 Check, check. OK, welcome back after class. Before we went for that class, we were on page number 20 of lesson one, a Code of Honor. For the online students, the PDF copy of this book, Code of Honor, is on the stream page. You can access it from the stream page. Let's move on. So we are on page number 20. We need to fire up our passion for purity. We looked at this verse in 2 Timothy chapter 2, verses 19 and 20. When we are people who are constantly cleansing our lives from what is impure, we become vessels of honor. We become the vessels of honor in God's house, where God can use us. We are ready for the master's use. So sometimes when you feel why God is not using us, using someone else, not using you, then you need to realize that there is something that is impure in your life. You're not being that vessel of honor by God can use you. And even as we become journey in our Christian walk with God, we think we are born again. We're going to heaven. And we are already in ministry. We are doing ministries. And so we think that sim cannot come near us. But we need to be very careful that we can also get attracted to sins in full ways. And at times we can begin to compromise. We can adjust to some sins, which once we never used to tolerate. That's because we are not walking in line with God. We're not spending time with God. We're not letting His word and the Holy Spirit correct us and purify us. And we see eventually that our life will go on a downward trail and become very, very disastrous. So it's very important to guard our passions. We have different passions. We need to guard that in a pure way and maintain purity in that area. We need to fire up our passion for purity. Always keep that passion, the fire burning for purity. And doing things in a pure way. The next thing is in our personal life is we need to set some personal boundaries. Psalm 101 verses 2 and 3. Can somebody read that please? Yes. It would be nice if you can take the mic and read so that our students next time can. So here, Psalm says that I will behave wisely. Remember in chapter 2, we learned in receiving God's guidance, we learned about David. We saw how David walked wisely in the Lord. He not only strengthened himself in the Lord, but also walked wisely. So he says, you know, the Psalmist says, I will behave wisely. Look at what he says. When even when I walk within my house, I will walk with a perfect heart. You know, sometimes we portray ourselves like angels in front of people. But it's only our family members who can tell us really whether we are angels or devils, because of how they see us at home. Our true nature is revealed at home. So we need to walk perfectly before God, whether in the public or even in our home. For that, we need to set some boundaries. And Pastor here is writing his book. So he's written some boundaries. He says that he never meets a woman or counsels a woman alone. That's why if you come to APC office, you see our office, it's all open. It has all glass separations. There's no closed doors. So anyone can see into anyone's cabin. So even if Pastor's talking to a lady, anyone can see because it's all open glass, all four sides. Another boundary he sets is he never takes a woman alone in his car, accepting his wife or his daughter or his mother in the same vehicle. He never gives a hug to women. He might just shake their hands. And also when he's praying for them, he does not lay hands on any other part of the body. Just maybe when he feels led, he will lay hands on this on their woman's head. It's good to follow these rules. It just keeps us safe, these boundaries. I also, when I relate to men, I don't get too friendly with them. See, over-friendly with them, over-talking, over-friendly with men of any age. Even if they are much younger to me, they don't know my age because of how puny and small I look. They think I'm just in my 20s. But they might misunderstand. But even with people with boys of the young age, I never talk too much. I don't get too over-friendly. I'm OK with the women. Men also, I don't hug and all of those things. Women, very rarely, but yes, sometimes I just give them a hug. But it's good to maintain all of these boundaries. It just helps. Also, we need to stay clean from all private sexual sins. Paul says in 1 Corinthians, all things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of anything. Here he's talking in relationship with food. But we know that our sexuality is designed by God. But even though it's designed by God, there are certain parameters. There's a boundary that he's laid. We can't step out of those boundaries. Now, once we become born-again people, we are in Christian ministries. We are pastors or whatever. It does not make us angels. We're still human. We're still open to sexual temptations and sexual passions. And that's why it's important that we surrender our sexual appetites, our minds, our sexual desires, everything to God, keep it under God's control. Just like we bring every thought captive to God, we also bring our sexual appetites under God's control. We know that our sexuality is something that is very private. But this is an area where many men, great men and women of God have fallen in this area. So you and I are no exceptions to this case. So that's why it's very important that we maintain these boundaries. We don't compromise with the sin. We don't give into pornography. Don't watch dirty blue films, dirty things that easily available on Google, YouTube. Don't give a second look to things in the magazines. Nowadays, newspapers. Sometimes when I look at newspapers, I think these women would have pictures of themselves when they're fully nicely clad. But they don't show them in fully dressed up clothes. They will always show them very with less clothing, with much of their flesh or skin revealing. And it's very, very sad. Why do they do that? It's basically those kind of newspapers sell. If you just have prudent material, no graphics, nobody's interested in that material. Even if you look at the billboard signs, just a simple jeans ad or just a simple perfume ad will have sexual connotations in that. And it's so sad because that is what sells. But we are not supposed to give into pornography, lustful thinking, even flirting with the opposite sex. Some pastors are married. And the congregation or you have a pastor of a youth group or a team that is under your care. You have women who are part of your team. And some of them can easily flirt, whether it's a guy or a woman. We flirt with others, even though we are married or you already are going to be engaged to be married to somebody. Flirting, that is also something that is wrong. First Corinthians 5-6 in Galatians 5-9 says, a little leavens up the whole entire lump. Just a little east can just create the fluffiness in the entire batter or the dow that is there. So just a little sin can actually impact our entire lives. So we need to stay clean from all sexual sins, keep our bodies under subjection under the power of the Holy Spirit, under God's word, and take the necessary steps that we need to overcome all of these temptations. There's another point about masturbation in page number 24. Many of them struggle with this, but there is no personal stand from God's word. But what we do as a church is we don't want our bodies to be a slave of anything. First Corinthians 6-12 says, all things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of anything. So the question is masturbation OK or is acceptable? It's not the question that we need to be asking. It's the question we need to ask is, does it help us? It really does not help us. It just makes us enslaved to a habit, and then it leads into bondage, and then it leads into sin, and hence it's good not to indulge in masturbation. So what we need to do is we need to declare that our body is for God, our bodies are holy, it's a temple of the living God. Our body has nothing to do with sin or sexual immorality, but our body is for the Lord. And we need to pray and consecrate our sexual parts of our being to God, declare that all of my sexual desires and sexual appetites are holy and consecrated to the Lord. We also need to be accountable to God every moment, we need to be pleasing God in everything that we do every moment of our life. We need to live with this fear that we are going to give an account of our life to God one day. If we live with that fear, everything that we do in life, we will do it with that sense of accountability. But if we don't have that fear that, hey, I'm going to stand before God one day and give an account for my life, then we are not going to live with any sense of accountability. We are going to get into a lot of sin. And also, we need to know, like Joseph said, how can I sin against God? We need to know that when we sin, who's watching us? God is watching us, OK? God was watching over us. He knows what our motive is, why we are doing things. So even when sometimes we might be doing some good work, but it can be out of a wrong motive, we need to know that God sees. People might say, oh, what a good person. How many good things he or she is doing. But we need God is looking at our motives, OK? And also, we need to know that all the time, we are full-time believers and full-time ministers. Whether we are serving God or not, we are not. We can't say, OK, I'm in part-time ministry, part-time. Because we can't say I'm a part-time believer. We all are full-time believers in the same way. We're also full-time ministers of God. So wherever we've got us placed as, whether we are a teacher, we're a housewife, we're studying in a Bible college, working in an office, we are God's ministers in that place. We bring about God's kingdom, His rule, His reign, His kingdom activity, His kingdom presence in that place. We are a royal priesthood, a holy nation. You're a priest. Whether you are a teacher, pastor, a pilot, or doctor, an engineer, or chef, whatever you are, a mechanic, whatever you're calling is that you are a priest. And that is more important. And you need to live your life with that sense of accountability. And we need to, like Paul says, we also need to work with our own hands, be diligent, be sincere with what God has given to us, at the same time also engage in ministry. This is the next point many of you might not think it's important, but it's very important. Watch your diet and exercise regularly. Don't overeat. Don't keep on eating all the time. Eat, don't eat a lot of junk food. You know, our bodies are the temple of the living God. We are accountable to God, even to what we are eating, how we are taking care of our body, how much rest we're giving. Exercise. We need to exercise regularly. Because if we don't eat right, if we don't exercise and we don't rest, well, what happens to our body? We have a lot of sicknesses, right? And then we are not being good stewards of our body. We are not being good stewards of our body. Our health is not going to, they're not healthy. We cannot pursue the things of God. We can't carry out the vision of God. Spiritually, we won't be able to grow. So avoid overeating too much of sweets, faster saying that in his book. Salt, oily food, fatty food. Eat on time, you know, we'll be very disciplined eating on time, you know. Our eating habits and regular exercise will help us to serve God better and longer, okay? And also eating right, exercising right, resting well, will also save time and money, okay? What you spend in hospitals, medical care. So you can use that time and money for building the kingdom of God for more beneficial things. So be consistent in how you eat and rest and exercise, okay? And the last thing is have a personal management plan, okay? You know, when Paul is writing to Timothy and to Titus, he's telling them, you know, I want you to choose elders or leaders in the church. And he says, he does not say, you know, if you read 1 Timothy, 2 Timothy chapter 1 and Titus chapter 1, you see the whole list that Paul is giving Titus and Timothy, Titus who is ministering at Ephesus and sorry, Titus who's ministering in Crete and Timothy who's ministering in Ephesus, he tells them choose leaders and he tells them what criteria. He doesn't say they should be reading the Bible, they should be godly, they should be attending church regularly, they should be flowing in the gifts of the Spirit, they should manifest the food of the Spirit. No, if you read that, you'll be shocked, you'll say, you'll see that he says there should be men of one wife, they should be able to take care of their children, they should not be given to jealousy, hatred, pride, forlorn, not covetous, they should not be strong willed, you know, they should not be given to wine, quick tempered, not violent, they should not be greedy for money, be hospitable, lovers of good, sober minded, just holy self-control, please read that. You know, 1st Timothy, 2nd Timothy chapter 1 and Titus chapter 1, you can see that list. So God is more interested, God is revealing to Paul and more interested in every aspect of the life, not just in the, you know, manifesting the foods of the Spirit or the gifts of the Spirit, okay? So, you know, the Holy Spirit fills us with boldness and power and love and discipline and of self-control. We all know that verse in 2nd Timothy chapter 1, verse 7, it says, God has not given us a spirit of timidity or of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind, okay? So that is the Holy Spirit that's giving to us. It gives us a spirit of discipline and self-control. So, you know, you need to plan your life because Holy Spirit is a, and God is a God of order, you know, we already learned that, you know, so we need to also order up our lives, we need to plan our time, we need to, so that we can use our time and the resources that God has given well. If we don't plan our day, then, you know, something come up, this will come up, that will come up, and we can get distracted and we can end up doing those things and we will finally come to the end of the day and not achieve much because we have not completed what we wanted to do because we had not planned our day and we had just given into all the distractions that came in. So distractions actually waste our time and our energy, it delays things, it weakens things for us. So how do we have a personal management plan? You know, have a daily schedule, okay? What time you're gonna get up? What time you're gonna pray? What time you're gonna do what? Which assignment, classes, you know, all of those things, you know, set your priorities right. You know, time with God, time with family, you know, time to exercise, rest, and your work, okay? Sometimes when, you know, people you become very famous, people will invite you from all corners of India, from the world, but you know, just don't be running here and there everywhere, but take on ministry assignments or speaking engagements that really is going to benefit and help or is that area of ministry or wanting that God is leading you? Because there are other areas of ministry that other people can preach and teach in that same area. You needn't have to go. If you do that, you know, you will find yourself running from place to place and that will affect your time, your ministry, where God has called you to, your vision, your plan, and also your health, okay? Meeting church people, you know, as a pastor, you know, pastors traveling all over the place, meeting people, but what Pashashis does is just to save his time, energy. He calls people to the office. So, you know, the people that come to the office only when their situation is very, very important, they will spend the time, energy, take leave everything and come and meet pastor. And pastor also saves his time and energy either from running from place to place. You know, in that time of two hours where he can meet only one person, he could meet at least three people because they're just coming there to office. He's not running from place to place. So just, you know, decide on things, what you want to decide in your own ministry. He also doesn't go home visiting for birthdays, dinners, special occasions because such a big congregation, if he's going every time, every day, just imagine, you know, he'll be just doing that and not preparing for ministry and other areas of ministry will not be fulfilled or God's plan will not proceed, okay? Solving problems and meeting needs, we need to know that we are not God. We cannot solve everybody's problems. We can't meet everyone's needs. This is an extent that we can go, we can help them. To that extent, we can do it. If you're not able to help them, what do we do? We just assign them to show them to somebody else. Us then to reach out to this person, that person, this ministry, that ministry, and they can get the help. But sometimes being in ministry, we think we are God. We need to help people with everything and anything. And that can also become distractions. That can also become a stress for us. That can also eat up into our time. And then we can see that, you know, things of God cannot be pursued. The vision of God cannot be pursued. And the last thing is, you know, Pastor works in, he plans his life 10 years, decades, okay? So we already spoken about this, you know, just sit down, take a paper, ask the Holy Spirit what he wants you to do this season of the life, in your life, or in the next 10 years of your life. Just hear, put down what all you think you want to do the next 10 years of your life. Just ask the Holy Spirit to give you and guide you what are the things he wants you to do. What are the things he wants to rearrange, change your things, your plans, and just work around that. And you just see that, you know, Pastor says it's very beautiful because he has seen, you know, how God works in 10 years of his life. He's seen God fulfill his plans, his visions, the dreams that he has, what God has envisioned for him. And also he sees this 10 years as season when God is preparing him for the next season of his life. Yes, Sean, can you please take this mic where you can come up in front and ask a question. Come quickly. Okay. Anyone has any questions for this lesson? One of you can be, or just helping out with the mic. Yeah. So basically Pastor Ashish's plan, this tenure plan is like how we can take an example for the government, like how they have their own five year plan to accomplish certain goals and things that they need to like improve the cities like that. Yes, the government also has their, you know, their five years there in ministry, yes. This is important to plan. That's the most important thing. Anyone has any questions? Any questions from our online students? Francis, you have a question? Anyone else has any question? Online students, any questions? Okay, there are no questions. We'll move on to the second thing is family. Okay. It's important for us to balance our work or if you're in ministry, balance your ministry and your family life. Okay. Yes, Sean, take the mic. Yes, it's a repeat it. Yeah. Yeah, we'll just quickly go through it because you all are reading it, but our online students are not reading. They're not doing any assessment like you all are doing. And also the e-learning students are not doing the assessments. So there are different people at different levels. So we just have to go through it, but we'll go through it quickly. Okay. You know, sometimes as ministers of God, we're counseling other families. We're getting people married. We're counseling children, but ministers own family, his own marriage is sometimes his own home can go through a lot of trouble and difficulties because the pastor is constantly busy with other families, other homes, other marriages, other children when their own life and their own family, their own homes, their own wives and children are struggling. Yes. Mike, please. How can we manage our priorities? How can you manage your priorities? Good question. Your first priority is God, right? So now you're not involved in any ministry. Okay. So you have to prioritize your time with God. What time am I going to spend time reading with God? Okay. And then what is your next response? Your next response for teacher, you're a student now. So you attend classes. So you say in the classes, I feel very sleepy, I feel very drowsy. So in the night, I'm not going to be looking at YouTube. I'm not going to be watching any movies. I'm not going to be watching any videos. I'm not going to be listening to any sermons in the night. I'm going to get good sleep. For me, I'm just saying, you know, for you, for you example, eight hours of sleep makes you fresh. So you make it a point that I'm going to sleep at this time, make sure you go to bed. And then, you know, such and such a time that you have classes after class, you're having your supernatural hour, fasting, prayer. What are you going to do from four to eight or nine till you go to bed? You know, if you're not going to plan, you can just sit and talk and play the guitar or sing or learn an instrument or, you know, okay. All that is important, learning an instrument, but you've not come here to learn an instrument, right? You've come here to learn God's word. So you want to say, okay, I've learned today about, you know, my identity in Christ. So I'm going to look at the notes. I'm going to prepare. I'm going to read God's word. You know, this teacher said this about this scripture. Let me look at it. You know, you're going back to the notes that you, the teachers have taught you. You just have three classes. You can just spend one hour just going through. It's actually building you up in the things of God. So maybe four to five, you say four to five, I'm just going to rest. Maybe five to six, you need rest, right? Four to five, I'm going to rest. I'm going to sleep for some time. Five to six, I'm going to play some game or I'm going to go for a walk because exercise is important. So you're just walking around the campus. And then, you know, from six to nine, I'm just going to spend time because I'm here in Bible study to study, to learn God's word. I'm not here to just talk, to sing, to learn music, to sing well, to lead worship. All that is important, but I'm here to learn God's word because learning an instrument, you can do it later. Singing, you can do it later, but you'll never get the time to go through all of these thoughts. So priority is that. First priority is God. Second priority is learning what you have been taught every day. The third priority is rest with your resting one hour exercise. And then you go back to sleep soon so that you can wake up in the morning, spend time with God. You're not sleeping in your class. Priority, see? So for me, sometimes my priority is misty. So I don't go shopping. I hardly go shopping. I hardly go visiting anybody because I don't have the time. I just have this priority. Today I have to do this, this, this, this, this. I have to do it. I have to finish it. So I don't have time to watch anything, do anything, sit around, chat, talk, go here, go there. It's, you know, you just have to get your work done. Because, you know, you don't have to work done. It just gets delayed and gets piled up. It becomes a difficulty. Okay, good question. Does it help? Okay, Prince. Prince says, how to implement the plans that we make cause? We come up with many plans but can't fulfill to complete them. Yes, so what you need to do is you need to think about your plans in maybe you can start in two years, three years, five years, or if you're going able to do 10 years, fine. In the next two years, what do you want to do? Now, for just for example, we have all these Bible college students here, none of them are married. So the next two years, they, some of them may be thinking, okay, in the next two years, I'm going to continue with second year and third year course. I'm going to be here. Okay. And then maybe they're planning for the next five years, the same Bible college students can say, I'm going to be here for the next two years. Okay, two years of study. Then after that three years, what I'm going to do, it's time for me, it's a good age for me to get married. And then I want to get, you know, do this ministry. So, you know, I'm just going to pray and wait upon God. And then maybe God is leading them to go under, to be trained and around the man of God, because they want more training. So they think about some options, they write down the options and they ask the Holy Spirit to lead them and guide them. So there's basically for the Bible college students, their next, their plan for the next five years is logically thinking, is completing their Bible college because they're young and they're in the right age getting married. But some of them thinking, I'm not going to get married because I need to get a job, I need to get financially stable, then get married. So that is out of the question. So then the next is where should we go and minister? Okay. So some of them will think, okay, I don't want to just minister, I want to be like Paul, I want to work and do ministry. So what is the area where I want to work, which is the place God is calling me, which is the ministry, which field He wants me to work. So we just logically think right down our plans and then we ask the Holy Spirit to lead us and guide us and show us. And so the Holy Spirit to the inner witness of the Holy Spirit, to the audible voice of the Holy Spirit, the inner voice of the Holy Spirit, the Holy Spirit can realign our plans and our agendas. So you can maybe plan for two years, three years, five years, so good enough, 10 years, you can do that. So did I answer your question? How about daily schedules and plans, ma'am? Yeah, daily schedules and plans, that's what I just explained to this Bible college student. I just told him what he needs to do. He's a student here. So get up in the morning, study, I mean, God first. So spend time with God, then attend classes. Then after that, you know, the Bible college has fasting, bread, supernatural hour. And then, you know, four to five rests because your body's tired. Then I said five to six important for exercise. Then from six to nine, you're here to study, to equip yourself in God's word. So, you know, whatever basically three lessons were taught, three subjects were taught, go through the notes, go to bed early so that you can wake up the next day and, you know, early so that you can spend time with God, okay? So now if Prince, you are working, then, you know, you get up in the morning, spend time with God. Prince. Ha ha ha ha ha, you know, you get up and spend time with God and then you, you know, you go to your work. Okay? You come back home. You spend time with family if you're married because family is important. You have parents, sit with them, chat for some time, then go for a walk because it's important. Half an hour walk every day is very good. That's what doctors suggest. Brisk half an hour walk in the park. Then come back and maybe do some home chores, prepare for your next day, have your family prayer time, and then have dinner together with your family. So you're spending more time with the family and go to bed. So you've finished your time with God, you've finished your work, you've finished time with, you've got time to exercise, time with your family, time to do your home chores, prepare for the next day, and you're ready for the next day. Okay, Sprint is one of our students here, not online students, he's our in-person students, and so that's why we're laughing. Okay, so we'll move on to good questions. Next lesson is family. Okay, we already began that. You know, Paul tells Timothy and Titus who he needs to choose as leaders of the church. He says, choose somebody who's able to take care of his own house. If somebody is not able to take care of his own house, that means his own wife and children, how can he take care of the house of God? You first take care of your own family. So somebody who's able to take care of their own family and then, you know, he's able to take care of the church of God, okay? So it's very important. So actually, people, you know, do this. Ministers of God, ministry first, God second, family lasts. Or it's ministry first, God second, or it's ministry first, people in the church second, third is God, and family doesn't figure out anywhere in the list. But the actual right order is God first, family second, ministry third. God first, family second, ministry third. And that is why we see many pastors, their own families are in a breakup. Their children are gonna stray away from God. They hate God, have anything to do with the church because they have seen their father not giving time to them. So why do we need God if this is gonna happen to our family? And wives are not feeling that love, that understanding, that time with their husband, they're looking for love somewhere else, okay? So yes, Sean, please take the mic. Come up in front. So in that scenario, wouldn't it be best that they work and then preach like on Saturday and Sundays, okay? That's since that would like give them enough time for to spend their family also and to finish. Okay, Sean, because there are many men who work nowadays, the work system is so demanding that people have no time for family also. Even on people full-time ministry, working, serving God full-time. People even working in the corporate or in the, any field, their work hours are long, maybe eight to eight in the night. So when some families, I've heard wives telling me that when the husband comes back home, the children are already asleep. When the children leave home, the husband is still sleeping, see? Because they have to earn and they think they have to do it for their family, but it's not just eating up their family time. So if you want to balance work, ministry and family, then you need to really be, have a good management plan and ask God to help you, okay? On page number 36, there are three postures, you know, that is mentioned in the Bible. One is in Luke chapter 14, where Jesus says, if anyone comes to me, but he does not hate his father and mother and wife and children and brother and sister, he cannot be my disciple. So one posture, it says in the Bible that we have to hate our mother, father, brother, sister, leave everybody and follow God. The second one Paul says in 1 Corinthians chapter seven, he says that even those who have wives should be as though they have none. The second thing, a second stand is, the Bible says, those who have a married, you know, they should pretend as if to say they are not married, they should be busy doing God's work or working, okay? There should be people like as though they don't have any wives. The third thing, the third stand was third posture, first Timothy chapter three, where it says that, you know, a leader or a church or a church elder should take care of his own wife and his children. So the whole question is which stand should I take? You know, should I be a disciple of Jesus and forget about my father, mother, brother, sister, wife, children, everybody? Or the second one is be married but pretend as if to say you're not married. That means don't be, you know, engage in taking care of your wife and your other son. Be totally engaged in working for God and or doing your personal work. The third thing is, you know, take care of your wife and children. So which is the right position to take? So people have raised up this question. Actually, okay, we need to fulfill all of these three simultaneously together, okay? Which means our love for God should be over or supersede our love for our wife and children and all earthly relationships. And when God calls us, we must be willing to make sacrifices and not excuses saying that, God, you know, I can't go to the mission team because I have my wife and children and you know, or I wanna get married, you know, whatever. Okay, so the first thing is our love for God should supersede our love for our wife and children and earthly relationships. So when God calls us, we need to be willing to make sacrifices. The second thing is, even though we are married, okay, our focus should be on Christ, fulfilling, while fulfilling our family responsibilities, we must also fulfill what God has called us. We should not be distracted with just taking care of our family, okay? And the third thing is, we need to do our part in going and nurturing our family and God will be glorified, okay? So all three work simultaneously together. So when God is calling us with full-time ministry, we don't make an excuse saying our family, okay? I can't make an excuse saying God, I can't go to Bible college because my father didn't want me to go to Bible college. That was not the time my father wanted me to go to Bible college. I had to go to Bible college, but God took care of, you know, making my father understand, okay? So God first, family second, the same time, you know, we do God's work, but we also at the same time are taking care of our family. It's not that only family and not God's work, okay? And the third thing is, you know, we need to do our part in going and nurturing our family and God will be glorified, okay? We also need to nurture our relationship with our spouse. You know, sometimes pastors, ministers, they're so busy ministering to X, Y, Z or A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, and all the people that come to them, but they neglect their own spouse. They don't have time to speak to their own family, their own children. They just think their own spouses will take care of things automatically, but it's God given responsibility for you, husband and wife to take care of each other, to nourish, cherish, and to help your spouse. Just as we're taking care of other people, they're equally responsible to giving our time, care, affection for our own family and our own wife and our own children. Also important to nurture your relationships with your children. Efficient chapter six verse four, can somebody use the mic and read it loudly? Where's the mic? Okay, you can read that. And you fathers do not provoke your children to read, but bring them up in the training and a domination of the Lord. Thank you. Sometimes ministers or pastors think that we should be busy doing God's work. It's the responsibility of the wife or if the husband is working in a software company or he's in a big, very busy job, he thinks it's not his responsibility to look after the children. It's the wife's responsibility to look after the children. Sometimes ministers also think that it is the responsibility of the church to spiritually nourish their children. Sometimes parents thinks it's the responsibility of the Sunday school teacher to teach a nourish the child in the spiritual things, just like they think nowadays parents tell the teachers that please don't give our children homework, it's your responsibility. We are paying peace. It's your responsibility to teach our children in school. Don't send them homework and all at home because we don't have time to take care. We are paying so much of peace. Your responsibility, get done everything with the children in the school. And the same way parents think, you know, that it's a responsibility of the church, the Sunday school teacher. So send the children to Sunday school. It's their responsibility to nurture them spiritually. But how many hours a child is spending in children's church or Sunday school? One hour. Okay, in that singing everything, half an hour only God's word. It's actually the responsibility of the parents because in the Old Testament, it also says, we look at it. Okay, it's important that we are able to train up our children in the ways of the Lord. We just don't tell children what they should be doing and what they should not be doing because children don't listen. Only when you have a relationship with them, you know, children will listen to you because they know, okay, my father or my mother genuinely understands, you know, is spending time, you know, having a relationship. You know, we need to spend a relationship, build time, building a relationship with our children. When we build a relationship with our own children, when we teach them or we think, tell them something from God's word, then they are going to listen because they're not thinking my father and mother is just like a policeman or a policeman. Just telling me what to do and what not to do. But they know that they're genuinely interested because you're interested in, hey, what are you doing? Come, you like to play badminton? I'll play badminton with you. You like to play your painting? I'll also sit along with you and paint or they're playing a game. You just sit with them and play a game. They're watching Cartoon Network. Just sit with them and watch Cartoon Network. Talk to them. So they're basically thinking my parents are genuinely interested in what I am doing. So when you're telling them, you're correcting them, you're teaching them something from God's word, they will listen to you. Or they will think, oh, there is somebody who is really like a pastor or preacher. Just telling me what to do, what not to do and not interested, okay? The next thing is we need to work to provide for our family. Can somebody use the mic please, Rin? Can you take the mic and read First Timothy chapter five verse eight on page number 39. But if anyone does not provide for his own and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. These are very strong words that Paul uses. He says if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. So sometimes, you know, ministers, children, you know, they hate ministry or they hate church or they hate God because they think, because their parents are in ministry, has separated them. Some of them have been put into boarding schools, mission boarding schools, okay? So they hate God, they have nothing to do with God. I've seen many missionary children like that because they cannot stay with their parents. Why? Because their parents can't afford them, okay? And they hate God, they hate anything to do with God or spiritual things because they think God cannot provide for them. So Paul is saying, you know, you need to provide. So if ministry is not giving you that kind of money where you're able to feed your spouse and your children and take care of their needs, then it's okay to get a small job. It's not sinful. But take a small job, you know, do a job. At the same time, you can also minister. You can run your church. You can, you know, preach on Sundays. At the same time, you can work. That way, you can actually, you know, feed your children, you know, feed your spouse and see that they're not lacking in any rich way. So it's not sinful if you take up a job. It's not like, you know, Jesus says, you're looking back at the plow. It's not a sign of unbelief. No, it's just that you are earning so that your family is not deprived of their basic needs, okay? Pursue God's purpose as an individual, okay? Matthew chapter 10, can somebody read that? Matthew chapter 10. Rin, can you pass that mic to somebody quickly? Matthew chapter 10, verses 37 and 38. Francis, put on the mic and read. Matthew chapter 10, verse 37 and 38. He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me. And he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after me is not worthy of me. Okay, so here this verse seems to be a contradiction to what we have actually a sudden shift from what we've been saying so far. Yes or no? No, we've been placing influence on taking care of our family. But here it says, you know, those who love their father or mother is not worthy of me or loves their sons and daughters more than me is not worthy of me. But here actually is saying that it's important to take care of the family, but we cannot compromise our call, our love for God, our obedience for God, for the sake of our family, okay? So if, you know, if you're financially stable and you work hard and then you want to go into ministry and your wife knows that, you know, or your husband knows that if you step into ministry, then that income will not come. You might not be able to go abroad for holidays or you might not be able to buy a bigger house or a bigger car that you were planning to because the sudden call of God has come into your life and you feel that this is the time to take and you take on that call because you feel that your children are, okay, you have some bank balance to take care of your children's education. You can go ahead with your ministry, but your wife or your spouse says, you know, don't do that. No, if you do that, we cannot be a bigger house or we cannot buy a bigger car or we cannot, you know, go out and eat or in restaurants or we can't go for holidays or anything. So don't pursue that call. Well, that is when we don't pursue God's call in those times when we just want to, you know, feed our greed and not just our needs, then it's making a compromise. Yes, we need to take care of our family, but also the same time, we don't compromise on our love for God and obedience to His call, okay? We walk ahead with God's plan and purposes for our life in Christian ministry. At the same time, you know, we take care of our spouses, our parents, our children, and we see that, you know, all of these roles are interlinked. Each role strengthens the other, okay? For example, success in one area is success in another area. So if our wife and our children are happy, our home is happy, our minds are free, we can go and minister, okay? And there's success in that area. If our wives and children are not happy, there's problem at home, you know, we cannot be successful in the area of our ministry, okay? So we'll stop here. Anyone has any questions? Yes, Sean, please take the mic and you can ask your question. Another thing I wanted to add about, like, why sometimes children. Is it on? Yes. Okay. Another reason why I think children become rebellious, you know, especially like pastors, children, is because it's not, maybe it can be like not getting much attention. Another extreme is that they give too much attention on posting them to read the Bible and the word and not giving them like much freedom. I think that's another thing that need to take into account. Yeah, that's very true. We'll come to that where it says, you know, as don't use every opportunity to preach a sermon to your wife or to your children, you know, or don't use every opportunity to take, you use Bible chapter and verse to tell your wife and children, you know, what to do. That is the worst thing to do, especially when you're having a disagreement and an argument, you know, don't over-spiritualize. Don't bring Bible verse chapter, tell them, because that would totally put off a person, okay? Yes, not teaching children also can be demonstrate. Over-emphasizing being over strict can also get them away from God. As I said, it's important to have a relationship. When you do everything in a context of a relationship, the person understands your motives and why you're doing what you are doing, okay? Relationship is important. That's why build a relationship with somebody. You can get them to do whatever you want, okay? Okay, we'll stop here. Any questions from our online students? Yes, Chira, you can take that mic. Prince Vidya Deep, you have any question? You can type it in the chat. Is it okay to not get married? Is it okay? To not get married. It's okay not to get married. Yes, it is okay not to get married because Paul says, you know, those who are, in one of these verses here, it says, Paul says, it's okay for you not to get married because when you're not married, it actually helps you to, you know, take care of God's, you know, work even more. You know, because you don't have this responsibility. 1 Corinthians chapter seven verses 29 to 35 says, he who's unmarried cares for the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord. But he who's married cares about the things of the world, how he may please his wife. I'm personally unmarried, so it gives me a lot of time to do ministry because there's no responsibility of a spouse and children, you just have your parents, most of the time they're doing things for us still. Okay, okay, good question. Anyone else has any other questions? But I think calling to be unmarried is a call from God. Yes, he gives you the grace. If you're not called to be married or unmarried, then if you pursue that, then you won't get that grace. Tira, you're planning on to get married? Okay, thank you everyone for joining class. I hope online students, no questions. Okay, if there's no questions, we'll end class. Thank you everybody. Have a blessed weekend. God bless you. Thank you. Thank you, Prince.