 We are on a date right now. I'm about to interview Kimmy, you know. I think this is good. It's all that matter. Surprise or not. You gotta surprise these taste buds. I don't know if it's gonna be good or not, but you know, you gotta trust the process. We are on a date right now. We're on a date right now, so I'm about to interview Kimmy, you know. I have a fur dog at home. I'm looking for a mother for him, you know. So I'm trying to see if she eats. What kind of fur dog is it? Cause I already have two. Oh lord. So that would be three. I mean, you cannot spend your kids in. You're not gonna take my kids in. I can do one for one, but you got two? I'm all back here, honey. Oh man, I don't know. This is deep. I've got two dogs. Look how big you got. I have a jitsu, and then I have a laparodoro. Okay, so literally he does. The laparodoro, he's like the handful. He's four and a half, and he's like 45 pounds, but he's a little crazy. Like he's just hyper. He's not trained. I train him to use a bathroom outside, and like that's about it. Anything else is kind of like. See, that's why a man is needed in a household for discipline. You know, in order. The man is not needed in the household, because I can easily pay a trainer and my dog will be trained. I do get well trained. I do get an American bully. He's five years old. He's well trained. He knows not to potty in the house. He knows when to sit. He knows when to lay down. Mind sets for treats. Man, that's good. So I want to ask you something. You have to be really honest. I'm not done asking you questions about your dog. You're done. So what has having dogs taught you? What has dogs taught me? Yeah, like being a dog parent, being a dog mother. I take a lot of my time, and I feel like some people should not have dogs. Honestly, I personally shouldn't have dogs, because I move around way too much. But my first dog, I had him since he was like three months old. So then I wanted to get him like a company, so then I got the big dog. So now they keep each other company. But I'm still always going out or traveling. So it's kind of like, I shouldn't have a dog. Hey, this is what it is. At least I'm not kids. Did you move around a lot? What do you mean? Work a lot. And then I work from home a couple of days. I like traveling. I like doing things on the weekend, whether it's in town or out of town. So things like that. I move around a lot. I'm not always home. Because it's just me and my dog. So I honestly do not like being home. So what does that mean? You don't like being home. You have to treat yourself. I don't like being home. I like being out, experiencing life, whether that's out or at the beach, or traveling, or with friends, or at dinner, or at brunch, at the club. Like I just like being out. So you're not much of a homebody? No. Not at all. Is that a problem? Are you a homebody? I doubt it. If you're an entrepreneur, you gotta be, you know, in the scene. No, I don't like being in the scene. I'm very low-key. I'm like, when I go out, I go out just enough to make people miss me. Like, oh, well, I haven't seen Canada in a while. But I don't stay out in the scene. I'm very low-key. I don't like being in the scene. I don't really like crowds, people. I don't like familiar areas all the time. People tell me to miss me. I hang in, like, I like traveling. I travel a lot. It's more like nightlife. That's what I'm like. I go to the coffee shop. I go to the gym. I'm very, like, structured and routine. I'm in the city. Like, I do the same things. I go to the beach. I just recently got school certified. So I'm very much like an out-of-the-worth person. I fish a lot. The family's important to me. So I spend a lot of time with them. I'm definitely an out-of-the-worth person. Are you? Yeah, I've seen the club lights. What? Tell me about that. What? You guys want to buy some crew? Oh, I know. I went on a trip, but it was so much fun. So we went hiking. I've never been hiking in my life. That was actually my first time hiking. And it was like crazy. How are you an out-of-the-worth person? That's your first time hiking. Okay, out-of-the-worth could be anything. Could be at the beach. Anything outdoor. But that was like extreme for me. So I think the first time I ever went hiking was live in California when I went to visit a friend. But it was like baby hiking. It wasn't like real hiking. All right, all right. So this right here, we walked for like three hours to go to Machu Picchu and then three hours back to catch the bus and go back to the hotel. Okay. But it was cool. It was very tiring. But honestly, like when we were walking, like you would see people like in the morning, like you know, they're going to like taking their kids to school, but they're like they're walking in like, it's like the jungle. Like, you know, literally that's how they live every single morning. You have people that do that whole walk for like four days. And like I did it for three hours and I was like, this is like not for me at all. Like, I don't think I could do that. But it was definitely, it was fun. Okay. So do you feel like, are you the like a girly girl type or are you like half and half like girly girl but you can get your hands dirty here? I'm very like, I'm very tomboy and very girly. So, you know, like if I got to get dirty, I'm going to get dirty. But I'm also like very girly. Kind of like a 50-50. I thought I was going to match you out doing this. I know you're Puerto Rican. Yup, I'm Puerto Rican. I was born and raised in Puerto Rico. That's actually how I'm like kind of like a tomboyish because I was, you know, like raised by my mom and my dad. And I was very, very close to my dad and I was super like tomboyish with him. Like anything he was doing, like I was right there with him. And then he passed away. So like when I was 13. So then I became like more closer to my mom and my sister. So then that girly side, you know, started like coming out. But I was like, I never had a doll or Barbie growing up. Like I was like a bicycle scooter type of girl. Like I just want to be like outside. That's just, I've always been like that. Okay. But it was fun. That's good, that's good. How many children's do you have? Just one sister. Hold her? Yeah. How many years apart are you? We're four. Four years apart. Okay. Yeah, just 30 more. Okay. Do you have relatives? I do. I have a older brother. I enjoy my siblings. I enjoy my family being able to spend time with them, you know. Especially having little sisters. Like I'm glad my little sister is younger than me. Except like I'm able to guide her and keep her away from certain things. I'm able to like provide and protect her in a certain way. You know, like as a brother. Of course she has my dad. But you know, one thing, look at that experience. Yeah. Are you that type like in relationship? Like you're the provider and protector? Absolutely. Yeah. I'm very much like, once I give my time to somebody and I take them serious and I move towards their relationship, I understand my role, you know. And I understand the role that I desire to play and I communicate that, you know. That's like how I was raised, you know. I saw my dad be a provider, be a protector. And in multiple ways, not just financially, but with love, with discipline, with structure, with laughter, with humor, with fun. You know, I saw a good balance between him and my mother, you know, like and their roles and their duties as husband and wife. So that's a big for me. That's why my dad was so serious for me. Like what's that? Like I don't just introduce people to like my family and friends. Like right after that. It takes time for me to really like get to know somebody. Yeah. Because when I move into that point of life, alright, you know, I like you in a relationship, that's a big step for me, you know. Because when I do date, I date for the intention of like marriage with me and the angle. I don't just date without an angle. I don't just date to date, you know. So I've only been in three relationships. So why are you so serious about dating? Why decided to take me out of the date? Why decided to take you out of the date? Well, we're on the talking phase. This is the intro. I think this is the disconnect. Because I go dating, talking, and relationship. There's no disconnect. This is your point of view. So you go talking and dating and relationship? Yeah, I go talking. There's no, we're talking. So I go through like this. So the first 90 days it's like talking, getting to know one another. So I'm on a 90 day probation? Yeah, 90 day probation. So if you get past the 90 day probation, then we have a conversation. I said I have a conversation with you. Things are going well. I'm going to learn a lot about each other. So I have a lot more to learn. But after that point in time, then I would ask you, like, okay, are you willing, able, ready to be my girlfriend? And then we boost that next phase of the process. I feel like it's kind of like a contract. Like, where's the romance, you know? Do you want to be my girlfriend? Like, are you cute about it? I mean, it's just kind of like, we're going to sit down. You're going to sign this contract. I'm just breaking down the logistics of it right now. Like, when it happens, it happens, you know. But that's just my process. That's my flow. That's how I do things. I'm very much a man of, like, direction and order. You know, I don't just like, oh, I don't know what we're doing when we're having a situation shift. Like, you know, I don't know where we stand at. You don't believe in gray areas? No, I don't. I've talked to gray areas. Anytime somebody, you know, I feel a gray area or, like, somebody's going to share, it's like, all right, cool. Like, well, you don't have to, like, continue this process. You know, so that's what that 90 days to, like, six months, I'm big on friendship. I'm big on, like, that's taking our time, like, not jumping in a romance or intimacy in any form, you know, but really just being friends for, like, three to six months. And then, like, if we both feel comfortable, like, wow, okay, I really know you. We've let our guard down. Because it's easy, like, to play a role. It's easy to, like, like somebody and, like, put on your best self, but, like, I think it's important for us to both see our flaws and see our weaknesses, you know. Like, I'm a pretty perfect person. See some time. That's cocky. That's confidence. That is not... I hate when people say that. That is confidence. No, it's not. There's a thin line between you being, like, super cocky and confident. Well, the more that you learn it, y'all. And you're not perfect. None of us are perfect. I said I got some flaws. Now, I'm 80% of the time I'm correct. I got a 20% error, you know. So that's my margin. But, yeah. How do you do it with those flaws? I feel like nowadays, people be like, oh, I want someone that, you know, like, I can work things. I can work out. Like, I can work good things. But in reality, the minute somebody starts showing, like, nowadays it's, like, red flags. People are, like, so quick to be, like, oh, my God, like, he didn't do this. So, like, that's a red flag. And then the minute people see, like, a red flag, which, to me, a red flag, it's a flaw. It's not really, like, a red flag. Just, like, what's like that thin line where it's, like, okay, it's a red flag or a flaw, whatever, however you want to define it. But, like, you know, no one's perfect. So, like, are you willing to, like, work through those flaws? Like, what are your, like, deal breakers? Because we all have those deal breakers. But then, like, don't confuse deal breakers. Because we're, like, okay, she got, she showed me one red flag. I'm done. And I'm on this, I'm on this 90 day probation and I already feel the pressure. No, no, no. It's like, I give everybody, like, generally two chances, but three. You know, I try to be, I understand, like, we're not perfect. We got our flaws, you know, and I joke about being perfect. But I don't understand that, like, I have my issues. I have my moment as a man. But, um, I'm big on vulnerability. Like, once I let my guard down with you, like, and we step into a relationship, it's important for me as a man to know that when I, like, to the world, I need to, I have to be a super man type figure. But when I come home, I just want to be Clark Kent. I want to be able to be vulnerable. I want to be able to take off my crown and be able to know that I can trust you with valuable emotional information and that you don't need to be against me. Yeah. And so, like, I need to know that as a safe space. But once you, once that's not a tank, it's hard for me to, like, I, I, I forget, you know, but as I said, I try to get people two chances. It's like, three, if I got to give you three chances to prove yourself, it's like, nah. Like, one chance. What do you mean? Third time is a turn. That's what they say. Nah. At this point in time of life, I don't know if I had that much. It's like, if it's the same thing, like, you, you showing me, like, you were getting the same mistake. No. Okay. So I agree with you on that. Like, I feel like if you have a conversation with someone, right, and, like, it's about, like, a specific, you know, situation or issue and, like, they keep doing it and that's different because you're already brought up to their attention and it's like, it's continued. Like, through dating, relationship, like, it doesn't matter how long you're getting together. There's always going to, like, things are going to happen worse, like, whether you don't like it or you just wrote the other wrong way. So it's like, that doesn't necessarily mean it's the same thing, but always something, it's always going to happen. So, like... It's a learning process for sure. It's definitely a learning process. It's a learning process. That's why I think it's important for the three to six months of just being friends and just communicating, having an open conversation, not Netflix and still, and not being in intimate spaces to where, like, we allow that honeymoon phase and the, like, the infatuation to override, you know, and we skip steps of really knowing who somebody is, you know. So I think that's why that phase is so important to really just have to ask these type of questions to know, like, what do you think about this? You know, what are your thoughts on finances? What are your thoughts about kids? You know, like, I'm big on that. You know, like, again, it's a serious process for me because I know that I'm going to be married and, like, I don't believe in divorce. So it's just like, whatever we got to do with this, like, this initial phase to really get to know one another, let's do that, you know? Like, and it's a process because we're not, you know, I know that I carry a certain barrier, you know, that I'm not just going to just drop my guard, just like, you're not going to just drop your guard, you know? So it's a slow process. I don't know, I feel like I'm a pretty open book. Open book, but, like, emotionally, like, opening is different. I agree. So, like, we need to communicate about, like, past things, but, like, opening up and letting me in is okay. It's my safe space without there being, like, a commitment there, you know? Which I don't, like, I like to verbally say, hey, this is where we're at. And then, like, I think for a woman, like, knowing where a man is leading you is safety, you know? So that's okay, like, nah, like, okay, this is what he says and when a man, his actions and his words match, like, I think that's a, like, a comforting thing for them. You know what? Honestly, that's sometimes that it doesn't mean anything but when I dated, you know, it's always like that, like, you know, you talk to your friends and you're like, well, girl, he's saying something and he's not doing it and then he's not the one. But then I've actually dated, you know, people that or a person that was literally doing everything he said, he, like, does, like, his actions match his words. And then, at the end, it was just kind of, like, it didn't mean anything. You know, it was like 90 days. So to me, like you said, people can play a role to be like, we're grown. Like people know what they need to say or do to, like, you know, get someone's attention or, like, try to like make things work or like make things last however long they need it to last. So to me, that's why I tell you, like, the whole 90 day, honestly, like, I mean, that's your personal opinion but because of my experiences, like, anyone just can put up that like you would be surprised what people are doing so like I just feel like I'm making on like time would tell so like if you have that connection with that person like time would only tell right I agree I agree I think I think it's hard for people to maintain that like persona more than six to eight months I think like after that eight month mark there's a lot of things like happening we're like okay like what's going on right I guess I've seen like pieces of like the real you but I think that's the point of all that I think that's the point of dating you know like it's a trial phase to see that and work through things I think people today like you said are so easy to cut people off like I understand that love is work it shouldn't be bored though you know yeah it's work it is effort it is like okay I gotta yeah I gotta change I gotta I gotta give this person space in room what's people's biggest misconception about you kind of like what you what you kind of alluded to I'm a very confident person you know but it can be it can be taken initially when you don't know me fully that's okay he's kind of cocky yeah I'm just a very confident person I'm just very sure of myself yeah but once women like get an opportunity to like it's never been to the point where it's a turn off for any women it's like it's different you know like a man that's sure of himself a lot I feel like a lot of women have experienced guys that aren't sure of themselves and have insecurities like great I'm not perfect you know but I'm very sure of who I am and where I'm going so I bring that energy initially to let to give off like kind of like the role that I play I'm very much a leader I'm very much like this is kind of a cliche to say but a man's man you know that I like that traditional role so I lead with that energy of like confidence versus like they wouldn't be attracted to a man if he didn't want sure himself a very down south very weak you know so but it's never the business like native but that's something that like if people only know me on the surface they might say that but it's appreciated like once you get to like really like understand me and say okay like this is just who he is right but other than that I don't know I don't think I'm an easy book to like read I think people try and read me but I'm a very like I'm very social with people I'm very but I'm still very like closed up you know like I'm friendly with people and so I'm very open in the sense that like I make people feel comfortable in my space and so they feel closer to me so that's one thing but what about yourself like what's something that people like miss true about this miss oh definitely confuse my personality I'm very like friendly very like outgoing and people get me mistaken like by just because I'm that way like I'm not gonna like make a difference between like my partner and my friends so it's kind of like well she's like she's outgoing she's friendly so she doesn't want a relationship so I come up like the girl that just don't want a relationship don't want to have marriage and it's like literally no that's like my ultimate goal like I want to be a wife I want to have a relationship but like just because I'm friendly I'm outgoing like you know I like talking to people like meeting your people whether it's like guy or girls like that's just who I am as a personal I have as a person I'm like I have a very bubbly personality people may like communicate that and then they don't take that initiative to like you know date me or talk to me like okay let's have a relationship because they just think that way and then when they see me in a real relationship they're like whoa I didn't think that you wanted a relationship and then I lost it like you misunderstood my personality for your day and I said like access a lot of people were like well you know because of your personality people have access to you it was like access to me like in what way just because someone has access to how a conversation with me whether it's you know anywhere doesn't mean they have access to me like my emotional personal like my family like things that are personal to me not necessarily there's levels to having access to someone like on a surface level just to have a conversation with them had nothing to do with like getting personal with me so I feel like people need to understand that so they just feel like because I'm friendly anybody has access to me and I feel like that's completely wrong but I'm never gonna change my personality so like if I have to live with that misconception about me then that's just what it is because that's what this is who I am I like being friendly and talkative so if you think a certain way of me and you don't let like time prove you wrong then that's a chance you didn't take so is it that people just take you as friendly and talkative or do they see you as flirting I think both I think they see that I'm friendly and like flirtatious okay so in relationship oh I'm not gonna be flirtatious in a relationship I don't think I'm flirtatious single it's just literally that's how I am like I don't think I don't think to me like I'm flirting it's just people think that because a girl is talking and she's smiling and she's like happy bubbly it's like guys like to take that credit like oh my god I was making her laugh I was like no that's just me like I'm a happy person like I make myself like you know but people are so quick to like feel themselves over like oh I was making her laugh she was entertaining she was giving me energy it's like no I wasn't I was just being myself and like laughing like it had nothing to do with you so what's one thing you love about your personality that I get to me a lot of people my career is because of my personality my previous job I used to sell cars and I used to go like work at this like you know concerts that you know the leadership used to sponsor and I was you know I was talking to people and I made friends with like this person that works at my job now this TV station and eventually like after I got tired of selling cars and working hours I talked to them I you know try to see if you gave me a job and I got the job I've been in this company for four and a half years I never went to college for marketing nothing about media nothing about advertising and I got this job solely because me talking to someone interesting for me and she don't get the job okay all right I'm much what's it up real quick so let's talk about like so something that's important to me is my relationship with God you know I'm not a religious person but I take my my walk serious you know so like what are your spiritual beliefs what does that look like and what were you like how did you grow up did you grow a Christian Catholic Buddhist Christian I like I'm the same way like I'm not gonna force no no religion into someone but like you have to believe in something and I think like you don't believe in anything that you'll like fall for anything so to me like God has to be like very present in like our relationship for sure what does that look like in your day-to-day life day today I mean as far as like what like oh in the morning like when I wake up I'll listen to like a morning prayer and like at night time I'll always you know pray because you have to be grateful for everything you have like especially like when you travel a lot and you see the way these people live and you come back home and you like oh my god like you literally live like so less than like lucky as people say because of like the things you have and what we think is so little we're working for more more more more you what you have it's like more than anybody just people have right now so I feel like every day waking up and just thinking about the waking up a lot of people are like battling with like healthy shoes you know like not knowing and they're gonna wake up tomorrow like any you know have another day of life so it's like the little things really matter the most other than just working so hard and I feel like you give me that workaholic vibe you work a lot and I feel like if you're if you like you know you're religious and you're Christian I don't know what your religion is but like do you ever sit down to just kind of like okay I know I'm working so hard to like have this whatever so that you're looking to you know pursue it but like do you ever sit down and kind of be grateful for what you already have yeah so that's something else that people miss get misconstrued about being an entrepreneur I probably only work maybe like two or four hours a week and I spend the rest of my time being gratitude now take care of myself reading praying and meditating you know so like I went when I was younger I went through that workaholic phase got a grant 24-7 but I realized that's like a prison you know it leads to nowhere you know so I'm big like I want to have a family one day and I'm gonna be able to raise my family and be there like I want to be traveling on the road and going all the time I'm big on like I want you to have past the strength of income so we're like I have time you know more so than money I just my time yeah that's what I bring to the table I've been able to master and get control of that you know and it's not even to me I gave God the boy how I got to where I am today but I'm big on just like traveling to join life you know I'm very grateful I sometimes do every day at Journal everyday and I just write out what this is about for me. You know, you journal? I journal. I write every night. That's good. I literally have like so many books that's how I actually got over my when my father passed away the first year was like you know it's always gonna be like when somebody passed away the first year is always gonna be the hardest year because that's like your first Christmas your first birthday without you know them in there so it's like a new feeling that you're experiencing not having that person so I've always wrote ever since like I was a little girl so when he passed away I had a book I still have it from like every single like month I would write something you know and that's how like that that's what helped me like kind of like cope with everything and now like sometimes I'm like I don't know how to like now I'm learning that's like I've had relationships and you know things have happened like sometimes writing things and somebody like reading them they're not gonna understand like what you mean or like your point always so like I'm learning how to communicate that more but I've always like if somebody asked me what's your best way to communicate like I'm gonna write page letter and I'll tell you all my feelings but that's like the easiest way for me to like express my feelings or somebody or like if I'm going through something I just I don't know what to do about it I'm just gonna write it even like on my phone sometimes like I just write a quick note about it like all like by the time I'm done writing it just kind of like you just sometimes gotta like get it out and once you get it out you read it it's kind of like sometimes you don't even want to tell that person what's going on you just kind of want to put it down read it yourself and then you kind of like okay now you understand yeah it's a very therapeutic process I think it's easy to like read people and like kind of misjudgment you know I try and for me personally I've been working like I'm not perfect with it but I try to work on being more about open open mind like as I meet people you know I think a lot of times people like look at me and like hear about like certain parts of my life they automatically assume that like man you probably like just all you want to do is work and like take money that's just like the very like my personality you know but with that being said like what is your dream life look like what are you working towards what is it what are some things that you're happy that you have accomplished and what is it that you hope to accomplish in the future I think I'm living my dream life to be honest I love my career I'm able to travel you know the only thing that I'm missing out of my life right now it's you know somebody to share that with like a husband and you know kids eventually but like I don't want to have I don't want to need someone to like have kids like what a way like I want me and my partner to experience like life just for us because I don't have kids but I know a lot of people that have kids and kids truly change your life like your time it's no longer your time just like a selfish at in my sound I don't enjoy my husband before these kids take all his time because it's going to be all about them like I want to be able to travel with him I want to have fun with him like you know whatever that is that we enjoy doing together I want to do that for a few years before we even think about giving our time to someone else so I feel like I love my life right now the way it is you know I'm grateful for everything that I have that's just the only thing that's been missing piece you know a husband and eventually get other than that this is random but what's your time span on like from dating like your inner relationship with somebody to like marriage do you have a timeline like we made somebody for five years no no I did that and I was young I was 18 you know 17 I think my first relationship was like almost five years but you know at that time you're young you're growing together you're still figuring things out but me now as a grown woman like if it's I don't want to put a time to it honestly but it's definitely not five years like I'm not gonna be doing some right like I just feel like men know men know when she's the one you know so it's like us women we also know so it's like as a man if you're dating me for all these years and you still haven't proposed to me like then I'm not the one like are you vocal about whatever you ask me to have a go go everything so yes that's why I feel like sometimes I come across very like bossy or like the man but it's just like you want a person that says you how they feel or someone that you want to try to figure out how they feel like I'm just gonna tell you how it is you they're gonna like it or hate it and break up with me oh I'm excited about this food I'm excited you won't like this food because it's not a delicious combination of steak potatoes little you know healthy green beans and salad so first of all you're not the only one putting rules here I like how you're giving me 90 days you know because I'm not see I don't have rules like that just go with the flow and if the flow doesn't go anywhere then I can stop but you got all this rule like I gotta check all these boxes can you can you put a fan up can you think it's all hot can you build me a house a girl gonna cook as laundry what else I can taste absolutely and then man they build that the whole thing with nothing but rock so absolutely I think it went pretty good I think it went pretty like natural then we got a lot of like key point questions that should be asked when you go on a date but like people are so scared to like ask questions because they don't want to feel like it's like an interview but I feel like you can just have a conversation and like ask all these questions as you go maybe because I'm in sales so that's part of it you got to get information as you like meet with them go with the flow but still ask your question because the whole point of going on a date is to know if you want to go on the next day with this person like how you're gonna know this if you don't ask the right question that's how people get caught up in a six-month situation if it doesn't go anywhere right do you feel like there are any key things that you noticed anything that he did or said this stood out to you definitely that he's um he's a family man he wants marriage and that means like he wants a commitment so he's dating you know long-term and a marriage is not just dating you know to like see what happens okay anything else like any of his actions any of his body language this stood out to you he's very calm I feel like I'm very hyper he's like very calm so it like calms me down like brings me down to like his level so I think that's good but usually go with like the hyper type of guys so if this was a real date would he get the second date I think you but yeah okay I think it was cool man you know just an intro you know filling each other out I'm very like my demeanor is very unique you know but I think we handled each other very well you know I I'm very much a how can I say this like I don't just have a very much a leader mentality so I like to see that like a woman that can keep up with that so I feel like can make you keep up with my personality and she's not like nervous or scared like see you know I give a little pressure and she gives it back you know so like I appreciate that that we're both able to just kind of like balance each other out in conversation and like I could be very sarcastic and like jokey and you know things that I say and do but I was glad that should you get like offended or like you know just allowing me to beat me so that's I think that's very important so we're asking a lot more questions the first day I generally like I don't reveal a whole lot you know like I could tell like the certain things she asked at the end like I very much do you know but we didn't get that far into like me allowing her to kind of like ask me more I'm generally more like a very slow opener to like reveal in myself and who I am I really like to allow the women that I date to like talk and give me their point of view and I'll answer questions that they asked as well but like it's a process is a journey but I was able to like really get to know some core things about her that are important to me and I think she's able to learn a few things about me but there's there's a lot more depth you know to me than that that she doesn't know yet so yeah do you feel like there were any core things that stood out to you like any of her actions body language anything that she did this and maybe apply when you know going out there and dating and looking for that right person for themselves to sit up man honestly I appreciate her confidence I appreciate how vocal she is I appreciate that she's outgoing she has a bubbly personality I can tell that she's very much a leader herself she's a go-getter she knows what it is that she wants I appreciate it you know when I asked her about her relationship with you know that that's a major thing for me you know like seeing if somebody has that relationship for themselves and what that looks like and so if they hear her say that and just a few other things that she said it's like okay good good you know I'm liking what I'm hearing so far so yeah if it was a real date would there be a second date would there be a second day um I yeah I'd go on a second day yeah yeah definitely just so we can just like dive deeper you know that first date it's kind of like you know there's both both you got walls up and like so I like to like jab and like be sarcastic to like break that guard down be a little funny you know like I can be a little little little overly confident or cocky on the first day but I do that intentionally you know because that's part of like who I am you know but after that like as the conversation went on we both got more comfortable with each other so the second date I feel like we can really just kind of like let our guards down to really be goofy and like talk more to learn one another so absolutely