 Our next speaker up is Robby Kramer who up to this point at the event has been doing the introductions I'm doing is now of course because he's a speaker at this specific point This will be his third speech at the 21 convention last year in Orlando, Florida being his first Just about seven weeks ago at the time of filming here now He was in London, England hosting the event just like here as well as giving a speech actually the keynote address pretty big job His speech this time around is going to be merging intergame and outer game as you can see here at the tip of my cane It's gonna be awesome So without further ado I guys I present to you guys your host emcee and speaker Robby Kramer the Hebrew Hammer of Confidence I love I love my new nickname That's great. So you guys have gotten to know me a little bit throughout the the conference and It's great being an emcee because I'm kind of already warmed up in a cool way That's why I do it So my speech today is on merging in an outer game as Anthony said a lot of you guys have been coming up during the course of the weekend Asking like are you in her game? Are you at her game? And my answer is always there should be no difference It's all just confidence in my opinion So I'm gonna tell you my story first how I got into all the stuff I'm growing up. I was a golf and poker geek. This is me right here in College I played golf for UC San Diego up until I was 18 my life was Wake up Turn on the golf channel before school go to school go to the golf course Come home watch the golf channel go to bed. So as you can imagine I didn't have much of a social life I was kind of Not really an introvert. I feel like I'm more of an extrovert, but Throughout my time in you know high school middle school My life was golf and then in college. I picked up poker as well And if any of you guys play online poker, which you can't anymore in the US But back in the day you can basically spend hours clicking a mouse and if you're making money it's pretty good pretty good thing to do except once again not very social and I realized at the end of college that I wasn't good enough for the PGA tour I didn't want a career as a professional poker player just because I didn't feel like that would be much of a life other than easy money and I didn't really know what I was gonna do, but a Buddy of mine got a job working for a venture capital firm and This is this is me at the VC firm Got my suit on selling these products here and The job was to raise money for startup companies. I'd never done any sales before in my life I had no idea how to sell anything And I never thought of myself as a salesman, but I did know that if I learned to sell that probably be a really good thing You know a good life skill to have so I said whatever I'll take this job. I have no other prospects. It sounds good So I started sales and at the same time Another friend of mine introduced me to the book the game. Who's read the game? Most people and I think a lot of people this is kind of our introduction Into personal growth. It was for me as a guy. I was never interested in personal growth I was like, yeah, that's for girls and gays, but hey yeah, I'll read a book about picking up girls that sounds great and At first when he showed me this book. I'm like, yeah, I don't need that stuff I'm I got game. Not really, but I pretended I did and he's like no trust me. You want to read this book So I've you know, I turned it open Read it within like a day and a half. I think I stayed up all night. I guess I'm not that fast of a reader Some people like yeah, I read in two hours. Okay, so Reading the game was really cool because to me it it was like a The first time in my life where I realized that there was actually a way to improve yourself In an area that was really important to me It's like wow I could get better with girls because up until that point the only women I had in my life were you know Meet a girl at a party make out with her. She's my girlfriend for three years I basically did that for three women throughout, you know, high school and college And I was always envious of those guys that could just kind of go up there chat up a girl Take her home and go on dates. I'd never even gone on a date until I was 23 after reading the game I had no idea what a date was even like so it was it was great to just be able to to realize that I had the power to improve and I remember the first night after reading the game I put it down and You know after reading it. I was like, okay, there's some stuff in here. That's cool There's some stuff. That's a little bit weird, but I'm willing to try anything I had no idea what was good. What was bad So I was like, whatever I'll try it went out and I remember one thing really stood out for me I remember if you call a girl a cartoon character She'll like you like okay. I'll give that a try. So I see this hot brunette. I walk up and I'm like, hey You kind of look like Minnie Mouse She's like Minnie Mouse. I'm like, yeah Minnie Mouse and then I was like shit I don't know what else to say. I'm gonna go to the bathroom. So Go to the bathroom come back. I'm like, hey Minnie Mouse. You want a shot? She's like, yeah Okay, cool. So I go back to the bar. I get a shot for me get a shot for her. I come back. Here you go Minnie Mouse She like rolls her eyes looks at me takes a shot like was it good Minnie Mouse? She's like dude, you got to stop calling me Minnie Mouse because I actually really like you like what? This girl likes me. What do I do now? Then I remember from the game There was this I think they called it like the evolution phase shift Where you make out with the girl by segueing by getting her to like, you know bite your arm and bite your neck and Do this other crazy stuff? I had no idea how to do it But I was like come with me and I pulled her to the side like you know lions, you know before they have sex They bite each other so one like biting her. She's biting me. We're making out a minute later And then she got all turned on so I was like, hey, let's let's go drag her into cab went back to my place And we hooked up and the whole interaction was maybe 15 minutes in the next morning. I remember oh my god I found the holy grail. This is so easy I just have to go up to girls and call a Minnie Mouse and do this stupid little lion biting arm gay thing and I'll have girls every night for the rest of my life life is good and then quickly After about three more months of trying that every single night and zero results I realized all right. Maybe there's something else going on here. So That's when I decided to become a pickup artist now. I don't really I No longer consider myself a pickup artist when I was trying to be a pickup artist. I certainly wasn't picking much up at all more of a I don't know failure artists whatever you want to call it But these are some of the things I tried on my endeavor to become good with women I tried faking it till you make it. So when I give a girl the look She knows she's coming home with me So Trying that like yeah, I'm cool. I'm confident. I'm alpha. I'm like walking around like this That didn't work so well. I tried dressing like a homo Wearing these silly outfits that didn't really match my personality But because these guys said wear these outfits and you'll be like this peacock. Okay, I'll try it That didn't work out so hot. I tried memorizing canned material. I just put me in my head Didn't do much for me at all. I Tried trying to entertain and impress Magic tricks locking up like being this court gesture this big over-the-top guy And I got a lot of attention that way, but that's about all I got and after a while. They're like, okay. See you later I tried Next the woo-woo years. So after trying all this outer game stuff, you could say It wasn't really working so hot. I was because I was going out and doing stuff. I was getting better I was getting over approach anxiety I was you know, definitely improving because the ultimate thing you can always do is get experience Like there is no substitute for experience So just a sheer act of going out and trying a lot of stuff was amazing and then I heard about this stuff I call it woo-woo, but you can call it new age things, you know Different modalities to build your confidence because I realized that I didn't feel confident I felt like I had to be this guy. I had to put on this act and I learned or I heard that You can do this inner work and then be really confident like after you do all this inner game stuff You'll just feel like a million bucks