 How to make 2018 your best year ever? Now I want to say this is Originally supposed to be for my employees, but I thought I would share it with the world How to make 2018 your best year ever I got bad news and good news I'm gonna give the bad news first like the godfather says Bad news is that most people break their New Year's resolutions within about a Week but a small percentage of people Transform their lives and so if you work for me or you're just listening to this I'm gonna direct it to the people who work for me because I spend millions of dollars on employees and staff and 2018 is gonna be year where things changes. I Looked back at 2017. I'm like there was good. There was bad in my life. There's things I would do over But new day, it's like the tide like the ocean new day new beginnings new year new beginnings So here's what I have to say The bad news is Without something pushing you You're not likely to change and that's just you know, people say oh, that's pessimistic. I'm not an optimist I'm not a pessimist. I'm a realist if I look back on my life. It takes a push Something has to push you Or else humans are what scientists call risk averse they don't change You study the human brain by the time you're 25 years old something called neuroplasticity There's less and less of it meaning Open change you try to teach a two-year-old a new language. They pick it up in a month You try to teach an 80-year-old a new language. In fact, they can probably never learn it with the correct accent I'm not saying you shouldn't try to learn if you're 80 years old. I'm saying let's just be real 2018 should be the real the real year where you're real with yourself. So that's the bad news most people One week and New Year's resolution. Maybe some people last a month. They say I'll last year I did this I procrastinate procrastination will kill you. It's the killer of hopes and dreams laziness Maybe bad handwriting too, right? Procrastination laziness Fear anxiety all these things stem from one thing. You need something pushing you So to those of you who work for me I'm gonna be the one pushing you in 2018 And I'm not you know, some people go. Oh, don't be a jerk. Don't micromanage people. I'm not gonna be a jerk I'm not gonna let you jerk me around you work for me. You're gonna get work done I'm gonna help you get work done 2017 was a year it was what it was forget the past 2018 is where you're gonna get 10 times as much done with half the effort every one of you listening make this your goal This is a minimum. You don't work for me. If you work for me. The goal is 10 times with half the effort But maybe that seems hard So just make a simple goal Twice the results in 2018 for half the work if you can get that you can do big things You've got to work hard, but you have to work smart. This is the working hard. This is the working smart Some people just work hard and they stress themselves the death they forget to take a break to forget to relax They forget to work out They just try to to exit but you've got to do this at the same time. You have to reduce stress stress as a killer Part of the reason people procrastinating their lazy is because they don't want to get stressed out But what if there was a way in 20 to 18 if you work for me I'm expected 10 times the result with half the stress if you don't work for me pick your girl You're gonna pick more than 10. Some of you will say that's not possible. Oh, it is possible. I See it financially for some people they make 10 times the money in one year with half the labor I've done that. I've been entrepreneurs since I was 19 years old I look back at some of the years I was pushing myself 10 times harder than the year before but I wasn't doing it efficiently So here's a few things. Here's where the push comes from Some practical things to make 2018 the best year of your life number one Find a force That will push you in general Let's look at what generally pushes people The good and the bad because a lot of it's good You have to find a force that'll push you for the average person. They're pushed by stress being broke and loss You lost something it could be a person to be someone you're dating could be an opportunity It could be a business could be a business partner something was lost and this becomes the force that pushes most people But there's a problem with this Scientists found in your brain. There's something called dopamine Okay, dopamine is released when you do something. Well, it's a reward hormone Chemical in your brain. It's not a hormone per se. It's a chemical Dopamine that's why people take ecstasy MDM T coke all these things affect dopamine receptors But we won't talk about hopefully not gonna do more coke in 2018, but When you fail The opposite happens other things are released. Sometimes it's cortisol. That's a stress chemical in your in your body Okay So what happens is if the only thing that's pushing you to do bigger and better things is These then you're negatively reinforcing yourself and there's a problem. I just is a fascinating study I may I'll try to put a link below, but they looked at people's brains and we have these little thing called dopamine receptors They're not like hairs, but I'm just drawing them that way for visual effect to understand and basically That's where the reward Touches and then can't need the dopamine's released So the more you have of these the more you experience life in a positive fulfilling Rewarding way what happens is the more you fail Scientists find your body says oh, we don't need these and it's you start losing them and What happens is that makes you less ambitious and what happened in the school system that's destroyed Basically society is negatively reinforcing they tell kids Ah work hard do your homework, and they're gonna give you tests Boring stuff for you to memorize it. Nobody's interested the teachers a lot of them aren't even interested in the subject People lose dopamine receptors around self-educating So the average person once they graduate college doesn't read a book for three years a nonfiction book Why they're so burnt out because their dopamine receptors have been negatively affected But here's an interesting thing. There's a handful of people who go down a different path in life They don't have just stress being broke and lost pushing them and what happens is they actually Grow new receptors They become more ambitious the more receptors you have scientists find you become more Ambitious so it gets easier to not procrastinate see when you're ambitious you don't procrastinate think of your friend Who's the least ambitious person? What's a trait you'll find in their life? They put everything off. They procrastinate That's what no ambition means So it's actually a problem that might not even be your own fault the school system or your childhood might have Rewired your brain for failure. So you find yourself only Succeeding by massive pain. Oh, okay. Oh, I'm broke this month. I better work on. Oh, man. I lost everything I'm so stressed out, but it doesn't really push you in the right direction In fact this force that will push you this is where you want to go in 2018. It might push you backwards So there's a force that's pushing you, but it ain't necessarily pushing you in the right direction So what is the force besides stress being broke and lost that'll push you forward It's so common sense. They're gonna be like I already know that tie. Well, good. It's not what you know It's what you do so then do this in 2018. It's people or a person Or a group of people You change your environment socially in 2018 You will be pushed it's almost impossible to self-correct our courses. It sounds great And there is an element of self-correction, but generally we're built as humans to learn socially There's a great book on this What's his name Matt Lieberman? Forget the name of the book, but it's oh, it's called social. He's a UCLA Top neuroscientist and he said man, we're built to do everything in groups to learn in groups He has these machines. He's fmri Machines and basically what these machines do They measure responses in your brain and he said even when you sleep most of your dreams are social Usually dream about interacting with a person you rarely he said have a dream about a rock I mean once in a while, maybe if you do with the mushrooms You might have a dream like that but for the most part your dreams are like all this person or like I made a building and there's people I sometimes had this dream I played basketball varsity high school basketball and I always have this dream even this day that I'm like on the court And I can't go fast So they're like dribble the ball up cork and I play point guard and I'm just like going really slow But it's a social dream. There's people interacting with me. Sometimes scientists think the reason we have dreams is to teat Where we reenact scenarios before they happen. So we'll have a mechanism to cope with it but when it finally does happen and so people getting mad at you is a situation you learn to cope with in dreams Now back to reality real life when you're not asleep You're gonna learn socially. So you're gonna overcome laziness procrastination all these traits that are negatively affected 2017 you change 2018 by changing the people or maybe adding one person in your life or one new group You can't hang out with the same people the same ratio that you did in 2017 and get the same results It's impossible Joe Salton my first mentor when I was 19 told me Ty, there is no change without a change in routine and what's the routine you should change first? It's not just what time you wake up. It's not just, you know, your daily routine on mundane things What's the biggest part of our life social interaction? So I hope you'll change your social routine for 2018 and Here's a simple test one of my friends Clifford Lerner. He built a publicly traded company He just wrote a book on how he lost 50 million bucks and made it back and all this stuff and he had an interesting Interesting little point I post them on my snapchat if you follow me on snapchat by the way a little side note Odell Beckham, Jr. was here today tonight and Interesting thing, you know, he's a top NFL player one of the greatest catches of all times and He goes, you know, I used to struggle with procrastination time I said you top athlete in the world He goes Yeah, and I said did you overcome it and he said yep, it's gone now. So that's good news Let that be a little side note. Hope it can be gone. It can go away. It's a bad habit So when we're talking about here, you know, we're talking about This social routine, this is what Clifford Lerner told me. He said ask yourself this simple question and This pertains to somebody you're dating. I Won't get into marriage. I'm not married. So I'm not gonna speak on that dating business partner Friends Co-workers, I mean in a sense this even applies to family, but I must stay out of the family thing Don't want to get in the middle of that. He said ask yourself If you could go back in time to the day you met this person or this person or this person Would you do it over again? So let's say you've been dating someone for a year think back to the day you met him Knowing what you know now about them now you spend a year with them. Would you date that person again? Would you do it? And if the answer is no, you got a part ways now You got to build a plan maybe can't do it overnight But you got to get out of that if you got a business partner that looked like five years ago You got in business with them and you thought they'd be the greatest business partner and now you've gotten to know them And you're like oh my god, it's a nightmare ask yourself if you could do it all over again Would you still be business partners with them if the answer is no then it's time to move on? Employees if you own a business like me ask yourself on day one if I'm hiring that person knowing what I know now about them Would I keep them in my life or my business? The answer is no then get rid of them now Same with co-workers same with your boss everything So this is what you got to do in 2018 Because there's always so much time in a day socially Dr. David bus one of my mentors he's former Harvard professor teaches at University of Austin One of the preeminent evolutionary Psychologists of all time wrote the textbook for Yale and Princeton and all this he told me That there's a competition for good people and you it was a competition with your own 24 hours You having a day meaning if you're hanging out with these three people that you've always hung out with That were bad influences on you. You don't have time to inject three new Amazing people into your life. It just there's only so much time in a day Then there's also only so much glucose in your brain. We get tired You have limited time, so you better focus. So what you must do is ask yourself Which of them got to go? Warren Buffett the billionaire investor said every year ask yourself. What's one thing in my life that I've outgrown? Get rid of it. It can be an idea or it could be a person Now some of you don't need to get rid of anybody. You're the lucky one. Some of you need to You need to clean the whole slate. I Just gonna be like some people sell don't that's too rough tie again. I'm not an optimist or a pessimist I'm a realist look at the facts if everyone around you is dragging you down. Everybody got to go If everybody around you is amazing nobody has to go it's not our you know, but the odds are It's like clutter because it doesn't just mean they're bad people Maybe you just have a different view now. Maybe you've changed and they change but you change in opposite directions So it's not always judging them. Don't make 20. You know one of my goals for 2018 It's not judging people, but I want to be a judge of my own social circle So I don't want to judge them and go. Oh, well, they're bad people But I might just say you know what they're great people, but we don't care about we don't have the same interests That's not judgmental. That's just being objective Logical you'd be like this if you have a friend you used to watch basketball games together They come do one day inside. I don't like basketball anymore. You stop watching games with them Common sense 101 but what we do because humans don't like to change is go. Oh, I got such great memories Watching basketball with Bob. Well, Bob's not gonna be a good person to watch basketball with he doesn't care about Basketball anymore same with dating same with business. Maybe you met you had a similar vision for life your friends and all sudden Boop, they go the way no tragedy in that remember this One of the most Powerful forces on this planet is evolution and I'm not just talking about you know Maybe you don't believe in the full story of evolution Maybe you're religious and that's not that's how I'm getting into but within life your life You must evolve or you die and There is a professor in the 1960s and professor Megasin and he summarized Charles Darwin and what he said was it's not the smartest not the smartest or the strongest That survived some of you are trying to survive Your situation by just smarts and strength Some of the people that I know in the worst situation at PhDs and 150 IQs They're smart some of the people that I know that are having horrible life. They're strong people They're resilient, but they forgot one thing, but they're still suffering because he said it's not the smartest or the strongest that survived It's the most adaptable To the environment in which they find themselves. This is the universal law of planet earth Maybe you'll go live on a planet like Mars. Maybe you'll head out with Elon Musk Until that day you're on earth Or you're dead then you go below the earth That's the dust we all go please May 2018 the year of adaption and Specifically around your social circle adapt with your social circle. Don't look at it like oh Well, you know, oh, I'm just gonna be smart and strong and just I'm just gonna tough it out These are my friends Once I make a friend I spent all my time with that friend no matter if they now forget that It's not the strongest or the smartest who survived now. You can be loyal But again be loyal to people are loyal to you if the loyalty is gone Then why do you can be loyal? Alan Nation my second mentor told me When you're playing poker You're in a room at the table after 30 minutes if you haven't figured out who the sucker in the room is You're the sucker and some of you 2017 was a year where other people made you into a sucker don't be the Sucker I forget what number I'm on but I don't know three make it up. Don't be the sucker and the number one way you'll become a sucker is with Keeping the wrong people in your life now. Let's get in a little more advanced than I got to go It's the middle of the night. I just had a little inspiration to do this Primarily for my company, but I thought I would just put this out there Maybe you get some benefit. Maybe not Helps me collect my thoughts sometimes to write stuff out and just do these little dumb blogs, but number five If you want a simple litmus test simple test on Who specifically it needs to go there's this there's a few tests out there scientists develop one's called the dark triad one's called hexaco Okay, these are highly scientific. Some people don't believe in personality tests Get with the program. It's 2017 or 2018. You don't think they can measure personality can measure everything else You don't think they can measure personality think humans are snowflakes and every little person's and then how can doctors? map out our body Because we're about all the same with slight variations. That's what personality is humans Maslow's hierarchy of needs We got four or five, you know, you ever seen Maslow's bone You got physiological things You have safety You have love You have respect or social status. You could call that and then you have higher purpose. So I mean humans Maslow Discovered that we all are driven by similar things. We have very similar DNA in many ways to animals and Humans are very similar. We are we're different in our own little way, but less different than you think and so these tests here that were developed at Universities this was developed by a guy at university professor up in Canada hexaco Fascinating study fairly complicated. It's much better than things like Myers-Briggs, you know in ENTPE INFJ Those are okay, but this is the newest science. There's a thing called the big five This is more advanced. This is more advanced these tests for different things So you can Google these they're free I made a test that's free that I use for people around me You can use it if you want You don't have to pay anything It asked for your email address to send you if you are one of those people who are highly suspicious of everything Put in a fake email. I'll give it still give you your results. Okay? Eventually, I'm gonna turn this into a business, but I haven't turned it into business I'm always gonna do a free, but I'm gonna have some paid VIP version of it, but if you want it to go you can go to tylopeds com slash quiz It's free. It really is free But you can also just Google dark I compiled all about five of the top tests in the world Built by scientists into one And I have my programmers do it so I can hand this out Have people take this test that are around you and just tell them take the test yourself And they have other people take it and you'll see some people get horrific scores I had some people in my life boy when I discovered this test There's a good book on this by the way if you want to read a good book I'm not paid to promote this book either. I've never even met people who wrote it age factor of personality This book is this should be your first book you read in 2018 Trust me. This book is amazing. It's by the guy who invented one of the tests Like I said, I compiled five different tests five or six into this one But one of the main ones hexaco. This is the most cutting-edge science. Dr. David bus told me this is a science That has the most Valid research behind it right now. It's the most updated. It was built in 2001. So it's about 15 years old but it's very up-to-date in terms of What he figured out what they made built on top of the big five and all these May 2018 the year you become the master of reading people because in order to be pushed in the right direction So that you don't break your New Year's resolutions in one week like the average person or one month like the average person You got to have a positive force pushing you the positive force Needs to be a person or people But you already have people in your life So you got to make room for the good people or not necessarily good the appropriate people and you got to move out the inappropriate people We're not gonna judge people. It's hard to judge people Some people are doing their best and it's they're just not a good match for you man It's no one has to blame. We don't have to go this person's evil. It's nothing Some people are but most people are You learn to read people you can either go to the free one you can go to a hex a co You just Google hex a co if you want or dark triad You have that there's also the attachment test By what's his name Levin or something like Levine? dark triad there is a There is the big five is one There's also The well there is Myers-Briggs, which is some validity. You don't want to build everything around Myers-Briggs So like I said, I've compiled these five into one So feel free to do the five or if you want to do it on my site like I said you can put your email in I like to email people a record of what they want But if you're one of those people that don't like to put their email in didn't put in your freaking fake email You'll still get the results read this book You will make 2018 a year when you begin to read people This is what they should have taught us in school so that you can keep the shitty people out before they get too close to you and destroy everything And you can keep the good people close to you forever This will change your life. This will make 2018 the best year of life. Take it for yourself And then get everybody you know people by the way everybody loves to take personality quizzes At first I was like, I wonder if I asked people to take this if they're gonna go Why well if they won't take it and they're highly suspicious. That's a bad sign by the way take it yourself Don't be a hypocrite and then just say what do you get on this by the way start with your family This is gonna scare the crap out of you Now you can't get rid of your family blood is always blood But there you don't have to hang out with everyone your family equally if you've got a crazy uncle See him on Thanksgiving and say been great seeing you for 2018. I'll see you again in 2019 and in November Right, you don't have to hang out start prioritizing your family to the people that got the same freaking worldview as you Again, you can't get rid of family Sometimes family got to go all the way. There's no doubt that some family blood is thicker than water But it's not thicker than common sense You got somebody who's a truly destructive force in your life, and they're your mom or your dad You just can have a straight-up conversation. You say listen This ain't good for me. It's probably not good for you. Let's take three years off. It'll be fine You know that probably live and if they don't what else you're gonna do toxic environment You're gonna just die. You're gonna just have your life degraded to nothingness and I'll forget that and Use common sense. Don't overreact You know, you're not perfect so don't overreact to other people's imperfections, but at the same time Don't be a sucker in the room You'll know you need to have people that you're dating or potentially dating take this You need to have people that both hell you better do this before you get a business partner Or you I could predict your future and it's gonna be pain That's from a whole rocky movie. I think it was mr. T and one of the rocky movie He goes, I got a prediction. They go, what's your prediction for the fight? He goes pain That is most people's life when the school system didn't teach us to read people What's more practical than understanding that scientifically validated? psychology and You know personality attributes of other humans. What's more important? Do you think learning teaching kids geometry and hypotenuse of a triangle? Is more important than this school system? Scammed us all my friend. Trust me. Whoever built these school curriculums. They left out like oh, well, what about that? What about the science of dark triad test for narcissism? Some of you have Major narcissist in your life and I got bad news for you. If you got major narcissists in your life You're probably a narcissist too. There's different forms of narcissism. Some of you are introverted narcissists But dark triad is gonna show you, you know, narcissism It's also gonna show you something called Machiavellian Nism Machiavellian probably remember from school This is these people here love themselves and don't give a shit about you. They have what's called unequal WRT's well for a WTR's This is a scientific term welfare trade-off ratios Basically, you do a lot for them and they do a little that's an imbalance welfare trade-off ratio You want welfare trade-off ratios to be approximately one-to-one that means you do one nice thing for them and low and behold Within a week or a month they're doing something nice to you not because you're keeping track But because it happens naturally good people naturally like I have a business partner. It's funny over a year I didn't even think about it when we go out to eat I pick up the bill sometimes two times in a row, but over a year like equaled out He was good people a good experience with a business partner. I've had people who have fucked up WTR's That's narcissism. Machiavellianism is people who are sneaky They have a cynical view on life. They're always trying to get one up on you But they're doing it in a sneaky way narcissists will often do it to your face. I love myself. I Don't want to help you. The narcissist sometimes is Better to have in your life because at least you know they're narcissists Machiavellian smile to your face say they love you. They're your best friend and then behind your back They're doing sneaky things and then you have psychopath Psychopathy is the technical term or way to pronounce it So these are the psychopaths Which is basically not necessarily a murderer, but it's people with very low Emotionality on the hexaco score So and this is hard to change by the way if you have a psychopath in your life Dr. Bus told me it's basically impossible for a psychopath to stop being a psychopath. It's hard Narcissism Machiavellian. This is something that these two are somewhat genetic. This is pretty much all environmental This comes from bullying bad upbringing abuse Makes people Machiavellian most of people it's not their fault, but um Yes still can't hang out with them these people have a low empathy So they just can't create emotions about you could you could have a horrible situation They just can't go. Oh, I feel bad. They want to what they can't and so that's what dark triad is testing for Hexaco tests for 25 other traits Big there's big categories or five big categories H4 So that that's one of the tests and one of the things you need to learn to read You also in the hexaco score, so it had a chance for honesty humility. It's somewhat related to the dark triad and Ease Emotionality this checks them for the psychopathic and highly anxious people be careful Our society is producing massive levels of anxiety. I've tested people. It's insane Tested thousands of people myself personally. I had there was someone a friend of a friend This girl brought a friend over and never was out playing basketball. There's 20 people here I started talking to her. She took the dark triad test on the page before and the hexaco her low Emotionality I was joking around like you killed somebody didn't you and her face just went and I realized uh-oh. I opened a can of worms over the next hour We kind of talked privately. She told me on the first person in the world. She admitted that she killed somebody She hit him over the head with a pipe. They were bullying her this these tests tell the truth Remember you're not judging them. They're telling you it's just a series of systematic questions where they reveal themselves It's much better by the way than judging with your own gut a lot of times We I mean your gut is important But sometimes we over trust our gut and I've judged somebody about how they look I remember I knew somebody who had a tattoo all over their face My first thought was this person's crazy. They did the test now some people lie on the test But the tests are very well built I would say only about 2% of people trick to test it does happen But this person got a very normal score and I realized they just like tattoos nothing wrong with them We judge too quickly and we judge the people Sometimes who look great on the outside, but they turn out to be assholes. There's a lot of those they smile to your face So hexaco and test for extraversion. That's what the X stands for agreeableness. This is massive Don't have friends that aren't agreeable. That's why I said if you ask your friends to take the quiz and they go Why should I huh? They're not agreeable It's annoying. Hey, this is a big one. See is conscientiousness all you entrepreneurs hiring people business partners This is the most correlated with wealth Okay, and then oh is openness to new experience. These are open-minded people now each of these break into sub facets Honesty and melody breaks into four. So it's sincerity fairness greed avoidance of modesty Emotionality breaks into four two. So you have a fearfulness anxiety Fearfulness anxiety Sentimentality independence. That's the four extraversion breaks into a series. It's like social boldness social self-esteem Liveliness and something else this one extraversion, you know, I like introverted people This one is less predictive. Although this is predictive of other things, which is a whole nother conversation Agreeableness is massive. So this is gentleness patience Flexibility and forgiveness. Some of you hanging out with people have low forgiveness So any little thing you do wrong they hold it against you for 45 years That's not a person that you probably want to build your life around in 2018 If you want 2018 to be the best year ever, it's got to be the best year of people around you You think it's just gonna magically the best year because it's a new year on a calendar It's no magic in a calendar calendar is man-made. You're just making it up But you can make it up for the good. You just pick a day Don't make my life better 2018 is a good start conscientiousness is built around four sub facets, too. You have Diligence, that's hard-working. You have prudence making good decisions. You have Organization some people just disorganized and sloppy and then the last thing you have is perfectionism Some people just literally never double-check their work, you know, you see that So that's related to money and opening a new experience has things like altruism People who like art for example aesthetic appreciation they call it and you have creativity and So this one is more related to IQ But there's worldview things here like I said you may be dating someone who is perfect person Overall, but not perfect for you because I've had this situation. I like to travel I've dated people who don't like to travel doesn't matter how great they are here If they don't want to travel I like to travel as part of my worldview. It's not gonna be a fit So I will not have the best year ever if they're in my life no matter how great of a person That's why I said we're not judging people like we're some moral You know morally perfect person. We're not nobody is but we're judging people by a set of attributes Like I said go to tylopez.com Slash Now I have a more advanced quiz if you want this one. I think it's that full quiz. This one's longer So you can do the short one at tylopez Dot-com slash quiz Or you can do the full quiz this one will take you like six minutes this one will take you about 20 So for some people 20 minutes in the modern world, I can't take it no 20 minutes. I'm so edd. I got a fucking Oh, Instagram feed right focus for 2018 to that's a little side note for you. By the way, that's related to conscientiousness Part of being able to be diligent is to be able to focus Alright, so last thing that I'll say so we talked about social circle That was the big thing I talked about for 2018. Well, I think I think I'm gonna talk about this focus thing just to end Whatever we're on number five look the reason I talk about social is it gives you something to focus on but let me step back so many you can't focus because Let's just face it. You know social media makes money by making you unfocused Scientists have studied how Facebook Instagram Twitter all these apps have created Addictions and that's how Why the people who own them are the richest people in the world now? I use social media So I'm not gonna say don't use social media. Hello practical tip for 2018 turn off all notifications On my phone. I don't have one notification on So if you have an iPhone Go to settings Right here go stroll down and notifications Where is my notification right there Turn everything off. Look at mine show previews never off off off off off off every single one is off Okay Because I'm not a sucker. I use social media but social media is not gonna use me I'll look at my Facebook when I want to not one Mark Zuckerberg wants me to Dopamine is released by these apps. It's literal physical addictions created by these again You can use social media, but don't let it use you So just a little practical thing turn off the damn social media notifications Instagram will be there You got to be reminded every time someone DMs you Why are you too dumb that you can't remember that Instagram notification if you can't remember it That means it's probably not important So he's a win-win situation you got more time and less distraction So focus in 2018. I gave you the first thing to focus on which is your social life You're gonna have to focus, you know, I don't know how to draw a horse very well, but I'll just use a square With a head every time I try to draw people are like you're horrible at drawing so I am horrible So horse I used to have a horse and They put these things on the side of horses right here. They're called blinders They don't really blind the horse But they the horse can only see straight ahead and the reason they do that is because when you're out on the road with a horse I live with the Amish for two years If a car big car comes by and the horse sees that out of the corner of their eye They get scared and I actually knew a guy. He was driving along the side of a road There was a cliff on the edge that he didn't put the blinders on that horse to focus the horse a Big truck was coming the horse saw and kind of went like that aside. Whoo. Now. He didn't die, but he went right off the cliff Got injured Got thrown off three four five six months Rehabilitating from their injury. That's a good metaphor for people. You need to put your blinders on and focus straight ahead for 2018 what do you want out of 2018 more money more happiness more time more freedom Focus that brain on that thing. You can't be this is the average person's brain in one second They want to focus on let's say they're trying to improve their business Well, they also think about oh, I got a DM. Oh, okay snapchat. Oh, yeah, oh my mom's calling me Oh, I wonder, you know, what happened at Game of Thrones episode focus. It can be as simple as for example Make a time when you check all your social media, I do it I just try to check it once a day now. I'm in the business of social media. So I do check a little more But my personal side try to wake up Focus and I just go through all my apps one by one and get it out of way 15 minutes You know, I I have a lot of social media followers. So it sometimes takes me a little longer I got 13 million or something. So I get a lot of DMs, but still I'm not gonna check them all be real Why just because you know, so if you got a thousand or two thousand followers, whatever five thousand I used to have a hundred followers It took me 10 seconds a day and then I don't need to check it the average person at work is checking their email They said like 20 to 50 times of an hour. What a waste of life, man. Don't waste your life Tim Ferriss talks about this in The four-hour work week now things have changed since that book was written. That's why I said now turn off notifications Put your blinders on look straight ahead to the goal instead of having the mind that's all over there Just focus on one thing at a time Confucius the great philosopher Chinese philosopher said The person who chases two rabbits catches zero rabbits You chase two things at the same time You get zero So just focus on one now you can get like an income you want to have multiple streams of income in your life The average millionaire has five to seven streams of income different ones, but they didn't build them all at once They build them one at a time Right, you may want to have a mansion, but you got to build one wall at a time Sure, you want a house with many rooms. You've got to build one wall. You can't go. All right Let me nail one board over here go across the house. That's how most people build Focus remember what a laser is a laser is Here's this sun You wake up today the sun doesn't burn you All right, it doesn't burn you. I mean unless you stay out for a long time But if you just go about your day normal The sun's rays, they're diffused They're diffused. So here's you But god help you if someone takes a magnifying glass right here And concentrate that all those rays that are hitting it into one Spot on your body. They'll burn a hole right through your body So the laser does it takes diffuse light focus it That's how you destroy your problems your procrastination. Just focus Put the blinders on turn off some notifications Some of you trying to do too many things you must there's a good book another book you can read in 2018 It's called the one thing By gary keller. I recommended this book for many years I don't get paid to recommend it although. I think I made it a Best seller again. I think it was a best seller and then kind of faded out and then I started promoting it Never got any money for that but I don't care a lot more important things than money like spreading the word on a good book The one thing by gary keller and one of the things he says is when you focus you also have to learn to embrace the chaos Some of you are doing too much. So you got to let some things go and just embrace the chaos So let's say for example You're doing jujitsu karate going to the gym three times a week doing yoga. Well, you probably can't do all that You're driving your kids picking them up here. You're gonna have to say what do I let be chaotic? What will suffer into something something that got to suffer in 2018? What is it? What's going to suffer you cannot increase Without something decreasing because there's limited time So make your decision what you're going to focus on and that also entails what you're not going to focus on Something's got to go. Some of you. It's got to be less video game time. Some of you has to be less tv time Some of you has to be less social media time. Some of you it has to be, you know, I don't know We can go through hundreds of things. I don't know you Pick your thing what's going to decrease so that you can also something else can increase. Okay So I gotta go to bed because I got focused for tomorrow, but that's all I got to today for those who work for me This is not optional if you work here for those of you who don't work for me which is 99.9 percent of you Take the good and get rid of bad And hopefully there's one thing in here that'll help you make 2018. Trust me reading people I've learned many things from many mentors Nothing Is a bigger regret in my life than somebody at 18 not teaching me how to read people I you know, I learned I was lucky in some ways. You know, I grew up with a single mom Not, you know, things weren't given to me like some people. Hey, I wish it's fine, but The first thing I learned from a mentor was like business and marketing and making money And that's been not as hard for me in life because I learned from smart people But nobody talked about how to read people You know, not in elementary school junior high. I mean people have their little theories. I know But like they don't have a systematic focus way to read people And if I could go back on time and time machine right now Pshh I wouldn't ask to learn how to make more money. I wouldn't this I wouldn't that I would say Teach me as young as possible how to be a master of reading people and then everything else will just Fall into place. You'll make more money. You'll be happier. You'll get 10 times done with less stress You'll overcome your laziness to procreate procrastination by having amazing people around you Who then you learn by osmosis? So that's why I said in order to overcome laziness is not the answer most people expect to hear Most people expect to hear, you know, I don't know wake up early or something. It's not that you only learn Socially and so I hope 2018 is a year when you look back and you go man, some people had to go and they were replaced by much More aligned people aligned with your worldview with your goals and you go I didn't even procrastinate even though I'm a procrastinator I didn't who he just kind of did our thing and it worked out. That's how it should feel in 2018 Don't work so hard I mean in a sense work harder But it shouldn't feel like you're working. There's a great book called flow by macael cheek semi-high Which basically says what you want to get in a state where you're working hard But it doesn't feel like work when that is achieved and that'll come from being on the right team Like Odell Beckham, you know plays football the Giants Uh, James Harden was over here at the house plays for go, uh plays for houston chris paul there When they're playing the game, they're working hard They're running average six to seven miles, but they enjoy the game They're in what's called flow if you're noticing The hard work that means something else is wrong So you should be able to get rid of your procrastination in 2018 without working that hard on it Work on the domino of reading people and fixing your social circle in 2018 and as the domino falls Other things will get fixed by that one domino procrastination laziness You know even depression A lot of times we're depressed because it's our body telling us something's wrong. Not always some sometimes depression is You know chemical sometimes it's out of your hands, but there is no doubt that there is situational depression I mean you got to change your situation Depressed people will make you more depressed now if you're a doctor you need to be around depressed people That's all another talk. I won't talk too much on i'm not a psychologist or a doctor, but some common sense is okay Sometimes you don't have to be a doctor to get it If everybody around you is always sad you're gonna be fucking sad Man, it's just welcome to planet earth if everyone around you has a cold You're more likely to get a cold. Let's just be real No matter what your immune system is if everyone around you has ebola those two doctors that went to help in africa Which was very valiant of them to help people who added bola They eventually died of ebola you catch what's around you In the good news you can catch good things so You hang out with good people leave a comment below Bookmark this page leave a comment. Tell me what you need to change in 2018 Maybe leave out the people's names so you don't piss them off. So don't get mad at me I don't want to get between your drama. If you stop hanging out with your mama Don't want your mom calling me So that's why I stayed out of family Pick the people pick the obvious ones first. They got to go Don't get too picky. Don't get rid of everybody Some of you're gonna turn into hermits, which sometimes has to happen, but that's not a good solution either Get rid of the obvious Crate-crate people in your life The narcissists the massive narcissists the massive machiavellian The people suffer from psychopathy Don't try to fix them. Some people say but tied and who's gonna help them. Well, are you trained doctor? Don't be doing surgery if you're not a trained doctor for those of you listening who are advanced therapists psychologists You can work on them You know if you're everyday, I'm not I'm not a psychologist It's not my job if somebody has a heart attack out there I don't go you must work with me. I go go to a hospital Some people have to get help and by the way The whole nother conversation what happens if your score is bad um Read the h-factor personality this game changing book read that one for first and you can read the one thing By gary keller. You can read flow um tileopeth.com slash quiz Check out your scores Hopefully you don't get too traumatic of ones. Talk to you soon