 Guys, it's David here again, and this video is about why you still feel bad even though you're doing all this inner work So a common complaint is that even after you do all your meditation You do journaling, you know you Can you can even be other things it can be like just you know, you take care of yourself you you You're actively trying to Improve the way you feel in life, right? Just inside you're trying to get rid of negativity You're trying to get rid of the negative emotions. Okay, and you're trying to improve how you feel Which is a good thing to do People still complain that it's not working Okay, I still feel like shit sometimes Okay And this can be really really disheartening this can really sort of make you want to just Pack it in and give up and just revert back to whatever you were doing beforehand, but There is a Sort of a secret about this There's a secret about this and really it is It's I can see why it's a secret because It's a tough it's a hard pill to swallow and the truth of it is that It's still a subtle attempt to get rid of or control Feelings that you have Okay, so all the work we do is An attempt to manipulate how we feel Okay, now. I'm not I'm not putting anyone down for doing in your work or self-development work or Psychotherapy or psychology or whatever it is you want to call it whatever it is you do to improve your state of mind Or how you feel? Okay, that's a good thing but Under needed sometimes there can be this assumption or this attempt to Make the bad feelings go away and To feel good. Okay, so you can see there. It's a subtle thing, right? It's a subtle thing where we say negative feelings. You're not welcome here anymore, right? and the issue with that is Really what you're saying to that voice inside that feels hurt You're saying shut up Go somewhere else, right? We don't want to hear it here It's kind of like if you think of the inner child, right? Maybe maybe the inner child feels like it was spoken to you like that Maybe years ago. That's just an example, right? But it's how you talk to your your feelings Do you welcome them is the thing and this is this is not easy because Obviously, we're all hardwired to want to feel good and we deserve to feel good and we should feel good, right? But most of us right most of us have because it's a crazy world we live in it's a crazy place It's a tough place to live We all have a certain level of healing that needs to take place, right? And in order to do that you can get to that place of feeling good and feeling like yourself Feeling at ease in yourself and feeling natural in yourself But in order to do that you have to go through a period of healing or of letting go and Of course first there's the process of just getting in touch with those feelings Okay confronting them and not running away from them but That's the thing you have to you have to allow them to be what they are and It requires infinite patience to do that be hugely patient with yourself The text the book of course of miracles it says To have Immediate results requires infinite patience only infinite patience brings immediate results So as soon as you say to yourself when you have these negative feelings You're welcome here, and I don't I don't care how long this takes But I'm going to feel this and I'm going to be with this and And I'm going to make it a priority in my life to listen to this To what my feelings are saying to me right now When you make that a priority and you say I'm going to sit with this as long as it takes Almost instantaneously you start to feel better. Okay. It's a funny thing. It requires infinite patience To just allow the feeling to be what it is, right? Somebody else that I I admire a lot Anthony de Mello he said that you know he sort of he's just a very spiritual person he was and He went through a kind of a spiritual awakening. I suppose you could say and he said Maybe it wasn't him that said this but this was definitely something I heard him say Maybe it was a quote, but he said before I was awake I was depressed and After I was awake I was depressed So this thing about getting in touch with yourself doesn't really if you feel bad it doesn't mean That you've done something wrong Sort of waking up to yourself means experiencing the feelings you have Right your genuine feelings And that's what it is right just experiencing them as they are and that could be depression that could be Anxiety that could be really strong Anxiety right that could be a sense of hopelessness. That could be all these things. We don't want to feel right but You're awake the minute you start to welcome them all right, that's what that's what I guess awakening is Just accepting your feelings as they sit with you so Bear that in mind, right? Don't take this as some sort of a A method I suppose, you know just bear it in mind and maybe hold it as an intention for yourself to Feel whatever you want to feel Okay, and there's no obligation on you to feel anyway whatever way you feel is the way you feel and Welcome them and be with them. It's the being with them That is the practice and that is the discipline that will that will help you get back in touch with who you are So guys, it's just a couple of quick thoughts there I Hope you enjoyed it. I hope it helped and I will talk to you soon. Take care