 say what's wrong. Are you a PhD? I like to think that I have my stuff together. I have a great body. I just turned 30. I don't have any children. Um I work as a graduate assessor and I'm also a high school English teacher. Okay. And I am single. I was listening to the other day when you were talking about Tracy Ellis Ross and I was a little like taken back at some of the things you said. So, I was trying to understand like even today you were saying like a woman shouldn't be her first focus should be on a man and I just feel like I fostered around wait for a man to do it like I'm never gonna grow or be a better person for that man. Um even looking at statistics like the black man because I want a black man incarcerated. Hold on now. I'm gonna stop right here. Oh, whoa, whoa, whoa. Hold on. This is a conversation. I'm gonna shut this shit down right here. 51% of black men are single and childless. 64% are in the middle class. What you just said is an outright lie that has been disproven, debunked for decades and you're still talking about it. Black demographics dot com black statistics for black people by black people even debunks this. So please ma'am stop repeating that lie. I might have to fact check but those fact check it all you want to I talk that's okay. I say this because I'm a black man and when I hear black women repeat this lie. It bothers me because you're gonna give me 51% are single and childless. Do you believe that or not? I'm gonna take you for your word. I'm asking you do you believe it? Um I believe something else until you told me that that was what percentage of black men okay please turn off YouTube in the background and that's fine but I need if we're gonna have a conversation it has to be rooted in facts because you ladies love the facts that make you look good and the ones you're saying talk about black men are in jail and down low and all those kinds of stuff ma'am that's an old trope that's been around since the 80s in daytime TV Oprah Sally Jesse Raphael Donahue made millions and billions off of destroying black men and when I hear black women going right along educated black women going right along with this when all it takes is a simple Google search and you can find black demographics dot com just like the previous caller that I had to shut down when I said according to the CDC black men make the most involved active fathers and no no black men can be shit so I mean let's move so but the fact is 51% are single and childless and 64% are in the middle class so now what's the issue I mean I guess I have to explore those things I guess the issue now is you me so what's my issue well what do you do you want to be married I do possibly but I'm happily single as well so happily sing what does that mean it means that if I never had the opportunity or meet the right person I will be okay with that why would you never have the opportunity if I just didn't meet the right person that like made me feel special and love and court and treat me right didn't cheat all that stuff so another way I got to use me okay well if you first I asked you if you said you never had the opportunity and I said why wouldn't you have the opportunity you just get right on over there to get into the finding the right person why wouldn't you have the opportunity to get married can you get married are you legally single I am can you enter into a contract with the man in the state can you can you sign a marriage license I can I can then you have the opportunity to get married just like any of us but I'm not going to settle excuse me over my stand okay all right let's get into it since you want to smoke I got it for you I thought I thought I'm fine dress size seven how much did you wait the last time you weighed yourself one said to me I also have a 25 inch waist so far this is all don't know first off man first off here's one is one simple I heard I need to know there's one simple no because that's all man one simple rule one simple rule of my show is I don't care who yes you cannot do that it will go completely off the rails because that is just disrespectful I agree but disrespectful excuse me that's that you you you are disrespectful sometimes but I can be the other man I can tell you one thing as a host it's not disrespectful to cut you off because I am running a show for 4500 people I don't know you I'm trying to do 10 different things so this is my business I'm running a show if you consider me having standards and a systematic way I handle a show disrespectful that's on you because I have plenty of women who love my show and watch it every day but you seem to have a problem with the things I say and that's your right but don't call it disrespect because you don't like it. No I think the way you response in times to people not cutting people off on your show that you're hosting is disrespectful but what I was going to say is that your body standards and my body standards are what the American Medical Association the American Medical Association I'm a professional image consultant so your your opinions and you're fine you can have those but I go by excuse me as an image professor excuse me and I'll see that you go with this shit again. I told you don't do this. See I could care less if you disagree many black men many black women disagree with truth and facts all day long many black women will say they're thick when they're obese 80% of black women are overweight is that true or false I haven't heard that statistic but it's probably true but I know that I have a 25 inch waist and I know so you're five foot five so you're five foot five right. I don't have a problem. Excuse me ma'am excuse me ma'am I don't care about your pictures I need you to listen to some basic facts. In mammals is it typical for the female of the species to weigh more than the male. No but I don't like all right ma'am then I need you to go so a man who's five foot five how much should a man healthy weight five foot five way. I'm not sure however I wouldn't date how much would a man if five foot five healthy weight way give me a ballpark guess probably what they should weigh according to the BMA BMI chart or what they should weigh according to what I find attractive because what you find attractive is irrelevant. I am what you find attractive is irrelevant. I mean just walking through society. Walking through through society of being just answer the question man and can you answer the question ma'am could you answer the question. I think Bernie Bernie's Burgos I asked you a five foot five man I asked you a five foot overweight. All right I've told you several times. You're not going to talk over me so we'll try this one more time and if you're gonna continue to do this I'm going to bid you a good night. I asked you to answer the question and you just keep on saying what you want to say. I just asked you to be polite ma'am. I'm trying to be polite to you. Could you please answer the question. Just give me a ballpark. How much of a five foot five man way. I was actually just looking at this chart recently and I believe it's between 175 and 195. No ma'am no ma'am it's not. The average American man in 1960 was five foot nine and three quarters five foot ten and he weighed 165 pounds. The average American female at the same time was five foot four one hundred and twenty pounds. Fast forward 55 years later the average American man was still five foot ten and his weight had ballooned up from 165 to a whopping 168. He gained three pounds in 55 years yet the average American woman went from 120 to 160 a 40 pound differential. There should roughly be a 40 to 45 pound differential between men and women. The average height of a black woman average weight of a black woman in this country five foot four one eighty seven eighty percent of you will overweight and you think because you have a nice snatched waist and a big ass and you like where the fat landed that that changes changes the way the body is set up. You're overweight for your for your height and bottom line you're way more than a man. I don't weigh more than the man I date a man if a man was your height. If a man was your height you would weigh more than he does you weigh more than the average American male who's five foot ten. Did you not hear me say that the average man is five foot ten one sixty eight. You weigh more than the average man in this country and the average man in this country is an average man in this country. You can have all your defiant attitude and not like it and challenge the BMI and the racial disparity whatever whatever doesn't matter you're overweight for your height. I am and I'm fine as hell. Well good good knock knock it off you could be as fine as hell and the problem you had with me saying Tracy Ellis Ross could not get a high value man and she's happily being single is what. Oh do you consider Tracy Ellis Ross overweight. It's her being her but I ask you see the proper thing to do ma'am is before you ask a question you answer the question that's been asked. You don't answer a question why asking another with that's rude you know that's disrespectful. You know you should know how to do it better than I definitely do well but you're not making a very good showing ma'am because you're being very rude disrespectful as far as communication goes you've done this many times. I've had to mute you twice. I'm a PhD the question was answered the question at this point I don't remember the question right. So you have a degree in communication but you can't keep up with the communication. I mean it's a lot going on there's actually I'm right here I'm I'm I'm on task. You're the one that said have your degree in communication. I did so show your work. I asked a question what's the answer to the question I asked I asked you the question again. All right right right. So in other words you are being disrespectful because you're not even paying attention to the person who's hosting the show and the question I'm asking you want to say what you want to say so much you basically said fuck you and your question. I'm gonna say what I want. All right so you're happily single congratulations. Yeah what else I said thank you. So what else would you like us to know. I mean I believe that's it. You're held again. For me you say you're how old again. I'm 30 I just turned 30 this year. All right 30 years old happily single five foot five one hundred and seventy pounds 25 inch waist and all these other things but why if you say you're happily single but you'd be open to a relationship which do you want. I'm so right now I decided because I was dating someone and I didn't I got to make it short please. Ma'am the forty seven hundred people can you please kind of shorten it down so we can go back and forth which one would you like which one do you want do you want to stay single would you like to be in a relationship or marry. Right now I'm focusing on me for a while but after that yeah someday someday in a year maybe in a year I'll consider like dating and eating someone getting married. But have you ever been have you ever been engaged. I'm not okay. Men women control access to sex would you agree or disagree. I agree men control access to relationship or marriage would you agree or disagree. I agree. So just because one day you may decide you want to do it do you think it could happen just because you may decide you want to if I meet the right person yes. No you don't control that we do. See you ladies always talk about one day in the future if I decide I want to you don't control that men do. That's what the whole Tracy Ellis Ross is talking about she's open you can be open all you want to no one wants to pick you 25 inch waist and all. I mean you've never been engaged to this point right. I haven't dated anyone in 8 I haven't been in a relationship in 8 years exactly. Thank you for proving my point. I've been focused on me exactly I could not I could not dream you up ma'am you are exact you are the person I made this show about. You have no relation you it's difficult for even a whole day civil conversation with the man who challenges you. So yes you haven't had a relationship in 8 years because you're unfit for one. But it's by choice I have people of course yes no no they pursue you for sex. Okay they didn't pursue you to be married they did not pursue you for being a wife like that should all. Okay the guys remember the laughter is a tell is getting more pronounced the deeper the truths get because it's uncomfortable now. Okay I'm talking to the audience who can see what's going on but you think you you you think you should. I do good. And one day unfortunately but unfortunately the kind of man that you would want the special kind of guy doesn't seem to share your opinion if he did he'll be trying to find you. He would have waived you by now not after you're not when you're in your because your youth is what men want your youth your your fertility your wound we don't want you when you're all past the wall. And everything else so you're sell by date has already happened but you were not fit for it and that's fine. And women like you and Tracy Ellis Ross can say what you want but just like her you sound delusional. I'm all that 30. No you're first of no you're you're you're okay you're you're at the wall at 30 but past 35 you enter what high risk pregnancy. You know that okay so your eggs are old. And as somebody who has not had a relationship in eight years you're wholly unfit your relationship muscles have actually this back and forth right here proves that you really don't even know how to hold is even a I mean even a civil conversation you may have to be able to have sex. But a relationship. No. So it's not as though you could just turn this shit on and off when you choose to so being happily single you don't have any choice but to be single and be happy with it because you don't have a choice to not be. Oh okay. Yeah. That's why you're not cackling laughing as much because the truth is that in you don't have any options in this. I'm a PhD. I got a communication degree. Yeah all that shit has not helped you one bit.