 What's going on you guys? Welcome to the Single Guy Channel. My name's Lloyd. Today we're gonna be talking about how to deal with women that are giving you really short answers. Basically how to talk to them, how to get them to open up. Because I know this can be quite frustrating. A lot of times when you walk up to a person, it could be anyone even, you know, not just women too. But let's say you walk up to a girl and you want to talk to her and she's looking at you, she's talking to you, but she's giving you some really quick answers and you're like, hey, how are you doing? And she's like, I'm good. Where are you from? I'm here. What do you like to do? Stuff? You're like, girl, I'm trying to talk to you. How do you get these girls to open up more and talk to you? Because a lot of times guys will think that if she's giving short answers, she just doesn't want to talk to you. And that's not always the case. It can be the case sometimes, but sometimes the girl's just shy or, you know, sometimes she's not ready for a conversation right now. So there's a lot of reasons why people are giving short answers in the beginning. So in this video, what I'm going to be covering is why people tend to give short answers at the beginning and how to overcome this, how to get this person to open up in a way that's not too commanding, in a way that's not too aggressive, in a way that you can actually have a conversation with this person that hopefully you're attracted to. Okay, cool. So before I get into this, if you guys are looking to get trained by me in person, I'm going to be in San Francisco January 3rd to the 5th. I'm going to be in Toronto two weeks after that. And then I'm going to be in Los Angeles and I think Miami following that. So if you're interested in any of those cities, I'm only going to take three guys per city. Please fill out the form down below and we'll get back to you. Okay, cool. So the first thing that we're going to talk about is why people give such short answers at the beginning because it's not just necessarily women. When you first start talking to somebody, when you first introduce yourself, whether it's at a bar, whether it's on the street, whether it's at a social event or something like that, or maybe even off Tinder. Okay, a lot of times you get these girls on Tinder too that are just giving you like these quick one word answers and you're like, how the hell am I going to message this girl, right? So the first reason why girls do this is because they're not ready for a conversation. Okay, if you just imagine them walking on a street and some guy taps him on the shoulder or something like that, like they're thinking about the things, work, what they have to do that day. And then somebody like wants to have a conversation and they don't know where this guy's coming from. They don't know what his intentions are. And a lot of times women can get a little nervous at this time. And so they tend to give one word answers to be a little defensive. And that's fine. That's okay. She doesn't trust you yet, but give her some time and then maybe she'll get more comfortable with you. Now, how do you know if the girl's giving you short answers because she's unprepared for the conversation or she's kind of shy, or she just doesn't want to talk to you? Well, she'll show you with her actions. Now, typically, if a girl doesn't want to talk to you, she's not going to be standing in front of you looking at you. She's going to have her body turned, she's going to be distracted, or she's going to try and talk to other people. So I look for those things. If she tries to engage one of her friends while we're made conversation, obviously, that girl doesn't want to talk to me. But if she's still looking at me and she's just giving me short answers, that girl's still interested and or she's at least open to still talking with me and I'm going to keep talking to her. So what I like to do in this circumstance is to roll through my five questions. And the five questions, if you guys don't know it, are who are you, where are you from, what do you do, who you hear with, and what are you up to? Okay. So the first three are basic small talk questions and the last two are basically going to be letting you know for boyfriend to stay nearby. If she has to meet up with a friend or something like that. If she's late for work or if she's just visiting, all of these details are very relevant if you're talking to a girl that you're interested in because whether or not those things, you know, she gives certain answers, it might not make sense to talk to her or it might make make sense to keep talking to her. Now, the first three questions are pretty important because they're basic small talk questions that we're all very, very used to. If you can give her some normal questions that she's used to dealing with, it'll get her to relax a little bit. She'll calm down. Okay. Now, the problem with a lot of these questions is they tend to be very short. So the first three small talk questions, you know, what's your name, where are you from, what do you do, they tend to be very short. You know, obviously she's going to give you a name for her, one word for her name, you know, where she's from, it's going to be pretty short too. So what I like to follow up these questions with, and this is the key point here, I follow up these questions with how questions. I think how questions are the best questions to ask if you're trying to get a person to open up, especially at the beginning. The reason why I say this is because if you let's say you get somebody who says, I'm an accountant, you know, they find out that they're an accountant. Now, when you find out that they're an accountant, you could follow up with some questions, you could ask them, oh, do you like being an accountant? Now, that's not a bad question, but it usually involves a one word answer, it usually involves yes or no, or kind of, or it's just work. Now, it will be a better question to follow up with that something that will get them to talk a little more. Oh, cool. Why did you decide to become an accountant? That could be a good question. I actually don't like why questions that much because it sounds a little judgmentally, you know, if you're asking like, why are you an accountant? It kind of sounds like you're going to judge them and then they're going to start to think, oh, why did I become an accountant? You know, why did I do these sorts of things? Okay, they're going to start to do some soul searching, and I don't want them to have to worry about that when I'm talking to them. When the girl's talking to me, I want her to be relaxed and feel more comfortable. So what I do is I go for a how question. A how question in this case would be, oh, cool. How did you get into doing that? How did you get into being an accountant? Now, the how question involves no judgment, but it invites her to tell a story about herself and invites her to say, hey, you know, I measured in business and college. I was really good with numbers and that's why I decided to be an accountant or maybe she just she just wanted to get a job that she knew was going to make money. Okay, so it invites her to tell a story without too much judgment. How questions work for pretty much every single one of the five questions, except for what's your name? Or I guess you could ask for what's your name? How did your parents come up with that or something like that? But for the how questions with where are you from? It could be, how did you end up here? For what do you do? Like what her job is? How did you get into doing that? When you meet her friends, it could be, how do you all know each other? How did you all meet? Those are some great how questions. And then for the last one, what are you up to tonight? What are you doing? You could say something like, oh, how's it going so far? Okay, so the how questions are always really great for getting somebody to open up. Now let's say the person with the how questions are still having a little bit of trouble communicating with you. This is where I invite you to start talking a lot yourself. Okay, at the beginning of the conversation, especially if you started the conversation, you're going to have to take the majority of the responsibility at the beginning. And then when the person gets comfortable with you, they're probably going to be more likely to open up. So yeah, talk more. I would answer the questions themselves. Okay, so if you ask her, hey, what do you do? And she's like, I'm a nurse. And then she and then you ask her, how did you get into doing that? And then she just responds with, well, I took some classes in college and you know, that's that's what I decided. You know, she's that's not a not a very open answer. But at least she's talking to you. So maybe you answer the question yourself and you say, oh, cool. Well, I'm actually a self development coach for guys. You know, I was used to be working at a company for a long time and I really didn't like it. So I wanted to make sure that I was doing something that I felt like was going to help people something that I was good at and something that that allows me to travel the world and do what I want. So by me opening up first, it's going to be more likely she's going to feel comfortable comfortable opening up herself. Okay, lead by your actions. Okay, so that's one thing to get it open up. The next thing and the final thing, let's say you've gone through the five questions you've done all of that stuff. She's still not talking to you. Okay, you've used the how questions. You talked a lot yourself. You've been very relaxed with her and she's still not saying a whole lot. Well, this is the time where I would actually tell her physically to talk more. Basically, if she's being kind of quiet, well, then I'll say something like, well, hey, I've been talking this whole time. Why don't you tell me a little more about yourself? Okay, just literally as easy as asking that question, man. Sometimes all you got to do is ask. Now, after you say, hey, tell me more about yourself, sometimes she'll be like, oh, well, what do you want to know? And that's where you can turn to any of the different subjects that you've been talking about. Well, I've told you a lot about my job. Tell me a little bit more about your job. Well, I've told you a little bit more about what I like to do. Tell me a little bit more about what you like to do. Okay, super simple questions, you guys. All right, so that's how to get a girl to open up with you guys more. If you guys are wondering how to get coached by me in person, like I said, fill out the form down below, but also I have my one-on-one coaching program. Okay, if you guys want coached by me, personal one-on-one customized feedback, basically fill out there's another form down below for that. Fill out that form and if you feel like you're a good fit, we'll get back to you. Thanks for tuning in, you guys. If you made it to the end, consider subscribing and come out with videos like this every single week. Thanks a lot and good luck out there.