 Nine tips to make networking for introverted people profitable Hey, you feel like an introvert you feel like when you get around crowds you kind of tighten up you get all stressed out I used to be there. I used to be the same way. Believe me. I know what it's like I understand that scary feeling you get dizzy. You just want to run out of the room Well in this video I'm going to share with you things that you can actually do to not only make you more comfortable But maybe change you from being an introvert to an extrovert Don't forget if you haven't subscribed already click that big subscribe button down there turn it from red to gray Don't forget to ring the bell Bring the bell so that you are notified about every single time I go live or I upload a new video So you know and I know that meeting more people networking with more people can always present more Opportunities for you, but it's tough to do it's tough to work a room. It's tough to be around people I'm getting ready now to go to Las Vegas for affiliate Summit West and I'll be doing networking I'll be around a lot of people But I'm going to use a few of the skills that I'm going to teach you in this video to make Connections to make money and to meet new people. So here we go. Okay, let's talk about the pre game Okay, the pre game the first thing you want to do is set your goals. What is your goal? I think a lot of times we get anxious and we get scared to talk to a lot of people because we don't have an end goal What are we trying to do if you're trying to go into a room and just introduce yourself and meet people? That's one thing but it's another thing to try to go into a room and find people that are in the same niche as you and Maybe make a business relationship. So to sign up front. What is your goal? If you go to a room with no goal whatsoever You're going to be heading in a whole lot of different directions and probably not accomplishing anything So prior to getting there set your goals. What are you trying to do? You're trying to get leads business associates, or you just trying to meet people. What is your goal number two lower your bacon score? What's your bacon score? Well, I don't know if you remember it, but years ago They said that there was only six degrees of separation from Kevin Bacon and just about anybody So what that is is somebody knows somebody who knows somebody else who knows somebody else It's been said that nowadays with the internet and with zoom calls and networking and all that that number has gone down to 3.57 I don't know if it's true or not But by attending these things by meeting new people you can lower your bacon score And what that means is you can be closer to people that you want to talk to by meeting more people around you number three Dress up a little bit now I don't personally like to dress up not my thing But I know one thing when I dress up when I wear a nice shirt a coat nice shoes and guys by the way Women are looking at your shoes check out your shoes. They got to look nice Okay, but when you're wearing nice clothes It has been associated with work if you think about it You know a lot of people come home from work and they kick off their shoes And they take their tie off or whatever the case may be take their dress off and put their jammies on that attire Symbolizes work you will tend to get more done if you're dressed for the part now some people say well I don't overdress chair. That'd be terrible. No, what's terrible is when you underdress, okay? That's the bad feeling when everybody's dressed up and you're not if you're dressed up more than everybody else That doesn't seem too bad, but when you're underdressed that could be a real problem that could cost you some relationships Number four prepare for conversations prepare for conversations. Now when you get to a room Here's the here. Here's the utmost truth People care more about themselves than they do about you. They just do A person who is a really good conversationist usually will ask really good questions So if there's certain people in a room you want to meet or certain types of people in a room You want to meet prepare those questions know what those questions are in advance When you ask people questions and they tell you about themselves and you must act interested Okay, if you act interested, they're going to automatically like you people like people who act interested in them That's just a fact now if you can have some things that Maybe are similar to them, you know, maybe you guys went to the same school or from the same state Or maybe you both, you know, live in a certain neighborhood or work for a certain company Any association that's similar to a person will make somebody like you more people like people who are like themselves So the other thing I try to do is I try to rhythm a conversation Based on how that person is acting. So if the person talks slow moves slow I'm probably going to talk slow and move slow if they talk real fast and they move real fast I'm probably going to talk real fast and move real fast too by mirroring them They will like you. They'll say, hey, here's somebody that's just like me. I like that person It's all about location. So I've talked about going into big rooms of people or conferences or meetings that type of thing but Meeting people on a daily basis matters too You never know if you start up a conversation with somebody in a store or somebody in some business and you start to talk to them What relation they may have and then my wife is a dog trainer And the other day I was talking to the person who's in charge of the HOA for our residents here And I said to her and while my wife was there, I said, do you have a dog? And she looked at me kind of backed up. She goes, yes, I do. I have a rescue dog I said, you got to check out my wife's channel So you never know when you're talking to somebody if they have something that is going to click with you So don't just think of this networking thing as always some big conference or some big meeting Think of it as everyday life when you talk to people you're networking anytime you meet a stranger. Number two We're all in this together. That's right. We're all in this together. What do I mean by that? We're very similar to everybody else. It's it's been proven that anywhere from one third to one half of the population Identifies as an introvert. Did you know that so the people that you want to meet in that room Probably are just as scared to meet you as you are to meet them So what you need to do is kind of force yourself to introduce yourself If you wait for everybody to come up to you, you're not going to meet near as many people It's super important when you get in one of these rooms walk around Introduce yourself. Say hello And I like to use the five four three two one thing that mel robbins talks about and you can look up mel robbins She has a great ted ex speech about her five four three two one But when you decide to do something you start counting from five down Never count up to five count five down and when you get to one do that thing that you said you were going to do Ask that person to dance go up and introduce yourself to some Business associate walk up to somebody in a store and talk to them whatever it is You wanted to do count from five down now. Why do I say five down because if you count from one up You could just keep going right you could say well, let me move it to 10 Let me move it to 15 and pretty soon that person's gone So it's always five down five four three two one and do what you know You should do number three know when to recharge The pomodoro principle says you should work for 25 minutes and rest for five minutes work for 25 minutes And rest for five minutes So you don't want to go into a room full of people and for three hours keep going up to people and talking Okay, that can be exhausting for you after 25 minutes And you can set a timer on your watch or whatever you want to do But after 25 minutes take a five minute break go to the restroom Go get a drink sit down and relax for a second do whatever you want to do Don't try to work a room for hours on in that's exhausting for anybody Number four are your conversation topics. What are you going to talk about? I like to have a little speech about what I do now I have several different businesses. I own a survival food company And so I can talk to survivalists and people in that niche I own another company called jr fisher training And I teach people how to make money online and quit their jobs And that's basically what I say to people I teach people how to make money online and quit their jobs A lot of people respond to that very well. They're like, oh my gosh, I got to see your channel I got to see some of your stuff because so many people want to quit their job so I have those conversations starters and You should always stick to what you know, you know, don't say you're a digital marketer if you're not I you know, and I'm not saying just digital marketer. Don't say you're in anything if you're not I was out to dinner the other night with somebody and they said they were a digital marketer I was like great, you know, I'm a digital marketer too. Do you know this person or this person or this person? They're like no no no and I named some of the top people in digital marketing in the world And this person didn't know any of them never heard of them So I knew at that instance they weren't a digital marketer and I wanted to get them out of it I wanted to somehow get them out of it and they said well, we deal mostly with businesses Which would have had nothing to do with it. I said, well, yeah, I usually deal with the end consumer So I kind of get how you wouldn't know any of those people But the fact remains don't say you're something you're not don't try to make yourself more impressive than what you are You know, I've sold millions and millions of dollars of products online But I don't lead with that. I don't walk up to people and say, you know, I sell millions and millions of dollars online You know, that's that's just it's weird, right? It's just weird to do that Because there was a time that I sold $10 online and I still remember that time and I try to keep that humble level And you should too now there was a time When the way you networked Was actually Hand them a business card. Uh, and I would say up until maybe five or six years ago I actually had business cards. I would hand people and I don't do it anymore I don't do it because I can send my contact information to somebody I can, you know, use a qr code and they can scan that and get all the information about me And I think that's the best way to go about that now. So when you're conversing with people Have some pre-planned way of getting your information to them and you getting their information too I would say use a qr code Those those work really well So you could use one of those codes, but if you just want to send your contact information You can do that too It the only problem with sending contacts is it may not work between let's say apple and android So you may have to have a different kind of phone or whatever, but that's what I use a lot I don't really give out my personal information that much i'll give out my business information Which I can text somebody I like texting people because I can get their name And I say let me text this to you what's your number So now I've got their name and number and I can text them whatever information it was and I can store them in my phone And I just made a new contact for me too Now after this is over with after the event is over with don't forget to follow up You know, don't forget to follow up. Don't say to somebody. Hey, we ought to have lunch one day Or we ought to get together sometime or we need to share our experiences in advertising on facebook on youtube Whatever and then not do it. Don't do that. You got to do it. Okay, so you got to really follow up If you don't plan on following up, don't tell people you're going to follow up. That's a huge mistake Now if you do all of these things all these things Even though you're an introvert and keep in mind one third to one half of the population identifies as being an introvert So you're just like everybody else. You're no different But if you do all these things you're going to make more contacts You're going to make more money and you're going to start to feel better about yourself the more you do this The more you experience this the more people you talk to The more relaxed you're going to feel because you're going to realize No, you didn't die. You didn't die when you walked up to somebody and said hello Though sometimes it may feel like it on the inside sometimes it may feel horrible and you're so nervous and you're going to say Oh my god, they're going to know i'm nervous. I'm going to look like a fool. I'm going to look like an idiot Don't worry about it guys. We're all here for a short period of time. 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