 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, Head Dating Coach and Founder at CommitmentConnection.com and in today's video we're going to talk about how to flirt with a guy over text. So if this is your first time to our channel, make sure that you hit the subscribe button on the bottom right hand side of this video to get more videos on how to have the relationship that you've always wanted. So how do you flirt with a guy over text? It can actually be a lot more complicated or challenging than a lot of people think a lot of flirting in one-on-one personal, in-person situations is a little bit easier and a little bit different because you can use body language, you can use tonality and over text it's a little bit more challenging because you're getting rid of that body language and tonality just for pure verbal text message stuff that could possibly be taken out of context. So what should you do? How should you flirt over text? Let me give you a few tips here. So tip number one is that don't be boring but also don't be too weird. And so the best way to make sure that you're not boring and that you're not being too weird is that you end up talking about subjects that and flirt about subjects that are already things that you guys know about. So if you guys have spent time together you can talk about things that you discussed when you were together or if you haven't gotten, if most of your conversations have been over text message you can text about other, about topics that maybe you both shared. Like if you guys were online dating or something and you read something in his profile you can relate it to topics like that. So try to avoid going way too far out there if you don't already know that he's into those types of things and try not to be boring. So tip number two is that you want to make him laugh. Tell a joke, tell something that's funny, tell something about your day that was funny, tell something about something that you've talked about before that maybe is awkward or weird but not like weird as a subject but like weird as something that's funny weird. Like this happened and that's weird. So just find little things that you can joke about, ask them questions that are kind of funny, tell them about experiences that you've had that were funny to you. So finding that small that you can joke about it's great for ice breakers. Tip number three is to stop asking like shallow simple questions and instead get him to talk about himself. So there's kind of this thing where a lot of people think that flirting is like being superficial but it's not really. flirting is about creating a connection. It's about getting somebody more attracted to you. It's about learning about each other and a great way to do that is to ask him real some real questions about himself and questions that are open-ended questions that get him to open up and talk more and have more to say and share more with you. Especially if you are doing some kind of online dating and you just exchanged numbers or something and you want to have develop some rapport and get to know each other it's always better to ask questions with an open end to it and sometimes it might even get him to respond that he wants to meet up or that he wants to talk about that in person or something like that which it's a good way to get him feeling like or thinking in the mindset of I want to share this with her and I want to meet up and I want to do this in person I want to talk on the phone that kind of thing if that's what you're into. I know almost everybody's into just text messaging these days so who knows what you want to do. Tip number four is to use his name in your conversation so you know one of the things that I always thought was really cute and really attractive was when women use like Mr. before a guy's name like Mr. Matt or like there's when I was in I was I was traveling one time and this this woman at this hotel that I was staying at called me Sir Matthew and it was like the cutest thing in the world and you know just using his name though you know without even you know using the Mr. Sir or whatever is really is really cute and attractive and guys can really like that a lot so tip number five is to compliment him on something and this is kind of an underutilized and overlooked thing that I think guys really like a lot and that's just complimenting a guy on you know it could be on anything the best things to compliment men on are things that you know that they did for you that you thought were attractive that that is the best type of thing to compliment a guy on if you see that he acts like a gentleman or something and you like him acting like a gentleman or he you know did something for you that made you feel good it's it's really it can really be a powerful compliment to compliment him on that as a trait of who he is so for instance like if let's say that let's just go with the gentleman example if a guy you know like opens a door for you and you like that then you know one of the things that you could say to him is that you know it's it's really attractive to you that he's such a gentleman and you know he does things like opens doors for you and whatnot and not not only will that make him feel good and make him like you more but it'll also make him want to do things like that more often so that you'll notice and because you know you're telling him that you're attracted to that and men want to feel more attractive to women especially a woman that he likes and so if you tell him something that's like that he's more likely to do it he'll feel better about himself he'll feel better about you and it's just a win-win all the way around thanks for watching this video if you're ready to know exactly what to say and do to attract the man and the relationship you've always wanted click on the button on the right hand side of this video and go to our website