 and you thought the narcissist was over you, you thought they no longer had strong emotions about you, you thought they were no longer enthusiastic about you maybe they just left you at the end of the relationship they made you believe that they were over you and then they just disappeared you didn't hear from them for a while during that time they were growing another source of supply they were love-bombing them they were getting attention and admiration maybe money or place to stay they were getting something out of it so they didn't need you at that time they may have forgotten about you but the cycle always repeats itself it's only a matter of time until the narcissist devalues the new source just as they did with you they begin to see the new source as being faulty or imperfect they're no longer satisfied with the new source they get bored they become disinterested and this is when they will often hoover old sources of supply they will re-idealize you they will see you as this ideal character again this person who is everything that they need and they will do whatever it takes to get your attention again just when you thought they were over you just when you had started to heal and move on from this that is when they will often come back that is when they will often hoover you it's not because they're emotionally attached to you it's not because they decided to have a relationship with you it's all about supply they want your attention and admiration they want your money or place to stay but they have nothing to bring to the table they have nothing to share with you other than manipulation lies and future faking when the narcissist was love-bombing you they invested all of their time and energy into you which caused them to get bored of you very quickly it caused them to become desensitized to you they got used to you very quickly and they then began to devalue you they saw it as though you couldn't satisfy them because in the narcissist mind you exist to serve them you exist to provide them with constant entertainment and if you can't do that then something must be wrong with you but whether you think they're deserving of this treatment or not they're still going to see you as a fool they're still going to see you as someone who has made a very unwise decision but the longer you spend around them the faster they get bored of you the faster they no longer desire to be around you or if they do want to be around you it's only because there's something in it for them and even then they're not going to respect you they're not going to appreciate anything you do for them all they care about is supply they lack empathy they have no consideration for you they don't really value anything you do for them because they never had to earn it they never had to work for it they minimally did their way into that position by lying and using future faking by being arrogant and acting entitled making you believe that they were deserving of it because that's how they get what they want they have to minimally their way into these positions they have to trick people they have to give you a false impression and then it's only a matter of time until you realize what you're really dealing with because they can't sustain this character for long they have these insatiable desires they demand all of your time and attention until you have nothing left to give and when you can no longer sustain their false character that is when you will see who they really are once you've seen who the narcissist really is and what they're really capable of you're never going to see them in the same way again and deep down they know this they might still remain around you but that's only if they're getting someone out of it once they got what they need they're just going to throw you under the bus they're just going to touch you aside like you never meant anything to them and then they're going to find someone else they're going to find someone who doesn't know what they're really about they're going to find someone else where they can use but the same thing is going to happen again because most people cannot sustain a relationship with someone who is so conflicting someone who always has to force their opinions on to you someone who always has to have things their way most people do not want to deal with that they want to be around someone who's more relaxed and agreeable someone who is able to work with them rather than always be in an opposition to them so it's inevitable for the narcissist to sustain a relationship for a long period of time it's destined to fail and when it ends the narcissist will have to return to old sources of supply you may think that they were over you you may think that they had moved on but they will come back despite everything that happened as though you are somehow still compatible as though you are meant to be together and they will try to manipulate you into seeing things this way but it's not because they love okay about you it's not because they finally realize what they did wrong they will avoid discussing anything that has to do with their faults and mistakes because all they really care about is getting what they want and the only reason why a narcissist would ever be around you is because you have what they want they're not coming back for a reciprocal motive they just see you as an object they just see you as something that exists to meet their needs but they realize that you have the ability to think for yourself they realize that you have the ability to make your own decisions they realize you have free will so they understand that they have to manipulate you they understand that they have to trick you into giving them what they want and that is why they return with a brainwashing they return with a love-bombing phase which is designed to fool you it's designed to go around your logic and reasoning by making you emotional by making you develop real feelings for something that is non-existent something that isn't even real because they can't feel anything for you but your feelings give them supply and it's almost like they experience those feelings vicariously through you but it isn't real for them it will never be real which is why they can change so quickly which is why they can go from being this kind friendly character to being mean and disagreeable in an instant because they lack emotional depth there's no fixed personality inside of them they will be whatever they think will get them what they want it's like a child who wants their parents to buy them a new toy they might try being nice at first but if that doesn't work they will get very angry they will throw a temper tantrum because they think that will make you cave in and give them what they want but the narcissist is neither the nice or the angry character they are whatever they think will get them what they want which is why when they return to you they will try being nice again until you realize again that you're being fooled until you realize that they're bringing nothing to the table and that is when they will go back to dominating and controlling you they will even threaten to leave you again they will do whatever they think will get them what they want because that's all that really matters to them and as long as you have something to give to them they're never over you they will keep coming back it's only when you close that door that they realize they can't fool you anymore they just see it as though you're smart you're on to them but as long as they think they can get back in they will keep trying they will keep popping up in your life again as long as you still believe in them as long as you think the nice character is real or as long as you let them dominate and control you you have the power in this situation you have the ability to decide when this is over but as long as you have what the narcissist wants they just can't resist they can't help themselves they will keep coming back it's up to you to shut that door and move on without them thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate my PayPal link is in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coaching at naksify.co.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon