 Hello everyone. I'm just waking up. It's just starting to get bright outside and as you can see I'm in another apartment now and It's a really good view here, especially Last night it was all lit up. That's why I look forward to doing a video here at night as well But yeah, I just woke up. It's I think it's not even 7 a.m. Yet. Yeah, and I wanted to do a video on Why narcissists are so egotistical a very Important topic that really just Summs everything up, but first as always let's do the little walk around and explore So you can see my Surroundings I build in there. I think it's the Second door third tallest building in the world. It's very big and this is the Apartment as always got another Little room here If anyone wants to come and stay this can be your room kitchen This is where I'm gonna sit today and record some use and sometimes when I work in I just like to Lay on the couch. Don't worry about this. It's not real Just one of Nala's toys. So let's talk about it Why are narcissists so egotistical? I mean if you look at it It's not just narcissists it's a lot of people in the world and I think people's egos are really the cause of Almost every problem we have in this world. I mean if you look at the wars and Online trolls a lot of things people say hurtful things. I Think it all comes back to ego That's really what it is People think that they are more important Than someone else. Now. Why do they think that? How do they end up thinking that they're more important? Now this actually goes back to childhood and I Feel like I'm gonna sneeze, but I'm not yes, this goes back to childhood and They experienced some form of abuse Or neglect in their childhood As we know this is the cause of Narcissism so at some point they were abused or neglected and they felt Unimportant so they are then in survival mode survival mode is Pretty much just someone Making themselves more important than anyone else Putting themselves first Maybe even stepping on other people to get ahead so Yeah, that's Really that just simplifies everything right there, I mean They were traumatized in some way and even if they were spoiled That too is a form of abuse and you may find that they were celebrated for accomplishments But when they were when they didn't do anything they were put down Oh Anyway, I was gonna sneeze at some point. Hold on just one moment. I'll be back there. Sorry about that everyone You know, that's actually the first time that's happened in Life video, I believe Okay, yes, that's really what it is. That's why they're so egotistical is because At some point in their lives. They were traumatized. They were abused or neglected and And It left them feeling and important They weren't getting enough attention so They felt the need to make themselves more important Not so that they can give themselves what they need Which may be the case for some people just not narcissists But in their situation is more Making themselves important So that they can get what they want from other people and that's really the false self, isn't it? It's just someone who for whatever reason maybe they're more intelligent or attractive than other people What it comes down to is the more important That's what it really is and it's Like yeah, I'm more important than everyone else I Tend to me now I tend to my needs. It's Essentially, they're still they're still just that child and They're like Look mom look dad look what I can do And they're just It was just trying to get Their parents attention that they never got They're still in that state and That's why they often just Printify everyone like even total strangers. They just want everyone to help them. They just they feel entitled to it I mean, that's really why they're so egotistical. It's really just abuse and that's why they think they Deserve the best They've got to have the best And even when they've got it Then suddenly You're not good enough as well all of these things Really come from abuse broken damaged people But when you see someone who has a big ego You take it upon yourself You look at yourself and you think What's wrong with me? What did I say? What did I do? How can I be better? How can I make this person happy? That's often how we feel when we are In relationships with these egotistical narcissists You know, that's how the dynamic works. We were taught to Make everyone else more important than us And they learn to make themselves The most important of course, there are occasions where you come up across people in public Maybe someone cuts you up on the roundabout and Maybe you're not trying to please them You might just think God what an asshole Of course, there are situations like that, too And Yeah, I mean Neither Responses Healthy, I guess it's you know either extreme is not good It shouldn't be What can I do to help them? How can I save them? And it shouldn't be fuck you asshole It shouldn't be either of that really I mean it it's It's about finding somewhere in the middle. It's about just having the awareness and recognizing it Because we all have an ego. It's not just narcissists and toxic people You have one I have one and In all honesty I as I've been making videos and growing on the channel receiving Hundreds of comments and emails every day people telling me How great I am and I've changed our life God yeah, there's been times where I've let my ego get the better of me and I I think sometimes When I'm out in public I'm like How can you do that? Don't you know who I am? I'm not survivor on YouTube. I demand better treatment Yeah, I've had experiences like that Sometimes I mean I think we all do you know when we when we feel like we're being pushed to the side We may just go into that survival mode then and we're like You know I want better I Demand more and I think that can be healthy sometimes too But then we also have to recognize Where the other person is coming from I mean if you're experiencing the same situation with Person after person and it's not a smear campaign or gang stalking then At some point you have to look yourself and think what am I doing? I'm obviously Doing something wrong. I mean many of you I Think really need to look back and think because Many of you are still alone after a narcissistic relationship And you may wonder why that is You may be thinking you know doesn't anyone want to be involved with you Don't they want to spend time with you don't they want to go for a romantic long walk on the beach holding hands Don't they want to do that and The real kicker is If you really think back I'm sure There were plenty of people who did Want to do that with you? No one rejected you You have been rejecting them the entire time and you didn't even notice Because in that moment you felt like you were better than them You felt like you deserved better Because you've just come out of a narcissistic relationship And you don't want it to happen again so Now you're always kind of feeling like something's wrong. It can make you paranoid. It's like people can sense it Normal people can sense it when you've been involved in something traumatic and you've got this big wall up and You know you have this ego to protect you Because it's for your survival People can sense that but they're not looking at it like oh you're You're hurt. You're recovering from something. They can't see that All they see is this person who has a wall Who's closed off who Maybe you're healing you're trying to make yourself better and They just think oh you think you're better than me Many of you are alone figures after your Relationship with a narcissist and you Think People don't want to be with you, but when you really introspect and you look within The shocking truth is that you may find it's It was you you Were the one pushing people away and if you experienced childhood trauma You may have been pushing people away your entire life to protect yourself and It may not be As people think you you think you're better than other people. I mean that that's more on the narcissistic side of the spectrum For you, it's more You may fear intimacy You may fear being taken advantage of again, but people don't see that People can't always recognize that and naturally for anyone when someone feels rejected Makes them angry if you look back. I'm sure you will see it many times that Maybe something what someone wanted a little more from you a little more of your time and You were in a hurry and They felt rejected by you because what you find is After being involved with a narcissist we stop Putting so much of our focus into Other people's situations and what they want What they expect from us we do become more self-absorbed ourselves We do begin to Although we still have empathy we may lack empathy As part of our survival, I mean this is normal, you know that is to Protect ourselves But it won't go to the extent of making us narcissists That's something that only happens in childhood, but it's actually A very similar process to what's made The narcissist a narcissist they experienced abuse or neglect and they just shut themselves off from the world and They just felt like I'm I'm not I'm not an important No, actually, I'm more important than anyone. I'm better than everyone And actually You don't want me. No. No, I don't want you Because I'm better than you that's Pretty much what is going on in the narcissist minds all day every day They are fighting a battle and that is why you can't get food to them because they can't reflect on that They're so locked into the into the zone of the false self and It's all really just to protect themselves Because it hurts so much for them in their childhood and Yeah, I mean You know, I have empathy. I empathize with everyone including narcissists Of course, it must have been So painful for them You know just think about it to be it's one thing to be rejected by a Boy or a girl that you like Imagine being rejected by your own parents. Of course that would make you shut yourself off from the world If you can't trust your own parents, who the hell can you trust? So yeah, it's it's no wonder that they are the way that they are But at some point they They were meant to self reflect and that time may have been When they were a little older Maybe in their teenage years They should have started to gain more Awareness of themselves and their minds Just realized that no this isn't serving me anymore. They should have been able to just go out more into the world and Meet new people and realize that they can let their guard down and let people in but that never happened for them So sad, but by understanding this process we can learn more about the process that happens with us following our relationship with the narcissist because It's actually very similar It's just not at that level of Being rejected by your own parents. That's something else but Yeah, I mean when we've when we've been rejected and discarded It's like we take a Little injury of our own we try to protect ourselves From being hurt again and it's kind of like we We already reject ourselves. I mean everyone desires connection Intimacy All of these things this is normal, but sometimes we reject ourselves We do because we're afraid We're insecure We think what if they don't like us Or maybe they like me now What if they spent a day a week with me? They probably wouldn't like me then we just don't want to go for that again. Do we some of us I think we We just feel like we're doomed We have give up like this We just think that Ah, so what if I met this Really great man or woman seems like they could be What I'm looking for what I wanted, but how is that gonna turn out? In a couple of weeks a couple of months, maybe it's just going to End up like the last one did well, maybe they're gonna see What a horrible mess I am underneath After everything I've been through and actually, you know what I would I don't want them to see that I'd rather they just see this I'm not good on the outside I take care of myself. I want them to Remember me like that Rather than seeing everything else That may not be desirable Because I don't want to be rejected again. I Don't want to go through that Does any of this sound familiar to you because this is What makes That's so similar Narcissist co-dependence Victor Victims survivors empaths That's what makes us all so similar because we all have these thoughts. It's just with narcissists. It's more Unconscious They can't really reflect in it like we can And if you brought this information to them They would they would either just laugh at it or they would get angry Or they would say no, that's you they yeah, you have these problems. I Don't have to deal with that But this is really it for Pretty much everyone in the world We've all been hurt at some point and that may be by People in our relationships It could even just be your family or friends Experienced Rejection and abandonment and I think for anyone that's that's one of the most painful things you can go for it so of course It's gonna make you close yourself off You're gonna want to hide yourself away from the world Because you don't want to go for that again. You know what? life is just a journey of Experiences, I mean we can't just sit in a padded room for the rest of our lives Yeah, we may survive that way, but What kind of a life is that and that's why even though When you drive a car There is a risk that you may get into a car accident, but you still get in that car Even though it's far more dangerous than getting on a plane you still drive and it's the same thing with relationships even though Yes, there is a chance that You may end up with another narcissist or toxic person you still Go out there and try if it happens again Fine, that's another experience Another lesson learned more wisdom more knowledge Heshmat says yes, I like to be with people but to be careful and that's it you know, of course, you don't just When you're driving you don't just You don't drive when you've drunk alcohol or When you're texting on your phone You know you use common sense, of course but it doesn't mean that you just Abstain from the activity completely you just use caution, but yeah, this This thing with narcissists being so ego-tistical What it really comes down to is just a fear of rejection and abandonment Which essentially is a fear of them Not getting their needs met Which goes back to their childhood Yeah, it's sad, you know, we should have compassion for them. I mean Somewhere in there is still just this child who Maybe was hungry or wasn't fed maybe didn't have the right support and Encouragement in school Maybe just didn't have anyone to talk to when they were feeling down. I think that's really sad I do. I don't think anyone should have to go through that and that's why I Even though I make these videos, of course, I do have compassion For narcissists because they they never asked to be treated that way and at that age How do you know how to respond to it? No one ever told you what to do. No one guided you, but yeah, that's pretty much it. That's why They're so ego-tistical. It's a front They don't really think that they're superior. They're the best they deserve whatever they want It's more. They just feel small and important They're hurt and When you realize that It can make you move for the world a lot better as well even if You're not dealing with a full-blown narcissist there might just be someone you see in public and They may seem narcissistic toxic knowing these things can help you to Deal with them effectively the problem is That we now see a lot these days is that They never really learned that empathy thing Because no one ever showed empathy for them. No one was ever there for them So they just shut that part of them off And even now you feel like you can't connect to them. You can't get through to them Even when you try to give them love and compassion they can't receive it The only thing they can really receive is superficial things things that exist on the surface which is Tragic again, of course, I mean the very things that they actually need Of what their disorder has been programmed to block and deny the most Love They can't receive love it's crazy, but that's That's just how it is for them and it will never change They can't receive your love the only thing they can really receive is Compliments or praise To their false self and that's about it, and that's why you see these days People are being exploited people are being used whether it's for money or sex Do you wonder why you think oh, why would you do that to me? Don't you want something more you don't want a relationship a connection You don't want to build something together and not only that but you You faked all of that you faked liking me and Having an interest in building something Just so you could get money or sex and you think how could someone do that to you well the truth is They couldn't experience anything more even if they tried they can't receive love that's why and deep down they know that And they also feel like they can't be loved too so of course they settle for the scraps they just settle for Things that are not as valuable they settle for money or sex superficial things Because they can't experience love anyway Not real love. They can't give love. They can't receive love so Naturally all they can do is just use you and yet we wonder why We wonder why they do that. Yeah, there it is. That's I just had to put it out there Anyway, 14 minutes. This has been a Very deep video Especially for this time of the morning. I just wanted to show the view here again before I go The Sun is just rising now. That's the second or third tallest building in the world Really big Everyone's heading to work The roads are very busy in the city This time of day when I wake up in the morning. I remember to practice gratitude And I look out the window Wherever I am and I think you know, there's thousands of people Driving to work at 6 a.m. 7 a.m. And I'm so lucky that I could just relax In an apartment With Nala and I just sit down and work on my laptop Doing something that I'm passionate about. I mean, of course that's not the case for everyone who's Driving to work early in the morning. I mean, I'm sure a lot of people are passionate about their jobs and You know, they could be driving to work very happy and looking forward to it But Yeah, I think most people they're not really happy with their jobs And they hate getting up early in the morning Yeah, it just reminds me to feel grateful Because I can just relax in my apartment because I work for my laptop makes me realize how fortunate I am because I I prefer that than Going out early and it's cold Driving to work and then you've got to sit at a desk Like nine hours a day not something I could really Enjoy or feel passionate about That's why I inspire all of you to Start your own business your own YouTube channel Find things that you're passionate about and share them with the world. It's more fulfilling for me. Anyway, and Yeah, I do offer one-on-one YouTube coaching So if you're interested in that And you'd like to do what I do maybe one day you could be traveling the world and Staying in different hotels and condos trying different foods Exploring different places and just sitting at home Working on your laptop just uploading videos Only having to work for maybe a couple of hours a day Yeah, it gives you a lot of free time. If that's something that you would like to do I Am available to help you Get to that point and I can guide you the entire way It's not just about giving you the tools. It's the guidance too So, yeah, I can be there for you From when you have Zero views zero subscribers Like we all started off with And I can still be there Even when you get 1,000 subscribers 10,000 I can be there all the way and there's nothing that really makes me happier than Seeing People are happy Seeing other people's success and that lets me know that I'm doing good. I'm doing right So, yeah, if you're interested in that in a one-on-one YouTube coaching package Just send me an email Coaching at NarcsePhypha.co.uk I look forward to working with you. Anyway The sun is rising behind me as you can see That means it's time for me to start work So Thank you all for joining me And I look forward to talking with you in another live video very soon Please give this video a thumbs up Talk to you in the next