 وَأَقُولُ فِي القُرْآنِ مَا جَاءَتْ بِهِ آيَاتُهُ فَهُوَ الْكَارِيمُ الْمُنْزَالُوْ وَأَقُولُ قَالَ اللَّهُ جَلَّ جَلَالُوْهُ وَالْمُصْطَافَ الْهَاديِ وَلَا أَتْ أَوَّالُوْ الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وأشدوا الله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهدي سبيل وأشدوا أن محمدان عبده ورسوله صلى الله عليه وعليه وعلى آره وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد إن شاء الله تعالى انت ليس تفسير I want to talk about the statement of Allah خذ العفوة وأمر بالعرفي وأعرض على الجاهلين الله سبحانه وتعالى he says خذ العفوة What does it mean خذ العفوة? It means إقبل Go towards Muhammad الله سبحانه وتعالى Take with you And come with العفوة forgiveness Don't be a person who doesn't forgive Forgive If you see from the people good manners Go forward with them Deal with them And if you don't Then forgive them The humans are like that Either what you see from them is that which is pleasing You come forward And you benefit And you be with them And if you see sometimes from the people that which is displeasing Then you take the quality of just forgiving them And that's what the ayah is saying خذ العفوة take forgiveness with you يعني أصفح عنه وتجاوز Forgive him And all those bad manners And those سؤال أخلاق And those vulgar things that you see from them الله says in the Qur'an ولا تستوي الحسنة ورسيئة إدفع بلتي هي أحسن فإذا الذي بينك و بينه عداوة كأنه ولي حميم وما يلقاها إلا الذي لصبر وما يلقاها إلا ذو حظ عظيم الله سبحانه وتعالى He tells us سبحانه وتعالى The good and the evil are not the same ولا تستوي الحسنة ورسيئة The good and the evil are not the same إدفع ربل The evil with what بلتي هي أحسن ذلك which is good If something evil is done to Repel it with good Respond to it with good فإذا الذي بينك و بينه عداوة كأنه ولي حميم And if you do that What will happen is The person that you had animosity And an evil with When you deal with them like that They will return good يدفع ربل He done you bad And what you responded to him with The way you dealt with him in response The way you responded to his evil doings Is by being the better one And if you do that فإذا الذي بينك و بينه عداوة The person that you had animosity Or you had a problem with And what will happen is كأنه ولي حميم He become like a very close honorable friend وما يلقاها إلا الذين صبروا وما يلقاها إلا ذو حظ عظيم Patience brothers and sisters عبد الله أبنو زبيل رضي الله تعالى عنهما May Allah be pleased with him And his father is Zubayrim Awam He said أمر النبيه أمر الله نبيه Allah commanded his prophet الله is the one Who commanded the prophet أن يأخد العفوة من أخلاق الناسي That he takes forgiveness from the etiquettes of the people The way that the people deal with him That he's Allah عليه السلام He takes from it what He takes from it يعني An honorable quality And that is He's Allah عليه السلام Forgive them From the people's أخلاق they sometimes In that things which are despicable Which is not nice So what do you do You respond to them in good And that's why ابن عطيه He said وصية من الله عز وجل للنبيه It's an advice from الله تبارك وتعالفه His prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم تعوم جميع أمتي The encompasses the entire أمة Okay وأخضم بجميع مكان من أخلاق Which is to take all good معنى هو إمينز إقبل من الناسي في أخلاقهم وأنقوالهم ومعاشرتهم ما أت عفوا دونتك اللفيد This is what الله تبارك وتعالى He told the prophet عليه الصلاة والسلام And Allah تبارك وتعالى Instructed the prophet عليه الصلاة والسلام Which is that from the people's manners And from the people's dealings If there is things that are not nice That the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم Was commanded to what To respond and to deal with Them in that which is يعني good Which is forgiveness صلى الله عليه وسلم وأمر بالعرفة وأمر بالعرفة What does it mean أي وأمر الناس Come on the people محمد بالعرفة أي بالمعروفة Come on them That which the sharia Accept That which the sharia likes الذي يقره الشرع Come on them That the speech The actions Which the sharia Consider good من قول أو فعل Whether it be speech Or whether it be actions Which the sharia Consider good Consider Come on those The people that It's like what Allah تعالى said وَالتَكُمْ مِنْكُمْ أُمَّهَ يَدُعُونَ إِلَا الْخَيْرِيِ وَيَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِي وَيَنْهُونَ عَنِي المُنْكَرِ وَوْلَائِكَ هُمُ المُفْلِحُونَ Let there be from amongst the ummah Those who call to the good And that prohibit the evil And those are the people who are successful Those are the people who are يعني مفلِحُونَ They are the ones who command the good And they are the ones who prohibit the evil So the prophet here is commanded وَأَمُرُ بِالْعُرْفِي Command the people what That which is good Then Allah says وَأَعْرِضَ عَلِلْ جَاهِلِينَ And turn away from those who are ignorant Turn away from them وَأَعْرِضَ Turn away from who عَمَّنْ جَاهِلَ عَرِيكَ The one who is ignorant with you If he is acting in a dim-witted way Towards you Just turn away from him The way he is dealing with you The way he talks to you The way he speaks about you Everything is just بذي It's filthy Don't step to his level Don't Have يعني The يعني Dignity That Allah gives to the believers Hold yourself accountable It's mentioned that فخرودين الرازيو He said المقصود منه أمر الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم بأن يصبر على سوء أخلاقهم أن مقصود here is that الله تباركه تعالى كماني دمسته صلى الله عليه وسلم to be patient upon the evil characteristics of the people وأن لا يقابل أقوالهم الركيكة and that the prophet does not respond to their speech which is filthy ولا أفعالهم الخسيسة بأمثالها They don't respond to their bad words and their bad actions He doesn't respond to it in the same way No وليس فيه دلالة عالم تناعه من القتال And this of course doesn't show that the prophet should not fight such a people لأنه لا يمتلع يؤمر عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم على الجاهلين مع الأمر بقتال المشركين This ayah does not show he's saying that the prophet should not fight with the disbelievers يعني the jihad فحين إلي الله حاجة إلى التزام النسخ He said this ayah to be used as an abrogation It doesn't show this case إلا أن الظاهرية من المفسرين مشغوفون بتكثير النسخ والمنسوخ من غير ضرورة ولا حاجة So the point I went from the ayah is that the ayah it shows and it indicates that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم was commanded to be patient with these people These people who have سوء وخلاق And that you don't respond to their filthy speech and their actions with something like it You have to يعني turn away from them As Allah said about them عباد الرحمن وإذا خاطبهم When they ignorant people talk to them what did they say? السلامة وصلى الله عليه وسلم بعد المصورة القصص وإذا سمعوا اللغوة أعرضوا عنه وقالوا لنا أعمالونا ولكم أعمالوكم السلام عليكم لنبتغي الجاهلين When they hear وإذا سمعوا اللغوة when they hear idle speech أعرضوا عنه they turn away from it وقالوا لنا and they say this is for us أعمالونا our actions ولكم أعمالوكم for you is your actions سلام عليكم أعمالوكم لنبتغي الجاهلين That's the response they give So now every Safi who talks every dimwitted person who talks you don't go out there and you don't respond to them وليذلك the poet he said إذا نطق السفيها فلا تجيبه فخيروا من إجابة يسخوطوا If the dimwitted one talks don't respond to him don't respond to him What is better is that you don't respond to him in your silent okay another poet he said وَلَوْ كُلْكِلْ بِنَعَوَ أَلْقَمْتُمْ حَجَلًا لَأَصْبَحَ سَخْرُ مِتْقَالِمْ بِدِيْنَارِيْ If every dog that barked you threw a rock at it the value of the rock will go up the value of the rock will go up So if this one shouts and then another one shouts and then another one shouts and then another one shouts and every single person you respond to them that's not how it is you have to turn away from the evil ones وإذا خاطوهم الجاهلون قالوا سلامة سلامة ها وإذا سمعوا اللغوة أعرضوا عنه وقالوا لنا أعمانونا ولكم عمالوكم سلام عليكم لنبتغي الجاهلين That's the response And these are righteous people The عباد الرحمن This is their responses And this is what they say And that's what Allah is saying to us here خذي العفوة وأمر بالعرفي وعرض عن الجاهلين خذي العفوة Take with you Awful forgiveness And anyone who says anything says to you just forgive them خذي العفوة وأمر بالعرفي And command the people we could Command the people was in the Deen of Allah Don't sugarcoat What's in the Deen of Allah Say it This is the Deen of Allah Like the one who loves it Love it And the one who hates it Hate it And then what did Allah say وأعرض عن الجاهلين Turn away from the ignorant ones The one who is Safi Who doesn't know Who is ignorant Just turn away from him The one who has bad Akhlaq turn away from him Don't steep to his level Don't what Steep to his level عبد الاباس رضي الله تعالى عنهم He mentions He says قديم عريينة ابن حسن ابن حديفة He came To his what His ابن أخيه His name was الحربن قيسن He came to him He stayed with him وكان من النفر الذين يدينهم عمر وكان القراء وأصحاب مجالس عمر ومشاورتي عمر There was a group of people Who used to be in his يعني Inesaku And they were the The scholars The scholars It doesn't matter Whether they were young or old It doesn't matter كهولا كانوا أو شبانا Whether they were young أو whether they were old It didn't matter عمر رضي الله عنه The person who had knowledge Was in his Inesaku He used to consult those people So عريينة Who came يعني عريينة ابن حسن ابن حديفة Who came to his يعني ابن أخيه His nephew الحربن قيسن He said حربن الحربن قيسن I need a favor from you ها هلك وجهن عند هذا الأمن Do you have يعني The ability To take me to عمر من خباب فاستأذل لي عليه Ask permission So I can go into him And I want to talk to him سأل حربن قيسن He want any sort of permission for him فعريينة ابن حسن ابن حديفة He want any Ask permission for him فأذن له عمر عمر سلوك Bring him in يعني If he wants to talk to me He can come in فلما دخل عليه When عريينة ابن حسن Entered on to عمر رضي الله عنه He said to him شتيت ويبن خطاب He said to him عمر يبن خطاب فوالله ما تعطين الجزل ولا تحكم بيننا بالعدلي He says You don't give us the الجزل يعني الجزل يعني means العطايا الكثيرة You don't give us a lot You stingy ولا تحكم بيننا بالعدلي And you don't judge us With justice You don't عمر That's what he said فا غاضي با عمر عمر became angry حتى هم أن يُقع به عمر was so angry that he wanted to take a grab him and do something to him فقال له الحرب نُقيس and said to him يا أمير المؤمنين Oh the leader of the believers إن الله تعالى قال لنبيه صلى الله عليه وسلم الله سبحانه وتعالى he set to his prophet خذ العفوة Take forgiveness وأمر بالعرفي Come on the good وارض عن الجاهلين and turn away from the ignorant ones وإن هذا من الجاهلين and this one is from the ignorant ones والله ما جاوزها عمر وحين تلاها عليه وكان وقافا عندك كتاب الله عنزل الله عمر رضي الله عنو as soon as he had the I recited he didn't go forward he didn't move forward and do anything and look at the narration mentions وكان وقافا عندك كتاب الله عمر was one who used to يعني stand at the boundaries of الله تعالى like that the Quran could stop him عمر رضي الله تعالى what did that occur brothers and sisters there are three things that you can take from the ayah and these are three powerful points that summarizes the way that a Muslim carries himself the number first one is خد العفوة be a person who forgives free your heart from grudges and things towards people forgive them الله تعالى commanded us that يعني don't let a person live in your heart heart rent free يعني when you you're letting someone live in your heart without paying rent يعني you're the one who's preoccupied all day about this person and they just out there doing having fun enjoying themselves and you are here just always take it out of your heart خد العفوة forgive forget that's number one and it's a great quality to have because remember brothers and sisters forgiven others is a sign that you want Allah to forgive you all of us we do some sins right don't we do mistakes and shortcomings we do so we want Allah to forgive us so we forgive others number two but by the way brothers before I go into the second one it doesn't mean that person you forgive you have to have relationship with them No No you don't have to you can forgive someone but say I don't want to have a relationship I don't want to forgive you for what's happened in the past I forgive you but relationship No I'm preoccupied I'm busy I've got other things I need to preoccupy myself with but I do forgive you I have nothing against you your ملقيمة nothing about me will come to you Insha'Allah I forgive you Okay Forgiveness is important but having a relationship with some people maybe it's not the healthiest thing because it will come to another problem especially maybe you go your separate ways you do your thing they do their thing that's why in Islam the concept of divorce is allowed when two people can't get along divorce separate but people forgive one another خذ العفوة وَأَمُرْ بِالْعُرْفِ وَأَنْ كَمَانْدْ وَانَنَذَا جُدْ let come so forgiveness is the first quality the second is command in the people the good especially when you're in a da'wah brother and sisters leave off personal grudges that you have all day with people just let that go don't have any grudge with anybody but be yourself don't make anything personal this is about personal and the second one is which is command the people the good call to the deen of Allah العرف here is that which the shari'a consented to that which the shari'a is for that's what you call the people to the عرف is what the shari'a set what the shari'a allowed as Allah mentioned in the ayah وَالتَكُمْ مِنْكُمْ أُمَّتُنْ يَدعُونَ إِلَ الْخَيْرِ وَيَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهُونَ عَنِ الْمُنْكرِ أما كنتم تأمرون بالمعروف وَتَنْهُونَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ وَتُؤْمِنُونَ بِالْلَّهِ that you call to the good and you prohibit the evil so if الأمر بالمعروف الأمر بالمعروف and here it says what عرف عرف is the same thing the third quality brothers and sisters that we take from this verse is what you come with the quality of staying away from conflicts and indulging with ignorant people okay وَأَعْرُضَ عَنِ الْجَهِلِينَ turn away from the ignorant people some people brothers and sisters the truth of the matter is is they're like the pig and the pig and why am I resembling them to the pig I'm doing a tashbi from this perspective Insha'Allah pay attention to it which is that the pig he loves to scuffle in the mud so if someone goes to the pig and he scuffles in the mud even if you beat the pig in a wrestling match you go on top of them and you win the pig enjoyed that whole entire ride he loved it he liked what was happening what was taking place you on the other side you on the other hand you've scuffled in mud you're clothed dirty you feel sick but he loved the whole entire from the beginning to the end he loved it brothers and sisters let's say you have white though might be a better example to give you're wearing a white though and you're the best wrestler there is out there let's say you're the best wrestler there is out there and you have somebody important to go to and a little kid comes up to you and says I want to wrestle with you whose hands are dirty he's just he's got mud on him and he said I want to wrestle with you does it mean that you can't wrestle when you say look I don't want to wrestle I don't want to wrestle with you the reasons because I'm going to lose more than you are than you I've got more to lose here so the person should learn this quality of turning away from the ignorant people you can't you can't jump on every single person you can't so that's what Allah told us a quality which is turn away from the ignorant ones and don't entertain them all the time or else 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