 Why is change in life so difficult when I was younger I was excited by change I looked forward to it as happy when it happened as I'm growing older I try to avoid it as much as possible and not able to cope when it happens all depends who is initiating the change Maybe but is there something like an appropriate response to change? one reason why change is becoming difficult as you get older is You have found cocoons of comfort There are many comfort zones you created any disturbance of that you're disturbed now When you were young you were not looking for comfort. You were looking for life Now you're not looking for life. You're looking for comfort safety See when you were 16 18 you had wild dreams as to what you want to do with your life By the time you became 25 You cut down all the frills and thought this is all not practical. I am becoming practical now All that you happen is you are becoming a coward But you said I'm becoming practical and cut down many things and said if I get a job if I earn my living This this this is okay By the time you're 35 you're thinking if I don't get into any trouble. That's enough You're not looking forward into anything great happening if I don't get into trouble. That's enough But that's when you start getting into trouble so You are not looking at life with zest. You're looking at life as safety The more security oriented you are the more disturbed you will be with every chain that happens in your life The essence of physical existence is change. Isn't it? Isn't it so? Everything is changing. Is there anything that's not changing? Everything in the existence is changing. Isn't it the physical existence is constantly changing the very essence of physical reality is change Nothing is constant Even the so-called static states or dynamic in nature everything is changing So if you resist change you're resisting life if you want an unchanging life There's one beautiful place Where it's nothing changes. That's your grave either You must go to your grave or you must get enlightened if you don't want change Then somewhere inside everything is same But otherwise as long as you're a part of the physical process of the existence Everything is changed. There is nothing that is not changing See this moment you're inhaling next moment you're exhaling it's change, isn't it? If you don't want change you stop it So when you resist change, you must understand you're resisting the very process of life Not just your life. You're resisting the very fundamental process of life Invariably you will invite all kinds of suffering If you're living and you want to be dead You will ask for trouble. Isn't it? You must be living when you're living you must live totally if you want to die you must do that efficiently This is inefficient ways of killing yourself really Unhappiness and depression are inefficient ways of killing yourself. Isn't it so at least be efficient. I Can give you ten different ways to die anyway who says Agar is there? Is it still water in it? Okay So you need to understand this once you resist change you're resisting the whole process of life and you will create unnecessary suffering So once you resist change depression is a natural process Frustration when change happens frustration depression frustration and depression are On a certain day the devil Decided to retire Because he's retiring He decided to put all the tools of his trade for a garage sale So he opened up discount sale all the devil's tools There's a huge rush There are all kinds of things anger hatred jealousy this one that one everything on the table all of you people went and bought it up in no time Everything was sold out in the first hour all his tools The whole humanity has bought it isn't it But he had still one more bag and What's your name leaner leaner went and asked the devil. What's in that bag? Isn't that for sale? He said no no these are the price tools Just as so viniers I want to keep them because they have worked best to do my job Lena said no I wanted please Won't you sell that? The devil said no no no these two tools that I have in this bag They work so wonderfully well In my whole career That I would like to keep them as my souvenirs Once Lena said many other people joined behind her and please put it on sale put it on sale put it on sale Then they Devil pulled out and said okay, if you're giving a good price, let me put it on sale Then it pulled out frustration and depression and put it on table These two are the best of the devil's tools if you want to destroy your life Frustration you start with frustration develop into depression You're there There's nothing worse than that You'll work against yourself and the moment you resist change Frustration is natural Once frustration comes it will naturally evolve into depression so You put it on sale