 when the narcissist knows it's all over you've had enough you don't want to deal with them anymore you put down boundaries because you realize there's a problem and you know they're not going to change so you stop talking to them you cut them off and they may try to get back in but you're not giving them a chance you're not giving them the opportunity to return to you and when you do that they know it's all over when the narcissist knows it's all over they will try to regain your attention they will expect and you to still be in the same position where you haven't moved on where you're still thinking about them but when they discover that you have regained your power it will cause a narcissistic injury because they want to be in control they want to make decisions for you they don't want you to be in control of yourself which is why they will try to regain control of you again but if you reject them they will feel humiliated they won't be able to deal with it because that means you have the power it means that you have taken the initiative and decided how something should be done but they still want to be in control so that they can direct your behavior at the course of events so that they can decide what happens next but when you're in control you take away their sense of significance and importance they're no longer relevant and there's no need for you to give them any attention because they're not doing anything for you so now they don't have any information they don't know what your next move is going to be so now they're stuck because in their minds you're meant to belong to them in their minds you're their possession and that is why they will come back when nothing happens because they don't want to take responsibility for their actions and they will expect you to be waiting for them with warmth and hospitality as though you're happy to see them and eager to accept them after everything they did to you after all of the problems they caused because to them none of that matters all that matters to them is that they can come back at that you're going to be there for them and you're going to be so happy to see them but in reality it doesn't work out like that people can't just forgive and forget but this is something that you will experience with a narcissist because they don't understand when people feel abandoned as characters respected, humiliated and patient gels are rejected they don't pick up on that or they just don't care because they have an undeveloped mind they were traumatized in childhood so now they can't understand other people's emotions which is why they behave in this way when the narcissist knows it's all over like with anything else they don't want to deal with it they don't know how to deal with it they may still be thinking that they can come back again they may think that they can have the position they had with you before where they act nice in the beginning and then they gradually turn against you until they're finally ready to get rid of you and if they think that you're still foolishly willing to play that game then they will come back to you but if you have already healed and you know what they're about to do then they're not going to do that they will come back if they think you're still a fool if they think you're still willing to be their doormat if they think they can still walk all over again but if they know they can't do that anymore they will watch you instead they will stalk you on social media they will contact your family or friends because they can't just let you get away they can't just let you live your life without them because in their minds you still belong to them when you no longer want to deal with them they will stalk you for weeks months or even years after you have separated because they want to know how you are doing without them and if they see that you're miserable and depressed they will be happy with that because they don't want you to move on but they can't see that they were the cause of the problem because they have an inability to understand or some of them just don't care they can't or won't put themselves into your shoes because they lack empathy which is why the relationship was this and the fail because a relationship is a two-way street it's give and take so this is what happens when they know it's all over when they know that you're done they hate it so they will try to win you over they will try to get you back but it's not because they care about you it's not because they've changed they just want to get your attention and validation they only come back to get something from you because narcissists see relationships as transactional it's all about what you can do for them and that is never going to change thank you for watching if you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up share your thoughts in the comment section hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications if you would like to support the channel you can 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