 It's Kinsey welcome back to my channel here. I am with my dolly mug by the way dolly part and stuff every single day I'm so glad that I come to mine. Okay, I need it comfortable if you guys Have kept up with the vlogs. I got these bar stools Probably like a year ago Never fully set them up with the intention of eventually replacing them and I finally have new ones being delivered on February 4th Mark your calendars. I asked on Instagram for some questions from you all like we've been so close So they've been doing a lot of Q&A's actually question number one How did you become a full-time podcaster a lot of the questions are like people who are new who probably are just following My Instagram, but a little background of myself. I grew up in taxes I grew up in McKinney, which is north of Dallas and then I started my YouTube channel when I was 15 turning 16 Moved to LA a month before my 18th birthday Which was my senior year of high school graduated high school early started working in LA started college early At that point I was just doing online classes then I decided I wanted to go to an in-person class I went to a very like un-traditional non-traditional Clues school to offer me um College that was just like not normal, but I ended up graduating with my bachelors in business And when I was in college is when I started my podcast with dear media So I was already full-time social media before I started a podcast So I guess that's how I was full-time. That's how it started as far as like becoming a full-time Social media person. I think it would have been like a youtuber first I don't even know do you guys consider me a youtuber or like a podcaster because there's so many people who like only listen to the podcast too So I like actually I'm curious to know but I'm guessing you're watching me on YouTube probably youtuber I don't know, but when I started YouTube you have to keep in mind. I was able to Make money and also I was working a job. I've always worked pretty much my whole life my mom owned businesses I work for her. I always just liked working and I loved having my own money and things like that Even though I was making like literally nothing when I was like working for my mom, but um, I like 14 or 15 you can start working in Texas at certain places And then I ended up working as like a swim aid and that was obviously seasonal So then I got a job at like a pizza shop in my hometown That's the best lobster ravioli, but honestly like the scariest bosses ever like in my town They're known as like they're terrifying It's not even terrifying like terrifying's like not the right word They're just really intimidating like they were very harsh and at that point I wasn't making that much money on YouTube But I was like I will make more money on YouTube if I just did YouTube instead of this job So I was only there for like a month, but I got my friends jobs there. So they ended up working there forever But anyways my point being that when I started social media, I was in high school still So the pro of that was that I didn't have to pay for my living yet Like I didn't have to pay rent and things like that the con was that I basically gave up a ton of my like high school experience Which I wanted to do at the time I look back now when I'm like I kind of regret it a little bit Maybe that's just because I hang out with people from home This theme in my life where I look back on and the regret that I have is not acting my age and not just like having fun Like I feel like I put so much pressure on myself and I was like no I have to work and do this and like who cares about like social life and whatever I've made that change in the past year, but I will say that is a regret It's not a full year of regret I have and I don't regret graduating early There was like so many other reasons that that happened. I wish I would have enjoyed it more looking back on I loved my high school I didn't love schooling and like I don't know whatever no one cared and no one asked about that But basically what I'm kidding at is that I didn't have bills and I didn't have to immediately support myself So I was able to build a platform in which would end up supporting me I did have helped the first few months of moving out. I was still in high school But that was only the first few months obviously I wouldn't have been able to I'm incredibly thankful and grateful But it's also I just got lucky at one It's obviously privileged that I had a little bit of help and then to I also had a dad who was Incredibly supportive and was like this is the smartest thing for you and three I Wasn't supporting myself already. I was 16. So how do you maintain such good relationships with your parents? So I feel like this probably comes up because I talk about how I get coffee with my dad every week I trust this I love my parents so much and they're incredible And they've done great the absolute best that they could have and like incredible But obviously with any sort of family relationships. It gets really tricky. I would not say I've always had the best relationships with my parents at all We have I grew up in a really really weird dynamic of a family a very and again I love my family so so so much But I grew up in a very dysfunctional family with a really really really bad divorce and that definitely affected my relationships with my parents at times and it wasn't like This I don't know. I don't really talk about I don't really talk about this stuff online really because it like involves other people That's kind of like my policy, but it is a lot of like my story and like my childhood Um So if I write a book one day, I'm sure that will be a lot of it, but anyways, I just had really hard things happen Many hard things happen growing up in my family So I wouldn't say I've always had the best relationship with my parents But I definitely do and I literally wouldn't I literally just said I wouldn't be here without my dad I love my mom so much. So it just like goes back and forth Honestly, I don't think anyone has like incredible perfect relationships But because I do post sometimes with my parents. I guess that's probably why But anyways, if you've ever been the kid or even the adult that's like looking at another person's family and like Wishing that you have those dynamics. Not that you wish you didn't have your family, but wishing that things were just different Um, I have been there many times, but it's very important to note that like no one's family is perfect And honestly families are just really messy. So at the end of the day, there you go What was your biggest mistake while in a college? There's one that comes to mind. I started to listen to other people over myself. It was in a very vulnerable place I talked about this before And whereas before I really maintained like my sense of individuality. That's a really weird word to say As they got into like a harder place I think the end of that like the last half I really lost myself and it took a long time for me to Get back to where I'm at now I think that would be it but other than that I really don't regret much like I think Like I said before I look back. I'm like, oh, I wish I would just had fun or been more whatever Like I also am so grateful because that did get me here and I love my life and I'm you know, whatever I think there's certain points certain seasons for everything, you know When have you known it was time to break up with someone? I think about in relationships like when I broken up with someone It's really hard for me to break up with someone. I think that is a very difficult thing And I'm also very loyal and I'm the person to be like no it'll work Like we can work through it and like I would rather just like work through it with a person there But then like find someone else which is not always the healthiest thing by any means I feel like if you're thinking about it, it might be I don't know I don't there's like a blanket statement answer if any of you guys have better advice like leave it down below There's definitely been times where I've dated people that I really liked and it's so much fun with that I like adored them, but I knew deep down that they were not right for me and something was off Like I had like a constant like stream of anxiety and I blamed it on like alcohol or something else But really it was like deep down. I knew that they were not good for me at that time So for me personally, it's like I just feel like I know it deep down whether or not I want to admit it to myself In the danger with that is that sometimes it will get so so so deep down that you really don't even know anymore Like am I in one of my like longer relationships like if I would have just finally sat down and like Unpacked everything from the past like year or two. I would have as I've got went through that I think I would have realized that that wasn't what I wanted and deep down I knew but I was just so afraid of changing my mind that I just refused to do it If you guys are going through a breakup though listen to my podcast I always talk about this breakup boot camp with Amy. She's a breakup coach and she has a book That's like the science of rewiring your brain with breakups science of breakups I don't know anything that has like brain health attachment theory science breakups like I'm always so interested in that I actually think I even made Laura Rita I made a lot of my friends read it and it was so helpful in regards to breakups It's not what you think it sounds maybe a little bit cheesier or like something I wouldn't have like maybe booked up. Okay, how do you do with the influencers hate slash stereotypes? I Just like don't really care I don't know if this is like the text is a me of like everyone works hard Everyone has a job or it and I'm just like out of that like kind of clout chasing kind of world Not that all of LA is like that at all but like obviously there's more of it there And maybe I'm just like tired of explaining it. I don't know I obviously know how hard I work How hard we all work and it's Legitimately is a career and it's massive and it's the future and whatever But I just I know where to place my energy and that's not really somewhere I wanna place my energy and to me for whatever reason it's kind of cringy and I don't know why like The defense of it like non-stop is like, I don't know. It's like people just don't care like everyone works Honestly, I just don't really do it because I just don't really care that much even this week out of the bars I mentioned this in a vlog about my friends and one of our guy friends was like Literally look was saying all these really nice things to me But he was like, oh, but like you don't ever work and I'm like They only see like on Instagram what I'm posting on Instagram Which obviously is not me like sitting here working all the time So I get why like people would think that if you don't know the behind the scenes whatever But it's like not really my job to like make it make sense to you. So yeah, I don't really care Oh, by the way, I got love injections yesterday. They're still swollen and they're bruised So have you ever been through a friendship break up? If so, how did you move on? I answered a question about this on Instagram stories recently and It's really really really hard. I'm very very grateful. How many times am I gonna? Repetition I am so grateful for the friends that I have in my life and a lot of my friends have been In and out of my life not in a way that like anything bad happened But like there's just periods of time where you're closer to someone and you're closer with them later Are we move away and go to college? Let me come back So I just want to say first off sometimes with growing apart with friendships It's fine and you'll come back together. You're just in different spaces. That's normal but with a friendship break up this sounds like something happened and I haven't ever had I don't in the recent years. I've not had like a friendship blow-up break up I've definitely just had things were like all of a sudden think up weird and they started talking bad about me and things like that When I think of like friendship break up like my one that like hit the deepest and was the hardest for me was In the recent years and I was honestly so sad. There was never really discussion I didn't really know what to do and I'm sure again I know for a fact that like it was obviously not all that person died to me I don't even really know what that person did besides like also it takes two to tango But I am sure I did things that were wrong or whatever but this person was someone who Across the board couldn't ever have a conversation or like communicate at all and the anyway So there was like a lot that happened It was really sad for me and I still would try and then finally I realized one day that like It doesn't matter how much I do and if I lay my life out on the line And I'm supporting you emotionally spiritually financially like it literally doesn't matter what I do I will never do enough in your eyes and like what you are willing to give me back is not even remotely on the same page They literally talked about about this person like literally went up and talked bad about me to dawn like my best friend in the entire world And at that point I was like I could call and apologize because like I don't even know where this is coming from And I would have normally done that as I done before but I was like But I had this moment of realization that again nothing I ever did would be enough for this person And I love this person adored this person so much But like at the end of the day, I'm just gonna keep running myself dry So how do I make the decision to just be like I'm done. There's nothing that I can do I'm over it. Pied of mine That was honestly over like a two-year period of me being like trying really hard can't do anything I'm gonna anything I say around this person. It's gonna be taken wrong They're gonna twist it like whatever which is never something you should feel with your friends literally ever So it was a really long period of time of me kind of like getting over the friendship if that makes any sense I will say something I did learn in this experience is pay attention to the people who are constantly Surrounded by turmoil like if they Constantly have friendship problems or friend group problems or whatever it's different groups And it's not always the same like there is a very good chance It's probably them and not other people and I don't think people are even like intentional without the time I think you know, we're all insecure. We're all confused. Your 20s are hard living in different cities It's just a difficult time to be and I love this person But at the end of the day, I was like I will never amount to anything to you like I will never be able to do enough and so I was like alright, that's it Like I gotta be done. I think overall you kind of have to read it like a breakup though My experience with this recently obviously was over time So I didn't really like deal with it and one like slump favorite podcast world's first podcast so good Oh my god, I love it token CEO. Let me look at my podcast. Obviously. It's gonna confidential morning toast Oh, you know what? I've been listening to end the chair with Justin Anderson He doesn't even do it anymore. These are episodes from like 2019, but I have been loving it He's also it's your media Loved it. No to sell pain certain. I'm actually recording for that one tomorrow favorite music lately I've been saying this but Carter faith. I'm loving like absolutely loving she actually watched the vlogs or did at one point Which is crazy Anything on my boss playlist Texas country a lot of Texas country playlist I love playing that when I'm home like in the mornings or the afternoons when I'm cooking like that's pretty much It's kind of taken over jazz like I normally will play jazz music But that's kind of what I've been going for lately Been listening to a lot of best of Britney Spears Okay, the book that helped you at the most in dark times and why so I thought about this And I think it's actually weirdly enough the defining decade I don't have another book that like stands out to me enough to I would be able to say that and I know that the Defining decade is a very controversial book and not everyone likes it and it can put a lot of pressure on you And there's not everything in that book that I agree with but there's a lot of points that I've taken with me and I've really helped me in my early 20s like identity capital something. I always talk about um, so if you're confusing your 20s I would recommend it favorite thing about Dallas hands down the people I love the lifestyle here. I love that I can go in and out so I get best to build worlds But I just love how kind people are and it's like so community oriented like it's it just has like a very strong sense of Community, which I just love which platform do you get the most and come from? So I actually don't know because my podcast is split with and then it's like YouTube and Instagram Basically, I have a podcast team and then I have a team for everything else and I this year I made more on like YouTube Instagram and stuff So I don't know if you're splitting those up between the three Which one would have made the most because it would be kind of probably even did you ever struggle financially at once living on your How did you manage? Yes, and honestly, I wish I would talk about this stuff more in the day back in the day Because at that time people just like weren't really transparent on YouTube and I wish I would have talked about this But there were definitely times like I was not like rolling in money The guy wasn't making enough, but it was definitely still like stressful times. I think this past Two years have been like way more like financially free But like early days, especially when I have my one bedroom an ally that was like literally more expensive Then my mortgage here that was definitely like a lot harder Have you been on a date in the new year? If so, how would you rate it one to ten because I haven't even been on a date and like I literally couldn't tell you how long I said this on tiktok, but like I actually went to therapy last week and asked my therapist if there's something wrong with me Not that like you need to be with someone, but I have no desire to date I'm not really like super into him a culture for like myself personally. I just don't really like it Nothing there's anything like nothing. There's literally anything at all wrong with it like do whatever you want But like for me, I just don't really like it that much. So I Am like, okay, I'm not dating anyone. I'm not into hyperculture. So I literally have zero interest in Like dating I guess as a whole and that worries me because I'm like, what if this continues and then I haven't dated in three years and I forget how or Is it bad that I like don't want anything at all? Am I gonna get to 28 and still I'm not dated Like I just have all these fears in the back of my head of like, okay Maybe this isn't good, but I've always been the kind of girl that's like never really looking for it And then I meet someone and then I just like whatever it basically just takes me meeting someone But this is the longest period of time in a long time in years But I've also been in relationship. So where I have wanted like literally nothing to do with it Like not even like a fling like that is my I don't know that's my point What do you want to achieve with your business slash brand so with my own like can see Elizabeth stuff this year my dream is to design a cowboy boot with a Brand I would love to do cowboy. How do you think that would be so much fun? I want to do more Dallas events. I want to really grow. I want to grow again I haven't grown in years. So I would love to do that I really want to focus a lot on tiktok bread winning housewife stuff So we're doing more drops. We have one coming in February, which is really exciting My stuff actually should be yours soon. I want to do a podcast live show that I'll be really exciting I want to get like a bread winning housewife like Kitchen stuff like there's a lot of things I want to do and with the okina which is my clothing brand We want to launch one. We wanted to launch in March originally Then we didn't love samples for being picky obviously We want the best of the best of the best as of right now We're shooting for April and that's if everything goes really well. So we will see We want to do monthly drops with that and we'd love to pop up shop somewhere like for a weekend whatever I think that would be really fun. There's a lot of things honestly I feel like I'm in the best place career-wise that I've ever been like have such a clear But this is what I want to do I think to like having a job where it's like you on the internet Especially in like your late teens early 20s is confusing because like you don't really even know who you are So I don't know I feel like now I'm in a place like personally where I'm thriving the most and so I'm also thriving like the most career-wise What skills do you want to learn this year? What hobbies do you want to pick up? I want to horseback ride a lot more than I have recently. I went last month a minute ago I think actually next week. I even want to take lessons like I'm so into that obviously I read all the time I want to get better at cooking. I want to get more into that I know there's another one that I can't think of right now. I'm always picking up hobbies though That's something that has really benefited my life so much I feel like for so long I was just like tunnel vision work And like I wasn't even doing the best that I could be doing because I wasn't in a healthy Like headspace minds that didn't have hobbies and the hobbies improve your career So yeah, my goal for this year is 60 books. I read a hundred last year if you guys need book rocks I've been posting like in feed book stuff non-stop on Instagram last question I get this question literally all the time and I Guess we'll just get into it a little bit. I really don't know Even where I'm at what I want to say how I feel. I don't want to offend anyone I don't want to make anyone mad like there's just so many things that go into it I'm in therapy like deeply for it right now. So I don't really have the answers. I don't know I don't know if I ever have the answers. I Don't know if I'll feel how I did five years ago. I feel how I did yesterday I really have no idea where I will be at again if I ever write a book This will be a large majority of it. I'm sure a lot of it's like How is your faith right now? Like literally so many messages and a lot of them are incredibly passive aggressive Like I said this recently and I want to say a Lot of it is like I think a lot of Christians in general are like the meanest on Instagram But I will go even further and say like if you live Life with the philosophy that like the way you live life in general is the one way to live it So if you're an either extreme those are typically the meanest people in general I experience a lot of the Christians because I feel like I have a lot of them following me because I did go I Didn't have a more of a background with that. I think I've definitely taken a really big step back I am going through my own stuff with it. I really don't have much to share It's never my intention to bash anything like so much of it has you know Giving me such a strong foundation and like friendships and you know There's so many good things that have come from it and I can recognize like the both and something could be The best and the worst thing that's ever happened to you And yeah, I just I don't really want to talk about it other living room will never be a thing I've answered that so many times guys like literally so many times. Please please police. I'm asking That will never be a thing. Yeah, I'm just going through my own stuff with it Which is really normal at 24 if you feel like you connect listen to our episodes with jessa Hastings She's helped me so much, but I don't think it's a forever thing. I just am going through my own stuff You know, it's not really about my relationship with God It's just other stuff that's happened in my life, and you know, a lot of my friends are going through it I feel like it's a really common thing and I never want to come out and be disrespectful But I also think you know when I speak about this and I received Thousands of messages of people feeling the same way and saying it's so helpful to know someone feels that way I was going through it as well It's hard because like I do want to share because I wish that I had someone that I was following that could Really talk about it in like a healthy way not in a way that's like fuck the boba, but Yeah, I mean it's really hard. It's not Something I even expected to like get here I think the other thing is that like I've heard what people say About people who are where I'm at being in it the thick of it and so now knowing that like I'm that person and knowing that it's talked about too is like Really frustrating because it's also like very personal thing I'm not trying to like ruin anyone's life or whatever, but like it is my experience It is my story and a lot of it was really good and a lot of it was really really bad And you know, I think that's really common for any like group of people So with that being said I don't have the answers I don't really want to talk about it because I'm not really in a place where I have the answers I could completely change my mind in six months. You never know with me So until I'm at more of like a stable place, I'm sure I'll talk about it later Honestly, this is like stuff to talk about in a book. It's not really stuff to like talk about on You should I don't like to change my guys. I don't really know but with that being said I would just appreciate some like boundaries around the topic. I totally understand I shared a lot about it in the past but I'm not in that place anymore and I'm allowed to grow and change my mind to go through my own stuff and like to be the healthiest that I can be. I Just like what more boundaries around it and I would really appreciate the passive aggressive comments to stop You're messaging someone like really passive aggressively in your intention is to get them to come back to live How like they live or think how they think which by the way, I was always really incredibly progressive in that I was never and I said that the whole time I never felt like I fully fit in because I was never this like super Southern Conservative like Christian girl not that there's anything wrong with that I have so many incredible friends who are that but like that was never me and I always felt like I was being pushed into a box Always like literally even when I was in church for a second when I was younger So yeah, if you are messaging someone anyone is doing this with the intention of like getting them back and you're like Oh, they're wrong instead of just like loving them and be like, hey, love you regardless You're not right like it's just I don't know so anyways I hope you guys enjoyed today's video. I love you guys so much Be sure to subscribe. It was great just to sit down and catch up and chat with you guys But I love you guys and I will talk to you soon. Bye It was like we're like are each other's Accountability partners in like a career setting so like a personal development. Yes career type of way. Yeah, like what can we? Start doing that other successful people do