 Hi y'all she was seven. Okay, so today I'm gonna talk about I'm getting my new york egg set down because Y'all needs to hear this. I know they don't say you all but you guys needs to hear this I'm not gonna do it in the accent. I was just joking. Okay, so basically There are too many needy women. Okay. This is where a lot of y'all mess up ladies. Okay, so ladies A lot of y'all mess up because y'all are too needy y'all feel like If someone likes you or someone shows interest in you you have to pursue it or you have to you know See what it's about or you have to explore the option and you really don't A lot of women get into trouble because They try to make excuses for the person. They try to hope that they change And what they're really thinking about is really themselves. They're really you're being selfish ladies when you think about You know Being needy, you know, oh, I just want a man. I want any type of man right now I don't want to be lonely. I don't want to feel alone I feel like I don't have a man and I think having a man won't make me feel better about myself And then so you just take anything and you take anything and then you and then you know The situation is not improving and you're kind of stuck with this this guy now that Really was not what you wanted in the first place, you know, you thought you could approve him You thought he would improve you thought he would get better with time and actually he's gotten worse So now you're stuck with this guy Because you were needy and you didn't want to wait and you didn't want to put in the effort and you didn't want to Uh be alone until the right guy came You just wanted something here and now and you thought you could change him into the right guy and you could it Let me tell y'all something if it's not the right guy in the beginning, it will never be You cannot change someone they have to change themselves If they're not on a path to self-improvement without your help Or without your guidance Then you're gonna have a tough time, okay Um, you should all you know that person should already be on their path headed to what their goals are in life You know, they should be an added bonus not a job Not a project for you to improve upon Mm-hmm So A lot of women get in trouble because of their own neediness and I see this a lot. I see it a lot A lot of women will date a guy. They know they're not the best guy in the world They'll end up getting pregnant by him and then The guy's like ghost he will have nothing to do with them and then they want to blame the guy But ladies it was your own neediness They got you into a relationship With someone you knew Was not going to be a good father. You knew he was not going to ask you to marry him You knew all of this But you were so Needy That you didn't care at the time. You didn't care about tomorrow You didn't care about next month. You cared about oh, I just want to be with someone And still you end up alone and probably in a worse off situation Now some some of y'all is too late and I know y'all are gonna say well, how do I fix that? What do I do now? You stop making that same mistake over and over because many women they will make the same exact mistake over and over and over What you need to do after this has happened to you Ladies after you've been left with a child by the wrong guy After you I mean it's it's obviously it's up to you to file child support or whatever you're gonna do in that situation But I'm not here to tell you to do that Um, but after that situation happens what you need to do is vow To never let it happen again. No matter what don't get caught up in being needy Don't feel like you you're a single mom and you need a man. You don't need You need yeah, you do need a man, but not the type that you're trying to attract. Okay Once you get yourself together Get your goals in order get your job career school or whatever up and you're making it And you're fine your daughter your son is taken care of All your priorities are in the correct order. You are stable Then after you've gotten all that taken care of Then If you have some spare time because a lot of single mothers don't then think about Maybe dating a man with a career. Okay, don't go don't go for someone who's worse off than you They're just going to drag you down. Okay, don't go for someone on the same level as you because if one of y'all Loses your footing then you're going to drag the other one down. You got to go and get someone Who has a little bit more than you who can help you? Okay, you can't get someone still down there that you're going to have to lift up And you can't get someone on your same level because if one of you lose your jobs, then who's gonna, you know, who's gonna help So ladies It is important to know your worth after you have made a mistake You have to double up on your standards Basically, you got to double up on your standards because now you have a child Okay, you have to double up on your standards and you don't you don't back down just because you think That you're worth A little less because you have a child. No, you're actually worth more Do you know why you're worth more after you have a child because first of all You're not going to be Focused on having babies You're not going to be focused on, you know, your biological clock ticking. There's going to be less pressure in that relationship um also You're going to be able to Focus more on Yourself instead of being all wrapped up in this guy, which is not healthy anyway You're gonna have a different Set of priorities and it's not going to be all on him because if you give a man too much attention You give a man too much attention. They get bored easy um and also ladies like Don't expect don't expect to Get every man's attention once they find out you have a child because some men that's That's on their standards as well. Some men will not date women with children or more than one child. They won't Um, a lot of men feel like, you know, they don't want to raise someone else's child They don't want to deal with the baby's father and blah blah blah blah So you have to keep that in mind too And a lot of women think having a baby will bring them closer to the person They were with and let me tell you it does not unless you're married unless you're already married and financially stable Having a child it's not going to bring you closer to someone who You barely get along with it's not it's just going to make y'all both more frustrated with each other And it's just not going to help um So what I think is women you need to like really Put your priorities in order, you know, don't get lost in the moment Don't get drunk and lose your standards. Okay The standards are there to keep you in a position to climb If you're going to throw them all away getting drunk or settling or being needy Then there is no reason for you to even have standards. Okay um ask any Woman who is married to an athlete a rapper a wealthy man a rich man um A man of power and status Ask them or go look at their lives and see don't they have their standards don't they have their priorities in order You know, they weren't needy when they were young. They weren't super needy. They didn't need a man They were waiting on that man that's going to take care of them for the rest of their life Okay, because they had it up here what they wanted in the beginning they had a plan and If you don't have a plan you will take anything And a lot of men will get mad at me. We're telling y'all to have a plan Because they want to take what you have and leave you hanging. That's why they're mad They don't want they don't want you to End up better off than they are You know, they don't want you to be like No, I'm sorry. I don't have time for you You don't you don't meet my standards because then that leaves them out. Okay, so don't let men trick you with that Oh, you need to be about love and uh, not so materialistic and da da da da da Don't even let them fool you because all they want from you is one thing. Okay And that thing is the most sought after commodity on the planet. Okay Don't let them talk you out of that if they can't afford to support you or your lifestyle Okay, if you're not in a committed relationship with someone, I don't even suggest having sex with them You know why and let's unless Unless you don't plan to be with them and you just want some sex and you just want to hit it and quit it Okay, don't get emotionally attached to losers. Okay men can men and women A lot of women will get emotionally attached to someone after they've had sex You got to put it in your mind. Look, this man is not good for me You know one one night thrill two night thrill a fling. Okay, but he's not meant for me Okay, he's just sex and I'm gonna protect myself. I'm gonna do this and do that. I cannot have this man's baby He came take care of himself So if you're gonna have sex with losers until you find the right one, which was a lot of women do Don't get caught up with the loser Don't commit to that loser Don't go out in public with that loser Because if the right man sees you and you're with a guy like that He's gonna bypass always go out by yourself if you're not seriously dating somebody I'll go out with your girlfriend or whatever, but don't get caught up with the losers. Okay A lot this is what men do to women. They will have sex with the women. Who's not wife material They will have sex with the women who with the woman Who's just convenient And they won't marry her even though this lady has grown emotionally attached to them thinking oh one day No You're just a stupid person that had low standards and gave them what they wanted and they didn't have to work for it They're actually somewhere else working for someone else's attention who has higher standards than you Okay, and They will marry somebody like that So even look ladies y'all don't have to go without sex To have high standards with a certain person you have high standards with this man And you can sleep with this man. Don't let them find out About each other. Okay Men do it all the time. Okay. There should not be double standards in this game. And yes, it is a game y'all So I think amber rose had her slip walk the other day And I think I think it was a good idea. Okay. Women should not be held to hire or different Standards than men. Okay We have the same free will and I know y'all are going to say well, it's different from a man and a woman and No, it's not it's not different. Okay It's not any different um it's not different and Then there's the spiritual aspect of it people say well, they leave behind some DNA and that and then Well, we got DNA from everything we got DNA from the animals we eat if you're not vegetarian You got DNA from the The you got DNA from the What do you call it the manure and the fertilizer from the vegetables that you eat you got DNA from everything Okay, so that's dumb. That's really dumb You got DNA from the cow or pig or chicken you ate Okay, so don't let them fool you with that. Um Besides women have all the DNA blueprints in their mitochondria So it's a matter Okay You have DNA to create any type of life Any type of human life you have all that in your mitochondria Okay, and they just try to use that to trick you don't let them trick you women are free creatures We are the givers and the gateways You know no one should be able to govern our private areas No Go do what you want, but don't let always let your right hand know what your left hand is doing. Okay That's my advice for today and believe me When you settle down and get married with a certain person You're going to wish you had those experience to things back on and remember and have done back in the day Because you're going to be stuck with the same person If you stay married for the rest of your life, so make sure you have your fun Just like the guys do ladies don't be ashamed of it. I I say don't be ashamed of it because you know what Your men's enjoy your body too. Okay. Don't let people fool you and try to control you Enjoy your life. Enjoy protect yourself be smart And have fun, you know don't be needy Now don't become emotionally attached to losers use them for what they use you for And move it along Okay, hold out for the guy that has his life together For a committed relationship. Okay. Thanks for watching. Bye. Bye