eat. You can't even eat. I saw you were going to eat. Simba has a lot of things that she has to cook. Yeah. Demo, if you say no. Yes. You can't even say no. But talk out. We gotta go to another one. Another case, yes. Here we go. Empowered or not? Remember you can be part of the conversation too. WhiteFive for Facebook at Y254 channel on Twitter. Hashtag is one in the morning. So she fights for equal rights of the genders. Empowered or not? Woo! But Twanza na Felix. Jaya me yama la sana. That is we come there. Take this definition of an importer. Aha. She fights for equal rights. She fights for equal rights of the genders. That is 50-50. Kama una lipoi, yata mi lipoi. Yeah. Kama mi nenda kichenku pika tawo wenda ut kichenku pika. You know, unfortunateli Felix yama getting too much. No, no, no, no. I'm waiting for his last word. Unfortunateli must have empowered. Empowered. You know, the kind of empowerment you are tweeting about and the kind of empowerment out there we are completely... We took around that. Yeah. All of you can agree. They are very different. An empowered man ignores this. She wants that kama watu ana lipoi 50. Yeah, payway 51. No, no. Na hata pika kelelai 51, it's okay. Do you look at me? She is empowered. She can speak. No, no. But this is a clear definition. That's why, in fact, I'm an advocate of the idea that people should be empowered equally. People should... Be careful what you are saying. It's a minute, pure. Because the next thing is when do you change the power of the tamkayo 3? I have no problem. No problem. In fact, up to date, up to date, up to date, I stay with the brother. I have no problem with cooking. I have no problem with doing dishes. Yeah, fast one. Was chana angusheni CV and as a pika. Okay. I'm alive. So, you know, for me, if you get each other, if you can understand each other, it's like you are your companions. There's nobody above the other. There's no rivaling. Yeah, there shouldn't be someone above the other. Okay. It's an agreement. Okay. Do this, I do this. But some kids, sawe mwenyo na chakau kweju, umikakwa coach, you are watching Maria and I'm there cooking. There's a problem. Not possible. There's a problem. We should be doing it. Talk to me. I think, ladies, that is where we usually go on. Equality. Equality is where you are. Equal. And being equal means what I say is the same thing you should be saying even if you have a different opinion that can even be better than mine. Wow. Your opinion could be better. But now since we are equal, once you give an opinion, we can't argue about it. Because I feel I also have the power to give my opinion and since you have accepted that we are equal, that remains it. Now handling an empowered woman, let's talk of dating an empowered woman where I have, okay, I have male friends. Most of the time, actually, most of my friends are male as a person. So I always tell myself I can't fit where they are because what they talk about now it's not new to me, it's common. But when dating, they won't see you as a potential wife or maybe as a potential girlfriend. You become their buddy. I mean, they should see some difference from you and them. But once you share so much in common, just because you think you are so empowered, so you can argue with them I want someone that is now me talking out of my knowledge, not as a man. I'm talking now. Because we don't know what men are because we are not men. Maybe. If you don't know. Natuazi fanaana. Yeah, so, okay. A man wants someone when he can listen. But if you are equally anongia unongia, anongia unongia, I mean, just idea naji and then some sort of respect. We can't be equal. Maybe I'm better in something, you're better in something else. You love financially, I'm okay. Labdew lianda, ishule sana punishinda mimimimu anyi kwa nyumba. We can't be equal. But if it gets to getting equal, sometimes ladies tuna kwa seya. Because there are things, even, I mean, being masculinity, wuna kwa tamu nomen na zafanya kitu something you cannot do. But being now that, kia rehae re. I know it's kia rehae re by the way. Apokwa kia rehae re ni point. Mekubale yo. Tuna kwa atu, like, we can do this, we can do this, bla bla bla. And in real sense, you sit down and say, tule kwa kwa grupi na kinana, nia kwa nende na zafanya kitu. And then you'll sit here. I know, you can't just do it. Wuna wana kwa visa, this is impossible. Na utaibu shindoa. Ana utaibu shindoa. Fanya evi. Now that we know how us, we are feeling, we want to know how you're feeling, okay? Kido goto because I, the time is running away from us. We have a sherry pause. Kala miwa, hi. Aki embo akuna lokas. Akuna hamkuli lokas. Naske kwanzo kizi roast. Benja isalutiu, imagine. Benja, I love your thinking capacity. Nia ni, unongia sense. Baka una nifanya ni stockenje. Just to listen to your words. He's coming by the way next Monday. Sia ti. Sia ti niyo. Misifah Godia says, men should just sit down and wait for miss, what? Just wait to be mistreated. Empawad women wakuna kiburi. Men have to hustle pamoja wa pate upona doza ho. Oi. Rozi, baby, they should handle them just like any other lady who he loves. I think the man saw the lady first, not his success. And again, being successful as a lady does not make you the man. Volium apu utongezha. Again, yeah? Being a successful lady does not make you a man. The girlfriend thing will just remain. Ataku, we... I mean how it doesn't make you a man. Good morning, savior maestro. Good morning, savior. Understanding each other is key to any successful relationship. Like any... Aki mea pende mobilize. A-a. Honorable surga. I see you. Ati stop asking. Strategize. Organize. Mobilize. Because... A-a. She said it. Vogma de afrikana. Good morning. Ati pema demo na faku jovilewa na umewa ako. A-a. Ii video ikueni the secrets to a man's heart. So, Lewis Moril. Okay, wajiru. Good morning. Fasni kudra what has empowered her, for example, ati a BMW driver can't be treated the same way as a Mercedes and a Porsche driver. Ah, futzuki sisi wada tukosem. So... Charles Ireri, following from Sharmata, Nyandaro County, Brian Mukaba. Good morning. Watching from Rironi, Kiambo County, Dominiki Nga. Good morning, Kabati. Kafati. Keno. Well represented. Tuned as usual. Woh. Okay. Fomili kwaivi. I ask specifically, in particular, that we have a two-part series for this. So this was part one. We will continue with part two. Is that okay? And then to public demand side, please just make time for this on Monday. I will come. We are together. I can't wait. You see, he loves it just as much as we do. Faniwi, you have an amazing day. Keshoni, entrepreneurial Tuesday. You do not want to meet. Zulu Benjamin Page. Zulu Benjamin Page on social media. Zulu Benjamin at Gmail. Namba, in case you want more consultation, canceling and all that, 0101 360 060. 0101 360 060. Thank you. Your number more in a kawaii adevo. 0101. It's a simple, come 0101. That's the current trend. Wow. 0101 360 060. Okay. Do you have a very cool number you want to give us also? Am I social media at all? Social media. Tell us. Ryan will bring you all social media. I ask you a smile to pay. Van, should I scream? I'm not cut to smile. I'm not cut to smile. I'm not cut to smile. Like that, please. Ryan will bring you all social media platforms. Thank you. Alex? Social media platforms. Felix will bring him all platforms. Neme me naitua wa itua faifu on Facebook, atua itua faifu on Twitter, and the hashtag remains to be random money. Have an amazing day. Bye. We will. Bye. Bye.