 You ask them, are they angry? And they say, no. And you just absolutely flabbergasted that they have no idea. You think that they're lying. That's your repeated assumption. Like, they're obviously angry. So why are they lying to me? It's probably because they don't notice it. It's not their fault. I'd say that in a lot of these circumstances, it's important to take a step back. It's not the best idea if someone is displaying anger to keep poking them. To ask them how they are. Unless they're okay. And then you say, you look angry. You show you're not angry. And they just keep going round in that. They keep poking the beast. And they get more angry. And then they can tell whether they're angry because they've blown up. They haven't self-regulated enough. You need to give them space to withdraw, to contemplate, to think. Because if you keep pushing them like that, they're not gonna feel very comfortable.