 Today I'm here with coach Greg Adams Coach, how you doing? All's well man. I appreciate you having me on your channel You're coming on tonight. Yeah First question. I want to ask you is your bio and the back story We know people call you coach Greg Adams, but I know that the coach word Did not come from coaching men. So give us a back story Yeah, so my background is The name has been around for a long time even before I started making content on YouTube I was a college basketball coach So I started off around the age of 19 I finished up my last season at junior college and always talk about the community college on my show the benefits of the junior college all right and had many fun times there but What what happened was I got I knew I wasn't gonna play at the next level and I wanted to extend my basketball career And I started coaching at my high school girls basketball So started off coaching there eventually got into college basketball where I was there for almost 16 seasons It's up if I'm not mistaken and I traveled with women 24-7 I mean, that's where I get a lot of my insight on female nature just understanding women as a coach you got to understand women right in order to coach them and be effective and you know, I started coaching women and recruiting across the country and That's how I got the name I still it stuck with me and once I started making content on YouTube It was initially basketball videos and now When I changed into the YouTube making manosphere type content I didn't know what to change the name to I was kind of like what do I call myself? it's always been coach Greg Adams and I decided to leave it even though I knew people wouldn't Naturally agree with it. They were like, oh, who is this coach guy, right? So I decided to leave the channel as it was and luckily I did because I never had to change anything Okay, awesome. Now you have grown in the past year. I mean your growth has been incredible What is the reason why your channel has grown so much? What why do you think your channel? I think yeah, sometimes I'm amazed at The the connection right I'll see myself I'll do an interview on another page and and it'll give views and I'm you know to me I'm still astounded. I'm not the type of person where I'm like, yeah I'm the best one here and I got the best information. I'm not that guy. I'm looking at it going I'm astounded that people are still You know finding the content and finding it valuable for me. I Had a great run at the beginning the first eight months is where I had my biggest pickup of like seventy five thousand subscribers Right off the bat, but then I came out of time where there was a lot of demonetization A lot of stuff going on and overnight my channel got demonetized and the growth started to slow down For about a year So it was really slow to get to the hundred thousand subscriber mark, but after that it's still growing So I think what's happening now to be honest with you what's happening now is that the message I've been able to make the message more digestible, right before my earlier videos were a little bit hardcore MGTOW kind of the talking points that every beginning MGTOW guy talks about right well then I Found a way to make it entertaining right making sound effects. All right and make it a little more entertaining and comedic While still giving the talking points, right? So I think the entertainment the quality, you know changing the camera adding lights I think it offers a little bit more For people even if they disagree they could come in and get a good laugh Now the the word MGTOW, okay Or the acronym MGTOW if anybody doesn't know that's that stands for men going their own way Would you consider yourself in the MGTOW? Area I would because that's a lot of the people that Initially latched on to me work from that and that was most of the content that that I made at Initially was geared for that. I wouldn't even put that in the title But I think the reason why it people will still associate that with me with that is because That's the group that I latched on to when I came out of my divorce and came out of some busted up relationships So when I initially made the content it was targeted towards that But I think what happened is honestly There's not a hundred and forty two hundred thousand MGTOWs. There's just not so the people who are watching my content now They're not hardcore Monk MGTOW guys. There's guys that are learning about life And so I had to change the message just slightly For it for it to be not that hardcore Coming in from that MGTOW. I had to change the message to guide men So now it's free agent lifestyle and now a lot of guys can they can initially go. Yeah free agent lifestyle I want that as opposed to if I say, we'll just go in your own way. Well, a lot of guys would be like, well, you know You know, it's just not clear. They would have all kind of questions after that. I think that term is is Associated with a real negative kind of connotation that term I mean when I first came across MGTOW, I think it was that turd monkey guy, you know I mean the guy lives with a doll. So people get the wrong idea. I mean, you know, the more I've looked at it I would consider myself in the MGTOW community because I Date women, but I'm not interested in a relationship at this point. Yeah, so I think that's kind of all in the same spectrum MGTOW guys a lot of people the questions are well Do I not date anymore? Do I not have sex with women anymore? Do I get it? And so When that becomes unclear, you got to kind of guide them a little bit and say no You can still do these things and then within that I said, well, I'll just change the name of it Not of the MGTOW. I still respect all of those people and you know, I'm considered a part of that a hundred percent But I still got to give message to men because not all men are willing to take that leap So you got to give them something to digest. Well, you also you also kind of Set yourself a little apart from that because you came up and I believe you came up with this which is free agent lifestyle Yeah, so tell me about that. What do you what do you say is a free agent lifestyle? So free agent lifestyle has you know elements of going your own way I mean, it's kind of like you look you do things on your own you build your life up first If you're struggling with dating and you're having problems which guys are typically Complaining about or making issues about the dating landscape women and their attention Well, if you're having problems with that, the best thing to do is build your life and live free first, right? Once you learn how to do that then you can come back to whatever table you want to come to But if men avoid that step they avoid going your own way They avoid living freely first and they jump right from their mama's house Right into a relationship where they're co-habitating and this day and age. That's a recipe for disaster All right, that man is ill-prepared for life and he's going to mess his life up Most likely based on the statistics Now I'm gonna another question is and I'm sure you have gotten this and I think a lot of single guys will get this a Single guys that are living the free agent lifestyle. Why aren't you in a relationship? Is there something wrong with you? I Mean, yeah, that question comes up because of just the conditioning everybody assumes Your you know your next step into adulthood is going to be a relationship, right? The minute you have a couple relationships and you say well, I'll just be by myself Automatically they want to push you back into why you should be in a relationship Well, you just meant the wrong one or you need to keep trying the right ones out there Not all women are like that. Well over time as a man you learn Well, I could keep chopping away at this until I find the right one after 80 years Or I can experience life. Mm-hmm. And what I've noticed is this when I chose to experience life Yeah, 90% of women said I don't want no parts of that guy But a good 10% of women said that's interesting. All right And you can come back and get those 10% I think what guys do is we want validation from every woman All right, we want every woman to look at us We want every woman to think that we're handsome and and smart and got a big dick All right, we want every woman to believe that now in the real world You're not gonna get that much attention. All right, not in today's world So in reality instead of focus on a hundred percent of women Just focus on a few that focus their attention on you then you might be able to have a big better deal with it But relationship-wise, it's not the time 2020 2021 It's the time to live for as free as possible Now when it comes to dating, okay a lot of guys I think Blame blame women for The issues they have rather than owning up. Yes to what they allowed in their life. Yes You know, it's right now when we see I People watch my content and think I'm blaming women, right? But I'm just basically telling you who women are because a lot of guys aren't ready to deal with who women really are And a lot of times women show us exactly who they are. They don't have a problem doing it It's just us not willing to accept who they are and then by virtue of not accepting We allow them to do things and we give them all this rope in the relationship And then they do exactly what women are going to do now. Here's what happens. We blame them For not being the man in the relationship okay now I Told men on my channel going into 2021 and 2022 we're no longer gonna blame women and it shouldn't sound like that. We're gonna start blaming men Because it's too much information out here Related to female nature. There's too many guys like you and all these guys putting out all this content And they're still guys that are gonna roll the dice believing that You know women are queens and you know pedicelizing them and worship it if you're gonna do this going forward I'm not gonna feel sorry for you because you are not listening. I mean we're here Giving you this information and you're instead of listening to us You're believing women and I'm gonna tell you that's gonna be a recipe for disaster So we got to own up to all a lot of our mistakes No, I'm sure I'm sure like like me and you I'm sure you have those friends in your life that always have to have a girlfriend yes, oh and Is it true and this is what I believe is that? That woman doesn't make you a man that having that woman by your side Doesn't make you a better man So I always have to have Go from one relationship to the next Yeah, I have a friend just like that, you know, he calls, you know, he sees my stuff Oh, he's still hating women, you know, but he's in bad relationship after bad relationship After time consuming bad relationship. I mean as long as I've known him He's been divorced break up divorce break up. I mean marriage I mean, it's just been a disaster and I look at him and I say why don't you take time to build your your life This guy's lost his business in the last two years I mean, he's had one cluster disaster after the next and that's because he can't be out be without a woman Every time we go somewhere. Hey, let's go to the angels game. He's like, I got a ticket for you I'll say, okay, I'll show up with him and then he's got a woman there and I'm like, bro Why are you bringing her? I thought we were chilling. Oh, well, you know, she wanted to go and then it's just some girl He met online. It's not even a girl that you know, they haven't got a relationship and I go, bro Why don't you take a break? Why don't you take a break? But these type of men are conditioned That you have to have a woman in order for society to validate you and to be honest with you He's kind of right because look at what they do to us. Look at what everybody does to us We say, well, I'm gonna be a free agent. I'm gonna go out and do what I and we still we get shamed. So to be fair He doesn't get shamed or he doesn't get labeled anything because he has a woman with him But he's comfortable with that Where or he's uncomfortable with the idea of being shamed whereas me I'm not I go. Well, listen my money's stacking I'm not losing my business. Right. I'm not distracted And life's going good Yeah, everybody has those friends and I mean I'll bring up a recent friend of mine that his his actual words were I don't like your beliefs your beliefs and your thoughts and your views about women Now meanwhile It's the same guy who moved his ex-wife in They have no sex. She lives in his home The and now this is before you know, he had he had said this to me after he had asked me Well, I need to get her out of there and I think that's a good idea It's also the same guy that reconnected with an ex-girlfriend He went across the state to visit her. He moved her whole house When they went to go to sleep at night She said I don't want you sleeping in my bed and he actually slept on the floor See So I'm examples of the the guys that don't like our message, but they're in these type of relationships and you go Wow, but they think they're better than us, right? Because they have a girlfriend, but they don't do anything with them. I don't know what's amazing Yeah, it's just that it's it's it's the whole point of view and I think what you do is is your you're basically Having men work on yourself Yes, I mean that's the that's the number one thing that I do whether you know training or Or working on my business working on my home And and you know that to me is important as a man We got to be men before we can bring something else into our life and that's for sure So another question I'm going to ask you is Let's talk about social media And dating apps and what has it done to the dating world? Man, I'll tell you it's um, it's made a complicated issue a little more complicated Um, you know, if I just take a general stance if I was just saying in general Uh, they're bad for everybody right and I could just talk make talking points on that Sure You're the the amount of attention that I could give to one lady Compared to what she can get on a dating app and instagram and social media I can't compete Now could I find somebody I could All right, if I just you know, uh, you know With some time Taking some years to find the right one that is able to balance social media apps and dating apps and myself Sure. I mean she's out there But is it worth my time to go find that woman? I think honestly That is the biggest other than the law is not changing related to family courts. That's been the biggest A black eye to relationships Moving forward as long as there's dating apps and women believe that they got thousands of options But they get still complained. They can't find one which is mind boggling Women had three options and found them in all right back in 40 years ago They had three options to pick from and found a man women today have thousands of options Can't find one can't settle on one. They're all garbage This gives you an indication Of the mind state that this available options have has given them Too many options to pick from and they can't choose one Okay And here's the deal When you get married to one and luckily I wasn't married during the social media and dating app phase I was married without that. So in order for me or her to have an affair You have to have the person right there, right? You have to actually have to know them. Well now Your wife could have what's app kick Instagram Snapchat Dating apps on the side I mean various Various degrees of dating apps She could have 10 different things loaded on her phone And have these running conversations with people in the middle of your relationship and marriage now to me That's a violation of any sort of definition of relationship. There's no way you can run a real relationship doing that There's no way and not in my mind In their world. Yes, because their world they need socializing. They're the that's how they get through life socializing So they need this socializing But to me you can't have an honest commitment with that So in in my definition marriages are doomed as long as those exist Well, would you agree like on dating apps? I think it was I believe it was pat steadman said When he talked about dating apps that it's the How did he put it? I'm gonna paraphrase him, but the It's the easiest entry To something will will bear the worst fruit basically is what I think Yes, so yeah, right. Um Well, what typically happens I've done a stream Related to lily's mirror and I broke down Uh, the you know the story of lily's in the Torah in the jewish, uh folklore basically saying That the men that are in lily's mirror are demons, right? And so what's happening is In that den of demons she procreates with demons and produces more demons into the world and i'm thinking about it And i'm going this is what's happening The men that are getting the at-bats Which in the theory of mgtow or whatever It's 20 of men getting at-bats with 80 of women. What's coming out of these relationships are nothing good Very few positives come out of here. There may be one that say well, I met my husband on a dating app But there's so much procreation Uh fornication demon production, all right single motherhood out of these things That it's more reflective of negative outcomes All right, them choosing negative outcomes based on their lust As opposed to choosing a man from the entire picture And the world is actually bearing fruit, right? I mean these relationships are bearing fruit of what's being produced in the world The young children today are addicts of social media That's all they know So all future relationships will have the component of dating apps and or social media And now the dynamic of what was a traditional relationship can no longer be That's just what's happening. You know, i'm i'm a little bit old school. I'm 58 years old. So Looking good though, by the way. Thank you. Yeah, I mean Jesus So, um I mean I grew up in the time to where when you wanted to meet a girl say even like in high school There was no cell phone There was the home phone Well, you got her dad. That's right make it past her dad to even speak to her And then you had to hope dad wasn't on the extension listening to you exactly So there was a whole different dynamic In dating meeting There wasn't you know when you made a date with somebody it was pretty much set and goal I mean you were you were set now. I'm sure there's a lot more flaking A lot more, you know, just just not being realistic because Their options are so much more than they are back then So Well, you still had to even even when you picked the girl up you had to go through dad, right? You couldn't just pick her up waiting the card You had to knock on the door All right, go up to the door meet the dad all right the kid You know came and kicked you in the shin all right the dog licked your leg and humped it I mean there was there were steps before you even got her out of the door now a girl were like, oh, I'll just meet you there And um, she'll forget guys. I've been on dating apps with women Check them with them the night before And the day of are we still meeting and that brought to be like, oh, I forgot I had a date. All right, you know because Literally for for them to keep track with the amount of at bats that they're getting I could see why one will slip through the crack. I mean it happens to me Uh, but most of the time they're busted pills buried biscuit cans. All right They ain't a lot of you know hot chicks after me. I'm gonna have to work I have to work hard for the hot ones. All right A fat pills buried biscuit can woman can get on a slow Tuesday a top notch guy to comply right through her. I mean This is happening with no matter how many guys say well, I'll never touch a fat woman guys Fat women are getting touched By better-looking guys than you. All right, so stop the bs There's a lot of fat women having a lot of sex. All right, and the reality is What's that's doing to the dynamic is? Back in the day a woman couldn't flake on you because she had no way to contact you to flake on you They used to say I got stood up But a woman couldn't just be like on last minute. Oh, I ain't coming I ain't coming right because she knew she had to get on the phone get you on the horn Get you before you left your place So the dynamics of this and and before I got married there was no text messaging on phones like before when I was dating to get married to my wife You couldn't text We didn't get together on text when we talk. I mean when we had to communicate we talked on the phone Um and coming out of that it was a whole new dynamic. There was instagram and dating apps So yeah, this this technology now affords people more choices But again looking at the data just look at the data Of modern relationships more divorces less marriage less children being born and we got more options We literally got it all right here in the palm of our hand and we're failing at it What why why do you think men are failing at it? Well, first of all, I think the dynamic of what men are doing they changed as well So we talk about a lot about what women are doing the dynamic of men is that because women are more sexual Right, we're we're falling for the sex first, right? So we're getting the sex. We're getting the reward But in terms of the long-term relationship Some guys get de-napped all right They get a little bit of sex and then they get stuck with that woman But then that woman starts playing games on him and he doesn't know how to control her So he's he's he doesn't have a masculine approach to it So he keeps staying on the marketplace trying to scratch that itch But overall, I think there's men more men are simps And more men are weak as opposed to being in the masculine position And the reason why is women have the advantage? To be honest with you women have the women have the advantage until they run out of time Um, let you know what let's let's go over a couple phrases that I've noticed you use One is simp for somebody that doesn't know what a simp is. What's a simp? A lot of people ask that question. Um, and a lot of people have a different definition, but uh The the standard definition for me is someone that idolizes mediocre Peace leave is what I call it on my show, which is pussy, right? You idolize a mediocre woman Okay, and that's what I think a lot of guys are doing. So a simp might Pedestalize a woman might worship a woman that doesn't need to be worshiped like to me an instagram model She has no business being worshiped past the fact that she's attractive And she's poking her ass out on the on the instagram, right? That that would be the line that I would draw there Now when people go above and beyond that and say she she deserves the world and people need to be doing this And I would marry you. I would drink your bath water That's simping. All right that or you marry that woman You know what she is she's a professional 304 or which is a whore You don't marry women. That was gonna be my next question The 304 so 304 came along with the uh calculator remember in school you had a calculator And uh, you could type little uh numbers in there and get a word So i'm gonna do it for your audience here. I'll type 304 into the calculator and then when you hold it upside down What does it say? Yep Ho e okay, so in order to pass by the sensor sometime you got to come up with creative names I didn't come up with it. It's been around for a long time, but 304 uh, there's women here that That aren't very good women and we pedestalize them. We're in the age of women worship And when men do that overboard we just call them a sim Another word that or another phrase that you use and it took me a while and i'm gonna take a guess at this one Oh 49er Yes, is that and now this is just a guess. Is that like a gold digger? No, it is not like a gold digger. No, no, no 49er Is a woman that is rated a four In appearance like you would say oh, she's a nine. She's a 10 It's a woman that is rated as a four in appearance But she has the mentality and the wishes to be treated as if she's a nine Okay, okay, so we put those together She believes in her mind that she's a nine because she gets attention on dating apps, but she's really a four Uh, she's a 49er, right? So what typically happens is uh What happens you meet a woman you're thinking this woman ain't getting no attention. You might match with her on tender Oh, I got this one. This is gonna be an easy one Well, a lot of times the fours are getting a lot of attention because guys are like I don't have anything to lose. I'll just ask her for sex. I'll ask her out I'll get so she has more at bats and more men after her and therefore she raises her expectations by the time you show up So she starts asking you for a relationship. She starts asking you for two or three dates All right, she wants to be treated like the women who were rated nine and a 10 on the scale and you're like You like that doesn't match up ma'am. All right, that's not what I'm gonna do. So This is what guys have to figure out Are you gonna pedal slides a 49er and do what she says to get a piece of 49er peacefully? Or are you gonna actually say forget it pull back Build your life up so that you can go after the sevens eights and nines a little bit easier Okay, I came up with 49ers because of the in california. They're the they were the gold diggers. They were the Gold I can see that yet a 40. Yes. I can see that There's one other one too, which is a a hobo sexual Oh the hobo sexual. Yes. Yes the hobo sexual That's a guy or a girl who doesn't have a house All right, she's at the end of her lease or he doesn't have his life together And he's basically gonna be homeless Where he has to shack up with a busted pills buried biscuit can in order to make it now What happens is with hobo sexuals these people tend to Take on more red flags than a chinese parade. They'll go live with a woman and this woman don't she got a 530 credit score All right, she's overweight by 60 pounds. She's overaged by 10 years. All right. She's got another kid All right, ex-husband living in the next bedroom. I mean disastrous All right, but because he doesn't have his life together or she doesn't have her life together She's at the end of her rope. She'll start batting her eyes at you. Oh, tony Acting like she's lovey-dovey, but meanwhile her her lease ends in three months And she knows she can't get another apartment So this is what happens. They they use the laws of attraction To find residency Gotcha, so let's that'll that'll kind of segue into Men dating younger younger than them Okay, do you agree with that? I think yeah, I think it's natural What is uh Let's say a guy's 35 years old. Yeah, what what is a good age for him? Um, nothing over 28 Okay, nothing over 28 because in this market In the available women you have to think this woman has uh, you know a 28 year old woman Potentially if you want to take her seriously, right? I mean if you just want to sleep with a woman sleep with whoever you want All right But a 28 year old woman by this particular point has been to college All right, most of them go to college They fornicated their way through the freshman dorm and the sophomore dorm They got their off-campus apartment and went through the fraternity guys football players and whoever else was popular on campus By the time she got out of school She did whatever she needed to do and now she's looking at she's at the end of her rope She's looking at maybe a couple of good years left Living her sex in the city dream Now she's going to toss herself at you and say she still has worth and value if she's over 28 approaching 32 Uh, that's going to be a dangerous point because her intentions Are not to be a loving wife. Her intentions are to be Father time All right to punch that baby out and then eventually of what I call him the praying mantis She's going to get the baby after you have to and then she's going to bite your head off through the family court Now below that below 28 You still have the ability If your life is together as a 35 year old man, you have the ability to mold her a little bit the way you need her to You can teach her what your expectations are a woman after 28. You can't teach her You can't teach her. All right, this woman is who she is and she ain't she's never going to change. So why waste your time? Why complain and how come you're going to do this and how come win this and no just go ahead and Just give up. All right. Move into a younger model. Now if you just want to sleep around I will tell you honestly women between the age of 38 and 48 going to give you the best sex They're going to succeed you till you're dry. They're going to do monkey double backflips on you like crazy. All right, but You're following 50 a hundred different men Now take take it or leave it I prefer honestly To get somebody who's in that 24 23 24 25 year old range Okay, you can get them and you know, tell them what you want your expectations She looks at you as a person of value maybe a mentor maybe for money whatever it is But at least you can tell her what you'd like and she more likely will be willing to do it Now do you think that? um When it comes to dating do you think Men and women are different when it comes to age When do you mean when are they different? Well, how do I put this? Um, let's say Does a does a man's version of dating change? Compared to a woman's version of dating say at 40 years old Yeah, I think so. Um, the the unfortunate thing is you know as a guy past the age of 40 Uh, typically women are they've had their fun. They've been the girls nights out vegas Miami they got plowed through they mess with a couple of professional athletes and Musicians. All right. They've done that. They've they've lived the best possible life that they can possibly live Now a guy in his 40s has not even done that yet We haven't even reached that potential because everything that we have to get we actually have to earn to get backstage Passes we got to buy backstage passions for a woman before 30 40. She can get backstage passes So what happens is she's on her down slope We're on our up slope. We're on our climb up. All right We're finally ascending to heights. Our money's getting better. We've been invested in our business or our job Uh, we've got promoted. So everything's changing for us because we've actually finally earned our place Now this woman's like plowing downhill. She's declining by the minute So her expectations on the date are to find somebody That would be willing to ride that decline out And we're at 40 going what the hell are you going to give me? Right? I'm going my way up Why am I going to take myself off the market for you? This is the trouble of dating in the similar age range once you get in that 40 position Okay Because literally as a 40 year old man my expectations are you know, I'm less patient with women Um, I've learned that women could be dangerous. They could bite your head off. They could take you to court Most men in their 40s, they've already been through some traumatic experiences That cost them either their job their career their children There's a whole bunch of things that men have lost by 40 So he's going into it a little bit more tiptoe like hold the hold up And I actually at in my 40s. I got better chance With the woman in her late 20s than I do Making a relationship out of a woman in her in her Mid to early 40s. All right to me. It makes no sense Other than sexually Now you do private coaching, correct? Yes. How do you tailor your coaching say? With a 50 year old guy and a 25 year old guy. How was that tailored? How do you? So just this week I had a guy in his 50s and then today I had a call with a guy in at age 30 And it's funny the issues that you're dealing with are normally Different because a 30 year old guy He doesn't have the finances his life is really unstable Okay, he's dealing with issues that the 50 year old guy's not even dealing with a 50 year old guys typically dealing with Oh, you know, I uh got with this single mother and we you know, I thought I could make it work She's 42 Two kids, uh, I moved her in and then she went eight right or she she's not giving me sex anymore Some of those things tend to happen to those type of guys 50 And what they're trying to work out is getting out of the programming of what I call beta male programming they're trying to get out of that programming And realizing what I'm selling to them, which is Your life is going to be good for the next 15 years any woman that you bring in similar age She ain't getting no better By the minute she getting worse by the minute, right? So that's what I'm counseling 50 year old guys 30 year old guys I'm saying man. You better take two years Figure out what you want to do with your life before you roll the dice on a woman Because a lot of 30 year old guys believe it or not they're dating older women They're dating older women and older women are going down to date them because They'll more likely get a relationship out of a younger guy Than the older guy. But what I find with these younger guys Is that they're being dated by older women older or uglier women that um These younger guys don't have their life together Right, they typically are hobo sexuals. This woman succeed them and flood them with sex and then reels them in Now they're stuck They're stuck with a depreciating asset. They're stuck with somebody who's got major issues And they're trying to figure out what they need to do to get over that hurdle to get through enjoying life That's typically what happened And guys this age they waste years they waste valuable years on No, somebody with very little worth But wouldn't you say then a lot of it really basically is the sex that they're getting This it's the that's the only reason there guy. I had a guy reason is there This guy had a woman with so many red flags. I could not believe it and he knew it He sat down. We made a list. Give me the pros. Give me the cons okay The the cons were outrageous. I would have been running but I'm also not a 30 year old guy getting consistent sex See a 30 year old guy getting consistent sex is not many guys are doing that Despite the fact the guys are running around here. Oh, yeah, I'm getting stop the bulls Not a lot of guys are getting consistent sex at that age. Okay And if he's getting that that's that's changing his judgment And the the idea that he can leave that and make a better life. He he can't see it Now are you saying a 30 30 year old guy in this day and age? Because I think it was different when I was yeah um I think it was I think 30 year old guys in our generation were probably married Probably half of them were married by then Today's 30 year old guy. That's not the case the vast majority of made not having started thinking I mean started their marriage yet I mean I got married at 28 So that means I mean I was starting my engagement process at 26 Right meeting the woman by the time I got married. I was 20s. I mean it was 26 to 28 Most guys had 26 aren't thinking about marriage. I mean they they're not having that so The idea that they're getting consistent sex. I mean like daily sex the woman's there You might be able to hit some bras on tinder and all that stuff, but Not many guys are got in-house peacefully I think that messes with your your brain It messes with your judgment because you're going damn. I'm gonna not get my dick wet if I leave this woman Despite the fact that she's a walking red flag Yeah, I think me and you are on the kind of like the same timeline with marriage I kind of I hit that same timeline you did I want to ask you about marriage. What is a good marriage? According to coach greg adams This could be interesting here because you know, I think it's a good marriage is different for everyone Um, I think a lot of good marriages aren't available, but I think Uh because of the dynamics, you're gonna have to have working woman I mean, I don't know if you can't you're not gonna be able to get around that unless you have your own business but Interesting question here. What's a good marriage? I think the the loyalty has to be there Not only short term. This is where I this is where it gets it has to be present long term Okay, and a lot of people don't get this so People can give me and show me good examples of good marriages. They're in their second year. They're in their fifth year But it's not till you get to year eight Year 12 you're 15 in year 20 Whether you can judge if that marriage is good or not And we most marriages don't even make it to year nine. Okay statistically of the divorces 73 of marriages Are in up in flames by year eight So a good marriage to me is a long lasting marriage That has all the markings of what both people Intended from start to finish Most people change dynamically in that time and it is that change that makes the marriage implode Right one person changes or I mean or both changes That's when you have all hell breaks loose and then somebody says well, I said I would do that But now I'm not going to do that anymore Okay. Well now that's a whole different ballgame. How are you going to make that work out? Well, you got to compromise who compromises the most Does the person that says they're changing their their their rules Do they get their way? Well now you have a whole different dynamic. Well by law. I can't leave that woman If I do she gets money now that means she can change her mind in the middle of the marriage And I have to go along with it. Well, I tell guys run for the hills If she does that because if you let it go once she's going to do it again and again and again And now you really don't have what they call a good marriage Let's get into um dating and Dating with race Do you book is our interracial? Relationships do you think they work out most of the time or don't? I think it depends on where you are. I think because I think you're in the south I mean, they don't consider florida the south, but it's the south But um, I think it depends on where you are because a lot of times people think of interracial relationships and they automatically go black and white But I live in a place southern california so mixed in the hospice You could talk about a a person who is persian and mexican, right? so A lot of times those interracial relationships don't get highlighted It's always the black and the white ones that we talk about it's never the You know the asian and the persian or the asian so those relationships seem to be doing well They don't have the problems that the black and white relationships have and because of our history we tend to focus on Black and white relationships, but to me in my mind I don't care about interracial relationships or not. I think The idea of a person finding a good woman Choosing her because of her race And you think it's going to be a better situation. I think that's a flawed plan I think that's that's that's not how you go into relationships picking Now if you say I have a preference for sexually Then that's different right you prefer somebody's attitude or something like that But to say and dismiss a group of people over here I won't date them because they're this skin color All right, no matter what you're doing even if you're a white guy and you say I don't date white girls because all right Then I say well, that's kind of A sweeping generalization Okay on my channel I tend to talk about women and I reflected generally And I go in and I say this reflects all women because we're all mostly american women That we're dealing with I think the mentality of the american woman Is dangerous no matter what skin color she's in That's just my opinion. So you do you think there's a difference Between a white woman or a black woman? Is there differences? Yes, there's differences. However Um, this is how I would say it black women tend to be upfront The first couple of interactions with her are going to be very abrasive. Okay, it's going to be tough It's going to feel like a power struggle until there's somebody that asserts the dominance and the submissive There's always got to be a dominant and submissive. There's no equal relationship Somebody's got to assume the position whoever assumes the position first is the winner So black women tend to want to find out where that dominant submissive line is early white women typically are going to allow you an opportunity to be dominant Until you prove otherwise. So I I say white women are like the mullet. All right up front It looks good, but on the back end is where you pay with white women All right All right, when it comes to the family law court and her having white girl tears and crying and taking you to court And calling the police. All right, they take the cake. All right, they take the cake when it comes to that So, um, you know You got to pick your poison. All right, white women can do be as just as vicious In the courts and with the police and they can win What was that white woman that shot the uh, neighbor? She was a cop All right, and I think in Atlanta or somewhere she went up there and When you get white women crying guys, I don't care what race you are And you're in trouble and the white women knows how to do that. They're very manipulative Because they've been trained that way. They've been told that they were repunzel All right, and a princess and you got average looking white women thinking that they're a freaking princess. All right, you're just like like appalled so I tell guys Depending on who your race of women that you're dealing with Just know where your bs is gonna come in Black women your bs is gonna come in from the beginning right all into the middle And if you can survive it, it's gonna be an easy ride All the way to the end with white women Yo, she gonna treat you like she gonna rub your feet and suck your toes and do all kind of stuff right up at the front All right, and make it all easy entry a hunky dory. All right eight years later eight years to year 50 gonna be hell all right, so That's just what that's what you go. Have to deal with know what you're gonna deal with Um Let's go back to some mana spear stuff now most of most if not all Guys entry I call it an entry fee to the mana spear is usually through some sort of trauma That's the reason why a lot of guys search for content Maybe come across you other content creators How do you deal with a guy that's like going through a breakup or a divorce? That is is really hurting. Okay Now some guys are different. I'm the kind of guy my brother's the kind of guy we were raised like that We can take a shot to the chest. We can take that punch How do you deal with a guy that can't take that punch? They're gonna be in trouble. Okay, because in our society men For so long we couldn't voice these issues, right? This is the so this is why the message is so popular now Because men can pop on here and find a guy and say he's describing exactly what happened to me And this is the first time in almost history Since I mean in recent american history that men can do that and share these stories And we have to survive Being called names gay hurt bitter in order to keep doing this to benefit other men So now men can turn to us And call me as another man and say man coat. I I can't make it This woman buckled my knees. She's out here subpoena and everything. What do I do? This is the first time in the last 80 years that men can do this So that's the benefit Before men just have to suck it up We couldn't even go to our simp friends and talk about this Remember all your friends and you talk about man. Oh man. She crippling me. They all just don't worry about it Her his wife will come in. Oh, don't worry. You'll find another one Just going out there and try on again. All right, and then guess what? You get set up again And in that one when buckles you right after the previous woman buckles you because you're weak So The good thing is I'm I'm happy to be one of the men that other men can Come in here and at least laugh through the pain When I went through my divorce It was the most painful Thing that I'd ever been in and I've never you know, I've been I've been healthy Thank goodness But and you know, I've lost jobs and had to move cross country several times Did divorce process? I will not wish on my enemy Okay, and this is why caution men before you get married into this system You have to know what happens to 70 of the men who don't make it Because when you don't make it you're gonna go through what I would say is equivalent to three deaths in your immediate family Okay, it's gonna be painful And uh got so again, that's just why I'm happy to be here guys when you go through this stuff This is why it's important you vet these women out and and it's important why you build value in yourself first Before you marry these women If you come in with no value and then she pulls the okey-doke on you and now you over there bent over You know sitting in the studio apartment if you're lucky While she's got your house She's got custody of your kids. She cost you a hundred thousand dollars in divorce Lawyer fees and you don't know what to do next And she called your boss and told you how much of a horrible husband is and he laid you off These things happen So now that we're talking about it more men can come in and now I make it funny So, you know, uh, just so when you come into my show I can make you laugh about some of these Painful things that we go through that that is an easier entry fee Humoring somebody making them laugh taking that that bit of pain that they might have Now a lot of you know single mothers are huge and it's been a we'll call that a uh pandemic for Who knows how long would you would you equate a lot of these this weakness to Guys that were raised by single moms absolutely And the more men that are going to be raised by single mothers the worst is going to get Because the single mother ultimately wants you to be What all the men in her life weren't and she's going to train you to be that guy And ultimately you will be what I call the son husband To your own mother So she's going to get out of you what she could not get out of any other man So as you turn 16 and you start getting your your balls drop and you get in your muscles And you're able to pick up stuff and carry and molons and all of these things She's going to lean on you and say you're the man of the house now And now you have to assume the position that I could never get any other man to do And this is how you treat a girl. This is what you do She's going to tell you everything to not get you the same piece of pussy that she gave to every other man out there So now I try to tell young men That even if you were born from a single parent household These are the red flags. This is what she sets you up to do And ultimately now you're the son husband Not only do you have to worry about the women that you have to enter in relationships now and be the man That she needs to be you have to be a man to your mother because she didn't get remarried. She don't have a man think about all the men That now have to think about their own mom as she ages because she was such a feminist She was so strong and independent. She never remarried now. You got to care for her And you got to try to make relationships work today It's a recipe for disaster for these young men So this is what I highlight for them okay, and you know what this is a kind of a great segue into uh a question I like to ask which is Since you're you're a big part of the manisphere I mean you are and the manisphere is for people that don't know is a collection of thoughts and philosophies whether it be dating lifestyle But this question to me is is important to ask a content creator like yourself How has the manisphere failed men? How's the manisphere failed men, um it could be The I think the issue that the manisphere has Is that we're youtube content creators right at the end of the day we're content creators So we have to find a way to Make this met give this message which is unpopular. It's unpopular even on this platform And we have to give it in a way That is beneficial to us Right as a content creator. So How do we do that? Well, we have to monetize it because I'm putting my neck out here on the line talking like this. I can't go get a job I can't I can't apply. Hey, my name is greg adams dude. They they google my name It's over. So How do I do it? Well, I have to monetize it. Well, here's the problem with men men don't invest in these things Right, not a lot of men do they want this information for free And I always tell men well your counterpart women. They're going to seminars. They're buying books They're paying these they're out investing Our rival our rivals message. They bought the love language What the five love languages a hundred million times over My book hasn't sold near that. So Here's the here's the problem that we have The minute we cross the line and try to be a monetizable commodity, well, then either the message gets weaker Or men look at it as he's trying that guy's trying to capitalize On his fame here on youtube Well The minute you do that now you're gonna rub people the wrong way Hey, they're gonna just call you a salesman and a pua artist and all this stuff. So Ultimately Ultimately those people either they either fail or people leave their platform Or they leave their message. So ultimately I think that's what ends up failing the man's sphere at all and also rivalries I think rivalries is a bad deal okay, um You know as men we're competitive So a lot of times we want to see us do better than the next guy Some guys are here for drama because they're single-raised men and they don't realize we're here not to entertain them all the time We're here to provide the messages So When people think their territory is being threatened or their monetization is being threatened Or they feel like they can make a name off of themselves by mentioning another person's name Well, then that can hurt and fail men too because there's guys that watch you and they watch me now If they consider both of us Men of high esteem and then I attack you tony What did I do to that man? I just made that man have to pick sides And I don't ask for your And I mean it's realistically it's it's a it's a group of philosophies Yeah, I mean it's it's it's it's it's your background Your life and you're sharing that with the world You're sharing your experiences And the best information that you can give to a guy that is probably Going through hell right now and hopefully they're not you know not everybody is But I know and you know that there are a lot of guys that are going through rough times Especially now through the holidays. Yes Yeah, I mean if you're a guy just think about it and this is what happens When people because we're a little tribal here. There's there's tribes here within the man's right So what tends to happen in these tribes is the tribes believe that they have the best solution for all been well If you're a pickup artist Per se or your philosophy leans towards that go go get another woman go try go go fuck every woman you see okay Well, how does that help a divorce guy? How does that help a guy just getting reamed in family court and getting bent over and screwed by the bailiff the judge and the court Magistrate, how does that help that guy? Well, there should be another tribe for that guy And there is another tribe for that guy But then the pua comes and attacks that tribe And says everybody in that tribe is weak and they're this and that well no The tribe over here is going through a different trauma That maybe in five years they'll go over to you and they'll say okay I'm good now because this tribe helped me now I want to fuck every woman I see and then we push them over to you But instead we get this attack syndrome and say oh, why did you go with them and you went over there? You see what I mean every man doesn't need Like a guy that just needs he's never been through a divorce. He just want to know how to pick up chicks Well, let's push him over to this guy I'm not going to diss him. I'm just going to say oh, you just want to pick up women go over there At the same time, there's another guy going his he can't even he's paying child support for kids that he has been seeing in three years Does he need to know how to pick up chicks? He doesn't he needs this tribe over here And then we need to correct him build him back up and then make him the man he needs to be so if we can get from attacking each other And learning and understanding that men are and pain when they come here We can focus on the message and then build a better man together as opposed to try to fracture off And claim who's better within this I always say this People on the outside don't see us as any different. So they will all link us all together So don't think your shit don't stink because you think you got a better philosophy Everybody is linked together in here yeah, I mean my personal attitude toward content creators and There's a reason why I've gravitated to your content too Not only did I have the pleasure of seeing you speak live, which to me was a home run at 21 You know, yeah, it was you know, it was it was just an incredible speaker and a great message You know, but to me that I I I gravitate toward Someone that has an end goal And I think a lot of content creators don't give you an end goal at the end of that You know, there's kind of leading you on and there's nothing nothing nothing at the end In other words, follow me do what I say, but there is no ending and to me an ending is a healthy Healthy confident man That has to get together 100 percent That should be the end goal of everyone whether you're pua So I you know, I see that you do always push an end goal for men Yeah, you know, and and I'm proud of you for that because I think that's really really important Yep, and there's times that guys will come to my channel. They follow me for two years And some might say well, we're still talking about this and I say yes Because you might be in what I call the transition phase where you either become a contributor You make your own channel or you just go ahead and leave Well, there's other guys coming in every day at level one Okay, they you know this message they wanted to evolve so fast. Okay. Now we got it now women or this Let's go to the next level. Nope There's a guy over there talking about the next level But here we're taking guys that are in stage one and stage two And that's what we do here. All right. It's like a car wash car washes. Don't wash clean cars. All right There's always a dirty car Every time that damn rush runs. All right, so we got a one this wash like a car wash Yeah, we can't make it a fucking auto detailer now that I watched your car All right, we got to stay on focus on our message Come in here. These guys are hurt. These guys are going through some issues that they want answers to So every day You got to clean We got to rebuild a new man Yeah, and I I call it the pile-on effect a lot of times in the chat a guy will ask a sincere question And then it's like simp, you know, you're that you're this you're that Well, you might want to think back buddy because you were that two years ago That that's true. I mean I see that going on sometimes in live chats and and I'm kind of like man I mean just give the guy a chance He he doesn't know what a 304 is. All right. Give him a break. He hasn't watched me But for a few weeks So give him a break. Let him let him try to figure this out. We've all were simps When I came in I was watching Tom like this and saying man, all right And I was learning about they were talking about hypergamy and female nature Never heard of it before Right, I'd never heard female nature. What so until I was able to Digest the message over time then it made sense Then you can see it out in the field. So we got to make sure we give all men time Uh to be the you know reform themselves from simp symptom Yeah, I mean, you know, hey, I'm guilty right now because I took a guess at what a 49 or what exactly, right? Yeah, it takes time to figure that out. Yeah, so I want to do something with you in this quick segment I want to call this segment and I want to really kind of put coach greg on the hot seat. All right, and uh I'd like to call this segment, but coach greg So it's a question. So i'm going to ask you a series of questions You can answer them. You can use that sound effect board And whatever you need to do, but i'm gonna i'm gonna ask a series of questions And just shoot away man. Just uh, right, you know, give me the 100 percent coach greg here. I do my best All right first question is But coach greg she said she's only been with two guys All right, let me tell you something all right anytime a woman opens her mouth She's lying. All right. And the reason why is this is a protect protection strategy She's been with more guys. All right the two guys that she's mentioning are the two She's been in long-term relations with all right. Everybody else were just hookups casual flings and they are not in the mathematical equation But coach greg she's only 40 50 000 dollars in debt Oh my god What you have to understand is a woman will say that she Doesn't want you to pay her debt, but it is her intention to You know have her have you unintentionally raise her marketplace value by doing something stupid like that guys Never pay off any of her debt don't even get involved in their politics if they build a bad home Let them die in it But coach greg she's only five years older than me You don't start the circus guys we in circus territory now All right Once she strips off that makeup guys all right, you don't see 10 years older You might see 15 years older by the particular time Guys, let me tell you something five years older is a is significant advantage in terms of women They've had an advantage over you that you haven't had so she's seen the world that you haven't even seen yet I don't advise you to date seriously older women. Just use them as practice But coach greg she only has two kids. Oh my gosh Okay, the the time of uh, bailing out single mothers has ended. Yes, they're practice too Uh, but the reality is those kids will never they will always be the priority In that relationship and you will be required to do things that you won't even be able to do for your own Damn children. Oh your children got to go to disney land, but my children didn't guess what? All right, guess what your children ain't my children. All right here listen a woman that is extricated The the father out of the children's life is basically one of the biggest red flags that you can see avoid But coach greg she's only been married twice before. Oh my god You get a buzzer for that one too, um women that are married twice statistically They have an 83 chance of divorcing a third time Why because they pulled the trigger the first time it was not so easy the second time it was much easier Uh divorces to me unfortunately when you pile divorces and single mother together You get 70 percent of the american population Then if you compile fat women in there now you got damn near 95 percent of american women The reality is divorces twice divorce should be off limits. So red flag But coach greg she only goes to girls night out once a week All right. Nope. I'll give you a nope on that one Girls nights out is something that you should not accept All right, and listen to the word accept and you let her know that I don't accept it Now don't say allow you can't go now. You're controlling and insecure and now she's got you by the balls just say Any woman that is going to go to girls nights out and Rub on allow guys to buy them drinks and set up opportunities to have dates which has in time rooms Any woman that needs that i'm not going to accept that as a legitimate relationship Therefore, I don't need you as a girlfriend. So when you come back You don't have a boyfriend now or you don't have a husband etc etc go have fun But coach greg she only cheated on me once I think And what else I think I think All right, do I have a sound or I do have a sound effect for that Yeah, she's a nasty woman. All right. Guess what guess what if you only caught her One time cheating. All right. She's cheating cheated a dozen more times after that. You just didn't catch her And guys women that cheat is different than when men cheat I think honestly men need more women than they actually can monogamy just doesn't work for men They actually have to become less of a man to be monogamous But when women cheat the intentions are to destroy the relationship that they're in They cannot cheat and take dick from two different men. It just doesn't work that way Okay, we got a couple more But coach greg She was in an abusive relationship before oh god. All right. Here we go Let me tell you something uh, I feel for people people that have been in abusive relationships But if you look at the statistics men and women abuse each other just about equally It's almost neck and neck and if you actually threw emotional abuse on top women abuse men Way more than men physically abuse women. It's just one look that is uh worse than the other but here's the deal I'm not a therapist. I'm not a counselor. I don't harbor abuse women So if you just been a part of an abused relationship, I feel sorry for you And especially I feel sorry that you continue to be with that man and let him plow your back down for eight years And you stayed in abusive relationship, but now you want to make home with me and use me as your therapist Absolutely not abuse women. You're not welcome into this domain and don't let's out Nope At all if that's yours if you're gonna lead off with that excuse to get sympathy points with me All right, I'm gonna point you to the nearest therapist and move on to the next woman But coach greg we're in an open relationship. Oh my gosh. Nope guys um Open relationships don't work for men. All right If you're married to a woman and you're in the open relationship You're gonna get jealous real fast because the amount of bologna ponies that she can guzzle and swallow Compared to the amount of women that you can get she's gonna top you off I mean easily she's gonna and then it's gonna turn into a competition. So you can't get Just imagine men can't go out to a woman without a woman around I mean without her his woman around until that woman. I'm in an open relationship and she go. Oh, okay. That's fine Like she'll never go for that the new woman will never go for that But a woman can walk outside and go i'm in an open relationship. My husband doesn't care and that guy will follow her home So don't do it But coach greg, where do I find a good woman? Okay, do I have a noise for that one? Here we go. What happened? Where did all the men go a good woman? All right, I would start off Start off at the junior college Go to freshman orientation or your sophomore graduation. All right If you're looking to find a good woman after the age of 28 35 These people have ulterior motives and that is to beat father time beat the biological clock Find a husband so there they don't have the next 40 years living with cats and eating cat food They have ulterior motives once they get older and they're less trainable. They're less malleable and moldable Go for younger women if you want to try But if she's in a sorority or she went to arizona state Somewhere where they got a football team or a basketball team and she still got friends there Oh, my best friend was the power forward on the basketball team Guess what? All right, you following after that. All right, that woman probably been ran through more times in the hollentunnel You know, you got to be really creative on how you do this Just don't date older women and watch these younger women too. They're really apex predators as I call them Now the last one is not going to have the butt beginning in there And this is the one That i'm sure you hear a lot is coach greg you helped me change my life and now I see the truth That one's uh, you know, I don't have a winning button on here, but that one's the you know the applause button on this one Listen, I hear it and um, you know, it means a lot for a man to reach out and say things like that because man are Emotional or sensitive so for a man to feel like he needs to reach out to another guy and say he changed your life That is a big deal. Um, and I appreciate You know having that ability to do so And I and I think you're doing that. I really do I see that You know men are gravitating towards your content and your message And that tells me you're doing something that's helping other men And in this society in this world we live in right now as men Sometimes we need that help Yes, and I'm glad that so many guys can reach out to you And I think you're doing an incredible job with your content And your coach gang as they call I guess Coach gang. Yeah, the coach gang. Yes Right here. That's the group man But look, I mean, I'm happy to be able to be one of these voices out here because to be honest with you There were men before me that were voices for me. I mean gosh I mean I can't the names of people that actually helped me get to this point Uh, were the men that stuck their neck out there? And were the message for me to continue this so I'm happy to be that And what I think you're doing too and this is my personal opinion, but you're making it About the man not about the woman Exactly is a is a great message to pass to every man But uh going man Coach I appreciate your time Um, I just want to let everybody know my name is tony bruno Um, I'm having a great time here with coach greg adams. You can find my channel at tony bruno t21 surfer you can find me on all social media at t21 surfer Also, I have some great dating coach lifestyle podcast on my channel with the likes of alpha male strategies Steve the dean williams coach eo pat steadman alan roger curry dr. Sean smith Zach small and texas dom and a few others so I'd appreciate to subscribe to my channel and come and check me out check them out How can everybody find you because I think it's very important that we get your message out And so give everybody all your platforms. Absolutely, man I'm here on youtube coach greg adams the main channel, but I got six channels here. So Uh, you might find me on the free agent lifestyle channel to ask coach greg adams channel. Will I answer questions? Um, but if you look up coach greg adams put it all as one word Instagram will come up twitter will come up facebook will come up I've oversaturated the market on social media. So I'm if people have a hard time following finding me It's amazing because women find me all the time They seem to be able to find me and send me nasty messages all the time Well, I hope that this message today with me and you will touch a few guys and and you know kind of You know, we made it fun and I think that's important I think that's a great aspect of of what you do is making somebody that might be hurting or Somebody that is going through a tough time. You make it fun for him You make it make it easier for them to understand You know, so I gotta do that. It needs to be that way So In the words of my good buddy Ivan throne Much love honor and respect to you sir. Thank you, brother. Appreciate you for having me and I appreciate your time We'll talk again. Thank you