 Hefyd, wrth gwrs. Welcome to another Narc Survivor Live video. Live from the broom with Nala, of course. And yes, in this one, we are going to be talking about why the narcissist wants you back. Because they may come to you and say that they love you, they missed you. They may come back saying that they understand what they did wrong. And now they want to change. They may come back with these fake apologies, these false epiphanies, and they can make it very believable as well. But the reality is, no, that's not why they're coming back at all. They are coming back not because they miss you, but because they miss their supply. They miss the things that you brought to them, these benefits and conveniences. They miss their supply, your attention and validation. They miss that maybe you're giving them a place to stay. They miss the sex. They miss your money. And they miss using you as their emotional punching bag. Or their emotional dumping ground. So that is really what they miss. And that is really the reason why they want you back. So it's not as you might think, because they can be very convincing. They come back with them in relation, more lies and future faking. Good morning to you, Bianca. Yes, that's really it. That's why they want you back. And I'd like to hear from you as well. Let me know in the live chat down below. Did you get a hoover from the narcissist recently? And what did they say? What did they try to do? And how did you deal with it? I'd love to hear from you, so let me know in the live chat down below. I will read it out and respond to you. But yes, a lot of narcissists are becoming aware of this information. So they're learning what not to do. They're finding ways to work around it so that they can still play their games and manipulate you. Because that is all that they really want to do. They're just looking to use you because they lack empathy. And that is something that is never going to change. They're not just suddenly going to treat you right. I mean, of course I have heard stories. I've seen some YouTubers who profess that they are these self-aware narcissists. I'm not really sure if that's something that I believe. I mean, yes, I can recognise in my past where I definitely engaged in certain activities, behaviours that one might consider to be narcissistic. But there's one thing to have two or three narcissistic traits and also have an empathy as well. And then being a full-blown narcissist, having four or more of the traits as listed in the DSM-5. So, yes, although I can most definitely recognise my personal growth and development, especially over the last few years, for someone who is a full-blown narcissist, I don't think that is ever going to happen from my research and from my personal experience. Even when it seems like it will happen, it's just more manipulation and it will be followed by more abuse and deception. Classy Katzden says he's been ghosting over 30 days and I give up. Yes, you will never win with them in that game when it comes to ghosting and just disappearing. Because, of course, we are normal people. Yes, we do desire connection and just a normal relationship. But narcissists, they thrive in dysfunction and it's not difficult for most of them to find other sources of supply to replace you. So, for these reasons, you can't beat them at that game. They can just ghost you and forget about you like you never even existed. Which, of course, is something that we can't do once we have emotionally connected with someone. Roman Jugger says one year after break-up and no contact. That's very good. Congratulations, Roman Jugger. Yes, you will feel a lot better, the longer that you go, no contact. And I noticed that as well along my own journey. The more time that I separated from the narcissist, the stronger and more powerful I felt. And I began to look at it differently. I began to realise that no contact and the separation, being alone, that does not make me weak. Once you really find yourself and you strengthen everything that you are, these qualities and abilities and you become the best version of yourself, you will find that actually being alone that just brings you more power. That is where your power is because as in-pass we generate it from within. We don't have to get it from other people. Patti Pumpkin says he has new supply now. But he's hardly paying attention to me why when you go out they tell you split the bill. Yeah, that's how it goes when they have new supply. It's like this shiny new toy. It's this fresh source. This opportunity for them to start again with someone who doesn't know who they are. And that's what they really care about. They want to be around people who don't know who they are. As for splitting the bill, that really depends on your own individual situation. I can't say whether that is right or wrong. Personally, in my own relationships, I do prefer 50-50. I believe that it's fair. Of course, if I am making a lot more money than the person that I'm with, in those situations I won't mind paying a little bit more. I think that's fair then. But that's just my personal opinion, of course. And, you know, I'm all about 50-50. Just keeping things what I believe to be fair. Ian Hughes says they act right for like a week. Yes, that's so true. It is typically just a few days a week that is the best that you can get out of them. If you're lucky, sometimes it might just be a few hours. It's all just this false image, this illusion. And then they go right back to their normal behaviours. They're maladaptive, they can't adapt to adjust. But you will find yourself changing everything about yourself to adapt to them. Patti Pumpkin asks will they ever meet their karma? As I've said in my other videos, I do believe that they are always getting their karma. They're always miserable, they're never satisfied with anything. They always want more. And not just with the supply, but even when they abuse their victims, it's never enough. Which is why there's no cut off with the abuse. And also their karma is the disorder itself. They have to manipulate and abuse people. They never feel enough on their own. And they never get to experience real love, real happiness, a deep emotional connection, all of these things. But yeah, that's really it. When they want you back, they just want their supply. They want their full back, their doormat, their emotional tampon, their emotional punching bag, their emotional dumping ground, whatever you want to call it. That's all that they want. And they want things to be predictable. Because of course, they can't deal with things playing out naturally. They have to have control. So even if you do let them back in, it's just going to be about control again. There's not going to be any real fun or enjoyment. And that's just it. Which is why yes, you are much better off just being on your own, being alone. Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. When you are alone, yes, you may feel lonely in the beginning and that is normal. But with time, you will strengthen your identity, develop your qualities and abilities and you will find your true power from within. Because that is where your power lies. It does not lie in external things. And at any moment, you can choose happiness. Yes, happiness is a choice. It is not dependent on external circumstances. So you can feel that whenever you want. And that's exactly what I advise you to do as well. Tap into your inner peace. Because you can get that from within. You can give yourself the closure and the validation that you need by recognising that what you saw is exactly what it was and what you got from them. That was exactly what they had to give. And there was nothing more than that. So yes, that's really it for this video. But as always, I'd just like to thank you all for joining me. Thank you for your support. And I will talk to you in another one very soon.