 Cut them off! Hi everyone, this is Dr. Wallace. Today I'm going to ask you how do you deal with toxic people? I think like toxic people, like you kind of just have to like try and like drift away from them and like just like get them out of your life. I ignore them. Usually I'll just space myself from them and uh kind of just leave them I guess in a way like if if they're not for me then why be with them? Yeah, usually we'll just try to cut them out of my life because I don't really need all that stress in my life. Same thing for me, I just cut them off. If possible just not engage. You can be like a slow process but eventually like over days you just like slowly drift away and then you get rid of them. I think that's a better alternative than just like coming coming straight out and like having a whole big like break up because I think that's like that can be also really damaging to if you have a future friendship and I especially think colleagues like that's a really hard one because you're working with them every day no matter what so you can't really drift away with them and I think with that I think just treating people with kindness when you do have interactions is really important. The last time it happened someone was toxic to me and I just stopped talking to them and then they kept asking like why am I not saying anything they were rude. Yeah I think next time maybe I'll ask like hey if you don't like change well if you don't explain your tone I will just stop talking to you. Yeah I think yeah like what they said like just surround yourself with better people and like just get them out of your life. Yeah for sure you need to walk away you need to I mean just to be as far away as possible from them you need a clean environment so. I feel like in certain times you definitely have to like cut family off for a little while and then they'll come back around I mean I think it's pretty normal for family to have altercations every once in a while but at the end everyone kind of comes back together so yeah if everyone needs a break from each other sometimes. Well in realistically I just kind of avoid them because I'm like conflict-averse so I think I you know retreat and then I kind of think what should I have done but I wish like I have the courage to you know address them and kind of say this isn't okay. Like my little sisters they're like six and they'll just tell like other kids like this isn't fair you know so something on that scale but for adults. And try to kind of maintain my own comments to myself because generally toxic people are very sensitive to comments especially external comments so therefore know the boundaries where I can step in to help and if only they want help if they don't then still be it so it is what it is today. My strategy is to have boundaries personal boundaries that I think of things that you can say to me versus things you can't say to me and if you're a person that is not able to respect the boundaries then then I cut you out yeah you just can't be in my life if you're a toxic person. So when I was back in high school I didn't really like deal with them I tried to solve it like I I tried to be friends with them and try to see what they're thinking about and why cannot like I understand them and then after like a couple of years for me right now I would say I'll just stay away from them because it's never possible for me to understand their whole life understand their whole experience their childhood because that's the reason that leads them to that kind of people so I would say I would just stay away from them right now. Wow that's a tough one it really depends because you have to take into account what that person's going through it could be they're just reacting to a situation that's immediate could be something that I said that triggered them or they could just be a lifelong personality so it's just kind of hard to say but what I try to do is try to understand where they're coming from if I can. Yeah it depends I would say also warning but I don't know if you can help them right like if it's a friend and he got toxic maybe you can I don't know. Yeah this is great.