 Just arrived at my new villa last night Out in nature Paradise I was walking out the back here last night, and I saw a frog hopping along Nice to see but I haven't seen any lizards yet, but this is my new workplace Where I sit down to make my videos Three-bedroom two-bar from villa YouTube is monetized again Narc survivor is back or not immediately, but gradually It does take time here is the messy master bedroom All the clothes just dump on the floor. You know how I do Pikachu but unfortunately Nala is not here yet. I was just thinking how much she would enjoy just running outside The back there just got to watch out for the dogs and Any lizards or snakes? So yeah, this is what I'm doing. Just been churning out here today and soon Gonna head out Get something to eat Maybe just a Burger King today Have an hour Burger King for a long time And they do vegan options. So it's great for me. But yeah, let's get into the topic of this video because this is a very interesting one and Yes, there is a way to know if You were dealing with a narcissist Despite how they may try to lie to you gas like you food to fake and all of this there is a way to Wholeheartedly know and the way to do that is simply To recognize that a relationship is a mutual exchange of value It's meant to be reciprocal Unless you're dealing with a narcissist because then it won't be So just look at it like this if you left the relationship with less Than what you came in with and not only that But they left the relationship with more than what they came in with and I'm not just talking about money Material possessions although those are very significant factors I'm also talking about Experiences Your emotions your validation Any connections that you provided to them Maybe you took them on trips All of these things they gained from being with you And what did you gain in return? Typically how it goes is They target you because you have what they want and you give them everything they want While you were with them, but they're not giving anything back to you Even if they do have a job and they're earning money They're keeping that for themselves and not only that they are saving up everything you're giving to them And they're keeping it for the next person they meet Because maybe the next person they meet isn't going to be in the same position as you and they already know that They know it's going to be hard for them to find someone as good as you So they know that they need to be a better a better person in the next situation And it's really as simple as that. That's how you know what you were dealing with. I mean, that's what it really comes down to In these interactions and engagements You were always the one putting out You were never getting something back in return And this is how everything should work in life. There should be reciprocation Even when I put out these videos, I take time out of my day To give you this information to share my knowledge and experiences and I get a lot back in return and I'm not just talking about the monetary value from this. I'm talking about the Validation that I get from putting out this information. I get your support And that is very valuable to me, especially In exchange for my time, but when you're dealing with these narcissists You can give them all of your time money attention energy effort and It's not going to be worth your time It's not because they're not good investments They are very bad investments everything you put into them you will lose and you will get nothing back Because despite what they led you to believe about them being high-value people because they're so arrogant and entitled They are actually very low value people Which means that you will not get anything of value from them or return Your high value, which is why You were able to give so much to them and they left with more than they came in with So you're a high value person even though you may not feel like it by the end of it And after everything they've brainwashed you into thinking about yourself because that's how they keep you locked down is to Trick you into thinking you're less than who you actually are as though all of these things you're doing for them Isn't enough I've been with narcissists. I've given them all of my money. I've taken them on trips I've given them all of my time energy validation attention admiration my love my passion my joy gave it all away and Yet they will still have the nerve to turn around that and tell you that it wasn't enough and You don't ever look at them and realize they're not even doing anything for you. I mean even if you forget all of the things like Maybe you're earning more than them. So you give them money and you take them places you give them a good life You don't even get a thank you You don't even get any gratitude or appreciation any recognition any acknowledgement You don't even get that And that doesn't even cost them anything. It's really messed up when you think about it and that is why I just had to come out and Put this information for you all You all deserve to know this You were given the best part of yourself to someone who can't even receive it someone who refuses to even acknowledge it and They feel nothing. They're not even human. I mean for me for me to see someone Given the best of everything that they are to someone who doesn't even appreciate it or reciprocate it That really kills me inside It makes me feel something And that is why I come on you every day and put out these videos For people like that Because I don't want anyone to suffer in silence It's not right. It's not fair. I Mean this is what makes us human and these narcissists. They are not human. They are not real people. I've said that before and Even after everything I've learned I can still stand by that statement and say they are not real people And that's why we need to know whether me don't feel like you're dealing with a real person you could be with them But you still feel alone You still feel like you're missing that's something in your life You feel like you don't even exist even when you're sitting in the same room. And that is no way to live You deserve to be around people who seek you recognize you Validate you Just as you do for them That's just how it works. It has to be this exchange This back and forth where we build each other up. We grow we become better together That's how we made it this far our species Otherwise, we would have died out a long time ago But these narcissists don't seem to understand that And instead of working together with other people they just leech off everyone And that's how they get ahead by stepping on you like a step on a ladder But yeah, that's how you know what you were dealing with If you left with less than you came in with and they left with more than they came in with I Mean That's really the definition of a narcissist. That is the whole point of their disorder That's where they do what they do so that they get that outcome So yeah, that should tell you everything that you need to know All right, that's it for this video. I Hope you enjoyed my little tour around the villa and Hopefully Nala will be joining us very soon. Hope you enjoy the video I hope it was helpful. If it was please give it a thumbs up down below Leave your thoughts in the comments Subscribe share the video For coaching go to my website. It's narks 5 at a code of UK and donations You can go to my PayPal it's paypal.me slash not survivor and any other inquiries. Just send me an email I'm always available. It's coaching at narks of either that could UK All right, thank you all and you will have a great day