 Okay, so the next one is physical intimacy is not the path to a man's heart and neither is logic And I have so we get so many women that come into our community and they're like You know, they like try to convince a guy, right? They're like trying to convince a guy that he should get married and they try to convince a guy that they're perfect for each other And they're trying to convince a guy, you know all these different things and they use physical intimacy as a path to trying to Convince a guy to be with them and it's like that doesn't really work You know and and it will end up making you because what and I'm going to be talking about this a little bit later but One of the things that we experience is that a lot of people kind of project on to others What they have going on within themselves, right? And so a lot of times we'll look at other people and we're like, oh, you know, like The first time I actually realized this was when I was dating this girl back when I was I think it was 23 or 24 and she was She was like massaging my back like one of those like light kind of like fingernail massage things on my back And for me, I'm like, why are you doing this to me? But she would do it all the time right because I like like really strong kind of like deep massages And she would like do these fingernail things and I'm always just like this is so weird, right? And then one time I was like doing it on her and she was just she loved it so much and I was like And it like it occurred to me all of a sudden I was like She does that to me because she likes it and so she thinks that I'm going to like it like she likes it And so she does that to me and and so my point is is that a lot of times women will fall in love through intimacy And they don't realize that a guy's not going to do that. Most guys aren't going to do that And so the path to a man's heart is through your heart. It's not through physical intimacy and it's not through logic It's through connecting to your heart and connecting to him through your heart