 Hello my YouTube family, I really can't wait to get into this one talking about how when the narcissist realizes that you were their best opportunity, yes of all people that they were involved with you were the one you were their right choice all along from all of their sources of supply it was you you were the one that they were meant to be with if they could just act right because we've only got to look back at all of the things they did to you just remember how they treated you all of those hurtful things they said they manipulated you they abused you they did all of these horrible things to you and it's like they didn't even care they didn't care about what you were going through they didn't care about how it made you feel yes they did that to you and they showed no remorse they showed no desire to make it right to make things better for you after everything that they did but you know what despite all of those things they did to you and I'm not saying that you were perfect you're not this perfect angelic character this saint I mean of course we've all done things wrong in our lives and I know myself I'm not perfect I've made mistakes but despite that we were the best opportunity for them we were the right choice all along and they couldn't even see it they couldn't even see that and why were we the right choice because when they had a problem when they had a difficulty a calamity that they were going through we were the ones who were there we were the ones who were by their side we were the ones who cared and a lot of people did not care we're not there for them but we were we were always there we were always there to listen to their problems that our long monologues about nothing no one else wanted to listen to that but we did and it's like in the end what's the thanks that you get they blame you for everything they keep this code of silence with the abuse and in the end they point the finger at you now you are the one to blame even though they couldn't control themselves they were the ones who were abusing you they did all of those things to you and yet in the end they blame you now everything's all your fault now you have to make amends you have to make things right but you were never the cause of it to begin with you weren't responsible for any of that they made their own choices they made their beds so now they have to lay lay in it or at least they should lay in it but as we know they don't do that they look at the mess that they have created and instead of holding themselves accountable they point the finger at you and of course that blinds them to it they can't even see that you were the right choice they can't see that you were the best opportunity for them they can't see that you were the one who would have always been there for them because if they could see that maybe then they would have treated you very differently because they view us as something temporary well like a means to an end it's like they already know from the very beginning all of the things that they're doing to us they're manipulating and brainwashing us keeping under this keeping us under this spell this illusion it's like they already know at some point oh yeah they're gonna wake up eventually they're gonna realize what a monster I am all of the horrible things that I have done to people all of those times where I just went in pretended like I cared about them and then I just left like I never even knew them like that like they never even existed yes they know that at some point you're gonna wake up to that you're gonna realize exactly what they are so of course from the very beginning they view you as something temporary they know that at some point you're gonna wake up you're gonna realize the truth and that's why they're already ready to blame you for everything to put everything on to you to hold you accountable to say that everything is your fault and they're already doing that from the very beginning once the love bombing phase is over there they go going around saying all of these things about you to other people smear in your name and you don't even see it sometimes even when they're doing it right in front of you it's like at the time you don't even notice you don't see what's going on right in front of your eyes but they're doing it they're saying these hurtful things the skies in it as though they care so they're just trying to help you they've got your best interest in mind and they're just seeking someone else's support that's all just to find out how best to deal with you because they made it out to you as well that you were the problem you're the cause of something that went wrong and you don't see it you don't realize what's going on right in front of your eyes they're smearing your name they're saying these horrible things about you they're going behind your back and from that point on it just gets worse and worse they already know exactly what they're gonna do to you they already know how they're gonna play it they know how they're gonna set it up to make you look like the villain to make it look like you're the one who did them wrong when somewhere deep down in their psyche they already know that they're the ones who did that to you they already know that everything and the way that you are now it's just the result of everything that they did and that if they are treated you right if they are treated you differently then it would have had a different outcome yes at some level in the back of their minds i believe that they do realize that but they're in denial they don't want to accept it but sometimes they may come to you and it's like they have this false epiphany they may even give you a fake apology and this is though they've finally realized where they weren't wrong what they did but it only lasts for a short period of time it isn't long until they go back to normal of how they usually see things and where they blame you for everything because their feelings can change from one moment to the next and they see their feelings as facts whatever they feel that becomes the truth so today they might realize that maybe they did make a mistake maybe they did treat you wrong and then tomorrow they go back to how they see it before they go back to seeing you as the villain again and it's crazy and if you've dealt with a narcissist you will know exactly what i'm talking about how they just switch back and forth they go from being the victim to the villain from one day to the next to blaming you for everything and then in another moment it's like they have this epiphany and it's okay maybe i did get this wrong maybe i can do this better this time i will treat you right and maybe for a few hours a few days they do manage to achieve that but it isn't long until they go back to normal until they go back to treating you how they did before because they will always go back to that that is their default mode of operation their default mode of behavior being self-defensive victim playing establishing power and control over you as their victim because that's just the way that the disorder is set up they've got to be in denial they've got to protect and defend their disorder so that it can continue to function and with that being said they're never really going to realize that you were the right choice for them they're never going to realize that you were their best opportunity even though yes i'm not saying that we're perfect i'm not saying we're these perfect people who do everything right all of the time that's not what i'm saying at all and yes we do get things wrong sometimes but even then a narcissist can tell you to do 10 things before they get home you could complete those nine tasks and maybe you forgot to do one thing or you didn't do it correctly you didn't do it in the exact way that they wanted you to do it they will ignore those nine things that you accomplished and they will focus on that one thing that you got wrong i mean you could be the type of person who gets everything right every day of your life for 10 years and then they will still find this one thing this one mistake that you made this one thing that you said wrong and they will hold on to that for the rest of their lives and use it to define you and portray you as this bad person when that's not even who you are and sometimes they just imagine things in their heads because they have to portray you in this way when you're not even like that you're a good person you're kind respectful you're caring loving you have so many positive kind to rest over luck they continue to overlook all of these positive things about you and yet when you do one thing wrong they have to rub it in your face and now you're bad it's just a vicious cycle there's nothing that you can do nothing you do is going to change it you can't even talk about it you can't confront them on it whatever you do you're going to be labeled as the bad person and that's the only way that it's ever going to go they're never going to see it a different way even though it may look like sometimes in the moment their feelings can change if they feel that they have to even then it's just to regain control over you they're always going to go back to seeing you as the problem and they will cause so many problems for you but by the end of it it will look like you're the problem because there's only so much you can deal with there's just you're just one person there's only so much you can do especially when you haven't got any support because they're never there for you but this is just how it is with these narcissistic people this is just what they will do to you this is just how they will treat you this is just how they're going to be and there's never going to be any consistent changes just when you start to think yes things are finally getting better they're finally beginning to understand and then there they go back to the old cycle of behaviors back to treating you the exact same way that they did before and then you just wonder when is this going to end because all of this work all of this effort that i'm putting in to try to help them to change and they just keep going back to how they were before and it just makes you feel completely inadequate worthless like no matter what you do this person is going to remain the exact same way for the rest of their lives it just makes you think what is your purpose if you can't help you can't change this person because that's just the way that the row is going to be i mean yeah of course there are extremely rare cases where maybe they can make consistent changes there's no actual clinical studies or evidence on this there are meant to be some people youtubers who are meant to have made some consistent changes but how will we ever know for sure how will we ever know but there is one thing that i do know in the past they did a lot of horrible things and that means they are not meant to be trusted not unless you see at the very least a few months preferably a few years of consistent adaptations and positive enforcement positive behaviors i mean yeah even i will say that if you do see a few years of improvements consistent positive changes i mean maybe that person has healed has made some recovery from the disorder or who's to say if they ever had the disorder at all maybe they were just narcissistic how will we ever really know i've asked the difficult part as well i mean very few people will ever experience that so how come we even talk about it but i would imagine that must be a very difficult thing to do to accept someone who has healed despite all of the things that they have done in the past and how do you know if they definitely did have the disorder and if they did actually manage the heal because if they did that took a lot of strength it's a very difficult thing to accomplish but yeah over a long period of time they're never going to realize that you are the best opportunity for them 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