 Hi, Shoes7, I'm back and I have answers to your questions. Okay, y'all have been asking me questions on my video about, ask me a question, okay? So I'm gonna go ahead and answer about five or six of them if I can, okay? So the first question that I got, I'm not gonna tell who's asked the questions. Y'all can go look in the comments on that video, I'll link it below. If you, first question, if you could give one message or statement to men everywhere, what would it be? If I could say anything or message men in general, I would say thank you to all the men who understand their purpose on the planet and thank you for being men and providing and protecting for women. And I would say thank you so much for being the great men that you are, okay? But that doesn't go for all male, look, this is a man. So there's a difference. So this is in general kind of being facetious, but it does say men, it doesn't say male or boys or anything like that. So to males in general, I really wouldn't say anything to a whole group of people in general, but I would say to the real men out there, thank you. Okay, number two, question that I chose out of all of it. How do you tell a man you are dating that you are not gonna have sex outside the relationship without sounding like a tease? Okay, so how do you tell a man you're not having sex unless you're in a committed relationship and still date and have a good time? Well, I did that with my husband, so I could tell you from personal experience. When I first started dating my husband, I was young, of course, but see, I had an advantage. So a lot of times women don't have the same advantage. I was young, I was single, I didn't have any kids, I didn't have any baggage. I was free, I was just, whew. So I could tell someone that and be taken more seriously. Plus, you know, I was hot, I was hot, okay? So when I told my husband when I was dating, I don't have sex outside relationships. If you wanna have sex with me, we're gonna need the title of couple, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever, whatever. And then I went on to proceed to say, well, and if I date a man, he has to pay all my bills, especially if he's older than me, you know? I just went out, I just went for it all at one time. I'm just like, and what you gonna do, you know? Because at that point, I didn't have to date. I had, you know, I had money, I had a career. I didn't have to worry about money, but if I'm going to spend my precious time with a man, they're gonna have to compensate, you know what I'm saying? So I was just like, put it all out on the table, I have options, many. So it's kind of like playing cards and gambling. When you have a lot of money, you know, you're not afraid to lose. So it's not about money. Like when you have a lot of options, you're not afraid to lose. So I just put it out on the table. I'm like, look, I don't have sex outside relationships. If you're gonna be my man, you need to pay all my bills, point blank, okay? So that's what I did. I put everything out on the table and I said it with confidence. But I would say in this day and age, I would say at my current age, if I had to start over, I would say, well, I don't really, I don't have sex outside of committed relationships. I'm too old for that. I'm at the point in my life where I want a real man that knows the value of a woman and that's just it. I don't mind if you want to go and have one night stands with other women while we date. So you can get to know me because I am the prize and I really don't been to sexual desire that much when I'm not committed in a relationship because the man really doesn't turn me on unless he commits. So the sex would be horrible for me anyway. I would say no man could really arouse me unless I knew that he was there for me for the right reason. They make dildos these days, better than any type of man that's out there. They have special tools that pleasure women 10 times better than any man could. So what I'm really looking for is a committed relationship and then the sex would be enjoyable to me. But other than that, I wouldn't really enjoy sex with you unless I'm committed to you because women's bodies are different and what turns them on and pleasures them. So there you have it. That's what I would say, okay. Next question, how to not feel guilty about working. Oh, I'm sorry, I read it wrong. Okay, so I had two questions like this and I don't know if they were for them from the same person. Okay, so this lady had a baby and she took off, you know, her maternity leave and now she doesn't want to go back to work because she has a child and she doesn't want to put the child in daycare. She wants to stay home and raise her baby because the baby is still a newborn, it's still little. And like when you work, you know, your maternity leave isn't that long, like six weeks for some people. And so she's feeling guilty about not going back to work and letting her husband handle everything. You shouldn't feel guilty at all. You just brought life into the world. If you don't want to go back to work, don't go back to work, okay. He's a man he's supposed to provide and protect for his family. If you feel guilty about making him be a man, then maybe you should have not married him because that is what, you know, usually happens when men marry a woman, get her pregnant and, you know, start a family. He's the head of the household. Let him be the breadwinner. Don't put your child in daycare and have to sit there at work worrying about, you know, your child getting taken care of who you probably won't see, but maybe one or two hours a day because when you get home from work, you got to clean, cook, if you do that. And then the baby's probably gonna be sleep most of this time. Anyway, so what you need to do is figure out a way to either downsize some of your bills to ease his workload, give up something or you need to maybe find an online job at home. If that's what you really want to do, like if you really want to contribute, you need to find some kind of online job at home or, you know, you should, you know, like I said, downsize or sell something or, you know, there's lots of jobs online for women that can work from home. If you don't want to do that and you just want to be the parent and the mother and the housewife without feeling the guilt, then just don't feel it, you know? I mean, it's, after a while, you won't feel it anyway. So what's the difference? If it were me and I felt guilt about it, I would, you know, try to contribute in some way. You know, be it helping out, you know, by downsizing something, giving up something, switching to a different, you know, phone company or cutting off cable or just downsize something so that the load is not so easy. You're gonna have to sacrifice if you feel guilt. Most women, they wouldn't feel really guilty about that because that's the man's job, okay? But like I said, just downsize, okay? Most people live above their means and they don't need half the stuff they have. So move into a smaller place, cut the cable, get a cheaper phone bill, get a boost mobile, I don't know, but that's what you're gonna have to do because you feel guilty. Or you can encourage your man to get a better job, go back to school at night or get a second job. Whichever one is gonna work out the best for your family, that's what you need to go for, okay? Okay, so the next question is actually towards me. Like what was my life like before I was married, like as a young woman, what was my life like? Like when I was still living at home or, you know, just getting out of my parents' house or, you know, when I was young and free and dating and stuff like that before I got married? Y'all don't wanna hear this. I'm gonna do it real quick. I'm just gonna do the real quick version. My sister basically taught me the game, okay? She's an older sister. She dated athletes, married an athlete. You know, she was all about the money, okay? So I kind of fall in her footsteps. I would hang out with her. We would go out together. Um, always in the VIP section of the club, we always, you know, met celebrities, athletes and stuff like that. You know, always at the parties and stuff like that. We were like, you know, out there as far as being the women that could walk past the long line in the club and get in free. We never bought drinks. We were just like the pretty women, you know, in the club that everybody wants to be seen with. I don't know. Now, I was not a groupie, but she was, okay? I'm not gonna say I was a groupie because I wasn't. I was, actually, I was too arrogant to be a groupie. Like, if that sounds crazy, I was too arrogant because as y'all know, I can be a little arrogant. I was too arrogant to actually be a groupie, but she wasn't. She loved the groupie life. I was educated. I was like that educated snarl. Like, you know, I was in school. I worked, you know. So I was like, you know, I'm too good to be a groupie. But I'll hang out with you and you can buy me drinks, but you can go to her over there when you're ready to go home and just buy me drinks while I'm here. I gotta go school in the morning, okay? So that's what my life was like. I was an educated snob who hung out with groupies, basically, which is a good position because they never see you go home with the guy, but the guy likes you. So there's always that guy that's watching. There's always that guy that's watching, right? He never sees you leave with an athlete or a famous person, but he sees that you get their attention. So he sees your value. So ladies keep that in mind. And then, you know, when I finished school, when I graduated or whatever, I was working in my field and that's when I met my husband. I was on my way to work and I stopped off because my friend worked at this restaurant bar. She was the bartender. I stopped off to talk to her and have a drink before I went to work because, yes, I had it like that. I could drink before I went to work because I worked at night sometimes. And there was nobody there but me and one other person. So it was cool, you know. And my husband approaches me. He's like, hey, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, you know. And I really wasn't impressed at first. And, you know, I was like, I was so rude to him, you know. I was like, I didn't even like him at first. You know, I was just so rude. I was just like, but he was practically begging for my attention. He bought me a drink. I was trying to get rid of him. It's like, I asked every question in the book to get rid of a man, you know. What kind of car do you drive? What do you do for a living? How much money do you make? I asked those three questions and he answered them all like, bam, bam, bam. Show me his car, Keisha. I could see the car from outside the window. I was like, oh man, he's not getting a hint or a clue but he got a nice car and he got money. So, maybe this is the one that's the one I manifested. I don't know because I was like manifesting, oh, I need a rich man to take care of me for the rest of my life. And I don't want to have to, you know, work. So, all of a sudden I'm sitting here getting ready to go to work and all of a sudden this man comes and answers every rude question I ask, like, what's next? Like, next challenge, that was no challenge, okay? So, he had a nice car, a Mercedes convertible on his own company, you know, had money, just bam. You know, I'm like, okay, what's next? So, he was like, well, when you want to go out with me, I'm like, I don't really know you. He gave me his cell phone. He said, here, here's my phone. Go through it, look through it, call 911 if you think I'm going to be creepier to do some crazy to you, okay? I just want you to feel safe. When a man gives you his phone, that's it, it's over. You know that he won't you forever. So, that was how I met my husband, yeah, okay. But I did date like one athlete and I did go out with a few famous people a few times, but I was kind of in a semi-relationship so it wasn't really like a groupie situation, but I didn't really value their lifestyle because I'm more traditional. I would like the, I wanted the home and the suburbs, I wanted a man that came home every day from work for dinner. I wanted the kids, the pool, the dogs, that's the kind of life I wanted. I didn't want to be basketball wise. I didn't want to be a loving hip hop. And this is what I wanted to be exactly what I am. So that's what my life was like before I started being a wife, okay? I was a very smart, observant person who said what she wanted, knew what she wanted. That is the most important thing, to know what you want and not be afraid to ask for it and manifest what you want in life. Most women are afraid to ask for what they want, which is why they end up with the lives they have. So, that's just my advice, okay. So, last question I'm gonna answer, long distance relationships. What do you think about long distance relationships and are there any apps to catch men cheating on their phone, like find a phone or whatever? Okay, I don't believe in long distance relationships. Sorry I was cut off, but like I said, I don't really like long distance relationships as far as me having a feeling that they're gonna work out. Because it's too complicated, there's too many obstacles in the way already on top of obstacles that are gonna be in the way in a regular relationship. And if you're already worrying about him cheating on you and you need apps on his phone to figure it out, then that's your red flag that long distance is not gonna work for you, okay. Most guys that want a long distance relationship want to cheat. That means they want a woman that lives so far away that they can pretty much not have to change their habits from being single into being in a relationship. So whenever they feel like they want that girlfriend or that woman to just feel like they have a companion, they'll call the long distance girlfriend or have her come visit or go visit her, but they're not going to have a committed relationship in the same town that they're in because they don't want to commit fully and they know if there's distance, there's wiggle room, there's freedom, okay. So when I suggest, if you wanna make it work, figure out a way to live in the same town and see if anything changes. If you suggest, hey, I'm gonna move there, see how he starts acting, like if he really wants you to move there, if he gets excited that you're gonna move there. If he doesn't get excited, then you know that you're just that girl that he's using to have this relationship feeling while he still plays on the side. If he doesn't get excited that you're gonna move there. It doesn't even have to be true. Just lie to him and see what he said. Just be like, y'all, I'm getting ready to move there. I've already made arrangements. It's a surprise, surprise. And if he acts crazy like, oh my God, what? Why didn't you tell me? If he gets more offended and upset than excited and like he's gonna burst into tears of happiness, then you know who you are and that it's not gonna work, okay. So this is why I always tell people to call men's bluffs. Always call bluffs. I always call bluffs that way. Like it's mentalism. You gotta play mental games with men because they're too logical to understand a woman's complex game, okay. They'll try, they'll listen to people like me talk on videos but I don't tell all the secrets. But they'll try but you have to trick men. You have to lie to men. You have to call their bluff. You have to test them, okay. And this is what makes a man a man, the test of a woman. If he can pass your test to prove to you that he's a man, then great if he doesn't seek to pass your test, if he's not trying to please you in any way and he's not trying to get your love and affections and not trying to do all this, this and that. And he's not trying to prove himself as a man to you, which means he doesn't want to be a man to you. Do you understand, okay. So thank you guys so much for the questions. I guess I can answer one more question that I saw in the comments that was kinda like on the borderline. Someone asked me how much does a man in America need to make to be deemed as financially stable in good boyfriend or husband material? Well that depends on your woman or the type of woman that you can get, okay. If you want a certain type of woman, you're gonna have to make a certain amount of money. If you want a normal regular woman, then you don't have to make as much money, okay. Now the problem these days is normal regular women feel like that they are, you know, this great woman that deserves the same thing as, you know, a supermodel. And I think I want up, okay. And that's why I got it because I know what I wanted. I went for it and I wasn't afraid to ask for it. Somebody out there is gonna give it to you. Somebody out there gave it to me. So that's all I'm saying. I know all the men will troll in the comments and say, hey, you don't look that good. How could you find a man to take care of you? It was easy, okay. I just asked for what I wanted and I received, okay. Some people get lucky, I guess. Some people just have that natural ability to track what they want to them. Who knows? But the amount of money that I would be comfortable with like a person on my level with my thinking, the amount of money that I would be happy with would have to be six figures. I mean, it has to be six figures because I want the house and the suburbs. I want the car, I want kids. I want to go eat out. I want to go on vacation. So it has to be six figures, okay. That's just the lifestyle that, you know, is provided when you make six figures. And it can be a medium to, you know, it can even be a low six figures because, you know, you can move to a certain area that doesn't cost a lot to live. You move to the country, I don't know. To the suburbs outside of the major city or rent is cheaper, I don't know. But it has to be in the six figures. Anything below six figures is to me, honestly, in a grown man that is ready to marry and have kids, it's going to be a struggle because of my standards and my taste, okay. And I might not be for all women. Some women might just want you to make 65K. 65K is good for a lot of women. But for me, I know I need more. I mean, because I won't be happy. And I'm just being honest. I would be like, I'm ready to upgrade. You need to make more money, blah, blah, blah, blah. I know myself, so I know what I want and what's going to work for me. I'm not ashamed and not embarrassed to admit it, okay. A lot of women walk around ashamed and embarrassed and feel guilty about wanting what they want. And this is the problem. That's why they're upset and angry all the time and relationships. And when they get out of these relationships, they still hold on to that anger and that baggage and stuff like that. Say what you want and don't settle for less. That is my advice. Men, if you're trying to attain a woman who's a 10 and you don't make above six figures, that's probably gonna be hard to do. The type of women that you pass up to get to the woman that doesn't want you or because you don't make enough money are the ones you chase. If you would stop passing the woman up that actually want you, you might get somewhere. And that's kind of my advice to some of these guys out here. Like, I don't hate guys. I know I make my little funny MGTOW videos, but that's just sad tire to me. That's like fun and games. You know, I don't really feel like that about me. Like my husband is a good guy. He provides and supports his family. That's what men are supposed to do, you know? He loves it. Makes him proud to feel like he can actually let his wife stay home and raise his kids instead of throwing him in a daycare for eight hours a day while his wife goes and works for another man. He feels proud that he can, you know, have a house built for his family that's huge and, you know, have a nice car for his wife and for his kids to travel in, to and from school and, you know, run errands and stuff. He feels good about that. Makes him feel like, I mean, it makes him feel like he's accomplished, okay? And plus he has things to share, you know, holidays, vacations, someone to share it with. You know what I mean? So it makes him feel proud, okay? Now he's not the type of man who's only thinking about getting sex because that's easy, you know? Once you get, once you have money, once you can have any woman you want, once you've had all that, it's not that flashy to you. It's not that, oh my God, sex, sex, it's not like that. That's for men who barely get it. They're always excited about it because it's not very common for them. But when a man can get all that in your way and he's like, okay, I'm ready to settle down. It's not my real life. Then that's when they want to get married. That's when they want to have children. That's when they want to take care of a woman. That's when they want to show the world, you know, look what I can do. I'm a boss, man. I can buy my wife a car, have her house built, send my kids to the nicest schools. Their college is paid for. I don't have any debt. There's a pool in my backyard and go, bam, bam, bam. That's what a real man wants to aspire to, okay? They don't want to say, oh, I live alone in my condo. I can buy whatever I want. I can sleep with whoever I want because that's gonna get old after a while because most famous people can do that but they end up getting married anyway because it gets boring and dull after it becomes normal, okay? So if you're a guy that's like, oh, I don't want to get married because I can't do this and this and that, you know, that's because that's not normal to you and you can't get it on a regular basis. So it's still a novelty to you. But once that novelty wears off and you really want to get serious about, you know, a family and a life and, you know, leaving something to your legacy, leaving something to your kids' wealth, passing on, you know, that DNA to the next generation and having your, you know, seed survive and live on to the new millennium, I don't know. Then yeah, you get serious, all right? Most guys are always inspired, my family and a woman to do better. All right, so I'm gonna see y'all on my next video. If y'all have any more questions, I might do another question and answer video next month. So watch out for that and I'll see y'all later, bye.