 So, I thought to myself, what can I give advice to people that they have actually control over that will make them attractive? And as I'm telling you these things, I want you to imagine a brother or a sister that you're speaking to for marriage and they have these attributes and tell me they don't suddenly become a little more attractive in your eyes, alright? Here's the things I came up with that I said that makes people attractive. Ten traits that make you more attractive. Number one, someone who is content with whatever Allah has given you, you're content, you're grateful. Imagine a husband or wife with whatever situation they are in, inshallah things will get better, but whatever situation they are, they're content. Having a husband or wife in that situation is ten times easier than someone who's always, always disgruntled. Number two, someone who holds themselves accountable for where they are now and they don't blame others. They take accountability. So, instead of just saying, my ex, my ex, my ex, look, I'm not going to talk negative about my ex. I'm going to look, rather look internally and say, what could I have done to be a better person? What could I do to be better? If you have that mindset and say, you're talking to your brother and he says, listen, I'm not going to talk negative about my ex. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guide her or give her the best husband in the world. But I realize that some of the things I could have done better would have been this, this, and this. And that's what things I've improved on. And when he says something like that, it's so much more attractive than if you're hearing him. Yeah, let me tell you how bad she was. I'm blah, blah, blah, blah. And they're like, okay, is he going to be talking about me like this? You know, so number three, someone who is quick to forgive and late to anger. Being able to hold your tongue in times where there's, especially when there's a lot of emotions and conflict going on. That has a lot of value. If you have a husband or wife, a spouse that's able to do that, it's priceless. And that will leave a lot of, remove a lot of unnecessary arguments and disputes. Next, and this is from the hadith of the Prophet, peace be upon him. Someone who's most beneficial to others. There's a hadith, there's many hadiths that are very similar. One is the best of you who's best to his wives. But one is specifically, and this is my favorite hadith. It's a very long hadith, but it's my favorite of all the hadiths of the Prophet, peace be upon him. It's one that's the beginning of it starts off with something along the lines of the ones. The best of you is the one who's most beneficial to others. And then if you have a husband or wife that has a mentality of being beneficial. And you'll see people, by the way, in the local mosques, in the local community. Those who are always beneficial to others, when those people are missing, they are truly missed. It's like, where is so-and-so? Everyone misses these people, and you can be that person. And again, there's nothing that prevents us from having any of these attributes. The next one, number five. Someone who doesn't compromise their deen, even if it puts them in an awkward situation. All of us have been in that situation. It's where being Muslim in this environment is very easy. But sometimes being Muslim in a different environment is not so easy. Especially if you're the only Muslim. I can tell you how many times I've been on a flight where I'm praying, and people are talking to me. I've been at the airport, how many times all these random stuff happens, and I'm the only Muslim in this area that's like, I don't know if there's any Muslims in the airport or whatever, but I'm praying. So it happens, but I don't care. And the fact that they don't care, that says a lot. Next one. Someone who has the life skills that will make him a good husband or wife. This is something that's missing from our generation right now, by the way. A lot of people are like, I want this, this, this, this, this in a spouse. Okay, what do you bring to the table? You're like, what? I say, what do you bring? Like, what life skills do you have that your spouse will find beneficial as a good husband or as a good wife? Right? So what can you do? And people don't know. So you have to develop these life skills. And there are a lot of them, by the way. For both male and female, learning how to cook will save you a lot of money, guys. A lot of money. Right? And that's a good skill to have. Our parents had it. Well, we just, for some reason, we don't have it. Our generation is missing it. We have Dordash. Someone who is humble, and the number seven is only 10 of them. Someone who is humble has a humble personality, even with the gifts that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la has blessed them with. If you're humble and you have no gifts, that's easy to be humble. But if you're humble and you've been gifted with beauty, with wealth, with social status, with something, and you're still humble, not fake humble. You know, fake humble, you know, that's fake humble. Oh yeah, I don't know how I do it so well. It's so hard to be a millionaire. No one's like that kind of stuff. No. But truly humble, that shows you that it's a very rare attribute to have. And people who have it says a lot about their character. Number eight. Someone who treats the least important person in the world with the same respect as those who are above them. Find the least significant person in your life. Person who, like for some reason a male bathroom, women's bathroom, I don't know if it has or not, but male bathroom sometimes in the fancy restaurants, there's a person there just giving you a napkin and giving you a cologne and stuff like that. No one even pays attention to this person. Or the janitor who's cleaning the place and no one's paying attention to this person. Treating that person with kindness and respect the same way you would treat the president if the president walked through that door. A lot of times you'll see people treat people differently based on their status and what I can benefit from you. And if you see someone treat even the least significant person with respect and with kindness, it says a lot about their personality. And by the way, you will see all these things I'm referring to transform when you are disagreeing and arguing with your spouse. Because you'll see the level of discipline and kindness and their character because all of us, no matter how perfect of a husband or wife you think you'll find, you'll find somebody you are going to argue and fight with them and how you fight makes a world of difference. We're almost done here. Number nine is someone who doesn't give up just because something is hard to do. All of us will go through those challenges and sometimes things are really hard to do. One thing that's hard to do is to get married. Go to these single events, go on using websites, go through your family, tell your friends, talk to people. It doesn't work out. Talk to somebody else. It doesn't work out. Talk to somebody else. It doesn't work out. Man, this is hard. Yeah, but I'm not going to give up. And that says a lot about you. That shows you have resilience. Finally, someone who has a discipline, being able to resist things, even if it gives them pleasure. And what I mean by that is a lot of times it's hard for us to, like for brothers, our challenges is lowering the gaze sometimes. To see. For the sisters, our challenge is not as difficult for lowering the gaze, but to be seen will be a different challenge. Allah swt has blessed them with beauty. And so it's harder for that challenge is for brothers. To all the respect brothers, we are not the beautiful creatures. Generally, the men are not like Yusuf's story. Story is Yusuf's so unique because there's one Yusuf. The most men, this is the thing that's interesting about sisters and brothers. I didn't have too much time to go over this, but maybe next time, inshallah. But it's interesting how the minds think so differently with the two genders. The majority of sisters do not find the majority of brothers attractive. I'm being honest with you guys. I'll tell you something, sisters, I may surprise you. The majority of brothers find the majority of sisters attractive. It's different. Sisters, if the sister is talking to her friend and their friends, none of their friends find you attractive, they'll make you a little bit less attractive. But if all her friends find you attractive, they find you suddenly a little more attractive. For brothers, it doesn't work like that whatsoever. If all his friends don't find you attractive, it will not make a difference if he finds you attractive or not. If all his friends say, she's very attractive, it will make you attractive if he's not attractive. Our brains think differently. And Allah swt, there's wisdom in Allah making us different. So we're not trying to force your husband to be like you or your wife to be like you is going to frustrate you. Accept the beautiful differences Allah has made between us. And if you do, it'll give you a lot less struggle with that.