 You're never gonna see that arsicers the same way after this Hello my YouTube family Welcome to another one. You're never gonna see them the same way after this one This concept It's gonna help to Shape the way that you see narcissists from this point on Because you're never Never Gonna see them the same way after this. I know it arsicers sometimes It can seem as though they're very cold-hearted As though they don't care about anything When in actuality that couldn't be further from the truth Because the truth is that actually They care more than anyone else You could even say that they care more than you or even I and if you look at it Every action every behavior is Designed to make you care Yes, everything that they do From when they're manipulating you they love bombing you They're doing everything in their power to try to get your attention to try to get you to notice them They want to be here. They want to be seen by you They want you to care And even from that point on when they begin to devalue you whether insulting you and they're putting you down They're trying to make you feel small insignificant worthless Nothing nobody or they're giving you the silent treatment They're discarding you the ghosting you the triangle you with someone else They're stalking you that harassing you or when they really go to extremes they start a spare campaign against you They talk about you behind your back. They spread this gossip these rumors. They say all these horrible things about you They try to turn everyone against you. They try to isolate you They try to get you fired from your job. They target you financially Yeah, they do all of these things But why? I can tell you that the reason why is because they want you to care I'm not saying that they care about us I'm not saying that at all Thank you for the donation faith I'm not saying that they care about us at all All of their actions all of the behaviors All of this attention seeking stuff It's all to get your attention It's all to make you care about them Because they're self-absorbed that they lack empathy. They only care about themselves They don't care about anyone else or anything. It's just all about them It's all to fear that their agenda interest in needs But what does that tell you when someone is such an attention haul? When someone is doing everything in their power to get you to notice them What does that reveal? I can tell you exactly what that reveals. It reveals that No one actually cares about them because if someone cared about them You'd think they'd be spending more time with that person Instead of trying to get reactions out of you And even when it looks like they've discarded you they found someone else They start longing till they come back with a hoover Well, even if they do go off somewhere They've still got to sink their teeth into you somehow They've got a place of financial hooks in you They've got to create some sort of attachments And they hold grudges They have so much resentment They just can't let things go because the piathik is No one actually gives a shit If anything people are looking at them and their toxic behaviors And wondering Why don't they mature? Why don't they sort things out for themselves? Because I know that's what I've had to do Pretty much my entire life And I'm sure it's been that way for you as well But these narcissists are so heavily dependent on us And of course we're not talking about something where there's actually a problem And someone's actually desiring a solution A resolution That's a completely different story altogether It's not like that with them They just want these circular arguments They create problems They don't want a solution because they enjoy the chaos and drama And yet they're doing everything in their power to try to make you care Because all they care about is why they want you to care It's not something that's meant to worry or concern us Someone else just emotional regulation It's like just get over it and try to resolve these emotions yourselves But no they can't do that And yet that's exactly what we do How many times have you been provoked? How many times have you been pushed over the edge? How many times have they loved, bombed you? They've tempted and enticed you? How many times were they not there for you? As you weren't trying to get them to care about you If anything, what did that do? It just made you look at the bigger picture It made you look at all of the injustice in this world Instead of you just making it about yourself Because yes, you are a chosen one You are an empath and that is what we do But they don't do that If something goes wrong It's this woe is me mentality This COVID narcissism Everything is against me Now I need all of your attention I need everyone to focus on me Instead of it being about the collective And making things better as a whole And this is really the problem in society When things go wrong as they inevitably do You're not meant to make it all about yourself What about other people? What about improving things for everyone else? They never think that way Because they're so self-absorbed It's just all about them It's about what can I get in this moment To make myself feel better Because all they care about is how they feel about themselves And how they see themselves The false image And that's really all that they want you to care about They want you to care about their false image About how attractive, desirable, or important they are How powerful Never mind the fact that that isn't even real It doesn't even exist And that is why they're so paranoid And hyper-vigilant of anything you might do That may threaten this image Because that's really all that they have They've got nothing outside of that It's all about how they look to other people And they've always got to cause so much drama Everything is such a show It's like they've got to have everyone's eyes on them To validate this false display Of whatever character that they want to be in that moment It's like they can never just be real How we're just talking about this right now We're talking about real stuff Look back at your relationship with them You might have been with them for a few months A few years, maybe a few decades Can you remember even one time Where you actually sat down and had the normal conversation Where you talked about real life Or was there always this elephant in the room And at the same time Can you remember a time when they were ever alone Did they even spend one day by themselves They can't because they always need supply Their identity is developed by external sources And influences It's not generated from within And that's how it can so easily crumble That's why they're so hypersensitive To everything we say or do And then they want to micromanage it They want to control it Because they just see everything as a threat It really is like sunlight to a vampire If they knew what reality actually was I don't think they would want to live another day at all They wouldn't be able to cope with it If they knew how things actually are Yet they sugarcoat it They create this false reality where everything's okay They pretend like nothing's going wrong There's nothing wrong with them Meanwhile there are so many things While you as the target, the victim After all of the grooming that you've been through with them All of the processes that they put you through By the end of it you become like this perfect little victim You're like their little puppet It's like you can't do anything wrong So then they have to orchestrate situations Typically with like a double bind Where you're damned if you do Damned if you don't There's nothing you can do right in that situation So that they do get the chance to paint you As the bad guy Because once they've been manipulated And grooming you for all of that time You get to a point where You're so sensitive to the environment You already know exactly what you need to do In any given moment So then there's never a time where you even slip up You're always ready, you're always alert So then they have to orchestrate these situations To reduce their desired effect But even then everything they do is just to make you care That's what they want you to do That's what they want from you They just want you to care But you know what they'd rather you'd care about They'd rather you care about this What it's meant to be A picture-perfect force image Of how this important special Attractive desirable character And even then that's typically based on trauma It's something they've seen earlier in their life They'd either feel envious or jealous So then they thought Oh I think I'll take on this character Or maybe other people will be envious Or jealous of me Maybe they'll care about me And I'll make an impact I'll be something significant to them But it never really works that way at all How they envision it in their minds They're actually not too good at manipulating people It's very easy to see through it And what they're trying to get you to do And how they're trying to get you to see it So then they typically have to resort to the brainwashing And just like keeping you down Or rather beating you down To make you submits to their perceptions And their distorted ways of seeing things But in a way I think they would rather that If they could just continue manipulating you So that you validate the force character Because that really is their diamond supply But inevitably at some points They do have to devalue you and put you down And that supply typically isn't as potent But either way it's like they still just want to make you care They want to make you care about what they do What they might do What they're about to do What they've already done They want you to care about Something they've said in the past What they're saying now Or something they may say in the future To make you anticipate it or predict it They want your mind to be always running To where the cogs are constantly turning And you're constantly thinking Constantly worrying, anticipating About what they may say or do next Because that is how they get their supply It's from making you care So in any moment they always want you to care about Whatever they're going to say or do next And yeah, you'll never see them the same way after this Because everything they do is designed to pull you into this Alternate world where everything is about them Rather than you having the focus on yourself And what you're trying to pursue Sorry? Again, losing time 5 p.m. Right Yes, until 5 p.m. it's closed Okay And I'll plug in a lot of insiders Yeah, everything they do is just designed to get you to think about them And to care Because their entire lives know whatever cared about them And they experienced this as a trauma As a very young age With their parents No one ever paid attention to them Especially with their mother, their mother never helped them Never gave them proper eye contact There was no affection in their family environment They just felt completely neglected So then from that point on Everything they do is designed to get attention It's designed to get people to notice Whereas for us it may have been the opposite We may have received too much attention I know I did, my parents, they were suffocating, overbearing I just couldn't deal with it It was too much affection I can't really say love But it was just It was too overbearing, too suffocating So for ourselves we may try to run away from it Like we don't want to be involved in it Because that's how it can be sometimes as well They can be very needy, very clingy Or they just don't want to let you go They don't want to leave things alone But for them it was typically neglect Not always though I mean, often narcissists can be the golden child as well Not always but sometimes And because they're so used to all of that attention Even though it's typically for their achievements They tend to demand and expect That same level of attention all of the time Even though they haven't done anything That warns them out of attention They haven't done anything to burn it It's just what they expect in every given situation And this is how you may have noticed when they targeted you I said they didn't even know you They didn't even know who you are as a person They didn't know anything about you And yet the way that they can approach you And make contact with you You'd think it's like They've known you their entire lives Like you were already friends from the very beginning As crazy as it sounds as how it actually is And this is because again It's based on some trauma in the past Where they're then able to engage with you As if they've known you forever Because normally when you first engage with someone You notice, you know, there's like a boundary there You don't want to cross over it You're going to try to be friendly and agreeable You're not going to ask too many personal questions You're not going to get too involved at the very first meeting Other times they may be shy or awkward And that's perfectly normal sometimes Because you don't really know the person So you're going to be careful not to offend or upset them Because you don't know what they like or what they're about It might be different to you Not everyone is the same Of course a separate person Their own feelings, their own needs But in our society they just kind of reject This is all about them from the very beginning They reject their feelings once it meets onto you And then it's all just kind of like Pulling you in to their world And that's how it was with me as a child My parents were so suffocating Because it was all just their agenda To know what they wanted me to be for them Never about what I wanted to do Or be as a separate person With my own feelings and needs They view us as a narcissistic extinction As an object that exists to serve them And sadly this is what a lot of us become As we get older It's like we're always just trying to be of service to people To try and identify to see what it is that they want And if we're our narcissists They usually make it very clear Although COVIDs can be more subtle Either way they're still like a message That they're sending back Back to the nation fate Yeah there's always some like Messages that they're sending to you And it's always about what they want What they want you to care about Because they use you to support this illusion This false character But yeah people who say that narcissists don't care That couldn't be further from the truth They care more than anyone else The only difference is They care only about themselves And they want everyone to care about them It's not something where they care about you That's why when there's a problem There's never a solution They're never trying to find solutions Only more problems And they want to pile all these duties And responsibilities onto you Instead of you just being this innocent carefree spirit Who could just wander around the world As you please Now they want to keep you trapped They want to contain you And find you They want to keep you down That's why they move to the devaluation phase so quickly And they realize that you're not going to be their little puppet Yeah they want to stay too long on here I was just in the park and I had to come out And I'm by this busy road Which is very noisy But that's definitely what happens If you've seen my past videos Even when I do find somewhere quiet It's always something where I can't 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