 Hi everyone, welcome to another NARC's Viva Live video. This time from the car. I know a lot of you may be in a situation right now where the narcissist has left you. They've discarded you and you may be experiencing a lot of confusion, cognitive dissonance. You may be wondering what just happened and you feel like the life and energy has been ripped out of you like you're just a shell of who you used to be because you let the narcissist define and control you and they changed your perception of them as well. Everything was backwards as though they're perfect. They did everything right. You did everything wrong. You were bad and then they used that to justify them leaving you. When all you may have wanted is just for them to listen to you to understand your point of view but they never cared about your feelings or opinions. They never cared about you and that's just it. This is why they leave because they already know there's not going to be a future in something that started out as a game. It may have seemed like it in the beginning but the reality is they never took you seriously. They don't take anything serious in their lives. That's why they're so reckless and impulsive. Everything's just all about them and what they're going to get. It's just about using and abusing you. Taking what you've got without giving anything back to replenish you which is why by the end of it you feel cheered, you feel robbed because you fell for all of these lies and future faking. They saw you as something temporary. A means to an end. Something for their own amusement and enjoyment rather than for a serious or practical purpose. They weren't emotionally attached to you. They never cared about who you were as a person. All they cared about is the things that you could do for them. That's how it's so easy for them to leave. Like you never even existed. Like you never meant anything to them because you didn't. They never even took the time to get to know you. It was all about what you could do for them. What you could give to them. But there's another side to this as well which is very important for you to know because a lot of you after they leave you're thinking as though they were this wonderful person and you're missing out. They've moved on and now things are so much better for them without you when that's just not the case at all. Everything they showed you in the beginning about eagerness and enthusiasm as though they were about something for real and then they gave you all of these lies and future faking. That was all an illusion. It was a facade because if they were really about that why didn't you see any of it manifest into reality and that is how you should know that it was all fake. It's just something they used to keep you around so that you could keep providing to them and giving them your energy. They don't even have the means. They don't have the qualities or skills. They were never good enough for you. That's why the tailor made this false character for you. That's why they gave you this illusion and then you later found out they were nothing like that. You found out that all they were about is lies, fights and arguments and no matter what you did for them they were always badgering and pestering you to do more. Well there was never a talk about what they were going to do for you. All of these things that they proposed in the beginning it's like you just ended up forgetting about all of that and then they just moved on without you after they drained you of everything that you had because yes as I said the Brigade de Giz they knew they weren't good enough for you. They knew that even when they showed you who they are and they pulled off the mask they knew you weren't happy. You weren't satisfied with that. They knew that if they gave themselves to you fully you would not accept them. You would be left very confused and you would want something better and of course when I say better I don't mean someone who's more physically attractive or someone who has more money. I just mean someone who is real. Someone who can be vulnerable with you. Someone who has actually done the work on themselves. Someone who actually cares about you. Someone who has empathy which as we know they did not have that because if they did they wouldn't have left you in that situation. They wouldn't have left it all on you but knowing this you should know that they're not just going to move on and ride off into the sunset although that is what they would like you to think. At some point you have to stop feeding into the illusion and just take a good look at yourself. Look at everything that you have achieved. Look at everything that you gave to them. You did all of these things for them and they still weren't happy with that. They still wanted something else or something more because there's just nothing you can do to please them. They have a void inside of them that can never be filled so they're never going to be satisfied with you and not only that and you may not have realized this until now but the truth is even if this fantasy was a reality and they were everything that you needed them to be even then it wouldn't have been as great as they led you to believe because they put themselves on this pedestal and sometimes we put them there as well when the reality is that they just don't even belong there because they haven't even done the work. They didn't even do anything for you and yet you hold them up so high. I mean I can understand if someone is doing and giving reciprocating replenishing you then yes praise compliment them on their efforts on everything that they have done to support you. There's nothing wrong with that at all. If someone is putting out they do deserve to be recognized for that. Of course that's not what we're talking about here. What we're talking about is very different and it's really just typical narcissistic behavior. Someone who never did the work of themselves or in their lives. They never really put out anything to you. Nothing that pretty much anyone else on the entire planet could have done for you and yet you were led to hold them to such high regard when the reality is that anything they did for you you probably could have done a hundred times more for yourself if they were not around. So all things to take into consideration because that's just it when we're involved with these types of people especially towards the end they want to direct your attention towards things that take credit away from you that show you in your true light of who you actually are and everything that you did for them which is why by the end of it you lose yourself because you can't even be yourself around them. They don't want you to be that. They want you to just stay down and just be who they tell you to be so that they can feel comfortable around you which is why when you look at it you should see it as a blessing that they are gone because now you can be you you can be your authentic self and you could never be that around them whenever you try to be that or you would embark on your passions or interests as soon as they saw that they had to take it away from you because it shined the light on them it made them look and feel bad because they couldn't participate in that they felt irrelevant they knew that they were not on your level they have to keep you down so that you're looking up at them and thinking that they are greater than you and yet we wonder why they do what they do because of course if you ever get too close to them if you ever even just sit down and have a conversation with them then you would soon realize that it is in fact you who is greater than them in almost every possible way and of course they don't want you to come to that conclusion but that is the reality of it and it's why they present the false character and the illusion because they already know even if they gave themselves to you fully you wouldn't accept them you wouldn't want them anywhere near you because you would realize that their leeches their bottom feeders they're only desiring to take from you not to give anything back to you in return and when you realize your worth you have love for yourself you're not going to want anyone like that around you because you will understand the damaging effects of having a person like that in your life and yes they know that as well and they think you're stupid they think you're very foolish for even desiring them in the first place yes they already know that they've got one over on you and that's why they had to make their exit plan and get out where they had the chance because otherwise you would come to the conclusion that yes they're not good enough for you and not only that but you would never be satisfied with them you would never experience long-term happiness with them you would end up dissatisfied and then you would be expecting something more or something else a narcissist could never be enough for you they could never be enough for you at all it's just they know how to trick and deceive you to make you think that in fact they are greater than you while not even doing anything for you to prove that and in fact it's you you're the one who has proven it to them and yes they do see it they use you for it but they never tell you it they never tell you just how great you actually are they don't give you recognition because as soon as you realize that and you figure it out the only thing you can do is leave it's either that when you're going to go jump in in the garbage truck looking for something of value because that's all you're going to end up doing when you're around them when you're around a narcissist you're just constantly seeking something of value to replenish you and in reciprocation for what you're putting out I can tell you that it doesn't have to be like that when you are around a high value person you're not going to be constantly looking around seeking and searching looking for something you won't even need to do that because they will be there for you they will be exclusive to you because they won't need anyone else outside of you for companionship and they will give you your props they will give you the validation and recognition that you are looking for they're not just going to string you along and make you believe that yes at some point in the future all of your dreams are going to come to life you're going to get exactly what you want if you just give me what I want right now someone who cares about you someone who loves you they're not going to do that they're going to take the steps to make your dreams a reality right now right now they're going to do whatever they can to uplift you and you will feel that you will recognize it you will feel that yes you are receiving something of value which is not what you feel when you're around the narcissist unless you're just falling for the manipulation you're believing that you're getting something when in reality you're not and sometimes you just got to take a step back and look at yourself and see what you're putting out because a lot of you I know you have given them a lot a lot of your time energy efforts and money sometimes you've just got to make a list just write down everything that you've given them over the past year everything you've done for them and write another list of what they've given to you and then think to yourself is that a fair exchange because I know that you have the answers inside of you yes you've been manipulated you've been gaslighted but somewhere in there you do have the answers and it is very important for you to validate yourself I am here to guide you what I'm really doing is I'm giving you permission to be yourself to validate yourself and I think that's what I'm really here to do steady pace says narcissist don't give closure that's right that's typically how you know what you were dealing with it's something that they commonly do at the end when they leave you it's like they've mistakenly and often unknowingly left you a clue a sign of what they are because I don't know about you but for me I could never do that to someone to just leave them high and dry without any closure or validation without an explanation for why I left I couldn't do that at all it would play on my mind it would keep me awake at night it would eat away at me of course for narcissist it's very easy for them to do that because they lack empathy they don't care about you but just because they don't care about you that doesn't mean that you shouldn't care about yourself yes the devil may hate you and despise you but no matter what no matter what they say about you God loves and cares for you you are God's child and God is a lot more powerful than any narcissist so remind yourself of that even if you're not religious even if you don't believe in God I think we can all accept that yes something did create this universe so there is a creator there is some powerful force there is some form of higher energy out there and it created you gave you life so I must care about you it must love you but of course let's not get that mistaken or confused for any of you who are watching this and you have narcissistic parents I'm not saying that they care about you but there is a higher force out there and it does care and if you look back you may see how it protected you from certain situations and that should just remind you that yes it is out there but narcissists do not want you to connect to that they will try to turn you away from it and that's how you should know what you're dealing with the devil manipulates just like the narcissist when they lower you when they tempt and entice you they mislead you and then they later try to destroy you and I know I don't talk much about God on this channel I've done a few videos on religion and spirituality but God has definitely been there for me throughout my life from the very beginning and that's how I was so able to be alone especially when I was a child because I was never really alone and it's how I was always safe and protected yes I'm not here to persuade anyone to believe in anything that they choose to not believe in we are all entitled to have our own beliefs of course but yes these narcissists this is why they leave you because they don't take anything seriously in life it's like they already know that they are condemned so they see it as though what is the point in even trying what's the point of doing anything of trying to be better if it's still going to result in the same fate and the end and that's why I believe it is so important to believe in something greater than yourself it's important to recognize that because with these narcissists there is nothing that keeps them in check there is no incentive for them to act right they look at it like what's the point yes I can act right I can do things for you but what am I going to get out of it that's how they think but for us you have to try to prevent this from destroying you if you're watching this and you're an empath don't let it take away from what you value and believe in because sometimes it can really hurt you and you just want to shut yourself away and not do anything for anyone it can change you if you let it as you can see I didn't let it change me I'm still me I still value love and peace I still like to help people and I hope that it inspires you as well because I think some of you know a lot of the things that I've experienced in my life I spoke about some of it in my earlier videos there was one recently as well last week so I have been through a lot of things and despite all of that I'm still trying to do my best I'm still doing everything I can to inspire millions of people around the world and this is what I promote I promote love compassion forgiveness yes even for these narcissists although you may not be at that stage yet if you've just been discarded of course it's going to take some time but in time you will see you can love them from afar because otherwise if you hold on to the grudges and the resentment like they do just look at what it's doing to them it's destroying them and they will try to destroy that side of you as well they will try to rip it out of you that loving compassionate side of you because they can't experience that and it will keep you down if you let it get to you I mean for them that's always going to be present in their lives they're always going to be unforgiving resentful holding grudges I've seen it before they do hold grudges for their entire life and when they're old they're very bitter resentful they're not happy but for now yes of course I understand that you need time to grieve