 I'm so happy you're here. It's great to be with you again, and I want to share a pretty Pretty insightful insight. I guess all insights are insightful But it's about But what I've come to see as Our greatest superpower The thing that gives us more empowerment than anything else in life and I Really want you to Not flick or click on another video right now because this is important and I think if you stay with me here You're going to realize that Maybe up to now you have not been aware of the importance of this superpower that you have Because the problem is we generally look for Empowerment in Places it can't be found the the real obvious one as we look for it externally We're looking for all sorts of solutions where we can't find them And maybe that resonates with your lived experience not trying this Doesn't work try the next thing doesn't work or even when you do find it and it works You realize quite quickly that well now it's on to the next thing But there is Something that really is empowering and it's something that you're already doing. That's the good news This superpower I'm talking about is the power of what you choose to focus on that's it Pretty simple What do I choose to focus on? because No, if you really sit down and give it some thought there's a lot to this it's like Well What is my nervous system focus on all the time? What is all of our nervous systems? What do they all focus on? safety We occupied with it. It's fixated on it That's not bad. That's just what it is. That's just its function. That's what it does Now the other thing too is We have this sense of self this false identity the separated self that we Very often find ourselves living from and it's focused Not so much on safety But the past is this constructed identity is based entirely on what happened in the past, right? and it projects a future based on all those conclusions that it's drawn from the past But the other type of focus is the focus that comes from who you are from your authentic self and the Major aspect of that is it's tied in very closely with what you actually want your genuine desires and needs So just ask yourself that question How often has the focus been on what my nervous system determines or my false self and how much of my focus might my Intentional focus has been going towards what it is that I truly want Not what other people tell me I should want Not what society tells me I should want but from what it is that I Genuinely want How often have I been focused on that and that alone because we can't really switch focus We can't spread focus So if I'm not focused on that I must be focused elsewhere So we're all kind of doing that right we're Having our attention and our focus drawn Interactions that we actually don't even want Now the big thing for our focus is The obvious one is this false self and it will focus on a very limited future very narrow future because it's of all the self-judgment and the self-abuse That it entails It has an agenda for what's allowable to be focused on and one of the things we do is we question the narratives We question the beliefs we question the thinking and the feelings that come from this false self and That process called inquiry is really essential But ultimately it's less essential than focus because when I do inquiry and I find the truth This false self is not based in reality. This is what I really want. This is the truth I've done inquiry to harvest this truth or to uncover this truth Now which one am I going to focus on the idea here when I'm inviting you to can think about is I'm going to spend more of my time focusing on the truth I'm going to use inquiry as a tool to occasionally go in and Uncover the truth. But once it's uncovered, I've just discovered gold here This is truth and I'm going to focus on this truth. I'm going to remind myself of this truth I'm going to Construct my life so that I'm exposed to the truth and this truth is reinforced over and over again But primarily the superpowers I am going to focus on it. I'm going to Take ownership of my power to focus on this so We do exploration we don't deny the false self We look at it. We even go into Debunk it really what our whole lives aren't about the process of inquiry It's an essential part. But what do I do with the truth that I discover in inquiry? That's where really predominantly I want to be focusing on the truth of who I am And how important that is because when we're living from that false self and all those limiting beliefs, it's it's like self-abuse It really is and it's so overwhelming It's got all those intense emotions that seem to can confirm the narratives That it really draws attention It wants focus and that's your power It's taking your power and it is cultivating and it's maintaining its own seeming sense of existence Through your focus on it So the balancing act is don't deny it Go in to question it But once I've questioned it I start to remove power from it through focusing on the truth of who I am the main that did one of the things I see that we do in Our lives are day-to-day lives. We're primarily focused on behavior Right, what is this behavior? I'm doing Look at that inappropriate behavior and that's the appropriate thing and well I should do that and I should use you willpower and everything else to get that behavior to fall into line But you know we very we very rarely ask is Who is the person doing this behavior? It's a fundamental question to consider here. Who is it that's doing this? Right because if it's not questioned, it's typically this false self this inadequate Guilty shameful fearful vulnerable self that's doing the behavior and if I'm focusing on the behavior I Haven't actually looked at There's an implied an implication that well I'm kind of I'm focusing on this because this is the one that's doing it So when I'm talking about our superpower being our focus, it's to focus on less so on on behavior But more on identity who am I as I do all these various things and actions and behaviors who's doing it and your true self is Not your separate itself. It's not your false self. It doesn't even exist It's it's a story It's a story of guilt Inadequacy fear Resentment anger being alone having to be Fiercely fiercely independent. That's not who you are So can we start to see how important it's going to be to focus on the truth? Especially if I'm going to look at the behaviors Right Bringing more awareness and focus to the truth of the person that's doing all these things True inquiry into the false self we find the truth and the truth is Perfectly, okay. I'm perfectly okay. I'm perfectly innocent. I am fundamentally good. I am Naturally peaceful naturally restful talented creative Loving that's just an expiration Dip in your toy and truth is how vast you are is it's vast It's incredibly vast It's not this little tiny finite Thing it's vast This is your identity It's not separated. It's not small. Now if you focus on that Do you think it might help some of those behaviors fall into line now as I'm saying this You know, what's happening is a separate itself is saying this is nonsense Happy that simple in order to Guarantee that its existence seeming existence goes on in perpetuity It will undermine You're focusing on the truth When you say to yourself, I am a good person. I Am worthy. I'm abundant. I'm naturally peaceful. I'm safe the false self won't like that Because that's not its identity It doesn't know that it doesn't understand any of that But you do have the ability to choose to focus on the truth of who you are And if you continue to practice that it is a practice, right? Just the same way, you know in certain meditations people try and focus on a candle burning Focusing their attention. It's like I can practice Focusing on the truth of who I am The truth of who I am will get my attention Periodically we go in here to the false self, but only for the purposes of debunking it. I Look at it And I bring out another gem of truth about who I really am and then I'm going to focus there so the invitation again in Your practice is to focus on the truth Yeah, but I don't really feel that it's true Said the separate itself That's not you. It doesn't feel like it's true, but all its stories are based on the past And by the way a very very highly edited version of the past Highly edited Questionable highly questionable whether a lot of these memories and evidence that it presents Even happened at all But certainly highly edited to exclude anything that would question its narrative of Something's wrong with me. Now we can focus on that We can not question, but focus focus focus And what do we get fear doubt indecision resentment? That's what we get from it All the attention is drained from you into this all the energy Into this so there is a way to empower yourself What am I going to focus on? You know, I am my book on procrastination Talks about this it talks about the true narrative of who you are and a truly helpful way For instance in the aspect of your life of productivity to come up with the truth of it ease Guilt free play those types of narratives. Those are conducive to who you are The false self is all about push yourself feel guilty Be attached to the outcomes Right, this is the false self. This is egoic This is ego the thought system of ego creates the separate itself One of the things in the book I mentioned is that we keep rehearsing the truth We keep focusing on it because in that book There's nothing wrong with these techniques you can come up with all sorts of techniques in order to help your productivity or to Relationship techniques communication techniques Practicing yoga going to the gym all these different things That's all fine But if I'm not going to focus if I'm going to focus primarily on techniques and behavior And I'm not going to focus on the truth of who I am and A more life-affirming philosophy or ideas my attention is going to go back to this old Way of thinking about things this old self defeating self-abusing narrative So I keep telling people you must practice Focusing on the truth practice practice practice So that could be when you wake up in the morning. It could be before you go to bed at night You keep feeding more and more of your attention and your energy and your focus into the truth of who you are now, please hear that because People generally tend to and understand why because they're helpful they look at the techniques and the behaviors and the strategies But forget the focus and the truth of who I am Right and that the helpful thoughts and the ideas that go around techniques So we we set that up the goal is that we have that as our strategy as our practice What am I going to focus on? I'm going to rehearse. I'm going to look over I'm going to keep focusing on the truth of who I am a new way to relate to myself something that's affirming something that's conducive to life One of the questions guys is Have I suffered enough yet? Because the beautiful thing about what I'm talking about here is it's nothing new We're already Masters at this at focusing We just weren't aware up to now of the power That I hold through my focus So we focus on the narratives of this of the past of the false self all the egoic ideas that support it Focus there all the time Primarily what you're going to feel is guilt and shame and inadequacy No self empowerment, but your mind is this incredibly powerful thing your mind is what chooses Where it's going to focus. That's what the mind is. It chooses where focus goes. It chooses What will I identify with? Am I this or am I that? That's what the mind is. It's the activating agent of change and when it chooses to focus on something Energy starts to get activated in that thing that you focus on That's how all this energy is drained from you into this false self and why it feels so real It's because there's so much energy of attention and focus driven into it all the time You can start to reclaim this energy for yourself It's your birthright in order for you to be courageous in your life you need to be encouraged and That is true looking at the truth of who you are It's it's it gives you so much energy You feel it in your body when you start to focus on this again and again and again Habitually you start to notice energetic changes take place in your body Again, this is not about repressing any feelings anything that comes up from here that you Repress it and deny it. It's it's actually the opposite of that. It's you completely allow this to be what it is But you start to see it as but what does it have to do with me? Really, it's because you might actually disidentified from it. You're no longer trying to control it You're not repressing it. You're not fighting it. You're not resenting it. You're just seeing for it for what it is Which is a false self full of false ideas and false concepts and past Questionable memories at best right That has been given life through Usurpation of my mind and my energy. It's not real So it doesn't need to be Destroyed or conquered or something. It's there. I see it for what it is So it's not like we don't choose to focus on this by destroying this or getting rid of it Because that will be to make it real. It's there. However, I'm going to focus here And just watch the energy come back to where it's supposed to be And this falls away. That's how powerful your focus is So when it comes like let's bring this back to practical, right? I need to struggle and I need to be more productive and I'm failing. What's the truth? I'm perfectly okay. I'm naturally productive. I'm enthusiastic. I want To create I want to have life. I Want to have fun? You can't have fun. You haven't earned fun Fun is important fun is Unconditional in my life. It's a central part of my life. You can't have fun until you've worked hard enough. I Have unconditional free play guilt free and it helps me work right Which one are you going to focus on? Which one are you going to practice focusing on which one works which one feels more life-affirming you have power You're more powerful than you know So Where do we begin? We begin from where we are so if I'm 99% of the time focused on this Well, my first step is to make it 98 2% of my focus goes here and with practice and diligence Given to your superpower using your superpower, you'll start to see that that balance starts to shift So do we do this for four hours a day focus near at the beginning when we're always focusing on the snow We start with a couple of minutes when we wake up We start with a couple of minutes before we go to sleep Maybe we pepper it in throughout the day And we we we develop trust in this because we realize oh my god, this works The more I focus on this the more it becomes a lived truth in my life So that's the invitation Keep focusing there I'm going to bookmark this video because This is true This works So let's keep coming back to this. I've said this years ago in my book and it's I Know now that it's more true than when I wrote that in the book You focus on who you are the truth of who you are and then the behaviors become so much easier and so much better The strategies and the techniques all fall into place so much easier to be honest The strategies and the behavior and the techniques Work anyway It's just that they can It's much harder for them to work if we haven't looked if our focus isn't really on who am I as I do them So we keep focusing there. It's self-affirming. It's affirming your true identity Identify with your true personality who you really are and watch what happens and start easy Right start easy with this and you'll find guys. It'll work Miracles in your life. So I hope that's useful. I hope you keep that in mind and I hope you Start to take ownership of that for yourself and if you like this video Maybe share with someone that you think might benefit from it and As always, I am so grateful that you're here and if you've watched this far It must really mean that you want to start focusing on the truth who you are So take care and I will see you in the next video. Bye for now