 how to get a narcissist to do what you want how to get a narcissist to do what you desire or wish for whether you want their time and attention money material items or a sexual act getting a narcissist to do what you want is actually very easy it is far easier to get a narcissist to do what you want rather than a regular person when you first meet the narcissist they are very easily persuaded they are very easily tricked or deceived they are willing to believe whatever you say they want things to move fast so that they can get what they want so as long as you make them feel as though things are going to progress you can often get them to do whatever you want in many cases all you have to do is ask and they will do whatever you want them to do however some narcissists tend to have more pride and arrogance than others and won't always comply they may feel like it is beneath them to do what you are requesting from them they may feel like it is something that anyone could do for you and they want to be special or different they want to stand out they don't want to be just another person in your life they want to be something significant to you but even in these cases where narcissists feel that they are above whatever you are requesting from them you can still get them to do whatever you want the trick is to make them want to do it to make them feel like it is going to benefit them in some way after all narcissists only care about themselves they are only going to do something for you if they believe that it is going to benefit them so if you can make it seem like it's going to be good for them somehow they will be more likely to do it you could reframe your request in a way that makes it seem like you have the best interest in mind as though you wanted them to do it for themselves so that things will be better for them or if it isn't going to benefit them in any way you could make them believe that they fulfill in your request it will then progress your relationship narcissists want to secure you as quickly as possible so if you can make them believe that by them fulfilling a request such as buying you a car it's going to make you more committed to them they will be more likely to do it from the moment they meet you everything they do is designed to win you over it is designed to convince you that it is good for you to be with them so they will be willing to do things for you even if it doesn't benefit them even if it causes discomfort or inconvenience for them they will still be willing to do it if it means that you will be more likely to stick around a very powerful way to get a narcissist to do what you want is to feed their ego to do or say things that make them feel special or important praise congratulate compliment tell them they're beautiful or handsome tell them they're intelligent different things work for different narcissists observe what they are doing in their spare time that will often reveal what matters most of them if they spend a lot of time in their physical appearance that would be the best thing to compliment them on we all want to feel appreciated for our hard work and if they spend a lot of time trying to make themselves look good that's all you have to do you have to validate the image that they have constructed it may not be who they really are but it's who they wish they were and they want to live in this fantasy where they are everything that they wish they were so if you can enter this world with them and validate this false image and the illusion that they are trying to portray to you you will be feeding their ego and giving them narcissistic supply this can work at any point in the relationship but it is even more powerful when you first meet them if you compliment a narcissist or whatever they value the most about themselves when you first meet them you will have them eating out of your hand and they will be willing to do whatever you want all the narcissist really wants is for someone to live in their world with them someone to see the world in the way that they do someone to see them in the way that they wish they could be seen they want to be something great they want to be something special and once you get them to feel that way there is nothing they won't do for you so all you really have to do is put on the rose-colored glasses and see them in a positive way see them as better than they actually are see them as being intelligent see them as being intract attractive and then they will do whatever you want thank you for watching i hope this video resonates with you please like comment share and subscribe click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos if you like to donate by paypal link is in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at mathsforammercoaching at gmail.com thank you for watching and i'll talk to you soon