 What's up, everybody? We're doing something a little bit different today. We're gonna be talking about BDSM kinks, but mainly psychology and safe sex What's up everybody, this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health But I'm also really into psychology and everything like that and all this is intertwined with mental health And how our minds work and I try to teach people things that can help improve our mental and emotional well-being So if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell And if you're not yet follow me over on Instagram and Twitter at the rewired soul. All right So I wanted to hop on and make this video Real quick. I saw a tweet kind of blowing up It's this tweet right here where basically it says like if a woman is into choking that is not a reason You know to be murdered and absolutely But I wanted to talk a little bit more about this and before I dive into this I am not like a BDSM or like kink expert or anything like that I just you know, I live in Las Vegas I have many friends who are in you know into that stuff and in the community and everything like that I just want to hop on here and discuss this situation. All right So anyways this article right here from the New York Post It's titled killed back packer grace Malaine was into choking BDSM court evidence. All right, so part of this It says the man on trial who cannot be identified by order of the court claims Malaine died accidentally after violent sex He says he only buried her body in a suitcase in the woods because he was in shock and knew how terrible The death would look to police according to the new evidence one of the men she chatted with online told police She appeared to be at an explorative stage and quite open to suggestions But was quite open to it and wanted to try it I felt like grace was more naive and trusting in the BDSM area The users could be any undesirable person online and grace had a naivety He said according to police records. All right, so first thing let's talk about women as well as men out there like You know online dating like I met my beautiful girlfriend Tristan through online dating But like I I could do a whole video on this if you want me to like let me know down in the comments below But be safe out there like I'm glad because I'm somebody who had social anxiety Really bad. I wasn't the type of dude who would just like go up to chicks and like introduce myself and like You know, so I met a lot of people online and like even me being like a big dude I was paranoid as hell. So if you are doing online dating make sure you're being safe One of the best tips I can give you is just keep your friends in the loop Let them know when you're going on a date with someone that you met online Something that you could do too without especially with an iPhone I don't know if you could do it on Android, but like I'm not even kidding you because of my anxiety and paranoia like I would like Send my friends like here's my location. You know what I mean in case I like showed up to go on a date with a Girl and then like all of a sudden I'm dead, you know, I think I even did that to Tristan Like I told one of my friends like hey, here's where I'm gonna be But anyways, just be safe, especially when you're dating online, but now let's dive into the BDSM aspect of it like So here's the thing it's it's It's like a Risky situation and everybody has, you know, their own kinks and their own things and like do your thing like let me tell you like Again, like I'm very, you know, just open to people doing their own thing I do not care. Whatever gets your Ross rocks off do your thing, but Be safe, right? Like educate yourself. Like it's easy to be like. Oh, yeah, I think I'd be into that without Properly knowing all of the safety precautions like when you put two people in an aroused state and you're doing dangerous activities Like that is just a Recipe for disaster, right? Like this kind of amateur You know mindset going into something that could be potentially Dangerous, you know, so in the article they mentioned they had a safe word and everything like that But I just want you guys to think about that like educate yourself Like if these are things that you want to experiment with Educate yourself. I know there are a ton of YouTube channels. How you can go online and Google stuff, you know, whatever I just make sure you're being safe, but I also wanted to talk a little bit about the psychology of this So one of my new favorite authors is Dan Ariely He just makes the best books and one of his famous books is Predictably irrational and they did a study in there And by the way, like if you if you get grossed out by sex stuff, you might want to leave like this this study like It bordered on unethical But you know, everybody agreed to it and everything like that. So anyways they wanted to check the mind states of Men, you know when they're aroused or not aroused. Okay, so basically what they did was They they got a bunch of you know Straight Male college students and they asked them a bunch of questions. Okay, they asked them a bunch of questions just about You know sex and interacting with women just like, you know, is this okay? You know to hit on a stranger or to cat call and you know, there was kind of like these very mild questions But then it got, you know a little bit more I don't know wacky The question started asking I'm like, is it okay, you know If you're really attracted to a woman to you know, slip a drug in her drink or is it okay to do? You know this to a woman like, you know and all these other things, right? And like most of the men like 90 something percent of the men They're like, no that is insane like for that certain set of questions. It was like Absolutely not. So weeks later, they brought the young men back And by the way, there were like waivers galore on this thing So they brought the young men back. They gave them a laptop a laptop that was covered in plastic cellophane, right and They had them watch porn on the laptop and get aroused if you will and like aroused before ejaculation and they asked them the same questions and the results were Madness just madness like is it okay to do this though a woman is okay that like their answers changed Greatly and basically like this for everybody out there men become Neanderthals when they're aroused, okay, and like this is why it's so important to Know how to be safe when you are practicing these types of sexual acts, right? Because you know during that situation like not only will you know people do more than they would in a regular state But they might be more aggressive They might not be paying attention to their own strength and everything like that like again if you're into this stuff do your thing but For me like understanding how the human mind works understanding and learning just more about how people act in different situations it Gives you more of a reason to be safe in these situations So when it comes to the case of Grace Malaine Being murdered. I I don't know. I don't know if this was you know a premeditated murder We don't know if it was an accident only the court will know but I wanted to use this story as an opportunity To talk about this. All right, like I made a video a while back. I'll link it down Below and up in the info card about like pro Jared And his thing like that like kings are cool like whatever you do as long as you're not Hurting anybody who doesn't want to be hurt like do your thing like it is totally up to you Right. Just do me a favor be safe and make sure you're subscribed to my channel Like I want to dive into more videos on psychology and trust me most of the experiments I'll talk about we're not as nasty as that one and I left a lot of details Just a kind of easy guys into it cuz I'm like, oh god when I was listening to it in the book I was like, oh, this is this is nasty, right? But anyways Just be safe out there. Like I said, I'm no expert So if anybody has resources that they want to put down in the comments if you're willing go for it But like I said, just there are people in that community here on YouTube Where you can watch their videos. They talk about safety that people I know Maybe I'll ask some friends if they can provide me with some resources who are into that and everything like they you know They're safety precautions. You just you gotta be safe. All right, everybody. So anyways, that's all I got for this video I will be Kind of off and on with my upload schedule this coming week because of the holidays So make sure you're following me over on Instagram and Twitter at the rewired soul So you can stay up to date. I'll let you know when there's new videos And make sure you that you're checking out the rewired soul calm because I have a bunch of mental health blogs that I've been Posting throughout the month of November and everything like that. So go check those out There's some really really good stuff in there. All right, anyways, that's all I got for this video If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge huge Thank you to everybody who supports the channel over on patreon as well as everybody who supports the channel Bye-bye my mental health books and merch and all that good stuff. All right. Thanks again for watching. Stay safe And I'll see you next time