 One of the most difficult scenarios in a relationship is when your spouse is checked out, when they've disengaged, when they really don't want to be part of the relationship anymore, and you're begging and pleading for them to come back. It's an extremely painful place to be in. It's very difficult. It's full of fear, and sometimes you're going to do whatever you can in a panic to be able to bring them back. But ultimately, that's usually not an effective solution. Ultimately, we can't really control the outcome. But there are a bunch of things that you can do to be able to work on yourself to make yourself a better partner so that if your spouse does decide that they want to be back with you, that you're going to show them that you're not the same person that they left. There are many things you'll see in the course of this article, but one thing is we find that playing hard to get, in a sense, couples report that when they don't nag their spouse, when they don't beg them to come back, that their spouse actually is intrigued. They actually feel like, well, you don't want me, and they want to come back. It does not always work, but it does work plenty of times from our experience that just by not pursuing, it gives the spouse an opportunity to figure themselves out and to actually be intrigued and want to come back. In the meantime, you can work on taking ownership for your role in the relationship, focusing on your own reactivity, looking at how to be a better spouse, how to have more compassion for your spouse's story, how to understand them better, how to be a better listener, how to give them the love that they want to in their own language. So many things that you can do to try to win your spouse back. Ultimately, we have no control over the outcome. We can only put our best foot forward, but if we put our best foot forward, we're much more likely to see the positive results that we're looking for. If you are in this situation and you're trying to win your spouse back and you could use some further assistance, we'd be happy to speak with you. Please feel free to be in touch with us, and we'd be happy to hear about your situation and see how we can help.