 It was great at first. We went everywhere together, but then she wouldn't let me go anywhere without her. I introduced him to my friends, but he pushed them all away. The messages and calls started off fine, but then they became too much. I sent private photos, and then found out that he'd shared them around the group. This isn't love, it's coercive control, and it's not okay. Are you concerned that your child or a young person you know may be in a controlling relationship? This is common among young people. Controlling relationships is a pattern of abuse, threats, humiliation and intimidation that is used to harm, punish or frighten. This is not okay. We need to start a conversation about what is acceptable behaviour in relationships to make young people aware of what healthy and unhealthy relationships really look like. It can be hard to spot the signs and know the difference between caring and controlling, but there are certain behaviours which suggest that your child or a young person you know may be in a controlling relationship. Young people say being in a controlling relationship makes them feel intimidated, humiliated, worthless, nervous, anxious, scared. You can help. Know the signs of unhealthy behaviours. Be observant and interested in their relationship. Tell them you're worried and ready to talk when they are. Be supportive and understanding. Try not to blame or judge. Leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous. Don't force this. Plan with specialist support. Be prepared. Know your local services and have support agency contacts ready. If at risk of immediate danger or harm, call the police. If you're concerned about your child or a young person you know or are experiencing signs of control in your relationship, free confidential advice and support is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. At gov.wales forward slash this is not okay. Or by calling 0808 80 10 800.