 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder of commitment connection calm and in this video We're gonna talk about how to please your man, and I'm not talking about in bed by the way This is about Emotional connection and and keeping him in love with you and keeping him Interested in you so that he wants to stay in a committed Relationship with you but before we talk about that if you're struggling to attract a man into a committed Lasting relationship. Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz So today's question comes from a woman in our community, and she's asking how do I please my man? And so I've really got three things here that you need to do that are really important in regards to pleasing your man and the first one is Communicate that you're sexually attracted to him believe it or not men feel validated through feeling sexually attractive to a woman and so If you want him to get that validation from you Make sure that you are Telling him how attractive he is and telling him that he is attractive and that you think he's hot and that you think he's That that you want to have sex with him and that You know, he's he's he turns you on in that way because if you don't he he'll feel He'll He'll feel like he needs to get that from somewhere and so you want to you want him to be able to get that from you The second one is giving a man space when he needs it a lot of women end up they like Give themselves totally to a relationship and and I know that seems like a really good idea for a lot of reasons, but It ends up making women smother guys and so if you're smothering your guy He's going to lose attraction for you and he's going to pull away from you and and if you keep kind of Smothering him like that. He's just gonna keep backing away in a way in a way And if if you end up giving him space and you give him more space than he needs then he'll feel More like he wants to move towards you instead of moving away from you And so a great way to do this is to have a life and passions outside of the relationship that you keep and maintain Have friends outside the relationship that you keep and maintain no matter what's going on in the relationship no matter How close you guys get because it'll keep him attracted to you and it'll please him in a lot of ways And third learn what he wants and give it to him a lot of times One of the things that I learned early on in my relationships is is that we tend to try to Please people in the way that we like to be pleased But in reality they have their own preferences they have their own tendencies they want to be pleased in A way that makes sense for them There's actually a really good book on this called the five love languages where he talks about How We tend to speak in our love language But if somebody else has a different love language and we're speaking in ours They don't experience love from us and so figure out what he wants figure out what his preferences are and End up, you know and try to Give him those those preferences instead of trying to please him in ways that You think that he would want to be pleased find out what he wants So that's it for this question if you want to learn more about how To attract a man into a committed lasting relationship and what's stopping you from attracting a man into that kind of a Relationship go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon