 He doesn't let you speak and talk and does not grasp anything from the conversation. He has listened to you, he absorbed whatever you've told him and he will apply it where need be. He knows how you feel when you're feeling a certain way. He knows your emotions and how you act when you're sad, when you're happy. He pays attention to you and your emotions so he knows when you're not happy and he will ask you know what's wrong. He wants to protect you from anything you know like he might say well don't do that because you know this is bad for you or he doesn't want you coming home like at night without you know him like in a bad area. He just makes it known that he wants to protect you in some type of way okay. He wants to help you. He wants to help you do things. He wants to be of assistant assistance to you. He wants to help you you know learn grow financially health-wise whatever. He wants to help you with something. Okay he wants to learn from you as well. He will ask your opinion. He values your opinion. He values your teachings, your knowledge, your spirituality. He learns from that as well. He doesn't know everything. He includes you and asks you know what your thoughts are on certain things you know. He tells you he loves you just because. There's no reason he doesn't want sex. He doesn't want a favor. He doesn't want you to do this or that. He's just telling you just because okay because he's thinking about you. Okay he speaks of you and him in the future together like if y'all aren't already married but he speaks of his future and you're included in there. His future plans include you and he talks about it. Okay and last but not least he doesn't want to possess you but he wants you to be happy. So he's not over controlling but he's I'm sorry y'all my hair in my face but he wants to see what makes you happy. He wants you to be happy and free and blah blah blah blah blah and he's not intimidated by other people because he knows that the love between you and him and that his love for you is real. So he doesn't have anything to really worry about. So he's not trying to be possessive. Okay he wants what's best for you. For example he's not going to say oh you can't go here because you know I say you can't go here. If going there makes you happy he's gonna say okay go have fun call me let me know you're okay let me know you're safe blah blah blah he's not gonna be intimidated by outside forces because he wants you to be happy. Okay now the reason I did this list is because some women get confused they don't know when a man loves them or not. They don't know that just because a man is sitting there while they blah blah blah blah while they're talking to him doesn't mean they're listening. They're just sitting there. Okay so you have to ask him questions to make sure he was listening and like tell him a story right and say oh well they had on this color socks or something stupid and then finish the story and then say were you were you listening to me I'm like yeah yeah yeah then say well what color socks did this person have on it if you were really listening and if he remembers he was listening okay okay and like when he knows how you feel that means he pays attention to his actions and your reactions meaning he's emotionally involved if if he doesn't know how you feel if he doesn't know when you're in a bad mood or a good mood he doesn't pay attention enough to you and he's not thinking about you and he's not in love with you you're just there okay okay so he wants to protect you if you're if he tells you to come out in the middle of the night in a high crime area to come meet him somewhere instead of him going to your house he doesn't want to protect you okay if you're if he walks with you on the outside of the street or on come traffic and come kill you or somebody can come and kidnap you instead of on his inside he's not trying to protect you and some managers don't know this because you know it's not taught but if you don't feel like he's worried about your best interest and your safety at all for some reason that's another clue okay okay so he wants to help if you're doing all this work if you're a slave and if you're washing dishes if you're cooking if you're sweeping and mopping and helping kids with homework grocery shopping on seven doesn't offer to help you one little bit and he sees you doing all of this and he doesn't feel empathy towards you or want to lend a helping hand and he's just sitting on the couch or whatever he's doing or playing his video game that's not a good sign okay so he wants to learn from you if your man thinks he knows everything and that you can't teach him nothing and that he knows everything and he's gonna teach you and whatever you have to say is dumb and doesn't make sense and it's not worthy of his ears and makes you feel stupid or dumb that's not love okay when he tells you he loves you just because if your man only tells you he loves you during certain times when you want something from you rather than just out of the blue for no reason and just blah blah blah blah that's another sign because he's using that to get what he wants okay if he doesn't if he doesn't speak about you in his future if he says man I if he's I I I want to do this I want to go here and when I get my check I'm gonna go buy me some shoes next week oh when I when I get there I'm going to I'm traveling to you know wherever if you're not included in those plans and he's thinking like solo and you're not included that's another sign that he doesn't see you in his future in that he probably don't love you okay okay so last one possession when he when he confuses love with possession that's that's a huge quote when if he doesn't want you going anywhere if he's super jealous if he says you can't do this you can't do that because we're together and that's not right and he's just totally insecure he doesn't really love you because he's not concerned about with your happiness and what's best for you he's only worried about how he feels and how he can control you and how he doesn't want you doing certain things because it makes him feel insecure okay so it's all about him him him so these are signs to look out for when you're in a relationship and you don't know whether it's a dead-end relationship if this guy loves you if you need to move on if you need to do a plan B if you need to have the talk okay how do you feel about me do you love me and also it's a way to you know understand your position okay if you're if you're not loved and you're just there feeling a role of a woman just to have a woman and you're not getting all this then either you can leave to go find it somewhere else or you can accept it and live like that so it's kind of up to you but the signs are always there there are more signs in this show these are just a few I came up with to show people because some people think just because you're in their presence and they and they come home to you every day that they love you but that's just not true okay some people think if they sit there and teach you and tell you all this stuff and want to improve you and and want to change your mind your spirituality all this kind of stuff that they care about you but not really they're just they're trying to convert you into their way of thinking it's not love love is compromised love is saying okay well you have your beliefs I respect you and I'm gonna have mine and I know that you respect me I'm not going to force you into something you're not ready for just because I believe it's right because we are two individuals okay so if somebody's trying to force their belief system on you convert you do this this that's not love that's control okay so you have to be careful not to confuse these these things because if they don't have your best interest in mind they're not trying to help you if they're not doing all of these things to promote you then it's not love it's then it's possession okay and y'all know I always quote Michael Jackson so I've learned that love is not possession but he learned much too late but I learned that's too late and she's out of my life alright y'all I don't have my voice back fully as y'all can tell but thumbs up subscribe if you haven't and leave me a comment about what you think okay bye