 As I discussed last week, sexy is a struggle for your girl. It just doesn't come naturally, but neither did sensuality, which is why when I very first began this channel, I went on what was known as the sensual sessions, a quest to ignite and discover my sensual side. And that journey brought me more confidence in my look and my ability to interact with others. In my mind, sensuality inspires respect, reverence and admiration, whereas in sexiness inspires passion, lust and just plain old damn thirst, which is powerful. They are both powerful in different ways. And for a woman who understands that, she has the ability to choose which one to tap into. I am not at a place yet where I can naturally tap into the sexy side, just like sensual sessions in order to tackle this beast, because it's a whole new beast for your girl. I needed to invite some experts into the conversation. And first and foremost, I am bringing on my girl, Eileen Kelly. Eileen is a fellow sex expert. Wait one second, I have a kernel in my tooth. Killer in the sweet thing. I'm 21. What makes me sexy? I think confidence level. I think I want to pull away from physical, because I think there are so many beautiful, sexy, physical girls. And I think that what kind of differentiates people? You're like, oh, wow, that, you know, drop dead when you walk into a room is what comes from within. So just being comfortable with yourself, I think is something I do very well. I'm just confident from within. I don't really care what people think. I think that shows. But before we dive all up in Eileen's arsenal of treasures, I wanted to accommodate those of you guys who clicked this video because you were hoping for some fast tips. So this is what I learned from Eileen and a couple of other people on how to exude sexy specifically in a photo. Number one, before you go any further on this quest, make sure you believe this simple sentence, I am sexy, because if you don't, that will show in your eyes. If you're doing it to seek out validation or to find the answer to that question, it's going to show and throw off the whole kit and caboodle. So you want to ensure that you are choosing a pose and an atmosphere and outfit when you feel sexy. You're not choosing those things in hopes of feeling sexy. Tip number two, appropriately titled because there's two cheeks involved. The booty pic. How do you do it? Specifically, how did I do it last week? Start with both feet facing sideways and put all of your weight to the front leg and then bring the back leg in to press your thighs together. Now go on your toes on the front leg and for added lift, clench. Number three and a tip I'm actually already pretty good at is mystery. So with mystery, you can use lighting, props or sometimes even your expression to hint at without explicitly implying sexuality. Quatro is intensity. Thinking about something sexual can automatically create a sexual energy right around you. Now, your brain is your biggest sexual organ and it controls what your body does. You get fuller lips, dilated pupils, flushed skin, heavier breathing without having to lift one single finger. Finally, five, you can display sexiness by playing with dominance and submission. A dominating presence elicits excitement, danger and surrender. It triggers our submissive side that secretly wants someone to take control. Now a submissive presence elicits vulnerability, confidence and activates our dominant side, which wants to take control. All of these tips will elicit sexiness in different ways. But of course, the key ingredient is confidence. The question really is which one feels authentic for you. And speaking of authenticity, I want you to meet one of the realists in the game, again, my friend and a peer of mine, Eileen Kelly, who is going to break down the rest of this forest because she got it on lock that whole sexy game. I use sex cells to my advantage, I think, but just acknowledging that it does. And I think the reason people make that such a negative thing is that they think sex is so taboo. And that's the problem. Sex isn't taboo. Everyone on the fucking planet has sex. That's how you got here. That's how I got here. I don't want to fit this image of this, like, always sexy young girl. That's not who I am. Like, look at what I'm wearing right now. I'm wearing a big t-shirt and baggy jeans. Like, this is kind of what I dress like on the day to day basis. But when I need that little pick me up or I'm feeling like, oh, I got a new bikini and I think I look cute. I'm going to snap that and put it out there. Why not? I don't even overthink it, though. I just post what I want to post. And then I turn my phone off or I put it down. And I guess it's a conversation starter, sometimes negative, but that doesn't bother me because I'm sure there's many people that do shake their heads. I don't care about the negative comments, any of that. But I also think it's breaking it up so I can post one photo of like a quote or a piece of writing that I think is really important. The next one can be an ass shot. Like, why do you care so much? So I don't have to fit a box. I can make my own box. Happiness is going to come from within, always. So you just got to be happy and confident with what the fuck you're doing with your life, even if no one agrees with it. Selling sex in a way that is feminist and empowering for women is kind of a gray area, I think, in the media world. But there is a way to do that and I think it's taking charge of yourself. The killer and sweet thing is kind of like the umbrella and then under it we have the forum or coming out the zine. We do these guidebooks. So you make a free anonymous account and it's a community online that all you talk about is sex. So girls go on there and they're like, I got my period's late, what do I do? And the community responds back to you, which is like the most amazing thing I've probably done. If you guys love Eileen as much as I do, please go in the info box below and find all of her links and click them multiple times because she's worth every single button press. Before you guys go, I want to show you something. But by the way, I'm editing this video right now at 12.31 on that day. Okay, it says sex and the power of posting and then the caption is meet six Instagrammers, shattering the norms and redefining what sexual power looks like. So we turn the page and yes, that is Eileen Kelly in all the flesh right there. And even better, not better, just a school. You turn and it's your girl, Shamboody. Redefining, I'm still doing sensuality here. Everyone else is definitely on the sexy tip. But you know, we're making strides. Update still working two in the morning, but question. What is stopping you from owning your sexy? And while we're asking questions and talking about sexy, I'm curious. What do you guys think of this Amber Rose picture she posted yesterday? It's kind of incredible. Comment section below. Not her below, but. Shilling with your friends and your waist tattoo. I just want to stare, but your face bad too. I don't really care that it's eight past two. You can come and hang, tell your friends come too. Shopping too often, you open floodgates. Like it when you drop it, don't stop it. You getting off late. Hit me on my phone, I'll come pick you up on a Sunday.