 Okay. So I want to discuss with you why the traditional way of chasing women is not a good thing to be doing, just so for you why guys out there. So doing everything the traditional way sets you up as the provider. When I say provider, women will say, oh, I want someone to provide for me and so on, and that's not what I'm talking about in that traditional context, because that's true. I do believe that you should provide for your family and so on. But the way that most guys use provider is in that we give women things in order to get them to like us. We do things for them just in order for them to like us because we think that's the way we have to do it. And I'll tell you something that I forget out along the way is there's absolutely nothing sexy about the provider, the provider I'm talking about. Absolutely nothing sexy about it. We've all seen this scenario of the rich guy who has a ton of money, he's got a nice car, he meets some girl, he asks her out, he takes her to an expensive restaurant, and then at the end of the night, he spends all his money on it, at the end of the night gets a kiss on the cheek and he drops her off. Okay. Maybe some of you have done that. I've done it for sure. And then there's the guy, the other guy. He doesn't spend any money on the girl. He's not a great dresser. He doesn't seem to have many skills, but she's addicted to him and can't get enough of him. And this guy doesn't do anything that the other guy does. He's a complete opposite so he's not the provider. He's more of the friend with benefits type guy. He's more carefree. He's not trying to to push her into doing anything. And she's addicted to this guy, always trying to find out where he's at. You know, what is he doing? She's texting him, trying to meet him. Where is he? Is he at this certain club or this bar? You know, going over and hunting him down. And sometimes this girl goes from the date with the rich guy and texts the friend with benefits guy on the way home, goes over to his house. So which guy do you want to be? You know, it sounds simple to me. You want to be the guy who attracts women like that, who doesn't have to jump through all those hoops. Okay? I mean, and you guys know what I'm talking about. I mean, the traditional way that we're taught, you know, especially when we're interacting with women, is, you know, we're out there and we're, we're, we're talking to them. We're, you know, we're kind of hovering over them and pressuring them. And you know, I go, I got to talk this girl into, you know, I got to get her number and I got to talk her into going out with me. And everything is about pressure. And everything is, is not, it's never letting up. Okay. And for those of you who say, well, you know, will women really do that? Well, you probably wouldn't know because you spend most of your time trying to talk women into something they already want to do, but you're trying to talk them into it. So in other words, women don't meet this cool guy very often. They meet the guy who's over pursuing. He's relentless. You know, I'm talking about in the creepy way, right? You know what I'm saying, right? We've all been there and done that. It's the guy who's desperate and needy and he wants something. He's trying to make something happen. And that girl's not going to be excited about being assertive. And what I find is that most women I talk to would love to be assertive. If number one, they knew that we could handle it, right, when they are assertive. And I don't mean aggressive. I mean assertive in a very healthy, fun way. And they don't meet that guy. They rarely meet that guy. They always meet the guy who's doing the same thing as every other guy is doing. And when you're doing the same thing that every other guy is doing, that's competition. You know, guys tell me all the time, oh, how do I eliminate my competition? You know, I'm in a bar. What about all these other guys and all that kind of stuff? And I said, well, if you're doing everything that they're doing, then yeah, they're your competition. But if you're this other next level guy that I'm talking about, they're not your competition anymore. And so that's something to think about. Okay. So nothing sexy about the provider. Now, if you want to be the next level kind of provider, then the next level provider is a guy. And I know him. He's a legend. He's been around way back in the day when we all got the. And I'm telling you, I see these guys come up to me and they show me all these super long text message threads or instant message. I mean, they must be like, you know, they go on for sometimes weeks. And I say, hey, so, so you guys got together? No, but we're, I think I'm going to talk about it soon. We're probably going to maybe get together. I'm like, really? This is, this is your problem. This is, this is over chasing women. This is the old way. And this is exactly why you're not getting together with her. I'm looking at all the stuff you're telling her. And it's the same thing every other guy is saying, right? It's how it's going to, you're trying to teaser. And you've gotten into it and you're doing it. Is it possible that women will just switch over immediately? Yeah, it is. Because even though they're programmed just, you know, the opposite of the way we are, the passive way, so women are, of course, unfortunately programmed to be passive. So we become too pushy, they're too passive. So they kind of wait around, right? They've been taught to wait around and the right guy will approach you or he won't. Right? Now some girls are assertive and I applaud them if they are, but very few. And so maybe in conversation with, you're already sort of like chasing the old way. You have, if you want women to chase you, you have to stop chasing them, period. That's it.