 Why narcissists make everything so damn hard? Everything is a difficult struggle with a narcissist It requires a great deal of effort and determination It feels like being with them is a very difficult thing to do. It feels like a lot of work a Lot of mental and physical effort It feels like an unpleasant competition for power There's always something wrong because narcissists are dysfunctional people They're unable to deal adequately with normal social relations They're unable to connect and work with other people They're unable to enjoy the companionship of other people So dysfunctional people function more efficiently in a dysfunctional environment In an environment that is not working normally An environment that is unhappy and unsuccessful Because an environment that has structure and arrangements Doesn't allow them to conceal their identity. It's easily identified So the narcissist has to make things hard So that they can overcome and take control of you So that they can feel comfortable if things are going well They're unable to rest because of anxiety and boredom They're not suited to that type of environment And they become anxious So they will deliberately create drama and chaos Because it keeps you focused on trying to fix a problem But it's a problem that you will never fix Because it's not your problem to fix But if you do try to fix it They will always find something else You will always be fixing something Because it keeps you distracted It leaves you unable to concentrate Because you're preoccupied by something worrying and unpleasant Because their behaviour is unacceptable But they always have an excuse for what they do Even though they're able to control their behaviour They just choose not to Because they succeed in harmful and unpleasant interactions It gives them a thrill They make some feel alive They make some feel normal when you're arguing When you're against each other It makes them feel comfortable Because it's what they used to It's what they experienced in their childhood If the narcissist keeps things complicated with you It keeps things disorganised It creates confusion and disorder Because you're so focused on trying to fix things That you don't see what they're doing behind the scenes They're watching you Ensure that you're dealing with these tasks that they're given to you To keep you distracted Keep the focus off of them Because they know they're wicked and immoral They know they're harmful and unpleasant But if you accept the truth of these difficulties and problems that they're creating It gives them more time It takes your attention and focus off of them It causes you to manage your expectations and lower yourself to their level Because once you start playing at their level They've got you Because now they can say that you're no better than them And you may find yourself involved in things That are foolish and inappropriate And then it will seem like maybe they do have a valid opinion Which is when they will flip it on you And say that you're the crazy one You're the one who is out of control You're the one who has the issues And they were fine before they got involved with you They complicate things so that you're never going to be relevant or appropriate To what is happening or being discussed You're never going to be as good as you can be You're never going to see that they are the issue Narcissists make everything so damn hard They do it because you're more inclined to hold on to something that is a difficult task Something that requires a lot of your effort Because it feels like you really had to work for it To get it to where it is Maybe things were really bad in the beginning But as you began to invest more of your time and energy They started to get a little bit better But they could have controlled their behavior from the very beginning They knew exactly what they were doing They could have been acting the way you wanted them to all along But they chose not to They just gave you the illusion that you were making progress They made you think that it was the result of your efforts But they were controlling you They were doing it on purpose They were deliberately causing you harm and trouble They were deliberately being disorderly and disruptive They were deliberately being unreceptive to discipline and control They did it on purpose To make you work Because people tend to value and hold on to things that they had worked for But when they've got you to put in the work You're not inclined to give up on them Which is exactly what they want They want someone who is going to be patient with them They want someone to continue with them despite difficulties So they've already prepared and trained you for this purpose By them being complicated Because you don't want to give up on all the work that you've done To get them to where they are now You don't want all of your work to go to no purpose or result But it is all for nothing Because it's just an act They're pretending to make progress They're pretending to get better They're pretending to understand certain things that you say But the same things repeat themselves over and over again Because they keep you locked in By keeping you in a dysfunctional state When they make everything hard It gives them the advantage over you They can control you And you may think you're helping them You may think you have a position over them But they're just playing a game They're making things complicated on purpose Because they've already studied you They know what type of person you are They know you don't like to give up on things that you've worked for They know you don't like to fail So if you're putting in all of this work They will act like they're more controllable They will give you the illusion that you can deal with them without difficulty But that's not the reality of it Because it isn't real They could have been that way from the very beginning But they had to make you work for it It's a trap They tricked and deceived you into doing something contrary to your interests and intentions It's all a game Their actions were done with full awareness of the likely consequences It wasn't a coincidence It wasn't an unexpected random event It's worked for them before They use the same tactics over and over again And they see that it works Which is why they keep you in a state of confusion and disorder Where you're constantly trying to make things right Because it keeps you with them for a lot longer When there's always a problem When they're not doing what you want them to do When you're constantly trying to fix things So that is why Narcissus will make everything difficult and complicated Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video 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