 I started developing a love and lust kind of attraction towards one of my colleagues. He's married and I told him directly that I love him very much. He acknowledged it as well, but started ignoring me after that. Is it a bad thing to have physical attraction for a married guy? You know, it's absolutely normal to like someone. Attraction is attraction. You can't help who you find yourself attracted to. You cannot, after that, decide how they will react to you. The other person might acknowledge your feelings for them, but they can still choose not to do anything about it, much like this guy is done. He's chosen to be faithful to his wife, which I feel is a really mature and responsible reaction. And actually I'm hoping that people can take that as a lesson that you can feel attracted to someone, but you don't always have to do something about it. You know, office romances are the most common thing in the world. It happens all the time. The flip side, however, is that these romances also generally fizzle out pretty quickly. It's very seldom that an office romance will develop into anything serious. Unfortunately, however, there's always an awkwardness attached to it. Because, as with anything to do with desire or pleasure, the idea that you could be attracted to someone is an absolutely taboo subject. Everyone feels attracted to somebody or the other at some point in their life. And yet, we all have to behave like this is never going to happen and it's a bad thing if it ever happens. And of course, we're never taught how to deal with those emotions. I mean, think about it. Every time you hear that someone fancies you, think how awkward you become around them. Feeling attracted to someone that you work with, it's completely normal. Hoping that they will be able to see it as normal and be absolutely fine around you like they were before, it's highly unlikely. At least not till we start changing how we think about these things. What should you be doing about it? There's nothing you can actually do. The best thing I can suggest is just enjoy the feeling. Don't take it too seriously. Let it be part of your fantasies. Let it put a smile on your face because honestly, it'll pass really soon.